Insi the world of gay-for-pay smut.
Contents:
- IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
- GAYS VS. STRAIGHTS: ANY DIFFERENC SEXUAL SATISFACTN?
- WHY SOME STRAIGHT PEOPLE MIGHT HAVE GAY SEX
- ARE YOU GAY OR STRAIGHT?
- 5 THGS STRAIGHT PEOPLE DON’T KNOW ABOUT GAY SEX
- AM I GAY? HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY?
- HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY
IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
Joe Kort, Ph.D., talks about his new book, "Is My Hband Gay, Straight, or Bi?" * gay or straight sex *
In his Royal Oaks, Michigan, practice, Joe specializ Gay Affirmative Psychotherapy and IMAGO Relatnship Therapy, often treatg men who are qutng their sexual orientatn.
This populatn is the foc of his new and much-need book: Is My Hband Gay, Straight, or Bi?
Number one is the high cince of male-female upl enterg my office bee the woman thks her man might be gay.
GAYS VS. STRAIGHTS: ANY DIFFERENC SEXUAL SATISFACTN?
Some people qutn whether they are gay or straight. Even I did, and the rults on my tt turned out to be gay. So now I am creatg a tt for you! Answer 10 qutns about sexual stuff wh the oppose and same sex! * gay or straight sex *
He’s actually straight, but for whatever reason, he’s been lookg at gay porn or he’s been havg sex wh men.
A lot of the time the men e on their own and they’re holdg my book about g out as gay, and they want to know, “Is this me? And I thk ’s very important to state right here that I’m a gay man, yet here I am sayg that most of the time the men who are beg sexual wh other men aren’t gay. That’s unual, bee most gay men, even most gay therapists, believe that if a guy is havg gay sex, he’s gay.
WHY SOME STRAIGHT PEOPLE MIGHT HAVE GAY SEX
* gay or straight sex *
” I always joke wh clients that for me, as a gay man, when I’m walkg on the beach and checkg people out, the women are the way.
ARE YOU GAY OR STRAIGHT?
For heterosexuals, gay sex might be somethg of an enigma. There may be many who have no clue as to how gay men actually have sex and the quirks that... * gay or straight sex *
Wh gay clients, they say they feel the same way; wh bisexual clients, they say they’re lookg at both the men and the women; wh straight clients, they say they’re lookg only at the women. When a man is a long-term relatnship wh a woman but beg sexual wh men, eher lookg at porn or havg actual sex, he eher will or won’t be homophobic. The straight men have no homophobia at all—to the pot where they’re willg to seek unselg om me, an openly gay therapist.
A lot of tim the gay men never even make to me (whout promptg om their wife, anyway) bee they’re riddled wh homophobia and I’m too gay for them. So if a client is stgglg wh his sexual orientatn and he’s got a lot of homophobia, he’s probably gay. A gay guy wants to do all of that wh a man, a bisexual guy might want a man or a woman, and the straight guy wants to only be wh a woman that way.
5 THGS STRAIGHT PEOPLE DON’T KNOW ABOUT GAY SEX
Many young men intify as mostly straight — a sexual orientatn that is not que straight but also, they say, ls gay than bisexualy * gay or straight sex *
He’s been lookg at gay porn or he’s been hookg up wh guys he meets through Craigslist. Even if he’s nfed and don’t want to e out as gay, this is who he is and over time that will e out. So this is a way of bondg wh men—ironilly, through sex—and happens not bee the man is gay but bee he don’t know any other way to get this need met.
Then I tell them that a lot of gay men don’t do anal at all, eher givg or receivg.
If the man is gay, the relatnship has ls of a chance of survival. The reason is that the guy really is gay and he wants to exprs that sexually and romantilly.
AM I GAY? HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY?
Eher they’re worried that their man will eventually ci he’s gay and end the relatnship, or they want monogamy, and his cheatg is a threat to the marriage regardls of who he’s dog wh. And I should pot out here that the men when they’re engagg this behavr (regardls of whether they’re gay, straight or bi) nearly always tell themselv that what they’re dog is not cheatg bee they’re dog wh a guy.
Sexual orientatns clu gay, lbian, straight, bisexual, and asexual. This means that beg transgenr (feelg like your assigned sex is very different om the genr you intify wh) isn’t the same thg as beg gay, lbian, or bisexual.
HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY
People who’re attracted to people of the same genr often ll themselv gay or homosexual. Many asexual people feel romantilly attracted to people — so they may intify as asexual, and also as gay, lbian, bisexual, or straight. It's amazg how ltle rearch has foced on this — jt two studi (1983 and 1991, and they provi only a cursory look at parative gay/straight sexual satisfactn).
Dire cl long-term upl, but on average, men reta more sire than women, so we would expect men gay upl to feel the most sire, and women lbian upl the least, wh the men mixed-sex upl exprsg more libido than the women.
But the survey, sexual sire was pretty much the same for all upl, wh gay men and lbians exprsg slightly more sire than heterosexuals. Siary breeds fort, so pared wh those heterosexual upl, we would expect people lbian and gay upl to feel more satisfied wh their sexual munitn. The only difference was that women, both lbian and straight, felt somewhat more satisfied wh non-genal rs than men, both gay and straight, prumably bee pared wh women, men tend to be more genal-foced.