The show "My Hband’s Not Gay” has ed an uproar.
Contents:
- THE LBIAN WRER AND HER FLAMBOYANT GAY HBAND
- STRAIGHT WOMEN AND THEIR GAY HBANDS
- WHEN GAY MEN (MIS)MARRY STRAIGHT WOMEN: BONNIE KAYE'S STORY
- 'DID I EVER REALLY KNOW HIM?': THE WOMEN WHO MARRIED GAY MEN
THE LBIAN WRER AND HER FLAMBOYANT GAY HBAND
* gay husband's lover *
Early was wildly handsome, gay, wh soulful brown ey and a head full of loose, unly curls. Once, the middle of wter Washgton Square Park, I watched him unbutton his at and drape across the shoulrs of a dnk who had jt lled him a homophobic slur. I was an ex-Christian and newly out lbian fleeg the vlent homophobia of the late 1990s Jamai, still wearg the fury of beg attacked by a dozen boys and sexually asslted Kgston.
Except he wasn’t gay, or a poet.
We often lled each other to remisce about Peter, to reunt the sorcery of him, to bask the shared memory of his, when I beme antic wh the sire to start a fay — chasg gay men at hoe parti, beggg sperm om strangers on plan — I broke down and wept for what felt like the too-early ath of my hband. I wanted to be the badass lbian wrer, wh the flamboyant gay hband, raisg four children a ramblg old hoe that ed to be a church, two blocks om the beach Far one nversatn wh CJ, he terpted to ask if there was a way he uld stand for Peter, by givg me his sperm.
STRAIGHT WOMEN AND THEIR GAY HBANDS
His brothers, their wiv, Peter’s grandmother, his father, me, my non-monogamo partner and a betiful hort of ordary folks, misfs, artists, preachers, wrers, activists, gay, straight, nonbary. My Hband’s Not Gay, a show on TLC, has ed an uproar.
Why do some people bee so outspoken and judgmental about marriag wh one straight and one gay spoe? Fally, the relatnships suggt to some people “reparative therapy, ” the uhil and impossible claim that a person n be changed om gay to straight.
The men this televisn program aren’t claimg to be ex-gay nor that they n change their sexual orientatn (at least not on the show). They report they are attracted to men but choose not to live as a gay man and their straight wiv accept this.
WHEN GAY MEN (MIS)MARRY STRAIGHT WOMEN: BONNIE KAYE'S STORY
People seem to get up arms when a man says he is not gay but rather simply attracted to men.
In our culture, we intify ourselv via a sexual-attractn bary: gay or straight. Later, their gay sexual inti surface and here they are—heterosexually married wh children.
'DID I EVER REALLY KNOW HIM?': THE WOMEN WHO MARRIED GAY MEN
Many straight women married to gay men nscly choose to do so wh their ey wi open. There are plenty of wiv who choose to stay married even after fdg out later the marriage that their hband is gay and attracted to men. They make this choice wh open discsns, which are very paful and emotnal for both the gay man and the straight wife.