"That's So Gay" Is Jt So Wrong | Psychology Today

Contents:

• THE TE MEANG BEHD “THAT’S SO GAY”
• "THAT'S SO GAY" IS JT SO WRONG
• THAT'S SO GAY
• WHAT’S SO BAD ABOUT “THAT’S SO GAY”?
• THAT’S SO GAY
• MEANG OF GAY ENGLISH
• COMMENTARY: WHY “THAT’S SO GAY” IS OKAY…OR NOT
• MEANG OF UR SO GAY BY KATY PERRY
• GAY (HOMOSEXUAL) AND GAY (HAPPY)
• WHAT DO IT MEAN TO BE GAY? DEFN AND MEANG OF GAY
• IS IT OKAY TO SAY “THAT’S SO GAY”?
• GAY
• THE COMPLEXY OF ‘THAT'S SO GAY'

THE TE MEANG BEHD “THAT’S SO GAY”

So, like, if ’s wh my iends and someone says “that’s so gay”; I know ’s a very different meang than a kid who jt tripped and another one said “that’s so gay”, you know what I mean?

Vidisha Sharma: I agree wh what Sofia said about nnotatn; if ’s someone gay, like myself, and I make jok like “oh my god that’s so gay” or “hahaha I’m so gay”. : Also, ’s jt bee people thk ’s quirky to say , like, “cê é tão gay, s viado” and that kd of stuff; ’s bee ’s popular and a lot of people are sayg . Some young adults might feel that is okay to e this phrase as a joke or an sult bee don’t affect them, and and feel that“long gone are the tim when gay people were opprsed”, but they are wrong.

In the news, ’s mon nowadays to see a child murred ld blood bee they told their parents they were gay, an example beg Anthony Avalos. This 10-year-old boy had e out as gay days before his murr and was found wh severe signs of physil harm cludg malnutrn, cigarette burns, and bis.

"THAT'S SO GAY" IS JT SO WRONG

If you ask them about , as some rearchers have, they often will sist that is not tend as homophobic language, jt a harmls phrase to exprs tratn or somethg siar. ” Later when the parents learned their children were gay, they apologized to them for sayg the thgs, but the damage was already done.

But parents who are enough aware of language’s substrata n help by helpg their kids’ schools unrstand the value of practicg the same kd of zero tolerance for homophobic language that they do for racist or anti-Semic or bullyg language. Yet the ial fdgs om my terviews wh 40 gay youth om four universi suggts a more plex picture, wh no clear agreement on what the phrase means or s effects.

For them, gay had two distct meangs which they were able to distguish between – when refers to sexual inty and when refers, separately, to somethg beg “bbish”. I argued that straight men’s e of phras like “that’s so gay” uld only be unrstood by three key factors: first, the tent wh which was said; send, the social ntext (homophobic or otherwise); and third, the effect had. But when is said settgs where sexual mori are out, proud and socially clud, and heterosexual men are iends wh their openly gay peers, tak on different meangs.

THAT'S SO GAY

Most of the young gay people my study felt “that’s so gay” would only be homophobic if was directed at a gay person, and wh negative tent. If young gay people are sayg that they do not experience the phrase “that’s so gay” as homophobic – and if they are even g the phrase themselv – then perhaps we should accept their arguments and ncentrate on other battl.

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WHAT’S SO BAD ABOUT “THAT’S SO GAY”?

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THAT’S SO GAY

Adam* said was dangero to e out as gay his home untry and feared beg forced to an arranged marriage wh a said he was "so lucky" to wed his soulmate, Ray, Manchter and wish everyone uld marry who they love. There are more than 60 untri wh laws that crimalise same-sex sexual acts acrdg to the Internatnal Lbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans and Intersex Associatn, cludg Sdi Arabia.

'Authentilly myself'Ray said he had also stggled growg up gay the 1970s and 80s England, which was "tough" said his relig school "dmmed to you, 'you are gog to hell'" Adam returned home to Sdi Arabia, spe beg more than 3, 000 apart and later rtricted by the Covid-19 panmic, they kept touch daily and the romance years ago, Ray proposed on a vio ll and after succsfully applyg for a UK fiancé visa, Adam moved to Manchter December 2022.

Adam said he had been aaid to even wear lours his home untry so the first thg he did when he moved was start to "grow my mullet, got my ears pierced and booked appotments for tattoos" relled how, ntrast, one of his gay iends Sdi had been forced to marry a woman, addg: "It has ed not only his life but the life of his wife. The uple, who live London, said a "really betiful memory" was on the way home when one of their sons shouted out of the black b wdow to Trafalgar Square, "My dads jt got married" and cheered "Yay, gay marriage". Pri, formerly known as Gay Pri, is a regnn of LGBTQ inty, affirmatn of equal rights, and celebratn of visibily, digny, and diversy the LGBTQ muny.

MEANG OF GAY ENGLISH

While the word homosexual is still ocsnally ed some ntexts, you might have noticed that don’t make an appearance any versn of the LGBTQ acronym. As our age note on the term stat, “up until 1973, homosexualy was listed The Diagnostic and Statistil Manual of Mental Disorrs (DSM), psychiatry’s standard reference on the classifitn of mental illns.

And many feel that this word plac undue emphasis on sexual activy, or that sounds overly clil.” In fact, the term homosexual was liberately rejected by early gay rights activists bee, acrdg to The New York Tim, “they did not want to be intified as exclively sexual begs.”.

Gay, on the other hand, n be ed to scribe a person of any genr who experienc same-sex attractn, although is most often ed to scribe a man who is attracted to men.

COMMENTARY: WHY “THAT’S SO GAY” IS OKAY…OR NOT

On June 28, 1969, the New York Cy police raid the Stonewall Inn, a bar equented by gay and genr-nonnformg people (at a time when terms like LGBTQ didn’t yet exist). Partially rponse to Stonewall, 1970, queer activists New York Cy anized a march to Central Park wh the theme “Gay Pri.” A more prehensive history of the Stonewall Rt or the Stonewall Uprisg n be found our Pri Month explaer. Queer lerally means “strange or odd om a nventnal viewpot,” and by at least by the late 1800s, queer was ployed as a rogatory term for an effemate or gay man.

MEANG OF UR SO GAY BY KATY PERRY

I e equently, much to my straight iends’ nfn (and some of my gay iends’ dismay) several ocsns, people have lled me out on the age of “that’s so gay, ” cludg my own fay members.

My equent arguments have often been, “I mean gay as lame, not gay as gay, ” or, “Whatever, that’s not what I meant and you know , ” or even, “Whatever, language evolv. “Gay” riv om the 14th Century English-French word “gai” (I’m not exactly sure how to pronounce that, I took Spanish) meang “cheery.

And sce beg “gay” was nsired beg a b of a heathen, ’s only natural that if you had proper blogil sex and wanted a wife, two kids, and all that nonsense, you’d be nsired “straight. By the end of the 1960s, “gay” had been well tablished as meang “homosexual” om s “reee” wasn’t until the 1970s that “gay” had veloped a pejorative meang.

GAY (HOMOSEXUAL) AND GAY (HAPPY)

So, at least when people first started sayg, “that’s gay, ” the associatn that beg gay is negative was still is, until the 21st century, when gay culture began to enter the mastream, people started to object to the e of “gay” the pejorative sense as offensive and homophobic.

Here’s a good example: Brish rad host Chris Moyl once said on air, “I do not want that one, ’s gay, ” reference to a rgtone, g que the uproar. A 2006 BBC lg by the Board of Governors on Moyl’s e of the word stated: “The word ‘gay’, addn to beg ed to mean ‘homosexual’ or ‘reee’, was often now ed to mean ‘lame’ or ‘bbish’.

This is a wispread current age of the word amongst young people… The word ‘gay’ … need not be offensive… or homophobic… Moyl was simply keepg up wh velopments English age.

WHAT DO IT MEAN TO BE GAY? DEFN AND MEANG OF GAY

”So, now that you’ve read a summarized history of the word, “gay” and how has had a different fn, like, every other century, do that change your opn on the phrase, “that’s gay”? If someone says “that’s so gay, ” whout a sgle thought towards the LGBT muny around people who don’t terpret that e of “gay” as meang “homosexual, ” is still offensive?

So, “that’s gay, ” don’t have a negative nnotatn for beg said, I’m very aware that many, many other members of the LGBT muny haven’t been as privileged as I am and may have experienced homophobia s worst forms. ” was yelled at you on a daily basis, if you were bullied or threatened, or if you’ve experienced vlence or straight up discrimatn bee of your sexualy, why wouldn’t “that’s gay” have a negative nnotatn?

” But when someone says to you, “Oh, I didn’t mean that way, ” that don’t mean that they’re necsarily beg a dick, or that they’re g as an exce to say hateful thgs, or that they’re a racist, sexist, or homophobe. The song, which featur lyrics like “you don’t even like boys” and “you’re so sad, maybe you should buy a happy meal, ” ed some ntroversy due to s potential homophobic nnotatns. Katy Perry herself has explaed that the song was not meant to be homophobic, but rather a way to scribe someone who is “pretent and fake.

IS IT OKAY TO SAY “THAT’S SO GAY”?

” However, she has clarified her tentns behd the song var terviews, statg that was not meant to be homophobic and that she has many LGBTQ+ iends who she supports and rpects.

Katy Perry’s experienc wh “Ur So Gay” also monstrate the importance of owng up to one’s mistak and makg efforts to learn and grow om them. Katy Perry has not released any mic specifilly addrsg the ntroversy surroundg “Ur So Gay, ” but she has ntued to feature LGBTQ+ them and imagery her work. The term gay is equently ed as a synonym for homosexual; female homosexualy is often referred to as different tim and different cultur, homosexual behavur has been varly approved of, tolerated, punished, and banned.

Homosexualy was not unmon ancient Greece and Rome, and the relatnships between adult and adolcent mal particular have bee a chief foc of Wtern classicists recent years.

GAY

Others—om factns wh mastream Prottantism to anizatns of Reform rabbis—have advoted, on theologil as well as social grounds, the full acceptance of homosexuals and their relatnships. Morn velopments Attus toward homosexualy are generally flux, partially as a rult of creased polil activism (see gay rights movement) and efforts by homosexuals to be seen not as aberrant personali but as differg om “normal” dividuals only their sexual orientatn.

The nflictg views of homosexualy—as a variant but normal human sexual behavur on one hand, and as psychologilly viant behavur on the other—rema prent most societi the 21st century, but they have been largely rolved ( the profsnal sense) most veloped untri. The Amerin Psychiatric Associatn, for example, classified “ego-syntonic homosexualy” (the ndn of a person ntent wh his or her homosexualy) as a mental illns 1973. Nohels, some relig groups ntue to emphasize reparative therapy the attempt to “cure” homosexualy through prayer, unselg, and behavur modifitn.

Selected theori of homosexualy Psychologists the 19th and 20th centuri, most of whom classified homosexualy as a form of mental illns, veloped a variety of theori on s orig. Together wh a growg acceptance of homosexualy as a mon exprsn of human sexualy, long-standg beliefs about homosexuals had begun to lose crence. The stereotyp of male homosexuals as weak and effemate and lbians as mascule and aggrsive, which were wispread the Wt as recently as the 1950s and early ’60s, have largely been disrd.

THE COMPLEXY OF ‘THAT'S SO GAY'

The Ksey report of 1948, for example, found that 30 percent of adult Amerin mal among Ksey’s subjects had engaged some homosexual activy and that 10 percent reported that their sexual practice had been exclively homosexual for a perd of at least three years between the ag of 16 and 55.

A range of more recent surveys, ncerng predomantly homosexual behavur as well as same-genr sexual ntact adulthood, have yield rults that are both higher and lower than those intified by Ksey. Instead of tegorizg people absolute terms as eher homosexual or heterosexual, Ksey observed a spectm of sexual activy, of which exclive orientatns of eher type make up the extrem. Although the topic of homosexualy was ltle discsed the public fom durg the early part of the 20th century, beme a polil issue many Wtern untri durg the late 20th century.

This was particularly te the Uned Stat, where the gay rights movement is often seen as a late offshoot of var civil rights movements of the 1960s. After the 1969 Stonewall rts, which New York Cy policemen raid a gay bar and met wh staed ristance, many homosexuals were embolned to intify themselv as gay men or lbians to iends, to relativ, and even to the public at large. In rponse to their activism, many jurisdictns enacted laws banng discrimatn agast homosexuals, and an creasg number of employers Ameri and European untri agreed to offer “domtic partner” benefs siar to the health re, life surance and, some s, pensn benefs available to heterosexual married upl.