The Curse of an Attractn to Olr Gay Men | Psychology Today

Contents:

• WHY STRAIGHT WOMEN ARE ATTRACTED TO GAY MEN
• WHAT'S THE SCIENCE BEHD STRAIGHT WOMEN LIKG GAY MEN?
• THE CURSE OF AN ATTRACTN TO OLR GAY MEN

WHY STRAIGHT WOMEN ARE ATTRACTED TO GAY MEN

In many ways, gay men and straight women are a perfect pairg. For the most part, relatnships between gay men and straight women are healthy and posive, wh one exceptn I'll get to later.

In the vast majory of s, relatnships between gay men and straight women are platonic.

Sure, an ocsnal teenage girl falls for a boy who's gay, but don't take most girls very long to figure out that, this se, where there's smoke, there's most fely not fire. In general, the attractn women feel for gay men tends to be emotnal nature, clearg the way for a highly satisfyg relatnship that outlasts most other relatnships gay men and straight women have. To beg, I'll addrs how and why straight women are emotnally attracted to gay men—an attractn, by the way, that is returned by gay men spas.

WHAT'S THE SCIENCE BEHD STRAIGHT WOMEN LIKG GAY MEN?

Reasons women may be attracted to gay men. First, bee most straight women don’t feel sexual toward gay men, the relatnship don’t rry the threat of sexual tensn.

Send, straight women love gay men bee closens wh gay men provis a wdow to how the mds of men work, somethg that women want to know as they navigate datg waters wh their straight male peers. Though there are, of urse, differenc between straight and gay men, gay men are neverthels men who share many characteristics and motivatns wh straight men. When to the sexualy of young straight and gay men—meang, how equently they thk about sex, want , or feel impatient to get to the actual sex part—there are undoubtedly siari.

When a straight woman hangs out wh a gay man, she begs to put the puzzle together that men, general, treat sex differently than women do. Fally, straight women love gay men bee they are emotnally attracted to the fearlsns and lack of self-nscns gay men.

THE CURSE OF AN ATTRACTN TO OLR GAY MEN

In general, gay men, and gay women, too, tend to be more fearls than their straight unterparts—particularly straight men—bee they’ve ually experienced bullyg and prejudice bee of their sexual orientatn. The experienc fortify gay men wh thicker sk.

As out adults, gay men ually learn to accept themselv and stop tryg so hard to w the approval and acceptance of others. Siarly, the iendship of gay men offers somethg different than the pannship of straight men. Meanwhile, gay men have the social license to be as outrageo or emotnal as they want to be bee gay men don't have to f to such a tightly prcribed role.

As I mentned at the begng, not all relatnships between straight women and gay men are healthy. While not the majory, some straight women love gay men for different reasons. The group of women I’m referrg to are often lled "f*g hags, " a term that manag to be rogatory toward two groups: women and gay men.