Is Your Man Gay, Straight, or Bisexual? | Psychology Today

Contents:

• IS IT POSSIBLE TO SYSTEMATILLY TURN GAY PEOPLE STRAIGHT?
• HOW TO LEAD A HETEROSEXUAL LIFTYLE IF YOU ARE GAY
• CAN SCTN MAKE STRAIGHT MEN GAY?
• IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
• HOW TO GET A MAN (FOR GAY MEN)
• HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY
• HOW TO MAKE GAY FRIENDS: AN LBGT FRIENDSHIP GUI

IS IT POSSIBLE TO SYSTEMATILLY TURN GAY PEOPLE STRAIGHT?

Joseph Nilosi, a psychologist Enco, Calif., says he n rid adults, teens, and even children of homosexualy.

"If [a patient] n accept his bodily homoerotic experience while stayg nnected to the therapist, " he wrote The Paradox of Self-Acceptance, "the sexual feelg soon transforms to somethg else: the regnn of eper, pa-generated emotnal needs which have nothg to do wh sexualy.

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HOW TO LEAD A HETEROSEXUAL LIFTYLE IF YOU ARE GAY

He was unsuccsful, and nclud that attempts to change homosexual orientatn were likely to fail. Given that homosexual activy was also crimally prosecuted the U.

Another method was satiatn therapy, which a subject was told to masturbate over and over while verbally scribg his homosexual fantasi, until they disappeared — or, at least, "therapi" were generally effective — the person remaed attracted to the same sex — or over-effective — the person was trmatized and lost all sexual aroal entirely.

CAN SCTN MAKE STRAIGHT MEN GAY?

They "were ed whout people thkg about whether they were humane, " Glassgold all treatments were so gome: Lnel Ovey, a Columbia Universy psychoanalyst and thor of Homosexualy and Psdohomosexualy, created a behavral method the 1960s.

It was based on the ia that homosexualy origated om a fear of takg on the normal quali of one's genr. Ovey studied a clilly disturbed group of patients and summarized their unnsc mds as follows: "I am a failure = I am not a man = I am strated = I am a woman = I am a homosexual. " His view mirrored the belief of many clicians at the time: that homosexualy was based on a phobia of the oppose non-aversive treatments followg this theory foced on buildg "tnal skills" like datg techniqu, assertivens trag, and affectn achg to crease teractns wh women.

Cognive therapists, meanwhile, ma a few attempts to change homosexuals' thought patterns by reamg sir — redirectg thoughts away om homosexual activy — or through hypnosis.

IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?

Still, SOCE is still beg practiced wh a small group of mental-health practners, most of whom ter to a populatn whose relig beliefs strictly bar homosexualy.

HOW TO GET A MAN (FOR GAY MEN)

Your fay is homophobic. Internalized homophobia.

If they're "supportg" you but only if you choose to act like you aren't gay, that isn't te support and may be toxic.

HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY

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HOW TO MAKE GAY FRIENDS: AN LBGT FRIENDSHIP GUI

Addg sue elbow patch to a sweater or heavy-weight shirt (like a nim button-up) is guaranteed to give at least a 50% gay boost. #5 - Super Gay T-shirt (Not So Subtle).