Twenty-two years ago, I asked my dad if he was gay. Then he was gone.

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The gay world is often reprented as some sort of monolhic whole that has the same culture. That is a lie. It is actually broken down to a handful of substrata to which each gay belongs. Here they are.

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THE GAY FATHER I NEVER KNEW

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A HANDY GUI TO ALL GAY MEN

“You know, ” I said to Dad, “I asked Mom once if you were gay. “Gay? “I’m not gay.

” she’d said our kchen—after a long nversatn she’d had wh an openly gay iend om llege, Pat, who had, apparently, been a nfidant of Dad’s.

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Twenty-two years ago, I asked my dad if he was gay. Then he was gone. .

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