An open letter to my fellow whe gay cis men: there should be no "returng to normal" after this.
Contents:
- GAY CULTURE HAS GROWN TOXIC WH UNCHECKED PRIVILEGE. IT'S TIME FOR TO RET
- CLIFF BOSTOCK: GAY OBSSN WH YOUTH GROWS MORE TENSE
- WHY ARE GAY MEN SO OBSSED WH YOUTH?
- RUPERT EVERETT HAT 'GAY OBSSN WTH YOUTH'
- EDUTG GAY MALE YOUTH: SCE WHEN IS PORNOGRAPHY A PATH TOWARDS SELF-RPECT?
- "DON'T SAY GAY" ISN'T ABOUT "GROOMG" — IT'S ABOUT REACTNARY HOMOPHOBIA
- SOCIETY NOW ACCEPTS GAY MEN AS EQUALS. SO WHY ON EARTH DO SO MANY NTUE TO BEHAVE LIKE TEENAGERS?
- AGG THE YOUTH-OBSSED GAY CULTURE
GAY CULTURE HAS GROWN TOXIC WH UNCHECKED PRIVILEGE. IT'S TIME FOR TO RET
* gay obsession with youth *
In my practice, I sometim enunter men who are so obssively worried they may be gay or bisexual that tak up such a signifint amount of their daily life and thoughts and them nearly cripplg anxiety. Sometim they tly are gay or bisexual, and sometim not at all.
CLIFF BOSTOCK: GAY OBSSN WH YOUTH GROWS MORE TENSE
What's wh all the ageism? Sure, society as a whole is ageist, but the gay muny is way worse than the hetero when to the issue. You're ad once you h 25. Is jt sex obssn? ... * gay obsession with youth *
” He may worry that he appears to be gay if cross his legs at the knee like a woman when stg down rather than havg the typil “man spread.
WHY ARE GAY MEN SO OBSSED WH YOUTH?
In 2000, the se of Ltle Sisters Book and Art Emporium, the Canadian Supreme Court was asked to terme whether gay male pornography vlated the sex equaly protectns guaranteed by the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms. Throughout this se, gay male activists and amics emphasi … * gay obsession with youth *
Like those wh Obssive-Compulsive Disorr (OCD), he may exhib the same kd of repet behavrs, such as stg and standg over and over aga to see if they may appear gay the way he do . This may sound like ’s a set-up for a joke, or an ongog lgh le a s, but is a real disorr that some have labeled as Homosexual Obssive-Compulsive Disorr (HOCD), though the Diagnostic and Statistil Manual of Mental Disorrs, the “bible” of psychiatry, has yet to regnize . HOCD n sudnly occur for some men who, for example, fd themselv beg h on by other gay or bisexual men, mistaken for beg a gay or bisexual man, fd themselv attracted to another man or stumble onto gay porn that exc them.
They will often blame the thgs as reasons for how the HOCD started, but isn’t about homosexualy nor bisexualy, is about OCD. In my own clil experience workg wh the men, those who suffer om this may fd themselv obssively lookg at porn, eher gay or straight, to see if they bee sexually exced by eher. They might nstantly check out others’ reactns to their gtur or nversatn to see if they get any strange looks or other signals that would imply homophobia.
RUPERT EVERETT HAT 'GAY OBSSN WTH YOUTH'
In this oped, news and polics edor Lexi McMenam criciz Florida ernor Ron DeSantis's admistratn over the state's 'Don't Say Gay' bill. * gay obsession with youth *
They sometim will go to extreme lengths, such as havg sex wh men even though they are not gay or bisexual, which typilly leav them feelg unsatisfied and unfortable.
Even though they have not been able to nfirm by their pulsive experimentatn that they are, ed, gay, they may even ask me to help them e out as gay or bisexual jt to end the sufferg. Four Qutns I Use to Distguish Gay, Bisexual and Straight Men. I am a specialist sexual orientatn and relatnships and not traed to al wh OCD, so I first mt set out to terme if they are simply closeted gay or bisexual men, or if there is somethg else gog on.
How do you feel about gay people? Closeted gay men are often vilently anti-gay, whereas HOCD men are not.
EDUTG GAY MALE YOUTH: SCE WHEN IS PORNOGRAPHY A PATH TOWARDS SELF-RPECT?
They may even say to me, “If I’m gay, okay.
Tly gay men jt say that they’re annoyed that women keep gettg their le of sight.
” Gay men variably say a man. Influenced by the heated atmosphere around sexual polics nowadays, and even the amount of media verage around LGBTQ issu, some gays argue that the g-out procs they went through much of the same nfn, and therefore believe that the HOCD person is simply experiencg the same thg.
"DON'T SAY GAY" ISN'T ABOUT "GROOMG" — IT'S ABOUT REACTNARY HOMOPHOBIA
Theirs is a particular kd of trouble, one that will not be rolved by “g out of the closet” bee they tly are not gay or bisexual.
SOCIETY NOW ACCEPTS GAY MEN AS EQUALS. SO WHY ON EARTH DO SO MANY NTUE TO BEHAVE LIKE TEENAGERS?
There are some clil therapists, such as Monni Williams, thor of Homosexual Anxiety: A Misunrstood Form of OCD Leadg Health Edutn Issu, who may help brg more a ser nversatn of this disorr to the theraptic world.
AGG THE YOUTH-OBSSED GAY CULTURE
But even though the nversatns that muted this lumn for six weeks are nowhere close to beg over, I do feel like some thgs that me up durg that time of ntemplatn are worth sayg now — particularly to my fellow whe gay cis out more stori on LGBTQ+ ins and activistsHowever, the ghost of Larry Kramer very much remaed my own head as I ma my way through a Pri month unlike any other.
I spent a few quiet afternoons readg his 1978 but novel Faggots, a satiril (yet clearly tobgraphil) look at the liv of gay men 1970s New York Cy that he wrote jt before AIDS ma him a figurehead of Amerin activism.