Sgle gay dads give tips for first-time parents: ‘I created the village around myself’

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• SGLE GAY DADS GIVE TIPS FOR FIRST-TIME PARENTS: ‘I CREATED THE VILLAGE AROUND MYSELF’
• THREE SGLE, GAY DADS REFLECT ON FATHERHOOD, SURROGACY JOURNEYS
• GAY FATHERS, GOG IT ALONE
• ANDY COHEN SAYS BEG THE ONLY SGLE AND GAY PARENT AT HIS SON'S SCHOOL N FEEL 'SURPRISGLY LONELY'

SGLE GAY DADS GIVE TIPS FOR FIRST-TIME PARENTS: ‘I CREATED THE VILLAGE AROUND MYSELF’

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“A lot of gay men, as they get olr, bee lonely. One night, Hilton, a sgle gay dad who's weled three children via surrogate, opened up to Evans about the joys of fatherhood and his own journey.

THREE SGLE, GAY DADS REFLECT ON FATHERHOOD, SURROGACY JOURNEYS

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GAY FATHERS, GOG IT ALONE

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ANDY COHEN SAYS BEG THE ONLY SGLE AND GAY PARENT AT HIS SON'S SCHOOL N FEEL 'SURPRISGLY LONELY'

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Surrogacy agenci across the untry report a surge of tert om sgle gay men the last few Marsh, a spokwoman for Men Havg Babi, a nonprof that helps gay men navigate the surrogacy procs, said that the crease tert om sgle men is part of a broar surge gay fai. ”Most sgle gay men pursue what is known as gtatnal surrogacy: the surrogate is implanted wh a fertilized embryo taken om a separate egg donor. “Growg up gay a homophobic town, and tough fancial tim, was hard to see how I’d have my own kids, ” he parents stng together several low-wage jobs, and he’s the first his fay to earn a bachelor’s gree.