Gay, Fabulo, and Drkg Myself to Death

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Ken Howard, LCSW, a psychotherapist who specializ therapy wh gay men, wr about gay men and alhol, and overg problems wh drkg.

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BEER IS SO GAY

A new group of beer pani and breweri like Gay Beer and Queer Brewg are supportg LGBTQ+ muni while rvg out space the beer world for queerns * gay guys drinking *

Ask what mak a gay bar gay and the answers will vary.

What you’ll rarely hear, though, is that a gay bar is a gay bar bee of the drks. Gay Beer, Dyke Beer, and Queer Brewg are among the emergg group of beer producers that are centerg queer inty and queer muny, whether by highlightg queer brewers, donatg some profs to queer chari, or creatg queer third spac — munal spac distct om home and work — at a time when they’re disappearg.

Instead, buyers will state clearly that they want a Gay Beer. Gay Beer was created by Jon Moore and Jason Pazmo, bs partners and boyiends, 2017.

GAY MEN AND ALHOL: THE RELATNSHIP WH THE BOTTLE

* gay guys drinking *

The pair were spired while drkg at Juli’, a historic gay bar New York Cy that was the se of early “sip-” protts, where gay men would drk at bars that refed to serve homosexuals. Together, they were tryg to figure out why there wasn’t already a beer posned more for queer people, which led Moore and Pazmo to realize that gay beer was a project they uld take on themselv themselv.

But of urse, had to be gay.

WHY IS ICED COFFEE SO GAY?

GQ vtigat the reasons why a simple iced ffee—a drk for all seasons, when you thk about —is so gay. * gay guys drinking *

Consumptn of Gay Beer, they cid, would be herently tied to supportg the queer muny.

They began llg Gay Beer while velopg the product and jt stuck. Growg up, they’d both heard “gay” ed as an sult or to scribe somethg pejoratively, so llg their beer Gay Beer was also a reclamatn.

Moore and Pazmo note that “gay” also means “happy, ” a nnotatn hasn’t really held s, but still gets ed as a cheeky way to eli the haters. (Big Gay Ice Cream has ed the same tactic. “A lot of bars are not wantg to say they’re lbian bars, they’re wantg to say they’re queer bars — but a lot of gay male bars keep sayg they’re gay male bars, ” she says.

GAY, FABULO, AND DRKG MYSELF TO DEATH

From a sign standpot, Gay Beer, Dyke Beer, and Queer Brewg all wanted to reference the cultur they grew om. For Moore and Pazmo, that meant an “Amerina whout the Amerin flag” sign, somethg that reflected the athetics of Juli’ Bar, and the gay men of the ’60s who participated the “sip ” protts. Gay Beer, Dyke Beer, and Queer Brewg are n by queer people and support queer people year-round.

Buyg Gay Beer at the grocery store signals to everyone who se you that you’re the kd of person who buys Gay Beer.

WHAT MAK THIS BEER GAY?

Gay Beer may be explicly queer, but “gay” still feel more fortable on the tongue to a non-queer person than “dyke” or “queer.

Meanwhile, Gay Beer will soon be available 32 stat through e-merce.

A brand like Gay Beer gets to be the Trojan horse of the queer beer agenda.

ICED COFFEE AS GAY CULTURE: AN EXPLORATNTHE INTERNATNAL COFFEE DAY NTENT YOU DIDN'T KNOW YOU {FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}LIFEBY SAM MANZELLAOCTOBER 1, 2018/1:26 {HEIGHT:HER;DISPLAY:-WEBK-BOX;DISPLAY:-WEBK-FLEX;DISPLAY:-MS-FLEXBOX;DISPLAY:FLEX;POSN:RELATIVE;-WEBK-FLEX-WRAP:WRAP;-MS-FLEX-WRAP:WRAP;FLEX-WRAP:WRAP;-WEBK-ALIGN-EMS:CENTER;-WEBK-BOX-ALIGN:CENTER;-MS-FLEX-ALIGN:CENTER;ALIGN-EMS:CENTER;-WEBK-BOX-PACK:CENTER;-WEBK-JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;-MS-FLEX-PACK:CENTER;JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;-WEBK-TRANSFORM-ORIG:CENTER;-MS-TRANSFORM-ORIG:CENTER;TRANSFORM-ORIG:CENTER;} IMG{HEIGHT:100%;WIDTH:100%;OBJECT-F:VER;}{HEIGHT:2977PX;WIDTH:4465PX;}BROOKE CAGLE/UNSPLASHBY SAM MANZELLAOCTOBER 1, 2018 / 1:26 PM{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"NEWSARTICLE","HEADLE":"ICED COFFEE AS GAY CULTURE: AN EXPLORATN","THUMBNAILURL":","DATEPUBLISHED":"2018-10-01T17:26:56.000+0000","DATEMODIFIED":"2018-10-01T17:26:56.000+0000","IMAGE":{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT","URL":","WIDTH":1920,"HEIGHT":1080},"URL":","THOR":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","NAME":"LOGO TV"},"MAENTYOFPAGE":{"@TYPE":"WEBPAGE","@ID":"},"PUBLISHER":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","@ID":","NAME":"LOGO TV","URL":","LOGO":{"@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT"}},"CREATOR":"SAM MANZELLA","KEYWORDS":"OPN","ARTICLESECTN":"LIFE"}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THIS PAST WEEKEND, I TOOK A MUCH-NEED VAY TO VIS MY VERY BT AND QUEERT IEND BOSTON. WHEN SHE GOT WORD THAT I HADN'T SEEN GAY TEEN BLOCKBTER LOVE, SIMON, WE IMMEDIATELY ALTERED OUR ERARY TO CLU A SCREENG HER ZY APARTMENT. THE FILM WAS EVERYTHG I WANTED: THAT WHOLOME, CHEY GOODNS ONLY A STORYLE OM A YA NOVEL ULD PROVI, PL QUEER CLN. I WAS SMTEN {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}BEG THE FFEE FIEND THAT I AM, THOUGH, ONE PART OF SIMON'S TERNAL MONOLOGUE AT THE BEGNG OF THE FILM STUCK WH ME: "WE DO EVERYTHG IENDS DO: WE DRK WAY TOO MUCH ICED FFEE, WE WATCH BAD ‘90S MOVI, AND HANGOUT AT WAFFLE HOE DREAMG OF LLEGE AND GG ON RBS."{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}NOTE THE ICED FFEE SHOUT-OUT. IT WAS A SMALL SCENE THE MOVIE, BUT THE NAME-DROP OF MY PERENNIAL DRK OF CHOICE WAS ENOUGH TO HAVE ME SNORTG MY SEAT. "RIGHT?" MY BT IEND SAID, KNOWG STANTLY WHAT I WAS {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I NODD AND RAISED MY EVER-APPROPRIATE LD BREW TOWARD THE SCREEN SOLIDARY. "ICED FFEE IS GAY CULTURE."{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}BY NOW, THE QUEER MUNY'S AFFY FOR ICED FFEE IS SOMETHG OF A JOKE. DURG PRI MONTH 2018, MY TWTER TIMELE WAS FILLED WH TONGUE--CHEEK REFERENC TO GAYS AND OUR PENCHANT FOR CHILLED FFEE BEVERAG:{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;DISPLAY:-WEBK-BOX;DISPLAY:-WEBK-FLEX;DISPLAY:-MS-FLEXBOX;DISPLAY:FLEX;-WEBK-BOX-PACK:CENTER;-WEBK-JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;-MS-FLEX-PACK:CENTER;JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;} .TWTER-TWEET-RENRED, {M-WIDTH:65%;WIDTH:TO !IMPORTANT;} {WIDTH:100%;} {MARG-LEFT:TO !IMPORTANT;MARG-RIGHT:TO !IMPORTANT;} IMG{MAX-WIDTH:100%;WIDTH:100%;} > IAME{BORR:NONE;MAX-WIDTH:100%;} > *{MAX-WIDTH:NONE !IMPORTANT;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;DISPLAY:-WEBK-BOX;DISPLAY:-WEBK-FLEX;DISPLAY:-MS-FLEXBOX;DISPLAY:FLEX;-WEBK-BOX-PACK:CENTER;-WEBK-JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;-MS-FLEX-PACK:CENTER;JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;} .TWTER-TWEET-RENRED, {M-WIDTH:65%;WIDTH:TO !IMPORTANT;} {WIDTH:100%;} {MARG-LEFT:TO !IMPORTANT;MARG-RIGHT:TO !IMPORTANT;} IMG{MAX-WIDTH:100%;WIDTH:100%;} > IAME{BORR:NONE;MAX-WIDTH:100%;} > *{MAX-WIDTH:NONE !IMPORTANT;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE JOK NTUED TO PERLATE WELL BEYOND JUNE:{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;DISPLAY:-WEBK-BOX;DISPLAY:-WEBK-FLEX;DISPLAY:-MS-FLEXBOX;DISPLAY:FLEX;-WEBK-BOX-PACK:CENTER;-WEBK-JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;-MS-FLEX-PACK:CENTER;JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;} .TWTER-TWEET-RENRED, {M-WIDTH:65%;WIDTH:TO !IMPORTANT;} {WIDTH:100%;} {MARG-LEFT:TO !IMPORTANT;MARG-RIGHT:TO !IMPORTANT;} IMG{MAX-WIDTH:100%;WIDTH:100%;} > IAME{BORR:NONE;MAX-WIDTH:100%;} > *{MAX-WIDTH:NONE !IMPORTANT;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;DISPLAY:-WEBK-BOX;DISPLAY:-WEBK-FLEX;DISPLAY:-MS-FLEXBOX;DISPLAY:FLEX;-WEBK-BOX-PACK:CENTER;-WEBK-JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;-MS-FLEX-PACK:CENTER;JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;} .TWTER-TWEET-RENRED, {M-WIDTH:65%;WIDTH:TO !IMPORTANT;} {WIDTH:100%;} {MARG-LEFT:TO !IMPORTANT;MARG-RIGHT:TO !IMPORTANT;} IMG{MAX-WIDTH:100%;WIDTH:100%;} > IAME{BORR:NONE;MAX-WIDTH:100%;} > *{MAX-WIDTH:NONE !IMPORTANT;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}LGHS AND GIFS ASI, THOUGH, IS THERE ANY TTH TO THE QUEER MUNY'S CLAIM ON ICED FFEE? I N ONLY SPEAK FOR MYSELF AND MY IENDS, BUT I KD OF BELIEVE THERE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ICED FFEE OFFERS THE BT PARTS OF A FFEE SH WH THE EASE OF TRANSPORTABILY (CUTE TUMBLERS!) AND NSUMPTN (NO WAG FOR TO OL DOWN!) OF ANY OTHER CHILLED BEVERAGE. IT'S MORE HIP THAN YOUR BOSS' MORNG LATTE (WH SOY K, PLEASE, AND HOLD THE FOAM) AND WAY CLASSIER THAN YOUR 'S DAILY MONSTER ENERGY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE BETY OF ICED FFEE LI S PLETE AND UTTER CTOMIZABILY. NOT UNLIKE LABELS UNR THE LGBTQ UMBRELLA, THERE'S AN ICED FFEE VARIETY FOR PEOPLE ON EACH AND EVERY WAVELENGTH. FANCY YOURSELF A CY-OL HIPSTER TYPE? GRAB YOURSELF AN ICED AMERINO (PRSO SHOTS AND WATER OVER ICE. TST ME—'S MY MORNG FFEE OF CHOICE, AND 'S WAY BETTER THAN SOUNDS.){BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}STAYED UP WAY TOO LATE WATCHG RUPL'S DRAG RACE WH YOUR IENDS AT YOUR FAVE GAY BAR? I GOT YOU, BOO: COLD BREW, A PARTICULARLY POTENT ICED FFEE VARIETY BREWED LD WH A 12–24-HOUR BREW PERD, WILL BE YOUR SAVG GRACE AS YOU STUMBLE TO {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MORE OF A BASIC BCH? GIRL, LEAN TO WH SOME SEASONAL ICED FFEE FLAVORS. I'M TALKG PUMPK, PISTACH, PEPPERMT YOUR POISON, {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;DISPLAY:-WEBK-BOX;DISPLAY:-WEBK-FLEX;DISPLAY:-MS-FLEXBOX;DISPLAY:FLEX;-WEBK-BOX-PACK:CENTER;-WEBK-JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;-MS-FLEX-PACK:CENTER;JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;} .TWTER-TWEET-RENRED, {M-WIDTH:65%;WIDTH:TO !IMPORTANT;} {WIDTH:100%;} {MARG-LEFT:TO !IMPORTANT;MARG-RIGHT:TO !IMPORTANT;} IMG{MAX-WIDTH:100%;WIDTH:100%;} > IAME{BORR:NONE;MAX-WIDTH:100%;} > *{MAX-WIDTH:NONE !IMPORTANT;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ICED FFEE IS TO THE QUEER MUNY WHAT POT GRIG IS TO SUBURBAN WE MOMS: A SUBSTANCE, Y, AND AN GTIBLE CTCH DIFFICULT AND/OR AWKWARD TIM, PERHAPS, BUT ALSO A TOOL TO BUILD {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IT'S THE SORT OF THG THAT GETS YOU OUT OF YOUR DKY APARTMENT BROOKLYN AND TO A HIP FFEEHOE WH YOUR BT AND GAYT PALS. IT'S A VICE OF THE LSER GREE, THE SORT OF CHEMIL-SLASH-SOCIAL ADDICTN YOU N LGH ABOUT WH YOUR WORKERS. IT'S A DAILY RUAL YOU N ACTUALLY AFFORD (THAT IS, UNTIL YOUR CRED RD STATEMENT ARRIV, AND YOU REALIZE YOU SPENT $200-PL ON ICED FFEE LAST MONTH. A TRAGIC TALE THAT I N'T RELATE TO AT ALL...){BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}AS WE CELEBRATE INTERNATNAL COFFEE DAY THIS OCTOBER 1, MAY WE ALL KNOW AND LOVE THE GLORY THAT IS ICED FFEE. FROM OUR LIPS TO LBIAN J' EARS, {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;CLEAR:BOTH;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;MARG:0 TO;WIDTH:90%;M-WIDTH:288PX;MAX-WIDTH:1440PX;M-HEIGHT:194PX;}LATT NEWS

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