An open letter to my fellow whe gay cis men: there should be no "returng to normal" after this.
Contents:
- BEYONCé’S RENAISSANCE IS A BIG, GAY MS
- LNEL MSI IS GAY: THE TTH REVEALED BEHD HIS SEXUALY!
- IS LNEL MSI GAY? HERE IS THE TTH
- GAY CULTURE HAS GROWN TOXIC WH UNCHECKED PRIVILEGE. IT'S TIME FOR TO RET
- AMERI MOVED ON FROM ITS GAY-RIGHTS MOMENT—AND LEFT A LEGAL MS BEHD
BEYONCé’S RENAISSANCE IS A BIG, GAY MS
We n nclu that Lnel Msi is not gay and he is not bisexual. He is jt a normal man who lov women. * mess gay *
At my school, the very place that I first observed queer cursy, I was sred to e out, fearg my own physil and emotnal wasn’t jt the school locker room where I heard homophobic remarks. Gay people are an abomatn and are gog to Hell if they don’t get right wh God. ” Years later he warned: “If you turn out gay, I’ll fuck you up.
LNEL MSI IS GAY: THE TTH REVEALED BEHD HIS SEXUALY!
Image me, a young black gay Christian male, tryg to rencile my sexualy wh school, home, and church life. What happens to a black gay Christian who liv a hoehold that hat him; who really believed that he was gog to Hell.
Perhaps was the support of iends, nts, and those around me that ma me not want to feel ashamed about myself anymore, even if that meant God damng me to the begng of senr year, I went om “I’m gay” to whoever asked, to “Can you stop sayg faggot please? A month later, I cid to no longer participate the mentorship program, and every time I was asked why, I ma exc about beg too time, I retreated to my fantasy world, where I was not sixteen and gay a homophobic environment, but a world where I was olr, the future, when I would arrive to a betiful home om a long day at work, and be weled by a hband who lov me and bears my burns on his shoulrs.
IS LNEL MSI GAY? HERE IS THE TTH
I was thrilled to be leavg and movg on, but I uld see that many of my fellow graduat were facg siar hurdl, on that I had enuntered, and had only masked their tth wh homophobia.
It has been suggted that a cleanls mania swept through gay circl after many men wnsed their iends die agonizg aths (a standard symptom of AIDS is diarrhea). Wispread accs to porn via the ter -- which generally prents gay sex as a clean, ms-ee affair -- along wh profs garnered by toymakers, sex suppliers, and wellns brands om sellg douch, scbs, balms, and other products that palize on our secury have llectively rulted the wispread myth that a priste hole mak a good bottom.
Every time you participate shame -- even wh the smallt, quippit read a gay bar -- you isolate and punish someone for beg human. Most gra-school jok about gay men aren't really about gay men -- they're about bottoms. I (male) had my first gay experience when I was around 12 years old.
GAY CULTURE HAS GROWN TOXIC WH UNCHECKED PRIVILEGE. IT'S TIME FOR TO RET
I never associated what we did wh the ia of ‘gay’. Homosexualy at that age. Now, as an adult, I primarily intify as gay, and I feel strongly that havg those experienc durg my formative years helped shape my sexual inty.
Still, as an adult, whenever I've brought this up wh my straight (and generally gay-iendly) buddi, they whout exceptn ny ever havg had siar experienc. • I don’t have any reason to spect that he is gay or even bi. • Could a straight guy get dnk enough to fool around wh another guy jt bee “felt good”, or is more likely that he has some gay/bi/cur feelgs that perhaps he’s been reprsg?
Even acuntg for the fact that he might remember some of what happened, don't mean he's bisexual, secretly gay, or that you're his magil "exceptn." He was dnk out of his md.
AMERI MOVED ON FROM ITS GAY-RIGHTS MOMENT—AND LEFT A LEGAL MS BEHD
First, he has to e out to you as eher gay or bisexual.
I don't know many gay men (myself clud) who hasn't veloped a csh or had feelgs for a straight guy - cludg straight iends. They are not terted a romantic relatnship wh you; if they were they'd e out as bisexual or gay.
I've seen other gay guys that fell for a straight guy (typilly a iend) and wanted to lu themselv to believg that a relatnship was possible.