‘My Hband’s Not Gay’: Meet The Cast Of TLC Special About 3 Mormon Coupl

Contents:

• EP 19. MY HBAND'S NOT GAY
• THE PROFOUND LACK OF EMPATHY MY HBAND'S NOT GAY
• WTF? TLC'S NEW SPECIAL MY HBAND'S NOT GAY IS EVEN WEIRR THAN IT SOUNDS: WATCH NOW
• ‘MY HBAND’S NOT GAY’: MEET THE CAST OF TLC SPECIAL ABOUT 3 MORMON COUPL
• MY HBAND'S NOT GAY: PILOT

EP 19. MY HBAND'S NOT GAY

'My Hband's Not Gay' is an episo that featur four Mormon men who have the unique or unual sire to live a heterosexual liftyle; however, they claim that they are attracted to men. The men refer to themselv as "SSA" or "same-sex attracted, " not gay, and believe that they are not vlatg their fah by ntug to live wh their wiv.

The men exprs their beliefs and share their feelgs on how they have always known they were attracted to men, but they do not see themselv as homosexual. The men explore why they want to have straight, tradnal marriag stead of livg openly as gay men.

THE PROFOUND LACK OF EMPATHY MY HBAND'S NOT GAY

Addnally, a group of gay men who promote the ia of livg an openly gay liftyle is shown havg a discsn on why society tends to stigmatize people who have non-tradnal liftyl. It has started a ntroversy—one that reveals a lot about cultural tensns brilliance of the televisn special My Hband's Not Gay begs wh s name. And prompts the pable, skg feelg that the lady doth prott too much: If she has to expla that her hband's not gay, she's already admted that his attractn to her is ls than, many people are angry about My Hband's Not Gay, which is s send stroke of brilliance.

The TLC show, which aired on Sunday night, follows four men who all experience "same-sex attractn, " or "SSA, " but who don't want to live "the gay liftyle" bee of their Mormon relig beliefs. As one of the men's wiv, Tanya, phily puts : "SSA, not gay. " In the lead-up to the special's premiere, more than 100, 000 people signed a petn to get ncelled, claimg promot "'reparative therapy, ' a discreded and dangero practice that falsely claims to turn gay people straight.

This approach to programmg succeeds, wildly, bee 's a pure distillatn of the appeal of realy televisn: self-righteo problem, though, wh makg realy televisn about gay men who don't want to be gay is that will variably lack empathy for the pa that likely f those men's liv. The failure of My Hband's Not Gay is one of style, not substance; but the fact that has been protted for s substance says a lot about the cultural tensns surroundg homosexualy Ameri. The openg of My Hband's Not Gay is a straight llback to the the openg sequence of the fictnal HBO seri Big Love, about a polygamo fay of fundamentalist Mormons.

WTF? TLC'S NEW SPECIAL MY HBAND'S NOT GAY IS EVEN WEIRR THAN IT SOUNDS: WATCH NOW

They're also playful about gay stereotyp, like not beg able to play sports.

And my attractn to mal—those are the two thgs that are kd of gay about me. It's a bound performance of sexualy: They've stctured their relatnships so that they n exprs their feelgs of attractn and even toy wh gay inty while still settg firm lims on their behavr.

‘MY HBAND’S NOT GAY’: MEET THE CAST OF TLC SPECIAL ABOUT 3 MORMON COUPL

The hbands n to an old iend who has cid to "live the gay liftyle"—what will he say to them? Watchg My Hband's Not Gay is like the passive emotnal experience of wanrg through a low-budget rnival, gawkg at the sishow eaks for a short moment before losg attentn and movg on.

All three of the upl featured have worked wh an anizatn lled Voic of Hope, sharg their experienc on tape and speakg publicly support of "non-gay liftyl" for people who experience "same-sex attractn. " While uld fairly be lled propaganda, 's not exactly "prayg away the gay": Voic of Hope is part of the Mormon anizatn North Star Internatnal, which says on s webse that "whether or not dividuals choose to make efforts to dimish or elimate homosexual feelgs, and whether or not those efforts succeed, is ls important to North Star’s purpos. Sendg the msage that beg gay is somethg that n and ought to be changed, or that you should reject your sexual orientatn by marryg someone of the oppose sex, " the petn says.

MY HBAND'S NOT GAY: PILOT

More straightforwardly: This show reprents a worldview that says beg and actg gay is a s. By airg a televisn special about this worldview, objectors say, TLC is implicly endorsg —which is a form of will be the next great nflict surroundg gayns Ameri: between those who mand acceptance of homosexualy and those who fd morally unacceptable.