Gay Men and Straight Men as Friends | Psychology Today

Contents:

• HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY
• ASK ADAM: MAKG FRIENDS AS A GAY GUY
• CAN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN REALLY BE FRIENDS?
• GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS

HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY

There are lots of reasons why you might want to know if your iend is gay. You may want to know if your iend is gay, but there may be a good reason why they're stayg closeted.

For example, his fay may be vlently homophobic and by cidg that he's gay, you may out him by accint by treatg him different or implyg somethg whout meang to.

If you're tryg to figure out if your iend is gay bee you want to date him (as a woman), 's important to remember that jt bee he might be terted men don't mean he's not terted women.

ASK ADAM: MAKG FRIENDS AS A GAY GUY

Even if he is gay, that should not rm your opn of him.

Another important thg to remember is that 's not very important whether or not he's gay. How do you know if you’re gay? This n be another ditor that he's gay.

If you're not seeg any of that, then he might be gay. One of the theori about why some people are gay has to do wh the hormon that they're exposed to before they're born. The hormone exposure levels may manift actual, physil ways which n be a vague ditor that a guy might be gay.

CAN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN REALLY BE FRIENDS?

Gay men are slightly more likely to have even fgers than straight men. It is possible that your guy iend is not gay but stead falls somewhere else on the Ksey sle of unirns and awomens.

Although some people the gay culture may put on a certa voice or a way of speakg, your iend talkg a siar or "effemate" way is still not a very good way to judge. What a guy enjoys is also not a very good way to judge if he is gay or not. Everyone n enjoy different thgs; jt like a woman might enjoy watchg football, guys n also enjoy thgs that are more monly associated wh women or the gay muny.

The movi he watch and the mic he listens to are also not fair methods to gge if he is straight or gayer than Elton John and Gee Takei put together. There's the stereotype that if a guy is a good drser or if he spends a bunch of time on his hair, he's gay.

GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS

Sometim you might assume that jt bee a guy only hangs out wh girls or jt bee his bt iend also seems gay, then he might also be gay.

Show him you're okay wh your iends beg gay. Subtly brg up subjects that show him that you're okay wh your iends beg gay and that he don't need to hi his nature around you. You n talk about another iend that is gay or even jt about someone hypothetilly g out if you don't know someone who's gay.

He do a great job of showg people that there's more to gay people than all those offensive stereotyp. But if he is gay, he will probably tell you once he's fortable and feels like he tsts you. This is the bt way to fd out if someone is gay and much ls offensive than makg assumptns about them.