If Shawn Mens says he's not gay, he's not – stop speculatg on | Metro News

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• SHAWN MENS SAYS RUMORS HE'S GAY DEEPLY AFFECTED AND 'FSTRATED' HIM
• 'GAYDAR' OR 'WISHDAR'? THE DANGER OBSSG OVER SHAWN MENS' SEXUALY
• SHAWN MENS FEELS NEED TO 'PROVE' HE'S NOT GAY
•  IS SHAWN MENS GAY? DEBATE ON SGER'S SEXUALY MAY STOP AS HE'S SEEMGLY DATG JOCELYN MIRANDA
• WHAT DID SHAWN MENS SAY ABOUT GAYS?
• SHAWN MENS REVEALS WHY HE GOT ‘UPSET’ OVER RUMORS HE WAS GAY: ‘IT’S COMPLETELY IGNORANT’
• IF SHAWN MENS SAYS HE’S NOT GAY, HE’S NOT – ’S HARMFUL SPECULATG ON
• SHAWN MENS EXPLAS WHY ‘IGNORANT AND SENSIVE’ GAY MOURS UPSET HIM

SHAWN MENS SAYS RUMORS HE'S GAY DEEPLY AFFECTED AND 'FSTRATED' HIM

"Everyone's been llg me gay sce I was 15 years old. "Everyone's been llg me gay sce I was 15 years old, " said Mens, 22, rellg how he "didn't grow up wrtlg" but stead "grew up gettg my hair braid on New Year's Eve" wh his female explaed how the speculatn not only ma him start policg his actns and closg himself off emotnally, ma him worry about his iends who were not ready to e out. "It was so, so tratg for me bee there were some people my life that I was very, very close to who were gay and the closet, " the three-time Grammy nomee explaed.

""I thk a lot of guys go through that and, even worse than that, there are so many guys who are gay and the closet and mt be hearg s--- like that and beg like, 'I'm terrified to e out, '" the "Stch" sger said.

The sger admted he feels the need to "prove to people that I'm not gay. "November 26, 2018, 3:29 PMShawn Mens is spillg all the tea his new ver story for Rollg, famo for h songs cludg "In My Blood" and "Stch, " addrsed the mors about his sexualy that have swirled for years, even though he's nied that he's gay and has told fans that shouldn't matter even if he was. "“In the back of my heart, I feel like I need to be seen wh someone -- like a girl -- public, to prove to people that I’m not gay, " he said.

'GAYDAR' OR 'WISHDAR'? THE DANGER OBSSG OVER SHAWN MENS' SEXUALY

Shawn Mens spoke ndidly on Dax Shepard's Armchair Expert podst about how people speculatg he was gay when he was a teen eply affected him and ma him qutn himself. "It was so, so tratg for me bee there were some people my life that I was very very close to, who were gay and the closet, " Mens said. You want to say, 'I'm not gay but 'd be fe if I was gay—but also there's nothg wrong wh beg gay but I'm not.

I need to be really fuckg msy and say the wrong thgs and apologize and say the right thg after I apologize and be nfed about how to rpond when people say I'm gay. Everyone's been llg me gay sce I was 15 years old. I'm not gay and I'm like, 'What do that mean?

SHAWN MENS FEELS NEED TO 'PROVE' HE'S NOT GAY

There are jt so many guys who are gay and the closet and mt be hearg sh like that and jt beg like, 'I'm terrified to e out, '" he is datg Caa Cabello, and he spoke to Shepard too about how his girliend has helped him embrace beg vulnerable as a human tra and not a feme one. Pop stars Shawn Mens and Caa Cabello announced last week that they are endg their two-year relatnship, sendg a meteore crashg through the LGBTQ universe — or at least gay Twter.

 IS SHAWN MENS GAY? DEBATE ON SGER'S SEXUALY MAY STOP AS HE'S SEEMGLY DATG JOCELYN MIRANDA

Hundreds of ers posted mem on social media the past week, many of them jokg about how gay men will be flockg to the heartthrob's home now that he’s sgle. Google search for “Shawn Mens gay” h a three-year peak last week as news of the uple’s spl broke, dwarfg search for Transgenr Awarens Week, which land at the same time.

“The gays rejoice, ” a er wrote on others said the mors and the jok were “gross. ”“are some of the shawn mens gay jok funny?

WHAT DID SHAWN MENS SAY ABOUT GAYS?

Do they also remd me of that unspeakably awful, gut-punch feelg i’d get when i was closeted and someone TOLD me i was gay bee i let the mask slip and acted feme for one whole send?

Also y, ” gay social media fluencer Matt Bernste wrote on Twter, garnerg over 6, 000 has not addrsed the latt hearsay and did not reply to a requt for ment. ”“You want to say, ‘I’m not gay but ’d be fe if I was gay — but also there’s nothg wrong wh beg gay but I’m not.

Gayle Kg and Oprah Wey attend The Rob Hood Foundatn's 2016 Benef at Jab Javz Center on May 9, 2016 New York Cy. Kev Mazur / Getty Imag fileFor years, the close iendship between Wey and CBS host Gayle Kg sparked mors that the two were a uple.

SHAWN MENS REVEALS WHY HE GOT ‘UPSET’ OVER RUMORS HE WAS GAY: ‘IT’S COMPLETELY IGNORANT’

” But while speculatn about sexualy among gay iends has existed as long as gay people have, when the speculatn mov to a public fom, n be damagg, some experts say. Jack Drcher, a clil profsor of psychiatry at Columbia Universy and the thor of “Psychoanalytic Therapy and the Gay Man, ” said such speculatn n be particularly damagg if the subject is actually gay and is not ready to e out on their own terms. “If actually is te that they might be gay and people are speculatg about , you’re gog to sort of make them feel threatened and endangered, ” Drcher said, strsg that he was speakg hypothetilly and not about a specific public figure.

”‘Gaydar’ vs. “Sometim ’s hard for gay men to separate their ‘gaydar’ om their ‘wishdar, ’” Savage said.

IF SHAWN MENS SAYS HE’S NOT GAY, HE’S NOT – ’S HARMFUL SPECULATG ON

“There’s not a lot of speculatn the gay muny that Louis C. Mt be gay. As for the speculatn surroundg Mens, Rogers said: “My first qutn would be, ‘What has he done that is anti-gay?

”Anti-gay lawmakers asi, Savage said he empathiz wh LGBTQ people who are angered by public figur who are, fact, lbian, gay, bisexual, transgenr or queer and are not out. "In the back of my heart, I feel like I need to go be seen wh someone - like a girl - public, to prove to people that I'm not gay, " he also admted the scty ma him nstantly analyse his gtur.

SHAWN MENS EXPLAS WHY ‘IGNORANT AND SENSIVE’ GAY MOURS UPSET HIM

"The Canadian told the magaze he often watch his own terviews back, analysg his voice and body language, to intify tras which make people thk he is gay. "I'd like to say I don't re about , but that's not te, " the 20-year-old add that although the speculatn had ed him a lot of strs and anxiety, would bother him more if he actually were gay - as would make him more reluctant to e source, RtersImage ptn, Mens regretted a vio posted by Taylor Swift om when they were on tour togetherMens explaed he had a moment of tratn last year, while readg YouTube ments about his sexualy.

"I thought, 'You guys are so lucky I'm not actually gay and terrified of g out, ' "That's somethg that kills people. Who r if I'm gay? "This isn't the first time Mens has addrsed mours about his a Snapchat story posted last year, he was seen sayg: "I noticed a lot of people were sayg I gave them a 'gay vibe'.