People n intify whether a man is gay or straight by their voice. Bisexuals? Not so much - LGBTQ Natn

Contents:

• GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS
• PEOPLE N INTIFY WHETHER A MAN IS GAY OR STRAIGHT BY THEIR VOICE. BISEXUALS? NOT SO MUCH
• WHY SOME STRAIGHT PEOPLE MIGHT HAVE GAY SEX
• IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?

GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS

The guys are different om men who intify as bisexual, gay, mostly gay, and mostly straight. Of urse, some intify as straight but are realy closeted bisexuals or gays by sexual orientatn—perhaps likely to e out at a later age (if ever). This all got me thkg about my own iendships and those of my gay male clients.

The bonds between gay men and straight women have been wrten about and featured popular media (i. Sex the Cy, Will and Grace), though a lot ls has been said about how gay and straight men regnize and negotiate the distct challeng, plitns, and rewards of their iendships.

Acrdg to Garfield, among the many obstacl to male-male platonic timacy, fear of homosexualy looms large. Straight men et that if they get too close, others will see them as gay; which their mds means feme (horrors!

PEOPLE N INTIFY WHETHER A MAN IS GAY OR STRAIGHT BY THEIR VOICE. BISEXUALS? NOT SO MUCH

S., before there was such a thg as a gay inty, some straight men would, wh ltle shame, engage sexual ntact wh other men (ually allowg themselv to be fellated) when female partners were otherwise unavailable (see Gee Chncey’s semal book, Gay New York: Genr, Urban Culture, and the Makg of the Gay Male World 1890-1940) and there is good reason to believe this still occurs other untri and cultur. The mid 20th century this behavr beme associated wh gay inty, new at the time and seen as crimal and then sick. As a rult of this behavr-inty lk, sexual ngrs between gay and straight men creased nsirably, or at least went unrground.

Gay men have suffered physil, social, and psychologil abe at the hands of heterosexually intified mal who, thanks to homophobia and heterosexism, felt fully jtified flictg the terrors.

So 's no wonr hetero men would fear homosexualy and gay men particular. This legacy of vlence, both physil and psychologil, flicted by straight men toward those of who are gay naturally fuels our utn and distst at the thought of beiendg them. In his book, Garfield scrib the stiff hugs he would receive om a gay iend.

WHY SOME STRAIGHT PEOPLE MIGHT HAVE GAY SEX

As turns out, the gay iend worried that if he hugged too closely his iend would thk he was g on to him. Few thgs n be a more soothg balm for gay guys than a close iendship wh a heterosexual man. For the straight guy, iendship wh a gay man offers the opportuny to learn important lsons about masculy, male inty, sexual orientatn, and diversy.

As the quote go: You n never have too many iends—and iendships between gay and straight guys n be healg and uniquely satisfyg for all volved.

"My random roommate durg sophomore year happened to be gay. ' His buddi got all homophobic on him, so he asked, 'You guys have never msed around wh another guy? I'm gay, but I hooked up wh a handful of men and women my 30s.

IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?

In the end, they're still straight, and I'm still gay and happily married to my hband of 12 years. Like you might well be bisexual or gay. If the only gay timacy I ever had was a group like this, or what you experienced, I uld fortably say I was pretty straight.

Whout some sort of bond gay sex, or any sex, n be pretty mechanil. He als mostly wh issu the gay muny.

Gay. Some of them probably are a ltle bisexual, but I know two particular who seem 100% straight every jt enjoy the nvenience of gay sex sometim. When he download a gay app though, sudnly there were 20 dus a day throwg themselv at him and beggg him to pick them.