As a parent, you probably want what's bt for your child no matter what. But if your child out as gay, lbian, or bisexual, might e as a shock—many parents feel unprepared, upset, or even a ltle nfed. By learng a...
Contents:
- WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR CHILD SAYS: "I'M GAY"
- HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOUR CHILD IS GAY, LBIAN OR BISEXUAL
- EXPLAG IT TO YOUR KIDS: WHAT DO 'BEG GAY' MEAN?
- MY SON MIGHT BE GAY. WHAT SHOULD I SAY TO HIM?
- 5 POWERFUL THGS YOU CAN DO IF YOUR CHILD TELLS YOU, "I'M GAY."
- HOW TO TALK TO YOUR CHILD WHO IS QUTNG OR INTIFI AS LBIAN, GAY, BISEXUAL, TRANSGENR, QUEER OR ASEXUAL (LGBTQA)
WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR CHILD SAYS: "I'M GAY"
* how do you talk to your child about being gay *
Your child should know about gay and lbian people, and also bi/pansexual people, aromantic people, asexual people, transgenr people, et cetera. Expla you n't tell for sure if someone is gay by how they act or look. Some men are "feme" and some women are "mascule" but are not gay.
Some men are "mascule" and some women are "feme" but are gay. Wearg speedos, wearg brief unrwear, havg a lisp, havg a particular haircut, speakg a high or low voice, huggg someone of the same genr, seeg someone of the same genr naked, takg a nu shower a locker room, listeng to show tun, et cetera, are all exampl of thgs that do not make someone gay. Expla that some gay people act "stereotypil" ways, and some do not.
HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOUR CHILD IS GAY, LBIAN OR BISEXUAL
Do kids unrstand what homosexualy is and that 's okay or are they too young? Sometim 's actually easier to talk about homosexualy wh kids sce they haven't picked up on as many societal msag as adults have and they're not g to the nversatn wh as many prenceived notns.
Two iends n love each other whout beg gay. Lbian, gay, bisexual, transgenr, queer, and genr nonnformg people are a part of every muny and beloved members of many fai. When parents learn that their child is gay, lbian, bisexual, or transgenr, they n experience a range of emotns.
As a matter of fact, you might someday look back and fd that you are grateful for the experience of havg a gay or lbian child. Well, my study of 65 fai of gay and lbian youth for the book, Comg Out, Comg Home: Helpg Fai Adjt to a Gay or Lbian Child, I found that some parents get to the pot where they believe that the experience of havg a gay child actually ma them a better person—more open-md and sensive to the needs of others, particularly those other mory groups.
EXPLAG IT TO YOUR KIDS: WHAT DO 'BEG GAY' MEAN?
If you jt found out your child is gay, lbian, bisexual, or transgenr, you may be thkg that such ias are prepostero. The tstworthy nfidants let them vent but also rrected some of the misperceptns they absorbed om society, such as that gay people are lonely, unhappy, promiscuo, not fay-oriented, unable to have children, or sted for an unhappy life.
MY SON MIGHT BE GAY. WHAT SHOULD I SAY TO HIM?
Contact Parents, Fay, and Friends of Lbians and Gays (PFLAG). List of Helpful Books for Parents of Gay and Lbian Children.
Straight Parents Gay Children: Keepg Fai Together (revised edn). Beyond Acceptance: Parents of Lbians, and Gays Talk About Their Experienc. Somethg to Tell You: The Road Fai Travel when a Child is Gay.
5 POWERFUL THGS YOU CAN DO IF YOUR CHILD TELLS YOU, "I'M GAY."
Comg Out, Comg Home: Helpg Fai Adjt to a Gay or Lbian Child. Fortunate Fai: Catholic fai wh lbian dghters and gay sons. Mom, Dad, I'm Gay: How Fai Negotiate Comg Out.
But if your child out as gay, lbian, or bisexual, might e as a shock—many parents feel unprepared, upset, or even a ltle nfed. Bisexual people often hear that their sexualy is “jt a phase, ” and that they’ll eventually be eher straight or gay.
HOW TO TALK TO YOUR CHILD WHO IS QUTNG OR INTIFI AS LBIAN, GAY, BISEXUAL, TRANSGENR, QUEER OR ASEXUAL (LGBTQA)
Try lookg at s like Advot for Youth, The Fay Acceptance Project, and Parents, Fai, Friends, and Alli of Lbians and Gays (PFLAG). At what age would a child know for sure she's homosexual? If your child says she's homosexual, regardls of her age, be acceptg and show love and support.
Article SummaryXTo accept that your child is homosexual or bisexual, the first and most important thg is to make sure your child knows that you love them. For more rmatn on how to talk your child after learng they are homosexual or bisexual, see below. They immediately clocked as gay, while we immediately clocked them as we warmed up to another, one mom anxly said: "I have a qutn: I am pretty sure my son is gay, but I don't know what to do.
"For example, if someone the word "gay" place of "stupid, " remd them that the two are not terchangeable, and suggt they should say what they actually mean stead.