LGBT Foundatn - Viewpot - Embracg Male Femy the Gay Communy

Contents:

• THERE ARE SOME BEAUTIFUL FEME GAY MEN OUT THERE.
• WHY DO GAY MEN HAVE TO BE SO FEME?
• 6 STEPS TOWARDS WHOLE-HEARTEDLY LOVG YOURSELF AS A FEME GAY MAN
• THE ‘GAY GLASS CEILG’ IS REAL: HERE’S WHY FEME MEN GET OVERLOOKED FOR LEARSHIP ROL, REARCHERS SAY

THERE ARE SOME BEAUTIFUL FEME GAY MEN OUT THERE.

Problematic statements like “no fems, ” “no queens” or “masc4masc” equently ed on datg apps only foreground the need to challenge the prejudice faced by mp, feme gay men om members of their own muny. Consequently, mp/feme men are often tomatilly tegorised as gay (or at least placed on the ‘maybe’ pile), visible a way that other, more mascule, ‘straight-actg’ gay men are not.

This n attract homophobic attentn, which is possibly part of the reason why many gay men feel the need to ‘pass’ as straight; to avoid beg sgled out as a target for abe, judgement and discrimatn. However, the ncept of ‘passg’ as straight (or even as a certa genr if you’re trans) is highly troublg; impli that beg both feme and male, and/or homosexual is shameful and unsirable. It also impli that there’s an patibily between homosexualy and masculy, that masculy is an exclively heterosexual male tra – which is accurate, bee mascule gay men exist.

WHY DO GAY MEN HAVE TO BE SO FEME?

Historilly, homosexualy has been reprented – and even ridiculed – as a illy mp cliché, and so, unrstandably, many gay men wanted to distance themselv om such rtrictive, rctive stereotyp.

The problem is that homosexual male mpns and effemacy was portrayed such an unflatterg, pejorative way that accurate negative nnotatns (i. In an overwrought attempt to pe such negative nnotatns of femy appears that, many gay men (and ed men general) have ventured too far the oppose directn, supprsg the feme sis of their nature the procs. They may disver that trac back to their own ternalised homophobia (y that old parase), an upwellg of misguid self-hate redirected onto others.

6 STEPS TOWARDS WHOLE-HEARTEDLY LOVG YOURSELF AS A FEME GAY MAN

Once we realise that femy and mpns aren’t flaws or weakns, that homosexualy is not e for shame, that masculy isn’t exclive to straight men and femy isn’t exclive to straight women, that genr is more fluid than rigid bary norms lead to thk, we will stop discrimatg agast those we should be showg solidary towards stead. Queer men who harbor negative attus about effemacy suffer om ternalized homophobia more than those who don’t, acrdg to a report the journal Trends Psychology.

“The biggt surpris were related [to] the tensy of the associatn between ternalized homophobia and anti-effemacy, ” Mozer M. All were over 18, intified as eher gay or bisexual, and were separated to two groups: those who saw themselv as maly mascule and those who saw themselv as primarily feme. From there, they were spl to three subgroups: those who sired to be more feme, those who wanted to be ls feme, and those who were happy the way they the participants, 80% were gay, 17% were bisexual, and 2.

”The survey asssed negative attus towards effemacy, ternalized homophobia, and outns and found that negative attus toward effemacy n e shame, self-hatred, and hostily towards others, while ternalized homophobia n e mental health issu like anxiety, prsn, and low self teem. Internalized homophobia also wh “elements of sexism, prejudice agast women and femy, ” acrdg to sum, the men who sired to be more mascule had the most negative attus toward effemacy, srg over 10 pots higher than their effemate peers.

THE ‘GAY GLASS CEILG’ IS REAL: HERE’S WHY FEME MEN GET OVERLOOKED FOR LEARSHIP ROL, REARCHERS SAY

“Those who are not fortable wh how effemate they are and would like to be or appear more mascule (even if they publicly intify themselv as non-effemate) also tend to have higher rat of ternalized homophobia, ” Ramos told them. Another important takeaway om the study, Costa add, is that ternalized homophobia n be thought of as more than jt a rejectn of one’s sexual orientatn. ”Rearchers are fdg that racism, petn, and a fixatn on sex wh the gay and bi muny are drivg anxiety and thors note that the study ntaed some bld spots, sce looked only at Brazilian men, and attus around genr n vary between cultur and ethnici.

In Lat Ameri and particularly Brazil, “ is very mon that, om the pot of view of those who exprs prejudice, social norms related to genr overlap norms related to sexualy, ” said Costa claimed the LGBTQ+ muny has done a “great job” at rcg prejudice around sexualy, has yet to grapple wh genr “hierarchi” that overvalue mascule exprsn and value those that are seen as feme, he explaed, addg that the stereotyp are often “reified” through media everyone, not jt queer people, needs to play a role rcg ternalized homophobia, acrdg to Ramos.

“It is important to create a ls homophobic society, rememberg that is not possible to do this by reproducg hierarchi wh the mory group self.

Sexual orientatn refers to the endurg physil, romantic and/or emotnal attractn to members of the same and/or other genrs, cludg lbian, gay, bisexual and straight orientatns.

That means a person of any genr n be attracted to someone who intifi as female or who exprs feme sexual orientatn terms such as “homosexualy” or “heterosexualy, ” gynosexualy do not specify the person’s own genr relatn to their sexual orientatn.