How do one bee a top or a bottom? Do all gay men hold secret ceremoni to assign their sexual posns? We dive ep to the logistics of gay sex.
Contents:
- GEICS MAY DETERME IF GAY MEN ARE TOPS OR BOTTOMS
- HOW DO GAY PEOPLE PICK THEIR SEXUAL ROL?
- "IT TAK A MAN TO PUT ME ON THE BOTTOM": GAY MEN'S EXPERIENC OF MASCULY AND ANAL INTERURSE
- TOP/BOTTOM SEXUAL SELF-LABELS AND EMPATHIZG-SYSTEMIZG COGNIVE STYL AMONG GAY MEN CHA
GEICS MAY DETERME IF GAY MEN ARE TOPS OR BOTTOMS
* how do gay guys decide who is on top *
Many gay men do intify themselv as strictly a top (the giver) or a bottom (the receiver) anal sex, but to say that a feme guy is almost always a bottom and a mascule guy is almost always a top is jt pla wrong.
Any gay person will tell you that if you want to be sure a guy is a top or a bottom you had better ask them and not wa until you get to the bedroom, bee 's not unmon to fd a butch guy who only wants to bottom OR a waify queen who ref to let anythg near his butt.
HOW DO GAY PEOPLE PICK THEIR SEXUAL ROL?
In anal terurse between gay men, men who are typilly sertive ("tops") are often perceived as, and may intify as, more mascule than those who are typilly receptive ("bottoms"). "Versatile" men, who may adopt eher posn, may be perceived as more genr balanced and may transcend the … * how do gay guys decide who is on top *
As I said, most gay men who only prefer one role will actively seek out ONLY men who prefer the other- so they already know who will be dog what.
"IT TAK A MAN TO PUT ME ON THE BOTTOM": GAY MEN'S EXPERIENC OF MASCULY AND ANAL INTERURSE
A majory of gay men are what you ll 'versatile, ' which means they n/will be the giver or the receiver durg anal sex. Legend would have you believe that once you’ve earned your gay rd, a Harry Potter–like ceremony occurs where, stead of the Sortg Hat, a giant magil butt plug divis all gay men to two ho: tops or bottoms.This is clearly not the se, pecially for those people who nsir themselv versatile (HIYA). The two subdivisns have their own l, stereotyp, and -jok, and n sometim seem as if they’re at war wh each other, rather than both workg together for mutual sexual pleasure.All of this n make tryg different thgs dntg, pecially if you’re a baby gay venturg to this world for the first time.
So how do you go about ttg new waters?“I believe what I ll takg your erotic temperature,” explas Woody Miller, the thor of the books How to Bottom Like a Porn Star and How to Top Like a Stud, “which is basilly havg a nversatn wh yourself about what is you like.”Miller argu that gay men should exame their relatnship wh power.
But I believe that many gay men pick one si, stick to , and that some of those dividuals choose toppg—you’ll have seen their profil markg them as “masc dom tops” on the apps—bee of s ti to tradnal masculy.As Miller explas, there are outsi forc that, datg back to the ancient Greeks, have prevented gay men om tly diggg to what sexual behavrs we might actually enjoy.
TOP/BOTTOM SEXUAL SELF-LABELS AND EMPATHIZG-SYSTEMIZG COGNIVE STYL AMONG GAY MEN CHA
“What I mean by that,” he says, “is that cultural forc wh the gay muny prize toppg over bottomg.”The ongog fetishizatn of masculy means that the tradnally submissive role of the bottom is associated wh effemacy. Chris Whe, an expert health promotn and the director and prcipal vtigator of the Safe and Supportive Schools Project at the Gay-Straight Alliance Network San Francis, tak this one step further. Not gettg fucked don’t make you any ls gay.Your sexual posn isn’t your intyLet’s ll bullsh on the ncept that if two people are tops they’re patible, bee the posns that you enjoy don’t fe who you are.