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Contents:

• Q&A: ETIQUETTE FOR GAYS, LBIANS AND THEIR STRAIGHT FRIENDS
• IS IT GAY HBAND? LBIAN WIFE? OR WHAT?
• THE DOS & DON'TS OF GAY CLUBBG
• THE GAY HOOK UP OF NDUCT
• MALE GAY BAR ETIQUETTE
• ASK A HOMO: GAY BAR ETIQUETTE

Q&A: ETIQUETTE FOR GAYS, LBIANS AND THEIR STRAIGHT FRIENDS

When to etiquette for members of the gay, lbian, bisexual and transgenr muny — as well as their straight iends, fay members and workers — thor and journalist Steven Petrow is the thory.

His new 400-pl-page book, Steven Petrow’s Complete Gay & Lbian Manners (Workman), vers virtually every gay etiquette issue that may nont Ameri’s evolvg society — om how to handle g out at work to how straight people should refer to their gay iends’ signifint others (is “roommate” really appropriate?

IS IT GAY HBAND? LBIAN WIFE? OR WHAT?

” TIME spoke wh Petrow Manhattan, jt after New York beme the sixth and largt state to legalize gay marriage. TIME: Why is there need for a separate gay etiquette book?

PETROW: It’s not like gay people set our tabl differently, or that we treat our hoeguts differently. I’m a big believer clean sheets for everybody, straight and gay! ‘What do I ll the signifint other of my gay or lbian iend?

To ask someone if they’re gay or lbian? The longer answer is, tak most gays and lbians a while to figure out who they are, to articulate to themselv what inty or what label. More generally, talk about the importance of diversy, your fay, not only for gays and lbians, but for everyone.

THE DOS & DON'TS OF GAY CLUBBG

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THE GAY HOOK UP OF NDUCT

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Boomg|Is It Gay Hband? 27, 2012Every other Tuday, Steven Petrow, the thor of “Steven Petrow’s Complete Gay & Lbian Manners, ” (Workman, 2011), addrs qutns about gay and straight etiquette for a boomer-age dience.

MALE GAY BAR ETIQUETTE

" I am a straight man my 50s, and most same-sex upl of my age group e “partner” to refer to each other although younger gay male iends speak of their “hbands” wh lbian upl routely g “wife. Given today’s crazy-quilt mix of state marriage laws (ma even more so by the Electn Day victori for gay weddgs), ’s no wonr you are nfed about how to refer to our signifint others. The other day I heard about a recently married gay man who mentned his “hband” passg to a woman of a certa age (meang ours!

ASK A HOMO: GAY BAR ETIQUETTE

It’s tertg to me that you rrectly intify the generatnal difference among your gay, lbian and bisexual iends (two snaps for payg attentn! ) and I’ll bet you’re likely to rell when other terms were vogue — “longtime pann” was obuary for “gay” – and back the day the sexually suggtive “lover” was the mon moniker for many a practil level what I suggt dog is listeng to how a uple troduc or refers to each other. For stance, I recently overheard a gay iend a long-term relatnship refer to his better half as his “spoe” only to hear one of the straight folks ask him mut later what kd of work his “iend” did.