What to Do When Your Child Says: "I'm Gay" | Psychology Today

Contents:

• “MOM, DAD… I’M GAY.” A CHRISTIAN PARENT’S RPONSE
• PARENTS OF GAY CHILDREN AND THE ISSU THEY FACE
• WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR CHILD SAYS: "I'M GAY"
• WHEN MY DGHTER SAID, 'I'M GAY'
• RAISG A GAY TEEN: WHEN FAH, FAY AND SEXUALY LLI

“MOM, DAD… I’M GAY.” A CHRISTIAN PARENT’S RPONSE

Ken Felts, who didn't e out until he was 90, has jt gotten married Ken Felts didn't e out as gay until he was 90. Ken Felts didn't e out as gay until he was 90. In 2020, his dghter was the first person he told he was gay.

Rachel Held Evans nclus her blog post If my son or dghter were gay wh this paragraph:. If God bls Dan and me wh a child who is gay, I would want that child to know whout a doubt that he or she is loved unndnally.

I believe Rachel’s motivatn is to create a more welg and lovg environment the church for those who intify themselv as homosexuals, or who stggle wh homosexual sire.

PARENTS OF GAY CHILDREN AND THE ISSU THEY FACE

I admire and agree wh her motive, and mt say that I’ve learned om her this area of beg much more reful how I speak and wre about homosexualy. First, she don’t munite any ncern about the sfulns of homosexual sir nor the immoraly of homosexual actns. She seems to nvey that homosexual sir are not part of human brokenns, and that to pursue homosexual practic do not have any bearg on a person’s relatnship wh Christ.

” There is no ditn that she se anythg wrong or unbiblil about homosexualy. Send, Rachel seems to intify everyone who tak the view that homosexual sir are part of broken human sfulns, and that homosexual actns are s, as bulli.

However, ’s irrponsible and unfair to group all who say that homosexualy is immoral as bulli of Christ’s ltle on. What do you mean by “I thk I’m gay”? Are you therefore planng to pursue homosexual relatnships?

WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR CHILD SAYS: "I'M GAY"

Sixth, if your son agre that homosexualy is sful, and he wants to have victory over the temptatns, then there are many Gospel promis you n enurage him wh.

WHEN MY DGHTER SAID, 'I'M GAY'

However, if he says that he believ homosexualy to be okay and he’s cid to pursue , then while assurg him of your ntued love and re, you mt lovgly warn him of the spirual and physil dangers of homosexualy. Seventh, I’d enurage the son not to see himself as a homosexual, not to fe himself by his sexualy.

Rather I’d want him to see himself as creature ma God’s image, a man wh many parts to his inty, a person wh many gifts, a son wh a diverse character and personaly, one part of which, at least for the moment, is to have a homosexual sir. Eighth, I would ask him to keep g to church, pecially as homosexualy is sometim the rult of worshippg self rather than God (Romans 1:24-25).

But I would ask his permissn to let the pastor know about his suatn bee I’d want to urge the pastor to greater sensivy towards those stgglg wh homosexualy.

RAISG A GAY TEEN: WHEN FAH, FAY AND SEXUALY LLI

Like Rachel, I too have wced and crged as preachers have nmned homosexualy as if is an unfiveable abomatn that only weird and wicked people outsi of church stggled wh. Is somehow nceivable that there are some our church who have stggled wh homosexual sire and have fallen to s this area? Where I do disagree wh Rachel, is her refal to accept that hell and judgment are any part of the Christian msage about s, cludg homosexual s.

Y, the Gospel wel sners, heterosexual and homosexual sners, but, thanks be to God, do not leave there (1 Cor.

Parents of gay children may be shocked when their kids e out of the closet, but once the dt settl, most parents realize that their child is the same one they have loved and red for all their liv, they jt happen to be gay.