Is Your Dad Gay—or Are You a Gay Dad? | Psychology Today

Contents:

• IS YOUR DAD GAY—OR ARE YOU A GAY DAD?
• HOW I ACCINTALLY FOUND OUT MY DAD IS GAY
• MY DAD COMG OUT AS GAY CHANGED OUR LIV — AND GAVE ME THE COURAGE TO BE MYSELF
• GROWG UP WH A GAY FATHER – CONFSNS OM A STRAIGHT SON
• IM GAY AND IM ATTRACTED TO MY FATHER..
• AFTER 20 YEARS OF MARRIAGE, MY DAD CAME OUT AS GAY
• MY LIFE CHANGED FOREVER THE DAY I FOUND OUT MY FATHER WAS GAY
• WHAT IF YOU FD OUT YOUR DAD IS GAY?
• IS MY FATHER GAY?
• I'M 57 YEARS OLD AND MY FATHER JT DISOWNED ME FOR BEG GAY
• DAD, YOU'RE GAY? I AM, TOO
• IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND

IS YOUR DAD GAY—OR ARE YOU A GAY DAD?

Are you a dghter whose dad is gay? Or are you a gay dad? gay: 1.

Most children whose dads are gay were born while their blogil mom and blogil dad were married and livg together. If you have a gay dad or a lbian mom, after they separate, which of them is most likely to remarry or to remarry and then divorce?

HOW I ACCINTALLY FOUND OUT MY DAD IS GAY

Lbian moms are more likely than gay dads to marry their same-sex partner.

But gay dads are ls likely to get divorced om their hbands than lbian moms are to get divorced om their wiv.

Gay men may experience more discrimatn than lbians, pecially if they are parents. Our society is still ls acceptg of gay men beg fathers than of lbians beg mothers. But perhaps the most important rearch fdg is that gay dads and their dghters have closer relatnships when dads tell the tth—and the dads are ls clilly prsed than dads who hi this important rmatn om their children (Tornello, 2018).

MY DAD COMG OUT AS GAY CHANGED OUR LIV — AND GAVE ME THE COURAGE TO BE MYSELF

Sadly, gay fathers are more aaid than lbian mothers to tell their children the tth, regardls of their age. So if you as a dghter or as a gay dad are still tiptoeg around the topic, ’s time to give yourselv a gift by gettg this skeleton out of the closet.

GROWG UP WH A GAY FATHER – CONFSNS OM A STRAIGHT SON

(2018) Adult children of gay fathers. Journal of Homosexualy, 65, 1152-1166. My brother picked up the word for "gay" – a word my dad repeated several tim durg that that pot, my parents had told they had problems their marriage, but a few months later, when I was around ne years old, we still went on our annual fay summer holiday to France.

Until, out of nowhere, my brother sudnly asked, "Dad, are you gay?

"There aren't a lot of gay people out there wh a wife and children, " he told me. I once tagged along wh him to his favoure gay bar, where I met all the iends he's ma there over the years. AdvertisementSKIP ADVERTISEMENTSocial Q’sA rear asks for advice on talkg to her father about his new romantic dad me out as gay to my mom and me two years ago, and my parents got divorced.

IM GAY AND IM ATTRACTED TO MY FATHER..

Sce then, he beiend another gay man.

AFTER 20 YEARS OF MARRIAGE, MY DAD CAME OUT AS GAY

If you jt have a feelg that your brother is gay, that's okay.

If you thk your brother is gay bee he watch a "girly" TV show or his voice sounds a certa way, that's relyg on stereotyp. If you live a particularly homophobic or transphobic area, discs safety plans wh the fay member se of vlence om others.

MY LIFE CHANGED FOREVER THE DAY I FOUND OUT MY FATHER WAS GAY

If your fay member has e out as gay or bisexual, accept that they will end up seeg someone of their own genr, and that's perfectly okay. Don't be aaid to rearch beg gay, bisexual, transgenr, asexual, or whatever your fay member me out as. I thk he might be gay.

WHAT IF YOU FD OUT YOUR DAD IS GAY?

If you saw your brother kissg another guy and he said he is not attracted to women, y, he is gay. How do I tell if a child is gay?

They might have a lack of tert the oppose sex if they’re homosexual or asexual.

I'm gay. I n't remember exactly what I unrstood of the word "gay" at that pot my life, but whether me om hearg my classmat e to disparage our peers or the nate unrstandg that s existence our life meant plete and utter change to our fay dynamic, I stantly registered the word as synonymo wh "bad. The word "gay" was not a taboo word our hoe.

IS MY FATHER GAY?

I never hated to pull asi even the tought bulli after hearg them make fun of our gay classmat to give them a piece of my md, and I preached csantly about why the f-word should be dropped om everyone's vobulari anytime was uttered my prence. We would se together as adults and share stori om our childhoods about our gay parents that others wouldn't unrstand. It's te that children of gay adults tend to grow up quicker than most bee we e to know a different world at an early age that some adults are not yet able to fully prehend.

I'M 57 YEARS OLD AND MY FATHER JT DISOWNED ME FOR BEG GAY

But I knew he was gay by the time I was 7 or 8. So this is my story of growg up wh a gay father. Growg up wh a gay father, particularly one who was aaid to e out, prented challeng our abily to get emotnally close.

DAD, YOU'RE GAY? I AM, TOO

I don’t rell a time when I didn’t know my Dad was gay. From my earlit memori of my Dad around age 5, I thk I always knew my dad was gay.

Th I never had that aha moment of realizg “I have a gay father”!

To hear both of them tell , my Dad beg gay wasn’t a factor the spl. How my Dad me to terms wh beg gay.

IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND

I don’t thk anyone knew yet that my Dad was gay.

After all, he was the son of a Baptist Preacher and there would not have been much tolerance the 1940’s or 50’s for him to e out as gay. In talkg to both of them over the years, they both claim they had no ia my Dad was gay.

In retrospect, the fact that he was a cheerlear his bt iend was a male hairdrser (who was openly gay) that my Uncle Buddy nicknamed him “Percy” (which my Dad hated) and that my Dad went on to open a home furnishgs store might have been a clue. Realizg his sexualy and beg a gay father the late 1960s, pecially wh me a long way away, mt have been really transformative for my Dad. He lived and around the Oak Lawn area of Dallas (long a predomantly gay or at least gay-iendly neighborhood).