Is Your Man Gay, Straight, or Bisexual? | Psychology Today

Contents:

• IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
• PEOPLE N INTIFY WHETHER A MAN IS GAY OR STRAIGHT BY THEIR VOICE. BISEXUALS? NOT SO MUCH
• GAY, BISEXUAL OR STRAIGHT? QUIZ - MAL ONLY ⚜️
• IS YOUR HBAND GAY? 6 SIGNS THAT COULD BE A CSE FOR CONCERN
• IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND
• IS MY HBAND GAY? 10 SIGNS THAT CAN HELP YOU FIGURE OUT
• QUIZ: IS MY HBAND GAY?
• IS MY HBAND GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BI? : A GUI FOR WOMEN NCERNED ABOUT THEIR MEN
• HOW TO TELL IF YOUR HBAND IS GAY

IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?

In his Royal Oaks, Michigan, practice, Joe specializ Gay Affirmative Psychotherapy and IMAGO Relatnship Therapy, often treatg men who are qutng their sexual orientatn. This populatn is the foc of his new and much-need book: Is My Hband Gay, Straight, or Bi? Number one is the high cince of male-female upl enterg my office bee the woman thks her man might be gay.

More often than not, he’s not gay or even bi. He’s actually straight, but for whatever reason, he’s been lookg at gay porn or he’s been havg sex wh men.

A lot of the time the men e on their own and they’re holdg my book about g out as gay, and they want to know, “Is this me? Am I gay? And I thk ’s very important to state right here that I’m a gay man, yet here I am sayg that most of the time the men who are beg sexual wh other men aren’t gay.

PEOPLE N INTIFY WHETHER A MAN IS GAY OR STRAIGHT BY THEIR VOICE. BISEXUALS? NOT SO MUCH

That’s unual, bee most gay men, even most gay therapists, believe that if a guy is havg gay sex, he’s gay. So how do you terme if a man is or isn’t gay?

Most gay or bisexual men will say y. ” I always joke wh clients that for me, as a gay man, when I’m walkg on the beach and checkg people out, the women are the way.

GAY, BISEXUAL OR STRAIGHT? QUIZ - MAL ONLY ⚜️

Wh gay clients, they say they feel the same way; wh bisexual clients, they say they’re lookg at both the men and the women; wh straight clients, they say they’re lookg only at the women.

Another thg that I look for is homophobia. When a man is a long-term relatnship wh a woman but beg sexual wh men, eher lookg at porn or havg actual sex, he eher will or won’t be homophobic. Intertgly, ’s the gay men who are homophobic.

The straight men have no homophobia at all—to the pot where they’re willg to seek unselg om me, an openly gay therapist. A lot of tim the gay men never even make to me (whout promptg om their wife, anyway) bee they’re riddled wh homophobia and I’m too gay for them. So if a client is stgglg wh his sexual orientatn and he’s got a lot of homophobia, he’s probably gay.

IS YOUR HBAND GAY? 6 SIGNS THAT COULD BE A CSE FOR CONCERN

A gay guy wants to do all of that wh a man, a bisexual guy might want a man or a woman, and the straight guy wants to only be wh a woman that way. He’s been lookg at gay porn or he’s been hookg up wh guys he meets through Craigslist. And that’s too gay for them anyway.

The gay man is dog this bee ’s his sexual inty. Even if he’s nfed and don’t want to e out as gay, this is who he is and over time that will e out.

IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND

But the gay man r. So this is a way of bondg wh men—ironilly, through sex—and happens not bee the man is gay but bee he don’t know any other way to get this need met.

IS MY HBAND GAY? 10 SIGNS THAT CAN HELP YOU FIGURE OUT

And then they ask me if this mak them gay.

It’s not gay or straight, ’s jt your an. Then I tell them that a lot of gay men don’t do anal at all, eher givg or receivg. If the man is gay, the relatnship has ls of a chance of survival.

QUIZ: IS MY HBAND GAY?

The reason is that the guy really is gay and he wants to exprs that sexually and romantilly.

IS MY HBAND GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BI? : A GUI FOR WOMEN NCERNED ABOUT THEIR MEN

Eher they’re worried that their man will eventually ci he’s gay and end the relatnship, or they want monogamy, and his cheatg is a threat to the marriage regardls of who he’s dog wh.

And I should pot out here that the men when they’re engagg this behavr (regardls of whether they’re gay, straight or bi) nearly always tell themselv that what they’re dog is not cheatg bee they’re dog wh a guy. Prev rearch has dited that the abily to terme whether a man is gay om his voice om a batn of factors. A higher pch, wir pch range, longer vowels, expand vowel space, and more precise pronunciatn are voice characteristics associated wh gay men.

Scientists hypothized that bisexual men’s voic might be nsired more feme-soundg than straight men’s and more mascule-soundg than gay men’s when me to self-reported and observer-reported masculy and femy.

HOW TO TELL IF YOUR HBAND IS GAY

One hundred sixty participants, divid evenly between men and women, were asked to listen to voice sampl om 60 men (divid evenly between gay, bisexual, and straight men). They rated the voic on a sle of zero (exclively heterosexual) to ten (exclively homosexual). 62% of the participants uld distguish between a gay man’s and a straight man’s voice.

Instead, their voic were rated more mascule than both straight and gay men’s voic. They were also rated to be more exclively attracted to women than men than straight or gay men. Rearch to bisexualy has lagged due to “bisexual erasure, ” the tenncy to overlook the largt segment of the LGBTQ+ muny favor of gay or straight men.

This tt is tend for mal ag 13 to 17 - the age range when many wonr: "Am I gay or straight, or maybe bisexual?