For Father's Day, NPR spoke to three, gay sgle fathers who ma the choice to bee parents via surrogacy.
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- THREE SGLE, GAY DADS REFLECT ON FATHERHOOD, SURROGACY JOURNEYS
- SGLE GAY DADS GIVE TIPS FOR FIRST-TIME PARENTS: ‘I CREATED THE VILLAGE AROUND MYSELF’
- WHO'S GAY ON TV? DADS, JOURNALISTS, INVTIGATORS AND FOOTMEN
- ‘A FAY LIKE OURS’: PORTRAS OF GAY FATHERHOOD
- TV'S DISAPPOTG GAY DADS
THREE SGLE, GAY DADS REFLECT ON FATHERHOOD, SURROGACY JOURNEYS
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NPR spoke to three men, sgle gay fathers, who chose to bee dads via surrogacy, after years of g to terms wh their inti, their fai, and the technologil advanc that have ma journeys like this possible. "At that pot 1994, you didn't see many gays [on] the mp. So I realized I was gay, but I was like sred, nfed.
SGLE GAY DADS GIVE TIPS FOR FIRST-TIME PARENTS: ‘I CREATED THE VILLAGE AROUND MYSELF’
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WHO'S GAY ON TV? DADS, JOURNALISTS, INVTIGATORS AND FOOTMEN
Black, gay and heavyset the South, he was raised by a sgle mother a fay of sgle mothers. DUSTIN LING "Sometim the gay muny is seen as, oh, 's the funny guy who's always about fashn or always about travel, " says Dt Lg. "Fathers – gay fathers and mothers – e different and var forms, not jt that one-note inty.
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‘A FAY LIKE OURS’: PORTRAS OF GAY FATHERHOOD
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Steve Majors, munitns director for the same-sex advocy group Fay Equaly Council, says many young gay men once believed livg openly gay meant not havg children. "Eher you were a heterosexual relatnship and havg children, or you were gay, " Majors says. " But wh the rise of same-sex marriage, gay men have pneered the e of reproductive technology to have children.
Majors says sgle gay men now email him or show up at parentg semars, wantg to learn more about startg a fay. He's gay, but he says half the lls he gets are om straight men. ' " 'I Will Always Be There To Love Them' The Williams Instute, a thk-tank on same-sex issu at the Universy of California, Los Angel, fds there were more than one ln never-married men — both gay and straight — raisg children 2010.
TV'S DISAPPOTG GAY DADS
And then he kd of fot that he red about the first You know, those - the nservative news works are, among other thgs, pretty homophobic. SEDARIS: Well, I remember a uple of years ago when there was a vote North Carola to make gay marriage unnstutnal. I said, you know, my niece - her nt is gay and wants to marry her girliend.
And she's - why would she want to marry a gay man, right? But to actually be lockg ey wh Ellen and hold her, shakg hands as she said, "I'm gay, " on natnal televisn and for the first time, as she has shared outloud that way publicly, was such a profoundly extraordary and timate gift to that moment that I will forever be grateful for.
Image: Jackie Molloy for NPR"At that pot 1994, you didn't see many gays [on] the mp.