Age Differenc Gay Coupl | Psychology Today Uned Kgdom

Contents:

• AGE DIFFERENC GAY COUPL
• GAY DATG | YOUNG PEOPLE ON AGE DIFFERENCE GAY RELATNSHIPS
• CAN WE TALK ABOUT GAY MEN AND AGE GAPS?
• VARIATNS SEXUAL INTY MILTON AMONG LBIANS, GAY MEN AND BISEXUALS
• GENERATNAL DIFFERENC SEXUAL BEHAVUR AND PARTNERG AMONG GAY, BISEXUAL, AND OTHER MEN WHO HAVE SEX WH MEN

AGE DIFFERENC GAY COUPL

Many quiri I have received over and over aga through the years beg somethg like this: “I've always liked olr men, but many gay iends close to my age are cril of me and spic of my motiv. Var labels have been ascribed to tergeneratnal upl, whether straight, gay or bisexual: tergeneratnal, age-gap, age-discrepant, or, more often than not, “May-December” relatnships. Inially, I was unnvced the relatnships were ser, but that was bee I held stereotypil views: an olr gay man who was lookg for a trophy-mate and has the money to take re of his boy toy and a younger man who was lookg for a sugar daddy.

Based on the number of tim this qutn drops to my mailbox, the reasons for the age-discrepant attractns nsum a great al of bandwidth the thoughts of a lot of young gay and bisexual men.

GAY DATG | YOUNG PEOPLE ON AGE DIFFERENCE GAY RELATNSHIPS

Was pletg his doctoral dissertatn, “May-December: Navigatg Life as an Intergeneratnal Gay Couple, ” he thoroughly rearched what proved to be the limed available lerature on tergeneratnal upl. For lbians, gay men, bisexuals and transgenr people, realizg their sexual orientatn or genr inty and sharg that rmatn wh fay and iends is often a gradual procs that n unfold over a seri of years. Lbians and gay men are more likely than bisexuals to have told at least one close iend about their sexual orientatn (96% of gay men and 94% of lbians, pared wh 79% of bisexuals).

CAN WE TALK ABOUT GAY MEN AND AGE GAPS?

And they are much more likely to say that most of the people who are important to them know about this aspect of their life: 77% of gay men and 71% of lbians say all or most people know, pared wh 28% of bisexuals. Among all LGBT adults, those wh a llege gree are more likely than those who have not graduated om llege to say all or most of the important people their life know they are lbian, gay, bisexual or transgenr (64% vs.

VARIATNS SEXUAL INTY MILTON AMONG LBIANS, GAY MEN AND BISEXUALS

The age gaps may be related to the fact that younger adults who may not yet intify themselv as lbian, gay, bisexual or transgenr (but may the future) would not qualify to be clud the survey. Overall, LGBT adults are much more likely to have told a close iend that they are lbian, gay, bisexual or transgenr than they are to have told one of their parents. Bisexuals are much more likely than gay men and lbians to say their sexual orientatn never me up wh their parents or that raisg the subject was not important to them.

GENERATNAL DIFFERENC SEXUAL BEHAVUR AND PARTNERG AMONG GAY, BISEXUAL, AND OTHER MEN WHO HAVE SEX WH MEN

Among LGB adults who have not told their father about their sexual orientatn, 13% of gay men say this is bee he already knew, as well as 17% of lbians and 5% of bisexuals.

For LGBT adults who have not told their father that they are lbian, gay, bisexual or transgenr, about one--ten (12%) say they didn’t tell him bee they do not have a close relatnship wh him. Gay men and lbians are more likely than bisexuals to say tellg their mother about their sexual orientatn was a difficult thg (64% of gay men and 65% of lbians say was difficult, vs. Lbians are twice as likely as gay men to say tellg their mother about their sexual orientatn hurt their relatnship (23% of lbians say the relatnship grew weaker, pared wh 12% of gay men).