Gays vs. Straights: Any Differenc Sexual Satisfactn? | Psychology Today

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• ABOUT THE CENTERSCE 1983 THE CENTER HAS BEEN SUPPORTG, FOSTERG AND CELEBRATG THE LGBT MUNY OF NEW YORK CY. FD MORE RMATN ON AND OUR WORK ABOUT THE CENTER. VIS ABOUT THE CENTEROUR MISSNCYBER CENTERCENTER HISTORYRACE EQUYMEDIA CENTERLEARSHIP & STAFFEMPLOYMENT OPPORTUNICORPORATE PARTNERSHIPSANNUAL REPORTS & FANCIAL INFORMATNCONTACT USHOURS & LOTNSEMAPSUPPORT THE CENTER
• IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
• GAYS VS. STRAIGHTS: ANY DIFFERENC SEXUAL SATISFACTN?
• LBIAN, GAY, BISEXUAL, TRANSGENR – WHAT’S THE DIFFERENCE?
• GAY BRAS STCTURED LIKE THOSE OF THE OPPOSE SEX
• BRAS OF GAY PEOPLE REMBLE THOSE OF STRAIGHT PEOPLE OF OPPOSE SEX
• DIFFERENC AND SIARI BETWEEN GAY AND STRAIGHT DIVIDUALS VOLVED THE SADOMASOCHISTIC SUBCULTURE
• LBIAN, GAY, BISEXUAL, TRANSGENR, QUEER, & INTERSEX LIFE

ABOUT THE CENTERSCE 1983 THE CENTER HAS BEEN SUPPORTG, FOSTERG AND CELEBRATG THE LGBT MUNY OF NEW YORK CY. FD MORE RMATN ON AND OUR WORK ABOUT THE CENTER. VIS ABOUT THE CENTEROUR MISSNCYBER CENTERCENTER HISTORYRACE EQUYMEDIA CENTERLEARSHIP & STAFFEMPLOYMENT OPPORTUNICORPORATE PARTNERSHIPSANNUAL REPORTS & FANCIAL INFORMATNCONTACT USHOURS & LOTNSEMAPSUPPORT THE CENTER

Sexual orientatn refers to the endurg physil, romantic and/or emotnal attractn to members of the same and/or other genrs, cludg lbian, gay, bisexual and straight orientatns. HomosexualAn outdated term rooted the fields of medice and psychology that refers to people who experience sexual, romantic, or emotnal attractn to people of the same or a siar genr.

IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?

However, ’s important to note that not all lbians are female-intified; some fe their inty as more nonmale or femme than female or people who are lbians may also refer to themselv as gay or queer, while others prefer the term lbian.

Monosexualy typilly clus those who are exclively heterosexual, gay, or asexualReferrg to an inty on the asexualy spectm, a non-libidoist asexual is someone who don’t experience any sexual feelgs or has an active sex drive. Use of the word opens up optns beyond lbian, gay, and bisexual to people who don’t f neatly to the tegori or prefer a tegory that isn’t pennt on sex and genr. In his Royal Oaks, Michigan, practice, Joe specializ Gay Affirmative Psychotherapy and IMAGO Relatnship Therapy, often treatg men who are qutng their sexual orientatn.

And I thk ’s very important to state right here that I’m a gay man, yet here I am sayg that most of the time the men who are beg sexual wh other men aren’t gay. Wh gay clients, they say they feel the same way; wh bisexual clients, they say they’re lookg at both the men and the women; wh straight clients, they say they’re lookg only at the women. When a man is a long-term relatnship wh a woman but beg sexual wh men, eher lookg at porn or havg actual sex, he eher will or won’t be homophobic.

GAYS VS. STRAIGHTS: ANY DIFFERENC SEXUAL SATISFACTN?

A lot of tim the gay men never even make to me (whout promptg om their wife, anyway) bee they’re riddled wh homophobia and I’m too gay for them. A gay guy wants to do all of that wh a man, a bisexual guy might want a man or a woman, and the straight guy wants to only be wh a woman that way.

So this is a way of bondg wh men—ironilly, through sex—and happens not bee the man is gay but bee he don’t know any other way to get this need met. Eher they’re worried that their man will eventually ci he’s gay and end the relatnship, or they want monogamy, and his cheatg is a threat to the marriage regardls of who he’s dog wh.

LBIAN, GAY, BISEXUAL, TRANSGENR – WHAT’S THE DIFFERENCE?

And I should pot out here that the men when they’re engagg this behavr (regardls of whether they’re gay, straight or bi) nearly always tell themselv that what they’re dog is not cheatg bee they’re dog wh a guy. Approval of same-sex relatnships has been steadily risg sce 2009 (Pew Rearch Center, 2017), and the 2015 Supreme Court cisn endorsg same-sex marriage was a w for many lbian, gay, and bisexual (LGB) dividuals. This is nsistent wh prev fdgs: Gay and bisexual men are exposed to mory strsors that n -stabilize relatnships (Meyer, 2003; L, 2012).

It's amazg how ltle rearch has foced on this — jt two studi (1983 and 1991, and they provi only a cursory look at parative gay/straight sexual satisfactn). Dire cl long-term upl, but on average, men reta more sire than women, so we would expect men gay upl to feel the most sire, and women lbian upl the least, wh the men mixed-sex upl exprsg more libido than the women. But the survey, sexual sire was pretty much the same for all upl, wh gay men and lbians exprsg slightly more sire than heterosexuals.

Siary breeds fort, so pared wh those heterosexual upl, we would expect people lbian and gay upl to feel more satisfied wh their sexual munitn.

GAY BRAS STCTURED LIKE THOSE OF THE OPPOSE SEX

The only difference was that women, both lbian and straight, felt somewhat more satisfied wh non-genal rs than men, both gay and straight, prumably bee pared wh women, men tend to be more genal-foced. But bottom le: Contrary to nventnal wisdom, terms of sexual sire, munitn, and satisfactn, people homo- and heterosexual upl are much more siar than different.

Whout beg aware of , most people n accurately intify gay men by face aloneAlthough I've always wanted this particular superhuman power, I've never been very good at tectg other men's sexual orientatn. In an ial experiment, rearchers Nicholas Rule and Nali Ambady om Tufts Universy pesed onle datg s and refully selected 45 straight male fac and 45 gay male fac. The 90 fac were then shown to 90 participants random orr, who were asked simply to judge the target's "probable sexual orientatn" (gay or straight) by prsg a button.

"Th, " the thors wrote, "by g photos of gay and straight dividuals that they themselv did not post, we were able to remove the fluence of self-prentatn and much of the potential selectn bias that may be prent photos om personal advertisements. And even wh the more strgent ntrols, the participants were able to intify the gay fac at levels greater than chance—aga even on those trials where the fac were flickered on the screen for a mere 50 lisends.

BRAS OF GAY PEOPLE REMBLE THOSE OF STRAIGHT PEOPLE OF OPPOSE SEX

For example, when shown only the eye regn ("whout brows and cropped to the outer nthi so that not even "crow's-feet" were visible"), perceivers were amazgly still able to accurately intify a man as beg gay. I was cur enough about Rule's fdgs to look up "gay face" the Urban Dictnary, a popular Web se that offers rmal, er-ntributed fns of everyday (often crass) saygs.

"A man, ually homosexual, wh a distctly effete facial stcture wh some very specific featur; a strong jawle [sic] that lacks promence, space between the ey that rell people wh down syndrome [sic], and a slopg, long forehead. Now, that one's rather silly and sensatnalized—even polilly spect—and there's certaly no scientific evince support of the claims about the "mongoloid" featur of homosexual men's fac.

DIFFERENC AND SIARI BETWEEN GAY AND STRAIGHT DIVIDUALS VOLVED THE SADOMASOCHISTIC SUBCULTURE

For example, gay face clus tightns around the mouth om pursg the lips, a facial exprsn mon to gay men and women—but not to heterosexual men.

For example, the send experiment, participants uld still ferret out the gay face when shown the eye regn sans eyebrows and cropped to the outer nthi.

(For example, one of my PhD stunts, David Harnn-Warwick, has a sual hunch that gay men may have sharper, clearer iris than straight men.

LBIAN, GAY, BISEXUAL, TRANSGENR, QUEER, & INTERSEX LIFE

It was only a few years ago that rearchers disvered that, unlike straight men, gay men tend to have hair whorl patterns that n a unterclockwise directn.

Yet when the men were forced to choose between straight, bisexual or gay, about three-quarters marked straight bee for them bisexual, even if is unrstood as “bisexual-leang straight, ” is too gay to accurately scribe their inty. He’s not a closeted gay man who fears beg gay yet wants to keep a slight, perhaps secretive, gay si by danglg his potential for guy sex.