Books shelved as gay-and-lonely: The Rul of Ever After by Killian B. Brewer, Know Not Why by Hannah Johnson, How to Repair a Mechanil Heart by J.C. L...
Contents:
- GAY AND LONELY BOOKS
- 'BROKEN PEOPLE' AUTHOR SAM LANSKY DISCS INTIMACY, LONELS IN GAY COMMUNY
- HOW TO COPE WHEN YOU'RE GAY AND LONELY
- THE HIDN GAY LIV FALLY BEG UNVERED
- 21 BOOKS EVERY GAY MAN NEEDS TO READ RIGHT NOW
- 60 GAY ROMANCE NOVELS THAT ARE THE BT THE GENRE: THE ULTIMATE GUI
- HEARTBREAKG GAY ROMANCE
GAY AND LONELY BOOKS
* books about gay loneliness *
In the novel, Lansky looks at what means for a gay man to stggle wh body image, lonels and addictn, all thgs that Sam Lansky is also faiar LANSKY: I would say that I poured a lot of myself to this character and this book. Still, even as we celebrate the sle and speed of this change, the rat of prsn, lonels and substance abe the gay muny rema stuck the same place they’ve been for s.
'BROKEN PEOPLE' AUTHOR SAM LANSKY DISCS INTIMACY, LONELS IN GAY COMMUNY
NPR's Noel Kg talks to thor Sam Lansky about his novel, Broken People. Set Los Angel, weav together them of isolatn, body image and addictn among gay men. * books about gay loneliness *
In a survey of gay men who recently arrived New York Cy, three-quarters suffered om anxiety or prsn, abed dgs or alhol or were havg risky sex—or some batn of the three. “Marriage equaly and the chang legal stat were an improvement for some gay men, ” says Christopher Stults, a rearcher at New York Universy who studi the differenc mental health between gay and straight men. In the Netherlands, where gay marriage has been legal sce 2001, gay men rema three tim more likely to suffer om a mood disorr than straight men, and 10 tim more likely to engage “suicidal self-harm.
TTravis Salway, a rearcher wh the BC Centre for Disease Control Vanuver, has spent the last five years tryg to figure out why gay men keep killg themselv.
By the late 2000s, he was a social worker and epimlogist and, like me, was stck by the growg distance between his straight and gay iends. When the dispary first me to light the ’50s and ’60s, doctors thought was a symptom of homosexualy self, jt one of many maniftatns of what was, at the time, known as “sexual versn.
HOW TO COPE WHEN YOU'RE GAY AND LONELY
“That was the ia I had, too, ” Salway says, “that gay suici was a product of a bygone era, or was ncentrated among adolcents who didn’t see any other way out. He found that gay men everywhere, at every age, have higher rat of rdvascular disease, ncer, ntence, erectile dysfunctn, allergi and asthma—you name , we got . “We see gay men who have never been sexually or physilly asslted wh siar post-trmatic strs symptoms to people who have been bat suatns or who have been raped, ” says Alex Kroghlian, a psychiatrist at the Fenway Instute’s Center for Populatn Rearch LGBT Health.
And I kept nyg was a problem bee I had always told myself, ‘I’ve e out, I moved to San Francis, I’m done, I did what I had to do as a gay person. For s, this is what psychologists thought, too: that the key stag inty formatn for gay men all led up to g out, that once we were fally fortable wh ourselv, we uld beg buildg a life wh a muny of people who’d gone through the same thg. “It’s like you emerge om the closet expectg to be this butterfly and the gay muny jt slaps the ialism out of you, ” Adam says.
THE HIDN GAY LIV FALLY BEG UNVERED
It got so bad that I ed to go to the grocery store that was 40 mut away stead of the one that was 10 mut away jt bee I was so aaid to walk down the gay street. Several studi have found that livg gay neighborhoods predicts higher rat of risky sex and meth e and ls time spent on other muny activi like volunteerg or playg sports. Acrdg to Dane Whicker, a clil psychologist and rearcher at De, most gay men report that they want to date someone mascule, and that they wished they acted more mascule themselv.
21 BOOKS EVERY GAY MAN NEEDS TO READ RIGHT NOW
A two-year longudal study found that the longer gay men were out of the closet, the more likely they were to bee versatile or tops. Rearchers say this kd of trag, liberately tryg to appear more mascule and takg on a different sex role, is jt one of the ways gay men prsure each other to atta “sexual pal, ” the equivalent of gog to the gym or pluckg our eyebrows.
So, his sophomore year, he started watchg his male teachers for their flt posns, liberately standg wh his feet wi, his arms at his sis.
60 GAY ROMANCE NOVELS THAT ARE THE BT THE GENRE: THE ULTIMATE GUI
In the last 10 years, tradnal gay spac—bars, nightclubs, bathho—have begun to disappear, and have been replaced by social media. Usually when you hear about the shockg primacy of hookup apps gay life—Grdr, the most popular, says s average er spends 90 mut per day on —’s some panicked media story about murrers or homophob trawlg them for victims, or about the troublg “chemsex” scen that have spng up London and New York. But the real effect of the apps is quieter, ls remarked-upon and, a way, more profound: For many of , they have bee the primary way we teract wh other gay people.
The worst thg about the apps, though, and why they’re relevant to the health dispary between gay and straight men, is not jt that we e them a lot. In terviews that Elr, the post-trmatic strs rearcher, nducted wh gay men 2015, he found that 90 percent said they wanted a partner who was tall, young, whe, mcular and mascule.
Walt Ots, a psychologist who’s been wrg about social isolatn sce the 1980s, says that gay men ed to be troubled by the bathho the same way they are troubled by Grdr now. The gay men I terviewed talked about the datg apps the same way straight people talk about Comst: It sucks, but what are you gonna do?
HEARTBREAKG GAY ROMANCE
“We often live our liv through the ey of others, ” says Alan Downs, a psychologist and the thor of The Velvet Rage, a book about gay men’s stggle wh shame and social validatn. PPerry Halkis, a profsor at NYU, has been studyg the health gap between gay people and straight people sce the early ’90s.