Gay or Straight, A Male Is a Male Is a Male | Psychology Today

Contents:

• IS EFFEMACY GAY MEN A FUNCTN OF NATURE OR NURTURE?
• WHY EFFEMATE GAYS ARE FABULO
• GAY OR STRAIGHT, A MALE IS A MALE IS A MALE
• GAY MEN DISCRIMATE AGAST FEME GAY MEN, NEW STUDY FDS
• ‘GAY GLASS CEILG’: WHY MORE FEME MEN GET PASSED OVER FOR LEARSHIP ROL

IS EFFEMACY GAY MEN A FUNCTN OF NATURE OR NURTURE?

Why do so many effemate gay men prefer their partners the very masculy they've bleached out of themselv? Is bee like beg gay, beg effemate isn't a choice?

Nobody knows what fuels the gay flame -- nature or nurture. Some believe gay guys turn sissy bee they're naturally nelly and some thk 's bee they're nformg to a culture that expects . There's an unniable Pansy Vortex gay life.

WHY EFFEMATE GAYS ARE FABULO

After all, gay culture enurag effemacy -- we venerate drag, often ll each other "girl, " love bchy humor and nsir mp an art form. There are lots of ironi gay life but none perhaps greater than this: Sissi are often the biggt sissyphob of all. RelatedStyle gay datgYou May Like.

Jt take a look at me and I'm sure you'll clock my gayns sends. "What's your gayns got to do wh effemacy? But let's face -- the majory of people have evolved to see gay men as effemate.

It's as if the words "gay" and "effemate" have bee synonyms.

GAY OR STRAIGHT, A MALE IS A MALE IS A MALE

When men like me are patronized for beg "so gay, " 's implied that we're behavg like women. After all, my father's masculy is all she has ever known to expect om the male speci, and I'm sure my effemacy was strange to tly strange thg is my prized mascule father has never brought up my effemacy or gayns. I've realized that if this hierarchy don't break down, narrow-mdns toward genr inty will reachg my 20s, I me out as gay.

However, unr the surface 's clear that many gay men tend to look down on their effemate brothers. They moan that we let the gay si down and that we perpetuate a shameful stereotype. Why are gay men still panrg to the straight male image and s supposed mascule sex appeal?

GAY MEN DISCRIMATE AGAST FEME GAY MEN, NEW STUDY FDS

I spect effemacy-policg gay men are holdg on to heteronormative valu they were brought up wh.

But still reeks of ternalized homophobia and that's right, misogyny. I feel this jtice has trickled down to effemate gay men. I've gone through stggl beg an effemate man -- tirelsly worryg if I'd be accepted by both straight and gay peers.

‘GAY GLASS CEILG’: WHY MORE FEME MEN GET PASSED OVER FOR LEARSHIP ROL

On that note, I raise my limp wrist salute to my fellow effemate gay men and I hope to empower them wh the followg two words -- you're fabulo! VISH GAIKWAD is a London-livg, Brney-lovg "gaysian. And, of urse, marked discrepanci do exist between the sexual aroal cu distguishg gays om straights.

But as I’ll be monstratg, the major (and ltle regnized) siari between them ultimately suggt that a gay’s “sexual psyche” is much more plementary to a heterosexual male’s than ntrastg to .

Although I’ll be focg on the siari that profoundly lk gays and straights what sexually turns them on, I’ll start by enumeratg some differenc that do fact separate them. For much of what’s tradnally assumed about gay mal simply don’t bear close scty. One key assumptn about gays is that they’re somehow ls manly than straight men—that they’re effemate, even “girlish, ” their behavr and preferenc.