Who Are the Happit? Straights and Gays, but Not Bisexuals | Psychology Today

Contents:

• GAY, BUT NOT HAPPY
• WHO ARE THE HAPPIT? STRAIGHTS AND GAYS, BUT NOT BISEXUALS
• GAYS AND BISEXUALS MORE LIKELY TO BE UNHAPPY AND ANX
• GAY (HOMOSEXUAL) AND GAY (HAPPY)
• UNHAPPY GAY
• KEN HAS ALWAYS BEEN BARBIE’S GAY BT FRIEND—NOT HER BOYIEND
• KEV MAXEN BE FIRST MALE ACH A US MEN’S PROFSNAL SPORTS LEAGUE TO PUBLICLY E OUT AS GAY
• THE SOLUTN TO "GAY" INSULTS: FREEDOM OF SPEECH
• 'PASSAG' DIRECTOR NOUNC 'DANGERO' NC-17 RATG ON A FILM PICTG A GAY LOVE STORY
• HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY
• GAY BUT NOT HAPPY WEDDGS
• STRAIGHT WOMEN AND THEIR GAY HBANDS
• I LIKE GUYS BUT I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY. HOW DO I STOP BEG GAY?

GAY, BUT NOT HAPPY

Today, I will be g the term ‘gay’ both s origal form and s ntemporary form, so let me fe both ways for you this morng. Origally, GAY meant: to be characterized by lorful and lighthearted excement: , “Have a GAY day!

WHO ARE THE HAPPIT? STRAIGHTS AND GAYS, BUT NOT BISEXUALS

” In the old days, wishg your neighbor a gay day would have meant you were hopg their day was happy, lighthearted and, however, wishg someone a gay day might turn an eyebrow or two…Today, the term GAY is almost never ed to mean “happy” or “merry. ” No way would anyone walk up to a crowd of people and say, “Don’t you look gay crowd today!

GAYS AND BISEXUALS MORE LIKELY TO BE UNHAPPY AND ANX

” If you do, you might get you a beat, the word GAY refers to the sexual orientatn of a person or group of prevailg fn is: Havg a sexual orientatn to persons of the same the dictnary, thors have stated that orr to keep a homosexual person om beg offend, you should refer to him or her as a GAY person, and that the choice of the word GAY is to imply their state of attu toward the liftyle they are livg.

So the claim is that homosexuals are GAY (happy) bee they are GAY (homosexual) that said, this sermon is as much for gays (homosexuals) as is for gay (happy) people…However, the two fns of GAY: both the origal and the ntemporary are like oil and water.

GAY (HOMOSEXUAL) AND GAY (HAPPY)

Eher a man is gay, or he is happy, but is impossible for a man or woman to be both gay and happy at the same, before I go any further, I want everyone listeng to unrstand that J lov you, and He lov you more than you n possibly image.

” Optns of gay/lbian; bisexual; heterosexual or straight; or don’t know.

” [only 4 optns, neglect inti such as mostly straight, pansexual, mostly gay, asexual, kk, qutng].

UNHAPPY GAY

Counter to mon sense, over a third of those wh lifelong same-sex partners and nearly half of those wh lifelong both-sex partners intified not as gay or bisexual but as straight. If you ed an inty measure, gays, lbians, and bisexuals were ls happy than straights. If, however, you ed same-sex behavr, gays and lbians were as happy as straights, but not so for dividuals wh both-sex partners--they remaed relatively unhappy.

Bee the vast majory of dividuals who intify as bisexual are women (equently the 60% to 80% range), any study that b gays/lbians wh bisexuals and fds negative mental or physil health problems likely distorts our unrstandg of sexual mori and th tells ltle about male bisexuals, gay mal, and lbians. Th, if the goal of rearch is to document the problematic nature of beg gay, lbian, or bisexual, asssg sexual inty is the way to go.

Bottom le: Be reful what you read, hear, and believe about gays, lbians, and bisexuals.

KEN HAS ALWAYS BEEN BARBIE’S GAY BT FRIEND—NOT HER BOYIEND

Gay people are ls happy than heterosexuals and report lower levels of wellbeg, figur have who are bisexual, particular, have lower satisfactn wh their liv and say they suffer om anxiety, acrdg to the rearch. Statisticians said the rults may dite that gay and bisexual people worry more about their health and jobs, which uld be lked to discrimatn, as well as their relatnships. There uld also be a geographil bias bee more people who intify as gay live London, where wellbeg is generally lower than figur, published by the Office for Natnal Statistics, asked people how satisfied and worthwhile they felt their liv were and.

Tom Robson a Brish mician and sger, one of the first, if not the very first pop artist who did not disguise or hi his homosexualy om the general public. Until then homosexual actors, micians, athlet or anyone the public eye had two choic life: to keep their homosexualy a secret, pecially om the media, or adopt the mannerisms and a of drs which were very mp but at the same time (ironilly) never admtg their sexual preferenc publicly. Tom Robson released a very succsful song entled (Sg if you're) Glad to be Gay, was the mid-70s, and I was still at a Catholic primary school when I remember que distctly hearg gay beg ed for the first time to unteract the BrEng rogatory terms such as: poofter, poof, queer, not normal, fairy and queen that were rife at the time.

KEV MAXEN BE FIRST MALE ACH A US MEN’S PROFSNAL SPORTS LEAGUE TO PUBLICLY E OUT AS GAY

"Glad to Be Gay" is built around four vers cricizg Brish society's attus towards gay people. In the first verse, criciz the Brish police for raidg gay pubs for no reason at all, once homosexualy had been crimalized sce the 1967 Sexual Offenc Act.

In the send verse, pots to the hypocrisy of Gay News beg prosecuted for obsceny stead of porn magaz like magaz Playboy or the tabloid The Sun which publish photographs of topls girls on Page 3.

It also criciz the way homosexual people are portrayed other parts of the prs, pecially nservative newspapers News of the World and Sunday Exprs.

THE SOLUTN TO "GAY" INSULTS: FREEDOM OF SPEECH

On the third verse, pots out the extreme nsequenc of homophobia, such as vlence agast LGBT people.

For me, a young child livg London at the time, the term gay (meang homosexual and not "happy") was ed much more equently by the media and the general public after the release of "Glad to be Gay". It also helped that Tom Robson looked straight and was not the least mp, he did not f the stereotypil ia of how homosexuals looked and behaved. This webse is for homosexuals who are stgglg wh their unwanted homosexual thoughts, feelgs and sir.

'PASSAG' DIRECTOR NOUNC 'DANGERO' NC-17 RATG ON A FILM PICTG A GAY LOVE STORY

It is meant to help homosexuals who want to change but do not unrstand their homosexual tennci and behavr well. We hope to scribe and expla how homosexualy emerg and velops, and why a person be a homosexual.

Our missn is to give the repentant homosexual the help and hope to rever om his homosexual stggl bee change is possible. To men and women tormented by homosexual emotns who do not want to live as homosexuals, who want nstctive help and support, and who are fotten, have no voice, and get no answers our society, which regniz only the emancipatory homosexual who wants to impose his iology of “normaly” and “unchangeabily” and th discrimat agast those who know or feel that that is a sad lie.

However, some gay people proudly ll themselv "queer" as an act of fiance. "Not gay as happy, but queer as fuck you" ="I'm not a pole gay person.

HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY

The film won’t say , but a post-creds punchle about Ken’s handwrg, plete wh hearts and stars surroundg his name, tells what we need to heavily implied nature of Ken’s gayns Toy Story 3 harkens back to Hollywood’s tradnal gay bt iend-type characters. In the Hays Co era, explic referenc to homosexualy weren’t allowed, so characters like Van Buren (Frankl Pangborn) 1937’s Easy Livg, Kip (David Wayne) 1949’s Adam’s Rib, or Addison (Gee Sanrs) 1950’s All About Eve stead were imbued wh effemate characteristics, offerg a glimpse outsi of heteronormativy whout explicly beg of the characters were the same—some were tty, others sweet. But each of the gay bt iends was trsilly fed by their relatnships wh their straight iends.

GAY BUT NOT HAPPY WEDDGS

Des later, 2010, the gay bt iend was all the rage; Teen Vogue even went so far as to proclaim the GBF as the summer’s mt-have accsory. But unlike the first half of the 20th century, today’s cema, the GBF is allowed to be openly gay. In movi like Mean Girls (2004), The Devil Wears Prada (2006), Easy A (2010), No Strgs Attached (2011), and Isn’t It Romantic (2019), gay iends exist entirely the orb of their female iends.

” But Barbie do, and for Ken, that’s are plenty of reasons why the film wouldn’t outrightly state that Ken is homosexual. ) Earrg Magic Ken turned Barbie’s boyiend to an out-and-proud homosexual raver.

STRAIGHT WOMEN AND THEIR GAY HBANDS

Mattel, of urse, vehemently nied any claims that Ken was gay, let alone that he had somethg as prepostero as a ck rg around his neck. As a rult, gay men bought the doll drov, and spe Mattel ultimately rellg the doll and wipg away any trace of Earrg Magic Ken, was near-impossible to see Ken as anythg but the glor homosexual he was born to be om then on. Though Mattel don’t seem to be willg to say Ken is actually gay, the Ken dolls of recent years seem to really lean to Ken’s queerns.

I LIKE GUYS BUT I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY. HOW DO I STOP BEG GAY?

While there is no way to “drs gay, ” there are several dolls that seem to suggt otherwise, such as:Fashnista Ken #193, who looks very exced to tell you about his new obssn, Troye Sivan;Travel Ken Doll, who has a satchel perfect for bathho and a purple overnight bag that lerally proclaims he’s “extra;”Ken Looks Doll, servg “I’m gonna give you a makeover”-type realns while sportg black pleather pants;This Ken, who wears the least heterosexual double nim I have a feelg the new Barbie movie will put the work to nvce that Ken is a hetero du who lov nothg life more than Barbie herself, the wrg’s already on the wall: Ken is, and always will be, Barbie’s gay bt obssg! Adam* said was dangero to e out as gay his home untry and feared beg forced to an arranged marriage wh a said he was "so lucky" to wed his soulmate, Ray, Manchter and wish everyone uld marry who they love.