New Trends Gay Male Relatnships: The Choic Study - ETR

Contents:

• GAY RELATNSHIPS DON’T LAST BEE….
• 5 MYTHS ABOUT GAY PEOPLE DEBUNKED
• GAY RELATNSHIPS CAN BE MORE STABLE THAN STRAIGHT ON
• GAY MALE RELATNSHIPS: HOW CAN I PREVENT MY PARTNER OM CHEATG? COMMON REASONS FOR CHEATG AND HOW TO MANAGE THEM
• STUDY FDS GAY UNNS BRIEF
• HOW TO HAVE A GAY OR LBIAN RELATNSHIP
• GAY CULTURE HAS GROWN TOXIC WH UNCHECKED PRIVILEGE. IT'S TIME FOR TO RET
• NEW TRENDS GAY MALE RELATNSHIPS: THE CHOIC STUDY

GAY RELATNSHIPS DON’T LAST BEE….

Gay myths(Image cred: © Dawn Hudson |)Gay people have been acced of beg unf parents, more likely to be pedophil, unable to sta lastg relatnships, and worse. Rearchers are still mullg over the evolutnary reason, if any, for gay animal sex, sce don't produce offsprg.

"Not every sexual act has a reproductive functn, " said Ja Mann, a blogist at Geetown relatnships don't lastSame-sex marriage; gay men givg their weddg vows. Another stereotype is that gay relatnships aren't as real or long-lastg as heterosexual on.

Long-term studi of gay upl dite that their relatnships are jt as stable as straight pairgs. "There is nsirable evince that both lbians and gay men want to be strong, mted relatnships [and] are succsful creatg the partnerships, spe difficulti created by social prejudice, stigma, and the lack of legal regnn for same-sex relatnships most parts of the U.

5 MYTHS ABOUT GAY PEOPLE DEBUNKED

S., " said UCLA psychologist Anne Pepl, -thor of a book chapter on the subject published the 2007 Annual Review of example, John Gottman, a Universy of Washgton emer profsor of psychology, and his lleagu llected data om homosexual upl across 12 years, and found that about 20 percent had broken up over that time. That rate projected over a 40-year perd is slightly lower than the divorce rate for first marriag among heterosexual upl over the same time span, acrdg to the study published 2003 the Journal of Homosexualy. "The overall implitn of this rearch is that we have to shake off all of the stereotyp of homosexual relatnships and have more rpect for them as mted relatnships, " Gottman fact, the same study found that gay upl tend to be better at rolvg nflicts and enuragg posive pedophil are gay(Image cred: © Normasmond |)An pecially pernic myth is that most adults who sexually abe children are gay.

A number of rearchers have looked at this qutn to terme if homosexuals are more likely to be pedophil than heterosexuals, and the data dite that's not the example, a 1989 study led by Kurt Frnd of the Clarke Instute of Psychiatry Canada, scientists showed pictur of children to adult gay and straight mal, and measured sexual aroal. Homosexual men reacted no more strongly to pictur of male children than heterosexual men reacted to pictur of female children. In only two out of 269 s, the offenr was intified as beg gay or lbian.

GAY RELATNSHIPS CAN BE MORE STABLE THAN STRAIGHT ON

"The empiril rearch do not show that gay or bisexual men are any more likely than heterosexual men to molt children, " wrote Gregory M. (Image cred: © Alanpoulson |)Many of those who oppose gay marriage and gay adoptn charge that same-sex parents aren't good for kids, and that a child needs both a father and a mother to grow up to be a healthy adult.

Rearch, however, shows that children of gay parents tend to fare jt example, one recent study looked at nearly 90 teens, half livg wh female same-sex upl and the others wh heterosexual upl, showg that both groups fared siarly school. "Both studi were scribed a lerature review paper published Febary 2010 the Journal of Marriage and gay is a choiceThe mystery DNA spippets are about 300 tim ls likely than other regns of the genome to be lost durg the urse of mammalian evolutn. (Image cred: Dreamstime)While some claim that beg gay is a choice, or that homosexualy n be cured, evince is mountg that same-sex attractn is at least partly geic and blogilly tt whether gen play a role, rearchers have pared intil tws ( which all gen are shared) to aternal tws ( which about 50 percent of gen are shared).

A 2001 review of such tw studi reported that almost all found intil tws were signifintly more likely to share a sexual orientatn – that is, to be eher both gay, or both straight – than aternal tws, who are ls geilly close.

GAY MALE RELATNSHIPS: HOW CAN I PREVENT MY PARTNER OM CHEATG? COMMON REASONS FOR CHEATG AND HOW TO MANAGE THEM

And fdgs of physlogil differenc, such as different ner ear shap between homosexual and heterosexual women, ntribute to this ia. "The rults support the theory that differenc the central nervo system exist between homosexual and heterosexual dividuals and that the differenc are possibly related to early factors bra velopment, " said Sandra Welson of McMaster Universy Ontar, an thor on the 1998 ner ear fdg published the journal Proceedgs of the Natnal Amy of Scienc. Gays n have more stable relatnships than their straight unterparts.

The first group nsisted of gays and lbians. One hundred gays and lbians were terviewed as well as one hundred heterosexuals.

When asked about their love liv, gays were more likely to have long term relatnships. Though gays did state that they alt wh creased strs levels due to societal attus, they were more likely to report beg ntent and livg happy liv. Though they were more likely to have closer ti to parents, they reported spendg ls time wh fay than their gay unterparts.

STUDY FDS GAY UNNS BRIEF

After beg hont about their sexualy, homosexuals tend to ga a eedom which translat to happs and stabily. Clearly, gays and lbians n have better relatnships than their heterosexual unterparts.

HOW TO HAVE A GAY OR LBIAN RELATNSHIP

The notn that all gays bounce om lover to lover is are many, many mted gays who want nothg more than to live their liv and be wh the love of their liv. Obvly, gays have ep, lovg relatnships and should be allowed to m to one another.

I know for sure, that over 85% of queer or gay relatnships don't last for a year! I don't know what the magic is; maybe they should share the trick wh my gay brothers.

GAY CULTURE HAS GROWN TOXIC WH UNCHECKED PRIVILEGE. IT'S TIME FOR TO RET

One of the reasons I thk gay relatnships flop is bee of the equaly of both parti. Homosexual relatnships will only work when one partner realiz their posn the relatnship and is willg to subm to and rpect the other.

In my psychotherapy practice specializg gay male dividuals and gay male upl over the past 24 years, I have worked wh many guys who need help bee they are upset after disverg that their boyiend or partner/spoe was “cheatg” on them. In prev articl, I discsed how gay men n have a “hotter” monogamo relatnship, how they n have an open relatnship whout hurt feelgs and while prervg emotnal safety, and even the ial ways to have a fuck buddy or a three-way. By unrstandg, general, why gay men “cheat”, we n prevent this, or e to terms wh after happens.

That’s te, but there aren’t really a thoand different reasons, there are a handful that keep g up repeatedly my practice, and over many years dog therapy for gay upl, I’ve helped the upl get through all of them whout necsarily breakg up. You have to remember that the cultural ncept of monogamy (even for straight people, even more so for gay men) is a cultural nstct, much like beg a vegetarian or keepg Kosher when you eat. For many gay male upl I’ve worked wh, this n be satisfied by way of the ocsnal three-way romp, where by playg together, you share the third person and enjoy them together.

NEW TRENDS GAY MALE RELATNSHIPS: THE CHOIC STUDY

I work wh many guys at midlife (approximately 38-50), and cheatg n sometim be a way that a guy reassur himself that has sexual clout, fluence, and “gay muny mercial value” to someone bis his S. It’s an ego boost to be a middle-aged gay man and still be sirable to younger gay men.