Ambivalence Gay and Lbian Fay Relatnships - PMC

Contents:

• GAY MEN AND THEIR MOTHERS: IS THERE A SPECIAL CLOSENS?
• AMBIVALENCE GAY AND LBIAN FAY RELATNSHIPS
• ‘I HAVE A WONRFUL DGHTER, WHO IS GAY, AND A HOMOPHOBIC MOTHER’
• WHEN PARENTS SEPARATE AND ONE PARENT ‘COM OUT’ AS LBIAN, GAY OR BISEXUAL: SONS AND DGHTERS ENGAGE WH THE TENSN THAT OCCURS WHEN THEIR FAY UN CHANG
• PARENTS OF GAY CHILDREN AND THE ISSU THEY FACE

GAY MEN AND THEIR MOTHERS: IS THERE A SPECIAL CLOSENS?

Longtime ally and supporter of the Human Rights Campaign, Sally Field wrote a lengthy say scribg her son's experience g to his own as a gay man, and how important beg a part of that experience was to her.

AMBIVALENCE GAY AND LBIAN FAY RELATNSHIPS

"It's difficult for me to unrstand a fay member judgg or not lovg or acceptg another fay member bee they are gay, "Ally said an terview wh the Wdy Cy Tim, "It's like when a member of the fay marri someone who is of another race or relign.

Ante Beng and Warren Beatty's son Stephen is a gay trans wrer, poet, and activist who's has also posted -pth about his experience and inty on YouTube (you n check out one of his vios here). This was found to be te for many of the mothers and sons I terviewed for the study scribed the book: Comg Out, Comg Home: Helpg Fai Adjt to a Gay or Lbian Child (). Fortunately, for many mothers of gay son—wh time and tn, they learn that the ia that they had somehow ma their son gay is ad wrong This was te of the mothers my study who also me to see the benefs havg a gay son as will be scribed later this post.

My rearch, clil and personal experienc suggt that there is ed a al lk between male homosexualy and a close maternal relatnship but flows the oppose directn than what was prevly thought. I thk personally [beg gay] ma me a more emotnal person, more sensive, more touch wh both the male and female sis of myself, but allowg me to even acknowledge that other si ma me closer to my mother.

‘I HAVE A WONRFUL DGHTER, WHO IS GAY, AND A HOMOPHOBIC MOTHER’

However, we get to hot water when we allow stereotyp to get the way of unrstandg the uniquens of dividuals and their circumstanc—so is important to remember that not all mothers and gay sons are close.

In the prent study 60 -pth terviews were analyzed to intify what the thor lls perceived ambivalence the parent, siblg, extend k, and “-law” relatnships of gay and lbian adults.

Keywords: ambivalence, gay and lbian fai, tergeneratnal relatnships, mid- to late life, qualative rearchOver the past , tergeneratnal ambivalence has emerged as a central ncept for unrstandg relatnships between adult children and their parents (Lüscher & Pillemer, 1998). This absence of non-heterosexuals is notable, as recent work shows that gay and lbian fai have unique dimensns unarticulated heterosexual fai (Cohler, 2004; Connidis, 2007; Obock, 2013; Reczek, 2014a).

WHEN PARENTS SEPARATE AND ONE PARENT ‘COM OUT’ AS LBIAN, GAY OR BISEXUAL: SONS AND DGHTERS ENGAGE WH THE TENSN THAT OCCURS WHEN THEIR FAY UN CHANG

For example, broar stutnal forc of homophobia and heterosexism that stcture the fay relatnships of gay and lbian adults may engenr an exceptnal view of soclogil ambivalence (Connidis, 2012), one that turn provis a lens to the , dynamics, and nsequenc of fay teractn.

PARENTS OF GAY CHILDREN AND THE ISSU THEY FACE

As such, a study of ambivalence gay and lbian fai rms a theoretil and empiril acunt of broar fay advance an unrstandg of ambivalence, gay and lbian fai, and fay systems more broadly (Bowen, 1978), the prent study I analyzed qualative terviews wh 60 gays and lbians to terme the nature of ambivalence fay-of-orig (e. G., rejectg, disapprovg) feelgs and actns (Gilligan, Suor, Feld, & Pillemer, 2015; Willson, Shuey, & Elr, 2003) wh the stctural ndns of a gay or lbian fay (Connidis, 2015). This study provis a new lens through which to view how adult gays and lbians—a margalized group—experience fay ti, turn revealg new dimensns of fay relatnships prevly undisvered by heteronormative fay rearch.