The Complexy of ‘That's So Gay' | Psychology Today

Contents:

• THE TE MEANG BEHD “THAT’S SO GAY”
• "THAT'S SO GAY" IS JT SO WRONG
• THAT'S SO GAY
• WHAT’S SO BAD ABOUT “THAT’S SO GAY”?
• THAT’S SO GAY
• MEANG OF GAY ENGLISH
• COMMENTARY: WHY “THAT’S SO GAY” IS OKAY…OR NOT
• MEANG OF UR SO GAY BY KATY PERRY
• GAY (HOMOSEXUAL) AND GAY (HAPPY)
• WHAT DO IT MEAN TO BE GAY? DEFN AND MEANG OF GAY
• IS IT OKAY TO SAY “THAT’S SO GAY”?
• GAY
• THE COMPLEXY OF ‘THAT'S SO GAY'

THE TE MEANG BEHD “THAT’S SO GAY”

So, like, if ’s wh my iends and someone says “that’s so gay”; I know ’s a very different meang than a kid who jt tripped and another one said “that’s so gay”, you know what I mean? Vidisha Sharma: I agree wh what Sofia said about nnotatn; if ’s someone gay, like myself, and I make jok like “oh my god that’s so gay” or “hahaha I’m so gay”. : Also, ’s jt bee people thk ’s quirky to say , like, “cê é tão gay, s viado” and that kd of stuff; ’s bee ’s popular and a lot of people are sayg .

"THAT'S SO GAY" IS JT SO WRONG

Some young adults might feel that is okay to e this phrase as a joke or an sult bee don’t affect them, and and feel that“long gone are the tim when gay people were opprsed”, but they are wrong. In the news, ’s mon nowadays to see a child murred ld blood bee they told their parents they were gay, an example beg Anthony Avalos.

This 10-year-old boy had e out as gay days before his murr and was found wh severe signs of physil harm cludg malnutrn, cigarette burns, and bis. If you ask them about , as some rearchers have, they often will sist that is not tend as homophobic language, jt a harmls phrase to exprs tratn or somethg siar. ” Later when the parents learned their children were gay, they apologized to them for sayg the thgs, but the damage was already done.

THAT'S SO GAY

But parents who are enough aware of language’s substrata n help by helpg their kids’ schools unrstand the value of practicg the same kd of zero tolerance for homophobic language that they do for racist or anti-Semic or bullyg language. Yet the ial fdgs om my terviews wh 40 gay youth om four universi suggts a more plex picture, wh no clear agreement on what the phrase means or s effects.

For them, gay had two distct meangs which they were able to distguish between – when refers to sexual inty and when refers, separately, to somethg beg “bbish”. I argued that straight men’s e of phras like “that’s so gay” uld only be unrstood by three key factors: first, the tent wh which was said; send, the social ntext (homophobic or otherwise); and third, the effect had.

WHAT’S SO BAD ABOUT “THAT’S SO GAY”?

But when is said settgs where sexual mori are out, proud and socially clud, and heterosexual men are iends wh their openly gay peers, tak on different meangs.

Most of the young gay people my study felt “that’s so gay” would only be homophobic if was directed at a gay person, and wh negative tent. If young gay people are sayg that they do not experience the phrase “that’s so gay” as homophobic – and if they are even g the phrase themselv – then perhaps we should accept their arguments and ncentrate on other battl. Teenager: No, 's lame and joe1970 October 9, 2010FlagGet the That's so gay your Facebook post on Urban Dictnary jt 3 clicksThat's so gay1- Used by people as an adjective to scribe thgs that are retard, bad, unpleasent.

THAT’S SO GAY

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MEANG OF GAY ENGLISH

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COMMENTARY: WHY “THAT’S SO GAY” IS OKAY…OR NOT

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MEANG OF UR SO GAY BY KATY PERRY

Adam* said was dangero to e out as gay his home untry and feared beg forced to an arranged marriage wh a said he was "so lucky" to wed his soulmate, Ray, Manchter and wish everyone uld marry who they love. There are more than 60 untri wh laws that crimalise same-sex sexual acts acrdg to the Internatnal Lbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans and Intersex Associatn, cludg Sdi Arabia. 'Authentilly myself'Ray said he had also stggled growg up gay the 1970s and 80s England, which was "tough" said his relig school "dmmed to you, 'you are gog to hell'" Adam returned home to Sdi Arabia, spe beg more than 3, 000 apart and later rtricted by the Covid-19 panmic, they kept touch daily and the romance years ago, Ray proposed on a vio ll and after succsfully applyg for a UK fiancé visa, Adam moved to Manchter December 2022.

GAY (HOMOSEXUAL) AND GAY (HAPPY)

Adam said he had been aaid to even wear lours his home untry so the first thg he did when he moved was start to "grow my mullet, got my ears pierced and booked appotments for tattoos" relled how, ntrast, one of his gay iends Sdi had been forced to marry a woman, addg: "It has ed not only his life but the life of his wife.

The uple, who live London, said a "really betiful memory" was on the way home when one of their sons shouted out of the black b wdow to Trafalgar Square, "My dads jt got married" and cheered "Yay, gay marriage".

WHAT DO IT MEAN TO BE GAY? DEFN AND MEANG OF GAY

Pri, formerly known as Gay Pri, is a regnn of LGBTQ inty, affirmatn of equal rights, and celebratn of visibily, digny, and diversy the LGBTQ muny. While the word homosexual is still ocsnally ed some ntexts, you might have noticed that don’t make an appearance any versn of the LGBTQ acronym.

IS IT OKAY TO SAY “THAT’S SO GAY”?

As our age note on the term stat, “up until 1973, homosexualy was listed The Diagnostic and Statistil Manual of Mental Disorrs (DSM), psychiatry’s standard reference on the classifitn of mental illns. And many feel that this word plac undue emphasis on sexual activy, or that sounds overly clil.” In fact, the term homosexual was liberately rejected by early gay rights activists bee, acrdg to The New York Tim, “they did not want to be intified as exclively sexual begs.”. Gay, on the other hand, n be ed to scribe a person of any genr who experienc same-sex attractn, although is most often ed to scribe a man who is attracted to men.

On June 28, 1969, the New York Cy police raid the Stonewall Inn, a bar equented by gay and genr-nonnformg people (at a time when terms like LGBTQ didn’t yet exist). Partially rponse to Stonewall, 1970, queer activists New York Cy anized a march to Central Park wh the theme “Gay Pri.” A more prehensive history of the Stonewall Rt or the Stonewall Uprisg n be found our Pri Month explaer.

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Queer lerally means “strange or odd om a nventnal viewpot,” and by at least by the late 1800s, queer was ployed as a rogatory term for an effemate or gay man. I e equently, much to my straight iends’ nfn (and some of my gay iends’ dismay) several ocsns, people have lled me out on the age of “that’s so gay, ” cludg my own fay members. My equent arguments have often been, “I mean gay as lame, not gay as gay, ” or, “Whatever, that’s not what I meant and you know , ” or even, “Whatever, language evolv.

THE COMPLEXY OF ‘THAT'S SO GAY'

“Gay” riv om the 14th Century English-French word “gai” (I’m not exactly sure how to pronounce that, I took Spanish) meang “cheery. And sce beg “gay” was nsired beg a b of a heathen, ’s only natural that if you had proper blogil sex and wanted a wife, two kids, and all that nonsense, you’d be nsired “straight.

By the end of the 1960s, “gay” had been well tablished as meang “homosexual” om s “reee” wasn’t until the 1970s that “gay” had veloped a pejorative meang. So, at least when people first started sayg, “that’s gay, ” the associatn that beg gay is negative was still is, until the 21st century, when gay culture began to enter the mastream, people started to object to the e of “gay” the pejorative sense as offensive and homophobic. Here’s a good example: Brish rad host Chris Moyl once said on air, “I do not want that one, ’s gay, ” reference to a rgtone, g que the uproar.

A 2006 BBC lg by the Board of Governors on Moyl’s e of the word stated: “The word ‘gay’, addn to beg ed to mean ‘homosexual’ or ‘reee’, was often now ed to mean ‘lame’ or ‘bbish’. This is a wispread current age of the word amongst young people… The word ‘gay’ … need not be offensive… or homophobic… Moyl was simply keepg up wh velopments English age. ”So, now that you’ve read a summarized history of the word, “gay” and how has had a different fn, like, every other century, do that change your opn on the phrase, “that’s gay”?