Gay Dads: Transns to Adoptive Fatherhood | Psychology Today

Contents:

• I WAS TEAM DESANTIS BEFORE HIS DISGTG ANTI-GAY AD
• IS YOUR DAD GAY—OR ARE YOU A GAY DAD?
• TOUCHG VIO SHOWS SON E OUT AS GAY TO MORMON DAD
• MOVG PORTRAS OF GAY FATHERS WH THEIR FAI ACROSS AMERI
• GAY MEN AND THEIR FATHERS: HURT AND HEALG
• SURROGACY HORROR: GAY ‘DADS’ MAND ABORTN
• ‘A FAY LIKE OURS’: PORTRAS OF GAY FATHERHOOD
• ‘I’VE ALWAYS WANTED TO BE A DAD’: PHOTO BOOK CELEBRAT GAY FATHERHOOD
• IS YOUR DAD GAY—OR ARE YOU A GAY DAD?
• GAY DADS: TRANSNS TO ADOPTIVE FATHERHOOD
• THREE SGLE, GAY DADS REFLECT ON FATHERHOOD, SURROGACY JOURNEYS

I WAS TEAM DESANTIS BEFORE HIS DISGTG ANTI-GAY AD

He had been anonymo until Wednday's his openg statement, Ziegler emphasized that he is a gay man and a registered Democrat who has been acced of betrayg his party. Adam* said was dangero to e out as gay his home untry and feared beg forced to an arranged marriage wh a woman.He said he was "so lucky" to wed his soulmate, Ray, Manchter and wish everyone uld marry who they love. There are more than 60 untri wh laws that crimalise same-sex sexual acts acrdg to the Internatnal Lbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans and Intersex Associatn, cludg Sdi Arabia.'Authentilly myself'Ray said he had also stggled growg up gay the 1970s and 80s England, which was "tough".He said his relig school "dmmed to you, 'you are gog to hell'".When Adam returned home to Sdi Arabia, spe beg more than 3,000 apart and later rtricted by the Covid-19 panmic, they kept touch daily and the romance blossomed.Three years ago, Ray proposed on a vio ll and after succsfully applyg for a UK fiancé visa, Adam moved to Manchter December 2022.

Adam said he had been aaid to even wear lours his home untry so the first thg he did when he moved was start to "grow my mullet, got my ears pierced and booked appotments for tattoos".He relled how, ntrast, one of his gay iends Sdi had been forced to marry a woman, addg: "It has ed not only his life but the life of his wife."Danny Beard on Same Sex Love and MarriageDanny explor same-sex weddgs, fdg out why upl chose to get married, the challeng unrpng this cisn and what mak the wedd relatnships work.The uple said they now wanted to help people who were not as ee and strive for "equaly for everyone"."Now I'm here a safe place I want to fight for others to be able to marry who they want," Adam said."I'm so lucky but I want everyone else Sdi to marry the one they love whout facg discrimatn and persecutn." Image source, Fay photographImage ptn, Peter McGrah and David Cabreza say they are "very proud" to have been the first same-sex uple married EnglandMore than 40,000 same-sex marriag took place between 2014 and 2020, acrdg to the Office for Natnal StatisticsPeter McGrah and David Cabreza, origally om Stland and the US, ma history when they beme the first same-sex uple to marry England on 29 March 2014.The trailblazers married jt after midnight at Islgton Town Hall. The uple, who live London, said a "really betiful memory" was on the way home when one of their sons shouted out of the black b wdow to Trafalgar Square, "My dads jt got married" and cheered "Yay, gay marriage"."It was so sweet seeg him so happy," Mr Cabreza said.

IS YOUR DAD GAY—OR ARE YOU A GAY DAD?

There’s one problem for DeSantis, though: I am a gay woman.

TOUCHG VIO SHOWS SON E OUT AS GAY TO MORMON DAD

Ltle did I know DeSantis was farther to the right on issu that meant the most to me and the more than 70 percent of Amerins who support gay has ma clear the past few weeks that he’s more terted appeasg Twter trolls who abhor any Amerin who intifi as LGBTQ+. To DeSantis, if you are gay, you are not allowed to be a part of the nservative movement. If Tmp was someone who don’t support the movement, DeSantis is an all-out gayns has nothg to do wh the fact that Florida is a boomg state an otherwise lacklter enomy.

That beg said, DeSantis has ma abundantly clear that he do not support gay Amerins regardls of whether they support his nservative I first enuntered DeSantis durg his bold stance agast COVID mandat earlier this year, I was generally pleased wh the Florida ernor.

MOVG PORTRAS OF GAY FATHERS WH THEIR FAI ACROSS AMERI

It beme evint that DeSantis was not the champn of dividual eedoms and rights that I had hoped anti-gay rhetoric and actns are not only eply hurtful to LGBTQ+ Amerins like myself but also tarnish the image of the nservative movement.

DeSantis’ stance on LGBTQ+ issu not only ntradicts nservative valu but also reflects a severe disnnect om the majory of Amerins who support gay rights. Acrdg to polls, over 70 percent of Amerins support gay marriage, and this number ntu to rise.

By disregardg such a signifint portn of the populatn, DeSantis reveals a ncerng lack of unrstandg of the evolvg societal norms and a gay woman, my sexual orientatn is jt one aspect of my inty, and should not fe my polil beliefs or my place wh the nservative movement. DeSantis mt regnize that his anti-gay rhetoric is not only harmful to LGBTQ+ Amerins but also trimental to the very prcipl he claims to uphold.

GAY MEN AND THEIR FATHERS: HURT AND HEALG

If he tly aims to lead the nservative movement and brg about posive change for all Amerins, he mt abandon divisive tactics and foc on polici that promote uny and far, he is only losg everyday Amerins, cludg many nservativ like myself, through his disgtg anti-gay rhetoric. Are you a dghter whose dad is gay?

SURROGACY HORROR: GAY ‘DADS’ MAND ABORTN

Or are you a gay dad? gay: 1. Most children whose dads are gay were born while their blogil mom and blogil dad were married and livg together.

If you have a gay dad or a lbian mom, after they separate, which of them is most likely to remarry or to remarry and then divorce? Lbian moms are more likely than gay dads to marry their same-sex partner.

‘A FAY LIKE OURS’: PORTRAS OF GAY FATHERHOOD

But gay dads are ls likely to get divorced om their hbands than lbian moms are to get divorced om their wiv. Gay men may experience more discrimatn than lbians, pecially if they are parents. Our society is still ls acceptg of gay men beg fathers than of lbians beg mothers.

But perhaps the most important rearch fdg is that gay dads and their dghters have closer relatnships when dads tell the tth—and the dads are ls clilly prsed than dads who hi this important rmatn om their children (Tornello, 2018).

Sadly, gay fathers are more aaid than lbian mothers to tell their children the tth, regardls of their age. So if you as a dghter or as a gay dad are still tiptoeg around the topic, ’s time to give yourselv a gift by gettg this skeleton out of the closet. (2018) Adult children of gay fathers.

‘I’VE ALWAYS WANTED TO BE A DAD’: PHOTO BOOK CELEBRAT GAY FATHERHOOD

Journal of Homosexualy, 65, 1152-1166. LUCIE - Comg out as gay is hard, but g out as gay to your Mormon dad is really Swk was preparg to go on his first missn trip wh the Church of J Christ of Latter-day Sats when he cid to reveal the news that he was gay to his dad, Vghn Swk. He cid to vio rerd his g out to his dad, and posted the reactn the vio above to see how Swk’s dad reacted to him g out as gay.

Such a photograph would have been extraordarily rare jt s ago, but now is one of many published the book “Dads, ” a four-year visual archive of gay fatherhood across Ameri that began 2016. “I felt a ltle b lonely as a gay dad – although there are two of – but lonely the sense that all the other fai I knew were straight parents, ” Heynen said a vio ll, explag why he began photographg the seri.

“I also thought was important for (my kids) to see other fai wh gay dads. “For many people, the book will be an troductn to gay fatherhood.

IS YOUR DAD GAY—OR ARE YOU A GAY DAD?

For Heynen, they reprent addnal love and re and help illtrate some of the cisn-makg that, though not exclive to them, all gay fathers mt ntend wh.

“Most of the women are Mormon, and Mormons don’t believe gay marriage and gays havg kids.

Heynen, as well as the fathers he photographed, hope that the photographs “Dads” will dispel some of the hurtful stereotyp that still lger around gay fatherhood. Abplanalp never knew when he was younger that fatherhood would be possible for him as gay man. Listen: “Daddy Squared: The Gay Dads Podst” (2019-ongog).

GAY DADS: TRANSNS TO ADOPTIVE FATHERHOOD

Hosted by Wt Hollywood uple Yan and Alex, the dads e each episo to chat parentg and relatnships, and lately have been focg each episo on the gay rights and fatherhood pathways by untry, and vg a gay father om each lotn on as a gut. Patrick, who played a terracial gay uple who eventually marry and adopt two children. This YA g-of-age novel follows high schooler Sal, who was adopted to a lovg Mexin Amerin fay by his gay father, when he begs to qutn his inty and place the world durg his senr year.

This one-hour documentary followed the fay liv of four gay fai and the legal and cultural hurdl the men faced to bee fathers.

THREE SGLE, GAY DADS REFLECT ON FATHERHOOD, SURROGACY JOURNEYS

The director and producer is Johnny Symons, himself a gay father of an adopted son wh his partner the Bay Area.

Savage beme an ternatnally regnized sex lumnist and activist the 1990s and ’00s for his ank cultural sight to gay relatnships and inty. Fathers many fai are myster, distant, timidatg figur—even more so for boys wh homosexual attractns.

They are the fay torchbearers of manls, and, as mal young and old know, homosexualy is nsired the dread oppose of masculy. Acrdg to Michael Kimmel, a soclogist and expert on male sex rol, men monstrate their masculy by repudiatg all that is feme and monstratg an ever-ready willgns to engage sexual terurse wh women whenever the opportuny aris- a nutshell, to prove they are not gay. To be gay is to be powerls, weak, unable to break ee om Mommy, and the characteristics are patible wh real manls.