For Father's Day, NPR spoke to three, gay sgle fathers who ma the choice to bee parents via surrogacy.
Contents:
- KARAMO BROWN OPENS UP ABOUT BEG A SGLE GAY FATHER: 'NO ONE GAVE ME A MANUAL'
- SGLE GAY DADS GIVE TIPS FOR FIRST-TIME PARENTS: ‘I CREATED THE VILLAGE AROUND MYSELF’
- ANDY COHEN SAYS BEG THE ONLY SGLE AND GAY PARENT AT HIS SON'S SCHOOL N FEEL 'SURPRISGLY LONELY'
- THE SOCIAL EXPERIENC OF SGLE GAY FATHERS ISRAEL: AN INTERSECTNAL PERSPECTIVE
- THREE SGLE, GAY DADS REFLECT ON FATHERHOOD, SURROGACY JOURNEYS
KARAMO BROWN OPENS UP ABOUT BEG A SGLE GAY FATHER: 'NO ONE GAVE ME A MANUAL'
Through an tersectnal lens, this study explor the experience of beg a sgle gay father by choice Israeli society, which ntu to view the tradnal heterosexual two-parent fay as the ial. Analysis of 15 -pth, semi-stctured terviews wh sgle gay Israeli fathers suggts that their experienc are characterized by nstant tensn between their self-perceived social acceptance and sense of belongg on the one hand and their enunters wh discrimatn and bias on the other. The fdgs shed light on the ways which the fathers’ plex experienc are shaped by the tersectn between their inty as parents and their two margalized inti: sgle male parents and gay fathers. The inti were found to be highly ntextual and affected by macro-level factors. As the fathers pe wh their environment, they velop a sense of belongg alongsi a ep sense of otherns, suggtg that the sense of belongg and the sense of otherns are not bary oppos, but rather two social tegori that are ntually nstcted through the tersectn between different inti and their teractn wh macro-level factors, makg sgle gay parenthood a multidimensnal experience. * being a single gay dad *
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(urty photo)When Puerto Rin TikTok star José Rolón me out at 18 years old, there were few public exampl of gay fathers. “But after everythg is said and done, adoptn for gay men is still really difficult. ”Fzpatrick, whose father, a gay Black man, was killed senselsly by gun vlence the parkg lot of a gay bar when Fzpatrick was 18, says that fatherhood gave him unique opportuni to turn his paful past to purpose through the love of his dghter.
SGLE GAY DADS GIVE TIPS FOR FIRST-TIME PARENTS: ‘I CREATED THE VILLAGE AROUND MYSELF’
One night, Hilton, a sgle gay dad who's weled three children via surrogate, opened up to Evans about the joys of fatherhood and his own journey.
”“I was gog through that empts of growg olr as a gay man and not havg a signifint other and not havg the life I once lived, and not unrstandg where I was gog, ” he ntu. ”Hunter, a succsful divorce attorney wh his own private practice Los Angel, says he was badly bullied as a teenager for beg gay. But a new terview wh the New Yorker, the Watch What Happens Live host adms that beg both the only gay dad and sgle parent at his son's school n feel isolatg.
ANDY COHEN SAYS BEG THE ONLY SGLE AND GAY PARENT AT HIS SON'S SCHOOL N FEEL 'SURPRISGLY LONELY'
"So far, the two schools that Ben has been , I’ve been the only sgle parent and I’m the only gay parent, " Cohen, 54, tells the magaze. "Ben se that Wyatt [Cooper's olr son] has two gay dads, and there are two gay dads down the hall om , " Cohen not. Through an tersectnal lens, this study explor the experience of beg a sgle gay father by choice Israeli society, which ntu to view the tradnal heterosexual two-parent fay as the ial.
Analysis of 15 -pth, semi-stctured terviews wh sgle gay Israeli fathers suggts that their experienc are characterized by nstant tensn between their self-perceived social acceptance and sense of belongg on the one hand and their enunters wh discrimatn and bias on the other. The fdgs shed light on the ways which the fathers’ plex experienc are shaped by the tersectn between their inty as parents and their two margalized inti: sgle male parents and gay fathers.
As the fathers pe wh their environment, they velop a sense of belongg alongsi a ep sense of otherns, suggtg that the sense of belongg and the sense of otherns are not bary oppos, but rather two social tegori that are ntually nstcted through the tersectn between different inti and their teractn wh macro-level factors, makg sgle gay parenthood a multidimensnal experience. IntroductnThis study exam the experience of beg a sgle gay father by choice Israeli society. The social experienc of sgle gay fathers by choice, fed as gay men who actively choose to parent alone through adoptn or surrogacy and egg donatn [1, 2], have received very ltle rearch attentn.
THE SOCIAL EXPERIENC OF SGLE GAY FATHERS ISRAEL: AN INTERSECTNAL PERSPECTIVE
To date, no prev studi have addrsed the bed effects of the fathers’ margalized social stat as both gay and sgle fathers. Usg tersectnaly as a nceptual amework, we explore the terplay between sgle parenthood and gay parenthood shapg the social experienc of Israeli sgle gay fathers by choice.
Unrstandg the social realy of the fathers n expand our knowledge of the unique challeng they face and highlight the diversy wh the group of gay fathers. Sgle Gay Fatherhood by ChoiceSgle parents by choice, whether mothers or fathers, fy the culturally domant view unrlyg the tradnal fay mol, whereby parenthood and uplehood are ntgent upon one another [3, 4]. The domance of the heteronormative mol impacts the social posng of sgle gay fathers, placg them simultaneoly wh and outsi the social orr [11, 12, 13, 14].
The teractn between their two margalized social inti as gay fathers and as sgle male parents may enhance their vulnerabily to bias and discrimatn [14, 15]. However, to the bt of our knowledge, only a few studi have alt specifilly wh sgle gay fathers.
THREE SGLE, GAY DADS REFLECT ON FATHERHOOD, SURROGACY JOURNEYS
Some of the studi foced on children raised gay sgle-father fai through surrogacy, suggtg that this fay stcture has no trimental effects on children’s adjtment out [16, 17].
A recent study, addrsg both gay and heterosexual sgle-father fai through surrogacy, also reveals that observed nflictual parentg mediat the associatn between parentg qualy sgle fathers’ fai of orig and the attachment secury of their children [18] studi have foced on the motivatns and experienc of sgle gay fathers. One such study, nducted by Carone and his lleagu [19], examed the motivatns of sgle gay Italian men to bee sgle parents via surrogacy. Another study [14] explored the parentg experienc of sgle gay Israeli fathers as part of a broar rearch project that vtigated the parentg experienc of gay men both sgle and same-sex parent fai who beme fathers through surrogacy.