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A few months later, I attend a graduate school party wh my fiancée proudly at my si. Between sips of warm whe we, I ghed about the engagement to my profsor, a queer thor and journalist, and her partner, a longtime polil activist and retired profsor. I expected them to ngratulate wh the same flhed enthiasm everyone else had exprsed. After all, our engagement was historic. I braced myself for celebratory bear hugs. This proved unnecsary. My profsor offered a mellow "mazel tov," to which her partner tacked on, "Congrats, I gus."<br /></p><style data-emotn="css aeyldl">{font-fay:Charter,Geia,Tim,Serif;font-size:1.1875rem;le-height:1.6;} strong{font-fay:Charter,Geia,Tim,Serif;font-weight:bold;} em{font-style:alic;font-fay:Charter,Geia,Tim,Serif;}</style><p data-no-id="2" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">Perhaps worried she'd offend me, my profsor explaed that marriage meant somethg very different to her generatn; was a patriarchal stutn to anize agast, not to jo. I told her I appreciated the reactn bee remd me of our movement’s radil roots and jt how far we’ve e.</p><style data-emotn="css 1736von">{--data-embed-display:flex;-webk-align-ems:center;-webk-box-align:center;-ms-flex-align:center;align-ems:center;clear:both;display:-webk-box;display:-webk-flex;display:-ms-flexbox;display:flex;marg-bottom:0.9375rem;marg-left:to;marg-right:to;width:100%;}@media(m-width: 20rem){{width:100%;marg:0 to 0.9375rem;}}@media(m-width: 30rem){{width:100%;marg:0 to 0.9375rem;}}@media(m-width: 40.625rem){{width:100%;marg:0 to 0.9375rem;}}@media(m-width: 48rem){{width:100%;marg:0 to 0.9375rem;}}@media(m-width: 64rem){{width:100%;marg:0 to 0.9375rem;}}@media(m-width: 73.75rem){{width:100%;marg:0 to 0.9375rem;}}@media(m-width: 75rem){{width:100%;marg:0 to 0.9375rem;}}@media(m-width: 90rem){{width:100%;marg:0 to 0.9375rem;}} a span{right:1rem;} img{width:to;height:85vh;} a{display:-webk-le-box;display:-webk-le-flex;display:-ms-le-flexbox;display:le-flex;posn:var(--posn, relative);} img:not(.ewcw41w1){display:block;width:100%;height:to;-webk-align-self:flex-start;-ms-flex-em-align:flex-start;align-self:flex-start;}</style><div size="medium" data-embed="body-image" data-no-id="3" class="align-center size-medium embed css-1736von e1xqj1sx4"><div class="css-uwraif e1xqj1sx3"><img alt="d" tle="d" loadg="lazy" width="2500" height="1470" dg="async" data-nimg="1" style="lor: transparent; width: 100%; height: to;" siz="100vw" srcSet=" 640w, 980w, 1120w, 1200w, 1920w" src="" class="css-0 exi4f7p0" /><style data-emotn="css swqnqv">@media(m-width: 20rem){{paddg-left:0rem;}}@media(m-width: 30rem){{paddg-left:0rem;}}@media(m-width: 40.625rem){{paddg-left:0rem;}}@media(m-width: 48rem){{paddg-left:0rem;}}@media(m-width: 64rem){{paddg-left:0rem;}}@media(m-width: 73.75rem){{paddg-left:0rem;}}@media(m-width: 75rem){{paddg-left:0rem;}}@media(m-width: 90rem){{paddg-left:0rem;}}</style><div class="css-swqnqv e1xqj1sx2"></div></div></div><p data-no-id="4" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0"> Later that eveng I reflected on the generatn gap between the pairs of partners. I unrstood how bearg wns to atroci like the AIDS crisis and the do-nothg rponse om the Reagan admistratn would make most any gay person who managed to survive them wary of jog a heterosexual stutn that for thoands of years reerated how much my people didn't belong. But that wasn’t my experience. I me of age when the AIDS epimic was cle. Marriage equaly was my generatn’s major civil rights battle. Now that we’d fally won the right, how uld I not dulge? </p><style data-emotn="css 18pb4rg">{borr:0;borr-bottom:th solid black;marg:1.875rem 0;clear:both;}</style><hr data-no-id="5" class="css-18pb4rg et3p2gv0" /><p data-no-id="6" class="body-dropp css-am5pt0 et3p2gv0">This past May, <style data-emotn="css umdwtv">{-webk-text-ratn:unrle;text-ratn:unrle;text-ratn-thickns:.0625rem;text-ratn-lor:#FF3A30;text-unrle-offset:0.25rem;lor:her;-webk-transn:background 0.4s;transn:background 0.4s;background:lear-gradient(#ffffff, #ffffff 50%, #d5dbe3 50%, #d5dbe3);-webk-background-size:100% 200%;background-size:100% 200%;}{lor:#000000;text-ratn-lor:borr-lk-body-hover;-webk-background-posn:100% 100%;background-posn:100% 100%;}</style><a href=" target="_blank" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="Poli" class="body-lk css-umdwtv et3p2gv0">Poli</a> published a leaked draft of the Supreme Court's impendg cisn to strike down <em>Roe v. Wa</em>. In the flurry of analysis that followed, punds hammered home one pot particular: gay marriage might be next on the Supreme Court's choppg block. Takg the news that eveng, I felt sred the punds may be right, and then mad I'd gotten married the first place. How uld I have been so naïve? I should've heed my profsor's utnary tone. I should've opted for a civil unn, somethg relig nservativ haven't tated and that straight people n't take away om me. I uldn't stop thkg about what my profsor's partner had said. </p><p data-no-id="7" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0"><em>Congrats, I gus. Congrats, I gus. Congrats, I gus. </em>The phrase pballs around my bra whenever a new piece of transphobic legislatn forc me to remember how shty 2022 has been for the LGBTQ+ muny. This year alone, more than three hundred anti-LGBTQ+ bills have been troduced state legislatur, acrdg to <a href=" target="_blank" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="Bloomberg" class="body-lk css-umdwtv et3p2gv0">Bloomberg</a>, one hundred thirty of which target the trans muny. Hate crim <a href=" target="_blank" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="are up" class="body-lk css-umdwtv et3p2gv0">are up</a>, fueled by dangero li about LGBTQ+ dividuals "groomg" children. Earlier this month, a group of far right, anti-LGBTQ+ extremists protted a Disney-themed drag bnch Arlgton, Texas. <a href=" target="_blank" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="Vio footage" class="body-lk css-umdwtv et3p2gv0">Vio footage</a> of the cint shows a protter verbally assltg an dividual, llg them a range of anti-LGBTQ slurs. In the wake of siar cints across the untry, several Pri events were <a href=" target="_blank" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="ncelled" class="body-lk css-umdwtv et3p2gv0">ncelled</a>. </p><p data-no-id="8" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">Civil rights battl aren't lear. Small steps forward often prece perds of regrsn. But even if you nce that the moral arc of the universe is prised of peaks and valleys, and that the LGBTQ+ movement is currently stalled the latter, the speed wh which our rights are unravelg fi precent. This isn't a pendulum swg; 's whiplash. How the hell did we end up here, and what are we supposed to be proud of now? </p><hr data-no-id="9" class="css-18pb4rg et3p2gv0" /><p data-no-id="10" class="body-dropp css-am5pt0 et3p2gv0">When I reflect on my lbian awakeng, the person I immediately thk about is Gee W. Bh. Let me expla: Right around the first time my feelgs for another girl brought me to my kne, Bh endorsed a nstutnal ban on gay marriage. "Ag of experience have tght humany that the mment of a hband and wife to love and to serve one another promot the welfare of children and the stabily of society," the print said an <a href=" target="_blank" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="official statement" class="body-lk css-umdwtv et3p2gv0">official statement</a>. </p><div size="medium" data-embed="body-image" data-no-id="11" class="align-center size-medium embed css-1736von e1xqj1sx4"><div class="css-uwraif e1xqj1sx3"><img alt="d" tle="d" loadg="lazy" width="2500" height="1470" dg="async" data-nimg="1" style="lor: transparent; width: 100%; height: to;" siz="100vw" srcSet=" 640w, 980w, 1120w, 1200w, 1920w" src="" class="css-0 exi4f7p0" /><div class="css-swqnqv e1xqj1sx2"></div></div></div><p data-no-id="12" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">My mom loathed Bh. This ma her que the outsir the Country Club south where I grew up, but an endls source of reassurance to her tomboy dghter. It allowed me to eely explore my feelgs whout fear or judgment. I never worried that my parents wouldn't accept me. I even got a kick out of the ia that my sexualy offend the d-bag--chief who, to echo one of my mom's equent reas, lied about WMDs so he uld fish his daddy's war. </p><p data-no-id="13" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">Another one of her reas ed me more heartache: "Beg gay is hard," she would tell me whenever I floated hypothetil qutns meant to tt how she might react to possibly, maybe havg a gay dghter. "It's a harr life." My mom didn’t want this to be te—she was and remas an outspoken LGBTQ activist—but she knew om the many gay iends she’d loved and lost over a s-long reer theater that jt <em>was</em>. </p><p data-no-id="14" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">In 2006, after dog-paddlg around a sea of seersucker-clad Republins for eighteen years, I left North Carola and head north for llege. I cried quietly the backseat of my parents' r on and off all the way. I knew I wasn’t straight. I didn't want my life to be harr bee of . </p><hr data-no-id="15" class="css-18pb4rg et3p2gv0" /><p data-no-id="16" class="body-dropp css-am5pt0 et3p2gv0">In October 2008, I ma out wh a girl for the first time. The next morng, I wrote my journal, "Last night was <em><u>soooo awome</u></em>!!!!!" Readg that now, I n't believe we let eighteen-year-olds vote. But we do, and a few days later, I voted for Barack Obama my first printial electn. Sure, on the mpaign trail Obama promised to be agast same-sex marriage, but no one believed him. It felt like he'd say and then wk to the gays when the swg voters weren't lookg. For the first time my life, seemed marriage equaly was no longer a matter of if, but when. This was enormoly excg, not bee meant I might be able to get married one day. I wasn’t thkg about marriage at 20. It was excg bee, at the time, I naively believed meant that the era of discrimatn I’d grown up would be over soon. We’d all be ee, as the <a href=" target="_blank" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="song" class="body-lk css-umdwtv et3p2gv0">song</a> go, “to feel good.” </p><p data-no-id="17" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">Two important gay anthems that me out durg the Obama admistratn, Lady Gaga's "Born This Way" and Macklemore's "Same Love," embraced the notn that homosexualy isn't a choice. "I n't change" sang Mary Lambert on the chos of "Same Love." "Even if I wanted to, even if I tried." The born-this-way theory had good tentns. It began as a repudiatn agast nversn therapy, which stipulated that, wh a ltle relig shamg, gay people uld choose to bee straight. But some the LGBTQ+ muny, cludg yours tly, didn't intify wh . </p><p data-no-id="18" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">Around that time, and much to my surprise, I fell love wh a man. He was warm and silly, and animated, too, like a Snuggie spng to life, and he nursed me back to life after my dad died sudnly midway through my junr year. We’d been iends, so he knew I was, as I scribed dnkenly to him one eveng, “kda gay.” He lghed and lled his body the barrier to our love. We embarked on a short-lived, quasi-romance. </p><p data-no-id="19" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">I haven’t dated men serly sce, but that experience tght me that my pacy for attractn was more nuanced than any slogan or anthem uld munite. I found ltle fort the ia that my lbianism uld be traced back to <a href=" target="_blank" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="a sgle gene" data-vars-ga-product-id="c09d33d3-bb7a-438e-8b39-827b84eedb8c" data-vars-ga-lk-treatment="(not set) | (not set)" data-href=" data-product-url=" data-affiliate="te" data-affiliate-url=" data-affiliate-work="{}" data-vars-ga-product-price="$29.99" data-vars-ga-product-retailer-id="425d60e9-38e6-447e-82ba-a3a5be9eea" class="body-lk product-lks css-umdwtv ebsw2pb0">a sgle gene</a>—as if was some geic disorr, the same one that afflicted poor nt San and her adult roommate, Lda. </p><p data-no-id="20" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">Frank Bni summarized the issue wh the born-this-way theory 2012 when he <a href=" target="_blank" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="wrote" class="body-lk css-umdwtv et3p2gv0">wrote</a>, "By hgg a whole movement on a ncln that hasn’t been—and perhaps won’t be—scientifilly ppoted and proved beyond all doubt, they [gay advot] hch to a movg target." </p><p data-no-id="21" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">Except was already too late; the theory <a href=" target="_blank" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="had taken hold" class="body-lk css-umdwtv et3p2gv0">had taken hold</a>. In 2009, <a href=" target="_blank" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="polls" class="body-lk css-umdwtv et3p2gv0">polls</a> reported that 54% of Amerins opposed gay marriage. By 2013, that number was down to 44%. Two years later, the Supreme Court stck down <a href=" target="_blank" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="Obergefell v. Hodg" class="body-lk css-umdwtv et3p2gv0"><em>Obergefell v. Hodg</em></a>, legalizg gay marriage across the untry. My partner and I celebrated at a wild block party Anrsonville, Chigo’s unofficial lbian neighborhood. On our way home, we saw two elrly butch women, ftooned rabow boas and jewelry, smoochg on a street rner. </p><div size="medium" data-embed="body-image" data-no-id="22" class="align-center size-medium embed css-1736von e1xqj1sx4"><div class="css-uwraif e1xqj1sx3"><img alt="d" tle="d" loadg="lazy" width="2500" height="1470" dg="async" data-nimg="1" style="lor: transparent; width: 100%; height: to;" siz="100vw" srcSet=" 640w, 980w, 1120w, 1200w, 1920w" src="" class="css-0 exi4f7p0" /><div class="css-swqnqv e1xqj1sx2"></div></div></div><p data-no-id="23" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">The <em>Obergefell</em> cisn functned like a recg tool for the LGBTQ+ muny. I don't have any hard data on this, I jt know that sudnly people I grew up wh, many of them nservative, were g out drov. When a childhood iend rmed me that a preppy girl om high school—she drove around a Land Rover wh a big Dubya sticker affixed to s bumper—me out as gay, I rpond wh "Homosexualy is ad, and she murred ." </p><p data-no-id="24" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">Fdg out a former Bh supporter was a lbian felt like a particularly vlent and unnecsarily personal way to have to learn about <a href=" target="_blank" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="homonormativy" class="body-lk css-umdwtv et3p2gv0">homonormativy</a>. I would've preferred that she'd voted for Ron Pl; there's an unniably gay flair to libertarianism. But Bh? The guy who refed to repeal Don't Ask, Don't Tell and forced a bunch of closeted homosexuals to march to Iraq and Afghanistan? Not every victim n rrectly intify their opprsor, but what's worse is if they n but are too privileged other ways to re.</p><p data-no-id="25" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">What I realize now is that the queer muny's major gas durg the Obama years me at the sacrifice of what sets apart om straight people. To nvce the ernment to loan a few rights, we rallied behd the ia that queerns was geic—no different than diabet—and <a href=" target="_blank" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="mimized the experienc of those who felt otherwise" class="body-lk css-umdwtv et3p2gv0">mimized the experienc of those who felt otherwise</a>. We forfeed a more nuanced nversatn that enpassed all our muny so we uld vis our dyg loved on hospals. I don’t blame . In fact, I’m grateful for the rights we've gaed, but given where thgs stand today, I wish we’d rved a more clive path to victory.</p><hr data-no-id="26" class="css-18pb4rg et3p2gv0" /><p data-no-id="27" class="body-dropp css-am5pt0 et3p2gv0">In January 2016, a rabid, spray-tanned hyena beme the 45<sup>th </sup>print of the Uned Stat. Sometim I thk the sheer magnu of Donald Tmp's vrl and chaos ed everyone who opposed him to feel like a victim; or, if they uldn't legimately claim victim stat, to distance themselv om his admistratn by aligng themselv wh a margalized muny. This is how we end up wh the rporate takeover of Pri and all those rabow "In this hoe we believe..." signs the yards of suburbane alli. It also explas Taylor Swift's album<em> Lover</em>, and why there's now a lbian, though equently played by a straight person, every major historil drama. LGBTQ+ reprentatn mattered <em>a lot</em> durg the Tmp admistratn. </p><p data-no-id="28" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">Speakg of lbians, some of <a href=" target="_blank" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="eaked out" class="body-lk css-umdwtv et3p2gv0">eaked out</a> durg the Tmp years. In the wake of a few high-impact moments of transgenr reprentatn—Calyn Jenner on the ver of <em>Vany Fair, </em>televisn shows like<em> Transparent </em>and <em>Pose—</em>nversatns about trans people entered mastream cultural disurse. This unleashed the trans-exclnary radil femists, or <a href=" target="_blank" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="TERFs" class="body-lk css-umdwtv et3p2gv0">TERFs</a><u>,</u> whose transphobic belief that trans women don’t belong women-only spac appealed to a <a href=" target="_blank" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="small subset of lbians" class="body-lk css-umdwtv et3p2gv0">small subset of lbians</a>. Those of who didn't want to get lumped together wh <a href=" target="_blank" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="J.K. Rowlg" data-vars-ga-product-id="84a28587-4c06-48e4-83f9-1ec091f75dfd" data-vars-ga-lk-treatment="(not set) | (not set)" data-href=" data-product-url=" data-affiliate="te" data-affiliate-url=" data-affiliate-work="{}" data-vars-ga-product-brand="Hannah Yasharoff" data-vars-ga-product-price="$2,018.00" data-vars-ga-product-retailer-id="38a0c33d-bab2-4537-9926-f6776602d73c" data-vars-ga-product-sem3-brand="Hannah Yasharoff" class="body-lk product-lks css-umdwtv ebsw2pb0">J.K. Rowlg</a> shed to <a href=" target="_blank" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="clarify" class="body-lk css-umdwtv et3p2gv0">clarify</a> that our versn of lbianism didn’t imply a preference for cisgenr femal, or simply abandoned the term altogether. Lbian beme a bad word, ditive of retro views on genr. People my age and younger <a href=" target="_blank" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="preferred" class="body-lk css-umdwtv et3p2gv0">preferred</a> the term queer. </p><p data-no-id="29" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">I met a girl Chigo 2017 who told me she no longer referred to herself as gay. She now went by queer. She was skny and had a lot of Instagram followers, so I pied her and started referrg to myself as queer. I intified wh the term's clivens but uldn't pull off. I felt like a grandpa tryg to skateboard. I reverted to lbian and got on wh my life. No one asked me about my sexualy anyway.</p><hr data-no-id="30" class="css-18pb4rg et3p2gv0" /><p data-no-id="31" class="body-dropp css-am5pt0 et3p2gv0">I was supposed to get married May 2020. Instead, my partner and I spent the week distributg suppli to Gee Floyd protters and, later on, marchg for <a href=" target="_blank" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="black trans liv" class="body-lk css-umdwtv et3p2gv0">black trans liv</a>. Pri kicked off two weeks later, smack dab the middle of a tense printial mpaign, a reigned culture war around genr inty, an electn-year s of <a href=" target="_blank" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="feral anti-trans legislatn" class="body-lk css-umdwtv et3p2gv0">feral anti-trans legislatn</a>, and <a href=" target="_blank" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="the policizatn of ncel culture" class="body-lk css-umdwtv et3p2gv0">the policizatn of ncel culture</a>. Covid forced the ftivi off the streets and onto the ter, so my partner and I marked the ocsn at home wh to-go cktails. </p><div size="medium" data-embed="body-image" data-no-id="32" class="align-center size-medium embed css-1736von e1xqj1sx4"><div class="css-uwraif e1xqj1sx3"><img alt="d" tle="d" loadg="lazy" width="2500" height="1470" dg="async" data-nimg="1" style="lor: transparent; width: 100%; height: to;" siz="100vw" srcSet=" 640w, 980w, 1120w, 1200w, 1920w" src="" class="css-0 exi4f7p0" /><div class="css-swqnqv e1xqj1sx2"></div></div></div><p data-no-id="33" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">We eloped September. We'd thought we might at some pot but hadn't been sure when. Then, Augt, I got laid off and lost my healthre surance. Thanks to the Republins’ chippg away at Obamare, the plans on the public market were not affordable. We figured was as good a time as any to exercise our right to register me as a pennt on her surance plan. (Only Ameri do we marry for surance.) I threw on my favore Hawaiian shirt, my partner slipped to a crkly whe drs, and we gathered on the uch, wh our dog her fancit bandana snuggled between . When the ter mister we’d hired a few days earlier pronounced married, we llapsed happily to each other’s arms. </p><p data-no-id="34" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">Beg married didn’t feel very different to me, and I found the absence of special meang que fortg. I’d been hopelsly voted to my partner sce the day I met her. I didn’t want marriage to transform or legimize our relatnship. I jt wanted health surance. </p><hr data-no-id="35" class="css-18pb4rg et3p2gv0" /><p data-no-id="36" class="body-dropp css-am5pt0 et3p2gv0">When Joe Bin was elected November 2020 the untry llectively exhaled a short-lived sigh of relief. I briefly thought thgs would get better. Instead, the oppose has occurred. Tmp-era queer reprentatn failed to spire any Bin-era legislatn. The Senate has <a href=" target="_blank" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="yet to pass" class="body-lk css-umdwtv et3p2gv0">yet to pass</a> the Equaly Act, which means that more than half the stat the U.S. you n be refed hog or a bank loan for beg LGBTQ+. Meanwhile, the culture wars have only worsened. The GOP toss trans kids around like a <a href=" target="_blank" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="polil football" class="body-lk css-umdwtv et3p2gv0">polil football</a> and our own muny seems at risk of rippg self apart over the qutn of genr. </p><p data-no-id="37" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">I do not agree wh <a href=" target="_blank" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="people" class="body-lk css-umdwtv et3p2gv0">people</a> <a href=" target="_blank" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="who" class="body-lk css-umdwtv et3p2gv0">who</a> <a href="" target="_blank" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk="" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="thk" class="body-lk css-umdwtv et3p2gv0">thk</a> homosexualy is fed by an exclive attractn to our own blogil sex. I much prefer <a href=" target="_blank" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="Harron Walker's" class="body-lk css-umdwtv et3p2gv0">Harron Walker's</a> asssment of beg attracted to eher masculy or, my se, femy, unbound by genr. In fact, the first time I felt the queer tgli was while watchg the excellent film <em>The Ladybugs</em> (featurg the one only Rodney Dangerfield a reer-fg role). My to curled unr whenever <a href=" target="_blank" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="Jonathan Brandis" class="body-lk css-umdwtv et3p2gv0">Jonathan Brandis</a> drsed up as a girl soccer player and flirtatly palled around wh Bs, the team's star forward. Anyone who wants to unpack what my childhood csh on Jonathan Brandis—but only when he's disguise as a female athlete!—says about my genr and sexualy preferenc, be my gut. I gave up tryg years ago. Like Hannah Gadsby, I now primarily intify as <a href=" target="_blank" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="tired" class="body-lk css-umdwtv et3p2gv0">tired</a>.</p><p data-no-id="38" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">I'm so very tired of policg each other's LGBTQ+ experience. But I also know whe, cis privilege is real. I experience every day. I believe <a href=" target="_blank" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="Ellt Page" class="body-lk css-umdwtv et3p2gv0">Ellt Page</a> when he says transphobia is more severe than homophobia. For fuck’s sake, jt look at the statistics. I support the <a href=" target="_blank" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="Reclaim Pri Coaln" class="body-lk css-umdwtv et3p2gv0">Reclaim Pri Coaln</a> and agree wh <a href=" target="_blank" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="Roxane Gay" class="body-lk css-umdwtv et3p2gv0">Roxane Gay</a> that ps don't belong at Pri. At the same time, I'm glad the San Francis PD and Pri anizers found <a href=" target="_blank" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="a promise" class="body-lk css-umdwtv et3p2gv0">a promise</a>. I'll tolerate ternal tensn so long as don't tug our muny entirely apart. Bee the ey of Florida ernor Ron DeSantis, we're all om the same leper lony. We might as well fight together, not one another. We still have so much work to do. </p><hr data-no-id="39" class="css-18pb4rg et3p2gv0" /><p data-no-id="40" class="body-dropp css-am5pt0 et3p2gv0">Recently, I crashed head-first to the upper lim of the LGBTQ+ movement’s progrs while navigatg the fay-makg-dtrial plex. I've had nightmar about the Proud Boys that are ls homophobic than the U.S. healthre system. For stance, when to benefs, my surance provir don't regnize the word "lbian." They prefer the term "<a href=" target="_blank" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="fertile" class="body-lk css-umdwtv et3p2gv0">fertile</a>." And I’m one of the lucky on bee I live New York, which recently passed <a href=" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="a law" class="body-lk css-umdwtv et3p2gv0">a law</a> (riddled wh <a href=" target="_blank" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="exclnary veats and loophol" class="body-lk css-umdwtv et3p2gv0">exclnary veats and loophol</a>) that requir <em>certa</em> surance pani to ver a <em><a href=" target="_blank" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="limed range" class="body-lk css-umdwtv et3p2gv0">limed range</a></em> of “fertily” treatments for <em>some</em> LGBTQ+ upl.</p><div size="medium" data-embed="body-image" data-no-id="41" class="align-center size-medium embed css-1736von e1xqj1sx4"><div class="css-uwraif e1xqj1sx3"><img alt="d" tle="d" loadg="lazy" width="2500" height="1014" dg="async" data-nimg="1" style="lor: transparent; width: 100%; height: to;" siz="100vw" srcSet=" 640w, 980w, 1120w, 1200w, 1920w" src="" class="css-0 exi4f7p0" /><div class="css-swqnqv e1xqj1sx2"></div></div></div><p data-no-id="42" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">Barrg such protectns, queer upl fortunate enough to be sured <a href=" target="_blank" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="mt prove they’ve been unable to nceive om eher havg sex (the cis-hetero kd) for at least six months" class="body-lk css-umdwtv et3p2gv0">mt prove they’ve been unable to nceive om eher havg sex (the cis-hetero kd) for at least six months</a> or havg six rounds of IUI—which not everyone has the right parts for. Askg if strap-on sex wh a power bottom zaddy unts will not help your e. I rema nstantly disturbed by doctors’ and surance provirs’ need to procs my homosexualy relatn to heterosexualy to unrstand . Turns out that old rea om the Bh era is te: It<em> is</em> harr to be gay. It's more expensive too. </p><p data-no-id="43" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">Acrdg to the Fay Equaly Council, creatg a fay n st LGBTQ+ upl anywhere om a few hundred dollars to hundreds of thoands of dollars, pendg on their personal and fancial circumstanc. Adoptn pric range om $20,000 to $45,000. Surrogacy, which is rarely vered by health surance, requir a budget of $60,000 to $100,000. Lbian upl who want to purchase sperm om sperm banks, many of which are <a href=" target="_blank" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="unregulated and plagued by lawsus" class="body-lk css-umdwtv et3p2gv0">unregulated and plagued by lawsus</a>, will need to pony up around $1,500 per vial; doctors remend at least three vials per pregnancy attempt. From there, IUI n st anywhere between $250 and $4,000 per attempt. Then e the legal fe for <a href=" target="_blank" data-vars-ga-outbound-lk=" data-vars-ga-ux-element="Hyperlk" data-vars-ga-ll-to-actn="tablishg parental rights" class="body-lk css-umdwtv et3p2gv0">tablishg parental rights</a>. I don’t have to tell you how expensive lawyers are, do I?</p><p data-no-id="44" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">Attemptg to nstct a queer fay wh a heteronormative system has tght me an important lson—one that the cric and thor Maggie Nelson succctly outled <em>The Argonts</em>: "If we want to do more than claw our way to reprsive stctur, we have our work cut out for ." </p><hr data-no-id="45" class="css-18pb4rg et3p2gv0" /><p data-no-id="46" class="body-dropp css-am5pt0 et3p2gv0">This past weekend the New York Cy pri para marched through downtown Manhattan. I know what we were prottg, but what were we celebratg? In this perilo, post-Pri moment, wh state ernments termed to shame our trans and non-bary iends out of existence, the Supreme Court terted extguishg rights we only recently won, and our own muny hell-bent on rippg self apart, what am I supposed to be proud of? </p><p data-no-id="47" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">When to anythg other than marriage, LGBTQ+ dividuals are still outsirs. I nsir both a ll to arms and a badge of honor. I never wanted to be an sir. Part of the reason I got to this whole gay thg was so I uld live a life ee of patriarchal-y, heteronormative-ish nonsense. I love the eedom my partnership affords me: to sign a new experience, unnstraed by tradnal genr rol. A new generatn of LGBTQ+ people are fdg more ways to live thentilly and expandg the spe of our movement. To them, I say <em>thank you</em>. </p><p data-no-id="48" class="css-aeyldl et3p2gv0">Dpe the para of letters, LGBTQ+ means one of two thgs: not straight and/or not cis. But until now, the movement's largt victori me wh the stipulatn that we exist the world like straight, cis people do. What we’re fightg for today, though—support for queer fai, trans healthre, a broar and more flexible unrstandg of genr—will force this untry's powerbrokers to acmodate all of , on our own terms. Hence the headwds. 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HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY

DEAR LEFTISTS: ACTUALLY, NO, BEG GAY IS NOTHG TO BE 'PROUD' OF...

WHY I'M NOT PROUD OF BEG GAY

HOW ACTIVISTS ORGANIZED THE FIRST GAY PRI PARAS

WHY ARE PEOPLE PROUD TO BE GAY

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