Do Straight Men Like It From Gay Men? - The Village Voice

Contents:

• THE FACT NO ONE LIK TO ADM: MANY GAY MEN ULD JT HAVE EASILY BEEN STRAIGHT
• IS FLIRTG BETWEEN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN OKAY?
• GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS
• CAN A STRAIGHT GUY ETHILLY ACCEPT ORAL SEX OM HIS GAY BUDDY?
• DO STRAIGHT MEN LIKE IT FROM GAY MEN?
• OP-ED: WHEN STRAIGHT GUYS TREAT GAY GUYS LIKE WOMEN, IS IT PROGRS?

THE FACT NO ONE LIK TO ADM: MANY GAY MEN ULD JT HAVE EASILY BEEN STRAIGHT

My last post scribed a populatn of mal who nsir themselv heterosexual, do not label themselv gay or bisexual, chew volvement wh the LGBT muny, are often married or romantilly volved wh an oppose-sex partner, and who engage sex wh mal or exprs the sire to do so. Due large part to the popularizatn of the topic the btsellg 2005 book On the Down Low: A Journey to the Liv of 'Straight' Black Men Who Sleep wh Men, [i] Lato and Ain-Amerin men are the primary subjects rearch wh non-gay intified MSM. One of the earlit studi, "The Bisexual and Non-Gay Attached Rearch Project" om the early 1990s, found that participants engagg same-sex sexual behavr but not intifyg as gay or bisexual scribed themselv as “kky, ” “normal, ” or “jt a guy.

Siar fdgs were found throughout a seri of terviews wh non-gay intified MSM prepared for the Centers for Disease Control and Preventn 2004. In tally, the men terviewed reported that if sexual activy between men was anonymo, experimental, ocsnal, or if substance e was volved, the act was not “gay.

Fally, while there is nflictg data, appears that non-gay intified MSM engage high levels of dg and alhol e. Usg this stricture as a gui, a man who has sex wh another male mt be gay (or bisexual at the least). Parsons, “Sexual Behavrs of Non-gay Intified Non-disclosg Men Who Have Sex wh Men and Women, ” Archiv of Sexual Behavr 37, no.

IS FLIRTG BETWEEN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN OKAY?

[iii] Daryl Hood, Garrett Prtage, June Crawford, Tania Sorrell, and Chris O’Reilly, "Report on the BANGAR Project: Bisexual Activy/non Gay Attachment Rearch Targetg Strategi Intifitn Project.

[v] STD Communitns Database: Interviews wh Non-Gay Intified Men who have Sex wh Men (NGI MSM), ” (Atlanta, Geia: Orc Macro, 2005).

GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS

Ramamurthi, Cleo Manago, Serg Ava, and Marv Jon, “Sexual Behavr, Sexual Inty, and Substance Abe Among Low-Ine Bisexual and Non-Gay-Intifyg Ain Amerin Men Who Have Sex wh Men, ” Archiv of Sexual Behavr 37, no. The guys are different om men who intify as bisexual, gay, mostly gay, and mostly straight. Of urse, some intify as straight but are realy closeted bisexuals or gays by sexual orientatn—perhaps likely to e out at a later age (if ever).

When I was young, I was told the whole world was divid to heterosexual men and heterosexual women, bar a small number of unfortunate ‘homosexuals’ of both genrs and possibly an even smaller number a third tegory, ‘bisexuals’, who ‘swung both ways’; pl, fally, a ty band of wretched creatur who were physilly not que one thg or the other. How many ‘homosexuals’ were there?

CAN A STRAIGHT GUY ETHILLY ACCEPT ORAL SEX OM HIS GAY BUDDY?

Ksey diststed btal tegorisatn but, wishg to unt, nstcted what me close to a slidg sle ntag seven gradatns between exclive heterosexualy and exclive homosexualy.

He found that almost half his male terviewe had reacted sexually to both genrs; more than a third had had a homosexual enunter; and more than one ten reported roughly equally strong sexual rpons to both men and women. Surveys for the Observer of ten and four years ago suggt that around 4 per cent of Brish men would ll themselv ‘homosexual’. Some of the men I slept wh have gone straight spe a strong cultural barrier to a gay man dog this.

Some iends I thought — knew — to be straight have gone gay, or ‘bisexual’. All all, I’ve probably slept wh as many straight men as self–intifyg gay or bisexual on: I doubt most were lyg, and some s have reason to know they weren’t. For every ‘bisexual’ man who’s actually gay but reluctant to say so, there’s a straight man who’s actually bisexual.

DO STRAIGHT MEN LIKE IT FROM GAY MEN?

And there are plenty of ‘gay’ men who know that, a different life, they uld reasonably ntentedly be straight. In what pass for the gay ‘muny’, there’s somethg of a taboo about admtg, even to ourselv, that que a few of (not me) uld, wh a ltle axg and self-disciple, be ‘straight’.

There exist strong reasons for this taboo among gays: first, ‘we n’t help ’ was absolutely central to our early pch for equaly, and we need to believe . Like you might well be bisexual or gay.

OP-ED: WHEN STRAIGHT GUYS TREAT GAY GUYS LIKE WOMEN, IS IT PROGRS?

If the only gay timacy I ever had was a group like this, or what you experienced, I uld fortably say I was pretty straight. Whout some sort of bond gay sex, or any sex, n be pretty mechanil. He als mostly wh issu the gay muny.

Gay. Some of them probably are a ltle bisexual, but I know two particular who seem 100% straight every jt enjoy the nvenience of gay sex sometim. When he download a gay app though, sudnly there were 20 dus a day throwg themselv at him and beggg him to pick them.

So when you are sayg "foc on the more submissive aspects of " and referencg the prev post where someone suggted this was more about beg submissive than about beg gay, n you elaborate on that? More charably, might be a gift or a favor to a bisexual or gay iend.