The Peculiar Mechanics of Gay Divorce -- New York Magaze - Nymag

Contents:

• CELEBRATG MY (GAY) DIVORCE
• MY GAY DIVORCE MA ME FEEL LIKE I’D LET THE QUEER MUNY DOWN
• HOW MANY GAY MARRIAG END IN DIVORCE?
• ALL THE TIME — COLE PORTER SONG FROM THE 1932 MIL GAY DIVORCE CROSSWORD CLUE
• THE GAY DIVORCEE
• GAY DIVORCE AND STRAIGHT DIVORCE: THE DIFFERENCE
• I GOT GAY MARRIED. I GOT GAY DIVORCED. I REGRET BOTH.

CELEBRATG MY (GAY) DIVORCE

Celebratg My (Gay) DivorceMarriage equaly means divorce equaly—and I feel pri, as well as sadns, about my spl om my WhmanEdor’s Note: This article is part of a seri about the gay-rights movement and the 50th anniversary of the Stonewall Augt 25, 2013, I said “I do” to Jim, my partner of ne years, who beme my “lawfully wedd hband.

I didn’t want to be “gay married”; I wanted to be “married” like any other uple, thank you very much.

MY GAY DIVORCE MA ME FEEL LIKE I’D LET THE QUEER MUNY DOWN

Our divorce, I thk, did as much as to legimize marriage equaly as our more: How gay marriage beme a nstutnal rightLike so many other people of my generatn, I never thought I’d be able to marry “my hband” and “to love, re for, and support him, ” as we put our vows.

As she explaed later, after other gay male upl town got hched, “I like to thk that my [male] iends who have hbands n fd a ty b of validatn hearg that term applied to their chosen one.

(I also didn’t want to be known as the “gay divorcé, ” as some of my iends began llg me. We did not—uld not—jt snap our fgers and erase our turned out, many of our iends—straight and gay—didn’t thk divorce laws applied to same-sex upl. Fred Hertz, a California-based lawyer specializg same-sex-fay law, told me: “What is really surprisg to many of my clients is there is no separate set of l for gay upl—nventnal heterosexual divorce law appli to all married upl, gay or straight.

HOW MANY GAY MARRIAG END IN DIVORCE?

I, too, have been a very public advote for same-sex marriage, and I feared that I had “let down my tribe, ” as another gay man told me after his marriage end.

Dpe the feat, as always, we got back up and spent the months leadg up to 15 November havg nstant nversatns, rallyg, llg strangers and fay members and watchg on as the far right were given a platform to exercise their “eedom of speech”, which ultimately did damage to so many of the while I attend the ralli, had the nversatns and watched the hate unfold, I was harbourg what I felt was a dirty secret: I was a that same time as the untry was batg gay marriage, my “wife” of three years and partner of eight and I were gog through our gay divorce. The thought of beg legally married after a spl is distrsg but ’s somethg that many upl would have gone the people I went to high school wh, teachers, old lleagu and many others who were silent all those years ago when I me out started changg their Facebook picture am to a rabow “Vote Y” image and shared posive articl about gay marriage or horrific stori of queer people beg treated poorly by bs the weddg dtry, felt particularly important to prove that they’d chosen the right si. ” and “Legalise gay marriage … my arms are sore”, I was dog for the very selfish and personal reason of my sire to get married.

ALL THE TIME — COLE PORTER SONG FROM THE 1932 MIL GAY DIVORCE CROSSWORD CLUE

Let's talk about what’s unique about an LGBTQ divorce, some of the challeng you may face when you’re endg a same sex relatnship, as well as some suggtns on how to take re of yourself and make the procs of a "gay divorce" easier. ” On top of that, many people outsi of the gay muny generally don't unrstand what 's like for an LGBTQ uple to separate or divorce. Many people thk gay upl or gay marriag tend not to last long or that they are not lifelong marriag.

THE GAY DIVORCEE

Bee more and more untri all around the world are regnizg gay marriage, the surge gay upl choosg to get married means we have more data than ever before. The Netherlands, which legally regnized gay marriage before any other untry the world, has the most data. One study suggts that approximately 15% of gay marriag end divorce wh 10 years, as opposed to 18% their heterosexual unterparts.

GAY DIVORCE AND STRAIGHT DIVORCE: THE DIFFERENCE

When parg gay marriag to straight marriag, the data shows that gay people typilly stay together longer and divorce ls. When discsg gay divorce, pecially when parg agast straight divorce, many legal issu arise. The two ma a name for themselv creatg ntent about their daily liv and travels as a gay uple, acrdg to and Boo also shared a jot YouTube acunt, where they had nearly 2.

Here is everythg you need to know about gay divorce should your gay marriage e to an end. Before we get to the specifics of gay divorce, let’s first discs a brief history of the fight to ga marriage equaly the Uned Stat.

I GOT GAY MARRIED. I GOT GAY DIVORCED. I REGRET BOTH.

Wh that w for the gay muny, an even bigger landmark se would ga steam after first beg troduced 2012.

Alabama and Texas held out as long as they uld, but gay marriage is officially legal all stat, cludg terrori. At this pot, only stat that accepted gay marriage as legal would allow divorce proceedgs. In May 2013, Delaware and Mnota legalized gay marriage as well as allowg non-rint gay upl to obta a divorce legally through their urts.

Learn more about the nuanc of gay divorce om the Cash Wise Ex-Wiv, Kayla Sloan and Shanah Bell. The women open up about their marriag and subsequent divorc, wh tips and rourc to help you navigate your gay divorce whout gog broke.