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class="wpds-c-fBEbFG">Comment</span><span class="wpds-c-fOvfhP wpds-c-fOvfhP-kshkDy-isCommentType-te none" aria-hidn="te"><span class="ment-unt font-xxxxs sc-ral-unt"><span></span></span></span></div></div></div></div></div><div class="teaser-ntent grid-center"><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><p data-ttid="drop-p-letter" data-el="text" class="wpds-c-cYdRxM wpds-c-cYdRxM-iPJLV-css overriStyl font-py" dir="null">What’s the bt queer datg app today? Many people, tired of swipg through profil wh discrimatory language and trated wh safety and privacy ncerns, say isn’t a datg app at all. It’s Instagram.</p></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><div class=" mb-md hi-for-prt" data-qa="subscribe-promo"><div data-orientatn="horizontal" role="separator" class="wpds-c-dbVHzF wpds-c-dbVHzF-hDkAcj-variant-flt"></div><a class="pt-sm pb-sm flex ems-center bold font-xxxs font-xxs-ns offblack hover-blue-bright jtify-between" href=" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener" style="text-ratn:none;borr:none"><span class="mr-xs flex ems-center"><span class="ml-xs">Sign up for Unboxed, a pop-up newsletter on the bt mem, verage and buzz around the “Barbie” movie.</span></span><svg class="ntent-box" width="16" height="16" viewBox="0 0 16 16" xmlns=" style="transn:right .2s;posn:relative;right:4px;fill:#2a2a2a" aria-hidn="te" focable="false" role="img"><tle>ArrowRight</tle><path d="M7.664 1.25l6 6a1 1 0 010 1.414l-6 6L6.25 13.25 10.499 9H2V7h8.585L6.25 2.664 7.664 1.25z" fill-le="nonzero"></path></svg></a><div data-orientatn="horizontal" role="separator" class="wpds-c-dbVHzF wpds-c-dbVHzF-hDkAcj-variant-flt"></div></div></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><p data-ttid="drop-p-letter" data-el="text" class="wpds-c-cYdRxM wpds-c-cYdRxM-iPJLV-css overriStyl font-py" dir="null">This is hardly a queer seal of approval for the social media platform. Instead, ’s a sign that, the ey of many LGBTQ people, big datg apps are failg . I know that sentiment well, om both reportg on datg technology and my experience as a genr non-bary sgle swipg through app after app. In te early-21st-century style, I met my current partner after we matched on multiple apps before agreeg to a first date.</p></div></div><div></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><p data-ttid="drop-p-letter" data-el="text" class="wpds-c-cYdRxM wpds-c-cYdRxM-iPJLV-css overriStyl font-py" dir="null">Sure, the prent state of datg looks fe if you’re a whe, young, cisgenr gay man searchg for an easy hookup. Even if <a href=">Grdr’s many troubl</a> have turned you off, there are several petg optns, cludg, <a href=">Scff</a>, <a href=">Jack’d</a>, and <a href=">Hor</a> and relative newers such as <a href=">Chappy</a>, Bumble’s gay siblg.</p></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><div class="cb dn db-ns" data-qa="article-body-ad" data-ttid="article-body-ad-sktop"><div aria-hidn="te" class="hi-for-prt relative flex jtify-center ntent-box ems-center b bh mb-md mt-none pt-lg pb-lg" style="m-height:250px;borr-top-lor:;borr-bottom-lor:"><div class="center absolute w-100 borr-box" style="top:"><div class="dib gray-dark pl-xs pr-xs font-sans-serif light font-xxxxs lh-md" style="--primary-borr-lor:"></div></div><div data-ttid="placeholr-box" class="w-100 h-100 absolute flex flex-lumn jtify-center borr-box bg-offwhe" style="width:300px;height:250px"><div class="flex flex-lumn jtify-center font-sans-serif center font-xxs light gray-dark lh-md"><div>Advertisement</div></div></div></div></div></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><div class="cb db dn-ns" data-qa="article-body-ad" data-ttid="article-body-ad-mobile"><div aria-hidn="te" class="hi-for-prt relative flex jtify-center ntent-box ems-center b bh mb-md mt-sm pt-sm pb-sm" style="m-height:250px;borr-top-lor:;borr-bottom-lor:"><div class="center absolute w-100 borr-box" style="top:"><div class="dib gray-dark pl-xs pr-xs font-sans-serif light font-xxxxs lh-md" style="--primary-borr-lor:"></div></div><div data-ttid="placeholr-box" class="w-100 h-100 absolute flex flex-lumn jtify-center borr-box bg-offwhe" style="width:300px;height:250px"><div class="flex flex-lumn jtify-center font-sans-serif center font-xxs light gray-dark lh-md"></div></div></div></div></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><p data-ttid="drop-p-letter" data-el="text" class="wpds-c-cYdRxM wpds-c-cYdRxM-iPJLV-css overriStyl font-py" dir="null">But if you’re not a whe, young, cisgenr man on a male-centric app, you may get a naggg sense that the queer datg platforms simply were not signed for you.</p></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><p data-ttid="drop-p-letter" data-el="text" class="wpds-c-cYdRxM wpds-c-cYdRxM-iPJLV-css overriStyl font-py" dir="null">Mastream datg apps “aren’t built to meet queer needs,” journalist Mary Ey O’Hara tells me. O’Hara returned to Tr Febary when her last relatnship end. In an experience other lbians have noted, she enuntered a lot of straight men and upl slippg to her rults, so she vtigated what many queer women say is an <a href=">issue</a> that’s phg them away om the most wily ed datg app Ameri. It’s one of many reasons keepg O’Hara om loggg on, too.</p></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><p data-ttid="drop-p-letter" data-el="text" class="wpds-c-cYdRxM wpds-c-cYdRxM-iPJLV-css overriStyl font-py" dir="null">“I’m basilly not g mobile datg apps anymore,” she says, preferrg stead to meet potential match on Instagram, where <a href=">a growg number of people</a>, regardls of genr inty or sexualy, turn to fd and teract wh potential partners.</p></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><div class="cb dn db-ns" data-qa="article-body-ad" data-ttid="article-body-ad-sktop"><div aria-hidn="te" class="hi-for-prt relative flex jtify-center ntent-box ems-center b bh mb-md mt-none pt-lg pb-lg" style="m-height:250px;borr-top-lor:;borr-bottom-lor:"><div class="center absolute w-100 borr-box" style="top:"><div class="dib gray-dark pl-xs pr-xs font-sans-serif light font-xxxxs lh-md" style="--primary-borr-lor:"></div></div><div data-ttid="placeholr-box" class="w-100 h-100 absolute flex flex-lumn jtify-center borr-box bg-offwhe" style="width:300px;height:250px"><div class="flex flex-lumn jtify-center font-sans-serif center font-xxs light gray-dark lh-md"><div>Advertisement</div></div></div></div></div></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><div class="cb db dn-ns" data-qa="article-body-ad" data-ttid="article-body-ad-mobile"><div aria-hidn="te" class="hi-for-prt relative flex jtify-center ntent-box ems-center b bh mb-md mt-sm pt-sm pb-sm" style="m-height:250px;borr-top-lor:;borr-bottom-lor:"><div class="center absolute w-100 borr-box" style="top:"><div class="dib gray-dark pl-xs pr-xs font-sans-serif light font-xxxxs lh-md" style="--primary-borr-lor:"></div></div><div data-ttid="placeholr-box" class="w-100 h-100 absolute flex flex-lumn jtify-center borr-box bg-offwhe" style="width:300px;height:250px"><div class="flex flex-lumn jtify-center font-sans-serif center font-xxs light gray-dark lh-md"></div></div></div></div></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><p data-ttid="drop-p-letter" data-el="text" class="wpds-c-cYdRxM wpds-c-cYdRxM-iPJLV-css overriStyl font-py" dir="null">An Instagram acunt n serve as a photo gallery for admirers, a way to appeal to romantic terts wh “<a href=">thirst pics</a>” and a low-stak venue to teract wh csh by repeatedly rpondg to their “story” posts wh heart-eye emoji. Some see as a tool to supplement datg apps, many of which enable ers to nnect their social media acunts to their profil. Others keenly search acunts such as <a href=">@_personals_</a>, which have turned a rner of Instagram to a matchmakg service centerg on queer women and transgenr and non-bary people. “Everyone I know obssively reads Personals on Instagram,” O’Hara says. “I’ve dated a uple of people that I met after they posted ads there, and the experience has felt more timate.”</p></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><p data-ttid="drop-p-letter" data-el="text" class="wpds-c-cYdRxM wpds-c-cYdRxM-iPJLV-css overriStyl font-py" dir="null">This trend is partially prompted by a wispread sense of <a href=">datg app fatigue</a>, somethg Instagram’s parent pany has sought to palize on by rollg out a new service lled <a href=">Facebook Datg</a>, which — surprise, surprise — <a href=">tegrat wh Instagram</a>. But for many queer people, Instagram merely seems like the least terrible optn when pared wh datg apps where they report experiencg harassment, racism and, for trans ers, the possibily of gettg <a href=">tomatilly banned</a> for no reason other than who they are. Even wh the <a href=">small steps Tr has taken</a> to make s app more genr-clive, <a href=">trans ers still report gettg banned</a> arbrarily.</p></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><p data-ttid="drop-p-letter" data-el="text" class="wpds-c-cYdRxM wpds-c-cYdRxM-iPJLV-css overriStyl font-py" dir="null">“Datg apps aren’t even pable of properly acmodatg non-bary genrs, let alone pturg all the nuance and negotiatn that go to trans attractn/sex/relatnships,” says <a href=">“Genr Reveal”</a> podst host Molly Woodstock, who sgular “they” pronouns.</p></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><div class="cb dn db-ns" data-qa="article-body-ad" data-ttid="article-body-ad-sktop"><div aria-hidn="te" class="hi-for-prt relative flex jtify-center ntent-box ems-center b bh mb-md mt-none pt-lg pb-lg" style="m-height:250px;borr-top-lor:;borr-bottom-lor:"><div class="center absolute w-100 borr-box" style="top:"><div class="dib gray-dark pl-xs pr-xs font-sans-serif light font-xxxxs lh-md" style="--primary-borr-lor:"></div></div><div data-ttid="placeholr-box" class="w-100 h-100 absolute flex flex-lumn jtify-center borr-box bg-offwhe" style="width:300px;height:250px"><div class="flex flex-lumn jtify-center font-sans-serif center font-xxs light gray-dark lh-md"><div>Advertisement</div></div></div></div></div></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><div class="cb db dn-ns" data-qa="article-body-ad" data-ttid="article-body-ad-mobile"><div aria-hidn="te" class="hi-for-prt relative flex jtify-center ntent-box ems-center b bh mb-md mt-sm pt-sm pb-sm" style="m-height:250px;borr-top-lor:;borr-bottom-lor:"><div class="center absolute w-100 borr-box" style="top:"><div class="dib gray-dark pl-xs pr-xs font-sans-serif light font-xxxxs lh-md" style="--primary-borr-lor:"></div></div><div data-ttid="placeholr-box" class="w-100 h-100 absolute flex flex-lumn jtify-center borr-box bg-offwhe" style="width:300px;height:250px"><div class="flex flex-lumn jtify-center font-sans-serif center font-xxs light gray-dark lh-md"></div></div></div></div></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><p data-ttid="drop-p-letter" data-el="text" class="wpds-c-cYdRxM wpds-c-cYdRxM-iPJLV-css overriStyl font-py" dir="null">It’s unfortunate given that the queer muny helped pneer onle datg out of necsy, om the analog days of personal ads to the first geosocial chat apps that enabled easy hookups. 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Founr Kelly Rakowski drew spiratn for the throwback approach to datg om personal ads On Our Backs, a lbian eroti magaze that prted om the 1980s to the early 2000s.</p></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><p data-ttid="drop-p-letter" data-el="text" class="wpds-c-cYdRxM wpds-c-cYdRxM-iPJLV-css overriStyl font-py" dir="null">That don’t mean all the existg matchmakg servic are worthls, though; some ter to LGBTQ needs more than others. Here are the better queer datg apps, pendg on what you’re lookg for.</p></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><div data-qa="article-image" class="hi-for-prt"><div style="m-height:358px"></div></div></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><p data-ttid="drop-p-letter" data-el="text" class="wpds-c-cYdRxM wpds-c-cYdRxM-iPJLV-css overriStyl font-py" dir="null"><b>For a (slightly) more trans-clive space, try </b><a href="><b>OkCupid</b></a><b>. </b>Far om a glowg endorsement, OkCupid sometim seems like the only palatable few trans-centric apps that have lnched recent years have eher failed to earn the muny’s tst or been scribed as a “<a href=">hot ms</a>.” Of mastream platforms, OkCupid has gone further than many of s petors givg ers <a href=">optns for genr inti and sexuali</a> as well as creatg a signated profile area for <a href=">fg pronouns</a>, the first app of s liber to do so. “The worlds of trans (and queer) datg and sex are more plited than their straight, cisgenr unterparts,” Woodstock says. “We don’t sort our partners to one or two easy tegori (man or woman), but scribe them a variety of terms that touch on genr (non-bary), prentatn (femme) and sexual preferenc.” Clearly, <a href=">a void still exists</a> this tegory.</p></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><p data-ttid="drop-p-letter" data-el="text" class="wpds-c-cYdRxM wpds-c-cYdRxM-iPJLV-css overriStyl font-py" dir="null"><b>For the largt LGBTQ women-centric app, try </b><a href="><b>Her</b></a><b>. </b>Until Personals lnch s own app, queer women have few optns other than Her, what one reviewer on the iOS App Store scrib as “the only cent datg app.” Lnched 2013 as Dattch, the app was renamed Her 2015 and rebrand 2018 to appear more welg to trans and non-bary people. It now claims more than 4 ln ers. Its re functnaly rembl Tr’s, wh a “stack” of potential match you n swipe through. But Her also aims to create a sense of muny, wh a range of niche msage boards — <a href=">a new feature add last year</a> — as well as brand events a few major ci. One drawback: Reviewers on the Apple App and Google Play stor repeatedly pla that Her’s functnaly is limed … unls you hand over around $15 a month for a premium subscriptn.</p></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><div data-qa="article-image" class="hi-for-prt"><div style="m-height:358px"></div></div></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><p data-ttid="drop-p-letter" data-el="text" class="wpds-c-cYdRxM wpds-c-cYdRxM-iPJLV-css overriStyl font-py" dir="null"><b>For sual chats wh queer men, try </b><a href="><b>Scff</b></a><b>. </b>An early pneer of geosocial datg, Grdr is well known as a facilator of hookups, but a <a href=">strg of recent ntroversi</a> has soured s reputatn. Grdr “has taken a valier approach to our privacy,” says Ari Ezra Waldman, director of the Innovatn Center for Law and Technology at New York Law School. Waldman, who has <a href=">studied the sign of queer-centric datg apps</a>, suggts alternativ such as Scff or Hge, which do not have histori of sharg er rmatn wh third parti. Recently, Scff has taken a <a href=">clearer stance agast racism</a> by makg s “ethnicy” field optnal, a move that follows eight years of <a href=">fendg s filters</a> or <a href=">clg to ment</a> on the issue. It’s a mendable, if <a href=">largely symbolic</a>, acknowledgment of what trans and queer people of lor ntue to endure on datg apps.</p></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><div data-qa="article-image" class="hi-for-prt"><div style="m-height:358px"></div></div></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><p data-ttid="drop-p-letter" data-el="text" class="wpds-c-cYdRxM wpds-c-cYdRxM-iPJLV-css overriStyl font-py" dir="null"><b>For queer men and zero unsoliced nus, try </b><a href="><b>Chappy</b></a><b>. </b>Receivg unsoliced nus is so wispread on gay male-foced datg apps that Grdr even has a profile field to let ers dite if they wish to receive NSFW pics. Chappy, on the other hand, rtricts msagg to match only, so ’s a good bet if you want to avoid unwanted timate photos. Chappy was lnched 2017 and beme one of the fastt-growg apps s native Bra before s acquisn by Bumble. Chappy offers a few rehg featur, cludg a er of nduct everyone mt agree to and the abily to easily toggle between guys lookg for “sual,” “mment” and “iends.” Earlier this year, the app moved s headquarters to <a href=">jo Bumble At</a>, wh s ey set on growth the Uned Stat. Current er reviews suggt works bt the natn’s largt metro areas.</p></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><div data-qa="article-image" class="hi-for-prt"><div style="m-height:358px"></div></div></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><p data-ttid="drop-p-letter" data-el="text" class="wpds-c-cYdRxM wpds-c-cYdRxM-iPJLV-css overriStyl font-py" dir="null"><b>For iends whout benefs, try </b><a href="><b>Bumble</b></a><b> or </b><a href="><b>Chappy</b></a><b>. </b>Need a break on your search for Ms., Mx. or Mr. Right? In hop of keepg you <a href=">swipg forever</a>, some apps have created signated iend mos, notably Bumble and Chappy. 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