My aterny years as an out gay man |

Contents:

• THE SECRET GAY HISTORY OF AN AMERIN FRATERNY
• FOR FREEMASONS, IS BANNG GAYS OR BEG GAY UN-MASONIC?
• GAY AND GREEK: THE EXPERIENCE OF BEG GAY AND A ATERNY
• LARRY HAWORTH'S LIST: GAY PORN TUBE
• MY ATERNY YEARS AS AN OUT GAY MAN
• 25 BT GAY LIVE CAMS: GAY CAM S TO VIS INCLUDG 100 PERCENT FREE GAY CAMS
• JACKSONVILLE JAGUARS ACH OUT AS GAY

THE SECRET GAY HISTORY OF AN AMERIN FRATERNY

No, this is a story about thgs I saw and heard and experienced, but don’t end wh me steppg bravely forward and proudly clarg my homosexualy to the world and fdg my place . Some of the iends did turn out to be gay, though I had no ia at the time, as they, I thk, had srcely any ia about me. Afterward, my broad-shoulred stoner iend sually told Jason that “What we did was okay, bee I heard you have to do three tim wh a guy to make you gay.

In the aterny which I belonged, a small subset of iends began referrg to the annual fall visatn of alumni as “Homog Weekend.

By the time I graduated 1987, I had been through a few Homog Weekends and taken the long walk wh several of my olr aterny brothers, who would awkwardly nfs to beg gay. But he left no doubt that he was totally gay, and ma me unfortable when he looked to my ey wh that perceptive visn of his. “But the guy’s a homosexual, and there are guys who say they’re gog blackball him to prevent him om gettg a bid, ” I was told.

FOR FREEMASONS, IS BANNG GAYS OR BEG GAY UN-MASONIC?

And after all, if I took a strong posn on the matter, someone might assume I was gay, and I was not gog to let that happen! Much later Marc would fd out I was gay too, spe my self-protective measur, and he would be very supportive, god bls him. If we we’re gog to blackball a gay guy jt bee he’s gay, then we’re not really about diversy at all, are we?

Stori of the “gay murr” Lock Haven, Pennsylvania appeared everywhere, and were read by lns the big cy newspapers Philalphia and Ptsburgh. Well, I don’t want to overstate , but ’s clear that Mike – like most gay people – had been eply and adversely effected by the closet s and homophob that surround him. The same year I belatedly disvered that soon after Mike Hoeknecht was found ad on mp, a gay and lbian support group was formed at LHU.

GAY AND GREEK: THE EXPERIENCE OF BEG GAY AND A ATERNY

It stands to reason, however, that such a high-profile tragedy would galvanize the gay muny and lead to the formatn of such a group. In 1992, when I found out about LHU’s gay and lbian group, I told myself that if such a group were loted near my home New Jersey, I would jo right away.

The guys that elected their first openly gay print would have had no ia about the experienc of Mike Hoeknecht four or five years before that.

LARRY HAWORTH'S LIST: GAY PORN TUBE

And the guys the aterny today would probably be surprised to hear that they were once prid over by one of only two openly gay men on mp at that time.

MY ATERNY YEARS AS AN OUT GAY MAN

The anizatn is known for secrecy, but 's havg an creasgly public dispute: For the past 30 years, the Tennsee group has banned gays (each state or jurisdictn has s own penal ).

The spensn of Clark and Henrson Tennsee spired the Grand Lodge of Geia to enact s own ban on gay members last fall. "When a young man hears that Masons a state are throwg gays out, they jt see that as the whole anizatn dog that and not beg isolated to a particular area, " Hodapp says. Over the next two days Nashville, the Grand Lodge of Tennsee will ci which nduct is more un-Masonic — beg gay or banng gays — a cisn that uld affect Freemasons around the world.

“And I fet what he said exactly, but he said ‘I jt wanted to say I hope you sh the hoe, bee you ma me qutn what I always thought (about gay people). “So what I was thkg, ” Ohlger said, “what really me down to was, if I uld change the opn of how 60 straight at guys viewed one gay person, or the whole gay muny, while I hung out wh my bt iends and had a really good time, why wouldn’t I do ? Their reasons for wantg to rema anonymo are all the same — that most or all of their brothers don’t know they are gay.

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Steve pots to what he lls the “du culture” as the reason many gay men are not fortable g out their aterni. Steve said that this “du culture” often tim lends to the perceptn that the Greek system on mp is homophobic. He said, however, that om his experience, when you view on an dividual level, most of the aterny members the IFC aren’t unacceptg of gay people.

“Whenever someone starts jerkg around and sayg (homophobic) thgs, but not necsarily meant to be rogatory, that kd of feeds to those perceptns.

“But you know you need to put up some sort of faça, ’s part of somethg that you learn growg up that most people, most gay guys do and I’ve talked to other gay guys who are the same way. Greg, a junr an IFC aterny, hasn’t yet e out to anyone his aterny except for one other brother who is also gay. One major factor that ntribut to the perpetuatn of the Greek stereotype on mp is the lack of visibily of gay stunts aterni.

JACKSONVILLE JAGUARS ACH OUT AS GAY

Bee many gay stunts feel unfortable g out to their brothers and, turn, don’t e out, people both si and outsi the Greek muny are unaware gay members exist wh the system.

Javier, who me out to his aterny brothers as an unrgraduate at Rockhurst Universy Kansas Cy, Mo., spoke about the stereotyp and perceptns that surround the Greek muny and the psychology behd why many gay stunts feel unfortable g out.

“There’s been gay marriage proposals a variety of stat sce that survey, so I thk maybe that fluenc peopl’ perceptns of how they teract wh the LGBT muny, but I don’t know how much or if has at all, ” Parrz said. “One of the reasons straight-intified men don’t intify as alli is bee they don’t want to be mistaken, quote unquote mistaken, as gay, ” Javier said.