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what makes a gay man attractive

You have a right to feel good about yourself, no matter who you are. Feelg betiful is somethg that some men may be unfaiar wh. This n be pecially te for gay men, who have grown up a society that is cril of them a...

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HOW TO BE BETIFUL (FOR GAY MEN)

This n be pecially te for gay men, who have grown up a society that is cril of them a variety of ways. Gay men, particular, may have had years of self doubt and qutng due to livg wh homophobia all s forms. 2Fight ternalized homophobia.

It n be hard to fd stereotypilly "gay" aspects of your posure or personaly betiful. Instead of fallg prey to the ias, embrace your "gay voice" or mannerisms that are stereotypilly associated wh gay men.

" This n be pecially hard the gay muny, where looks and tradnal attractivens tends to take center stage. Fd a gay muny that embrac your bety.

THE CURSE OF AN ATTRACTN TO OLR GAY MEN

There is no one way to be a betiful and attractive gay man. Some gay men fd skny, hairls men betiful.

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Other gay men prefer hairy, large men. If a boy I like seems really iendly wh his male iend, is he gay? No, don't mean he is gay.

You n't know if he is gay unls he tells you he is.

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