Not So Gay After All

Contents:

• CAN SOMEONE BE HOMOSEXUAL AND NOT GAY?
• ‘I AM GAY – BUT I WASN’T BORN THIS WAY’
• SHERYL SWOOP’ OUT AS NSGAA (NOT SO GAY AFTER ALL)
• NOT SO ‘GAY’ AFTER ALL – CONSTCTG (HOMO)SEXUALY AIDS REARCH THE SOUTH AIN MEDIL JOURNAL, 1980–1990
• NOT SO GAY AFTER ALL
• FABIAN BASABE: STILL NOT GAY AFTER ALL THE GAYS
• SAME STREET’S BERT AND ERNIE NOT GAY AFTER ALL: LGBT WORLD NIAL
• CHICK-FIL-A HAS NOT GONE GAY AFTER ALL
• I'M NOT GAY AFTER ALL SONG | AHRI FDLG | COMG TO THE STAGE SEASON 10
• STRAIGHT WOMEN AND THEIR GAY HBANDS
• CONTROVERSIAL TORONTO ZOO PENGUS NOT GAY AFTER ALL?
• CALIFORNIA STILL HAS AN ANTI-GAY MARRIAGE LAW ON THE BOOKS. VOTERS ULD REMOVE NEXT YEAR
• WHY STRAIGHT MEN SHOULD ACT GAY
• CAN PEOPLE STOP BEG GAY?

CAN SOMEONE BE HOMOSEXUAL AND NOT GAY?

So when we therapists are nonted wh male clients, often married on, who e to wh ep nflicts about their sexual attractn to other men, we often fd that they are willg to e the word “homosexual, ” but chew the “gay” label.

Unfortunately, much of our natn’s polics have long exacerbated the problem as well, shamg and vilifyg homosexualy, leadg legns of men stgglg wh sexual inty to ternalize their homophobia.

‘I AM GAY – BUT I WASN’T BORN THIS WAY’

I warned them of the pfalls of keepg their sexual orientatn secret: a life of creased prsn, pursug a secret life the gay unrground wh the danger of beg ught, how attemptg to supprs urg n often e them to bee even more obssed wh them.

They may need, om time to time, to seek further therapy, but wh the right therapist, one who has thoroughly unrstood the dangers of such practic of “reparative therapy” which the therapist seeks to change the client’s sexual inty om gay to straight. You so obvly nnot be gay, was her implitn, bee this is good was 2006, a full five years before Lady Gaga would set the Born This Way argument atop s unassailable cultural perch, but even then the popular unrstandg of orientatn was that was somethg you were born wh, somethg you uldn’t change.

SHERYL SWOOP’ OUT AS NSGAA (NOT SO GAY AFTER ALL)

But what feels most accurate to say is that I’m gay – but I wasn’t born this people may fd their sir changg directn - and n't jt be explaed as experimentatn (Cred: Ignac Lehmann)In 1977, jt over 10% of Amerins thought gayns was somethg you were born wh, acrdg to Gallup.

NOT SO ‘GAY’ AFTER ALL – CONSTCTG (HOMO)SEXUALY AIDS REARCH THE SOUTH AIN MEDIL JOURNAL, 1980–1990

Throughout the same perd, the number of Amerins who believe homosexualy is “due to someone’s upbrgg/environment” fell om jt unr 60% to ias reached cril mass pop culture, first wh Lady Gaga’s 2011 Born This Way and one year later wh Macklemore’s Same Love, the chos of which has a gay person sgg “I n’t change even if I tried, even if I wanted to. ” Around the same time, the Human Rights Campaign clared unequivolly that “Beg gay is not a choice, ” and to claim that is “giv unwarranted crence to roundly disproven practic such as nversn or reparative therapy. ”People who challenge the Born This Way narrative are often st as homophobic, and their thkg is nsired backwardAs Jane Ward not Not Gay: Sex Between Straight Whe Men, what’s tertg about many of the claims is how transparent their speakers are wh their polil motivatns.

NOT SO GAY AFTER ALL

“Such statements, ” she wr, “fe blogil acunts wh an obligatory and nearly ercive force, suggtg that anyone who scrib homosexual sire as a choice or social nstctn is playg to the hands of the enemy. ” People who challenge the Born This Way narrative are often st as homophobic, and their thkg is nsired backward – even if they are themselv, for example, Cynthia Nixon of Sex and The Cy fame. ”Gay rights do not have to hge on a geic explanatn for sexualy (Cred: Ignac Lehmann)For Aravosis, and many gay activists like him, the public will only accept and affirm gay people if they thk they were born gay.

Patrick Grzanka, Assistant Profsor of Psychology at Universy of Tennsee, for stance, has shown that some people who believe that homosexualy is nate still hold negative views of gays. In fact, the homophobic and non-homophobic rponnts he studied shared siar levels of belief a Born This Way Samantha Allen not at The Daily Beast, the growg public support for gays and lbians has grown out of proportn wh the rise the number of people who believe homosexualy is fixed at birth; would be unlikely that this small change opn uld expla the spike support for gay marriage, for stance. “It don’t seem to matter as much whether or not people believe that gay people are born that way as do that they simply know someone who is currently gay, ” Allen spe of the studi, those who ph agast Born This Way narrativ have been heavily cricised by gay activists.

FABIAN BASABE: STILL NOT GAY AFTER ALL THE GAYS

Siarly, Ward has received her own hatemail for phg agast the lg LGB narrativ, wh some gays tellg her she’s “worse than Ann Coulter, ” the ntroversial US thor of books like If Democrats Had Any Bras, They’d Be Republins. And when I published my say on choosg to be gay, an irate Amerin lbian activist wrote me that had “jt been nfirmed” to her that my wrg was “directly rponsible for four gay aths Rsia.

There is a unanimo opn that gay “nversn therapy” should be rejectedLet’s first be clear that whatever the origs of our sexual orientatn, there is a unanimo opn that gay “nversn therapy” should be rejected. The efforts are potentially harmful, acrdg to the APA, “bee they prent the view that the sexual orientatn of lbian, gay and bisexual youth is a mental illns of disorr, and they often ame the abily to change one’s sexual orientatn as a personal and moral failure.

The APA, for example, while notg that most people experience ltle to no choice over their orientatns, says this of homosexualy’s origs:“Although much rearch has examed the possible geic, hormonal, velopmental, social and cultural fluenc on sexual orientatn, no fdgs have emerged that perm scientists to nclu that sexual orientatn is termed by any particular factor or factors. ”Siarly, the Amerin Psychiatric Associatn wr a 2013 statement that while the of heterosexualy and homosexualy are currently unknown, they are likely “multifactorial cludg blogil and behavral roots which may vary between different dividuals and may even vary over time. ” Acrdg to LeVay’s rearch, a specific part of the bra, the third terstial nucls of the anterr hypothalam (INAH-3), is smaller homosexual men than is heterosexual as they might, scientists have stggled to inty any particular gen that nsistently predict the directns of our love and sire (Cred: Ignac Lehmann)Read moreYou n spot the problem wh this study a e away: were the gay bras LeVay studied born that way, or did they bee that way?

SAME STREET’S BERT AND ERNIE NOT GAY AFTER ALL: LGBT WORLD NIAL

Bis the dividual criqu leveled agast each new study announcg some gay gene disvery, there are major methodologil cricisms to make about the entire enterprise general, as Grzanka pots out: “If we look at the raveno pursu, particularly among Amerin scientists, to fd a gay gene, what we see is that the ncln has already been arrived at.

”The other problem wh Born This Way science is summed up nicely by Simon Copland: “Scientists are askg whether homosexualy is natural when we n’t even agree exactly what homosexualy is.

CHICK-FIL-A HAS NOT GONE GAY AFTER ALL

” Our sir may exprs themselv many different ways that do not all nform to existg notns of ‘gay’, ‘straight’ or ‘bisexual’ is one of the bt takeaways of Ward’s Not Gay, a peratg analysis of sex between straight whe men. ”Gay or not, our sir are oriented and re-oriented throughout our liv (Cred: Ignac Lehmann)In fact, the straight-intified men Ward studied for her book sometim found themselv suatns that sparked the sire for homosexual sex: aterni, ployments, public rtrooms, etc.

I’m claimg that at some pot durg llege, my sexual and romantic sir beme reoriented toward menThkg back to my llege romanc wh women and men, I n beg to unrstand how my own experienc might have helped me to ‘cultivate’ my sire for homosexualy. I want to be very clear: I’m not claimg I simply began to ‘grow to’ my homosexualy, or that as I beme more fortable wh beg gay, I allowed myself the eedom to exprs what had always been latent wh me.

I'M NOT GAY AFTER ALL SONG | AHRI FDLG | COMG TO THE STAGE SEASON 10

“Limg our unrstandg of any plex human experience is always gog to be worse than allowg to be plited, ” he gay rights activists pared sexualy to relign - a ccial part of our life that we should be ee to practise however we like (Cred: Ignac Lehamann)So what are we to do wh the Born This Way rhetoric?

STRAIGHT WOMEN AND THEIR GAY HBANDS

“That’s a very narrow unrstandg of what jtice looks like, ” says about the ncern that homophob will want to ‘enurage’ gay people to be straight if there’s no blogil basis for sexualy? It don’t take too much creativy to image a scenar which homophobic parents, upon beg rmed their fet has ‘the gay gene’, choose what to them may seem the lser of two evils: abortn.

CONTROVERSIAL TORONTO ZOO PENGUS NOT GAY AFTER ALL?

”Acrdg to surveys, ls than half of Generatn Z intify as "100% heterosexual", suggtg more and more people have embraced their sexual fluidy (Cred: Ignac Lehmann)Perhaps is time to look to the begng of the gay rights movement. “Then there was a shift, and the lears of the movement chose to jump on board wh a ls nuanced argument that people already unrstood: jt like race, people are born wh their homosexualy. More than a third chose a number between one and rponse to the poll, one of my Facebook iends quipped about how natural selectn mt be workg overtime, what wh makg all of gay!

CALIFORNIA STILL HAS AN ANTI-GAY MARRIAGE LAW ON THE BOOKS. VOTERS ULD REMOVE NEXT YEAR

I’m thankful for a new generatn that is pable of imagg sexualy a way that transcends the gay/straight bary, that uldn’t re ls about what happened to their bodi and mds to make them who they are today. SherMedice, PsychologySouth Ain medil journal = Suid-Aikaanse…1986A study was iated to monor the prence and epimlogy of AIDS among the male homosexual populatn of Johannburg and found that most sufferers om the disease South Ai have acquired their fectns om other South aspects of AIDS.

WHY STRAIGHT MEN SHOULD ACT GAY

A few weeks back, a post tled “Elena Kagan Lbian Rumor Smear Neher Smear Nor Rumor, ” I weighed on the kerfuffle surroundg Ben Domenech’s “outg” of the then-prospective Supreme Court nomee as gay. NEW YORK, September 21, 2018, (LifeSeNews) – The seri of breakg news stori at the LGBT-oriented The Advote Magaze’s webse says all about the LGBT world's ph to normalize homosexualy through the appropriatn of cultural ins: At 1:29 PM Tuday, an Advote headle blared: “‘Same Street’ Wrer: Bert and Ernie Are a ‘Lovg Couple. But while Saltzman’s admissn evoked cri of vditn om the LGBT movement that the longstandg mors were te, Same Street Workshop and Muppet creator Frank Oz swiftly nied that Bert and Ernie are “gay.

CAN PEOPLE STOP BEG GAY?

A 4th article — a mentary — appeared on The Advote webse the followg day: The Problem Wh Sayg Bert and Ernie Are Not Gay, lamentg assertns om Oz and Same Street that the famo Muppets do not suffer om same-sex attractn. Jam Mart, SJ, an outspoken proponent of the normalizatn of homosexualy and transgenrism wh the Catholic Church famoly sent out a Tweet last year, sayg, “Some sats were probably gay or lbian. Progrsiv were angered while anti-gay nservativ lerally led up around the block to show their anti-LGBTQ solidary by buyg and eatg chicken sandwich wh two pickl on a toasted butter bun.