3 Ways to Know if You Are Gay - wikiHow

Contents:

• 'HOMOSEXUAL OCD': STRAIGHT MEN WHO SPECT THEY ARE GAY
• AM I GAY IF I HAVE SAME SEX FANTASI?
• INTSIVE THOUGHTS ABOUT BEG GAY
• YOU ARE NOT GAY, 'S HOCD, FOR ALL YOU SUFFERERS.
• MEET THE STRAIGHT MEN WHO ARE TERRIFIED THEY ARE GAY
• HOW DO I KNOW I’M NOT REALLY GAY/STRAIGHT?
• HOCD; GAY OR STRAIGHT OR OCD?
• HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY

'HOMOSEXUAL OCD': STRAIGHT MEN WHO SPECT THEY ARE GAY

24, 2014— -- Steven Brodsky, a psychologist who specializ obssive-pulsive disorr, says that at any one time he has a "handful" of clients who are straight and spect that they are gay.

J., said he had one adult patient who was so crippled by obssive thoughts about beg gay that he was unable to live penntly and had to move back wh his parents to pe. Brodsky said a prev therapist had misdiagnosed his patient as gay, and at the patient's requt, sent him off to reparative therapy, a ntroversial method that has not been proven to be effective and n be harmful. "Brodsky argu that today's open acceptance of homosexualy and gay liftyl n bld therapists to this kd of anxiety disorr straight men.

Jack Drcher, a noted New York Cy psychiatrist who is nsired an expert gay and lbian mental health and treats patients for OCD, agreed that "beg worried that one might be gay is not the same thg as beg gay.

AM I GAY IF I HAVE SAME SEX FANTASI?

""A person wh OCD who has is havg tsive thoughts about whether or not he is gay, is not gay, the sense that he has not rporated a homosexual orientatn any mimally affirmg way to his inty, " said Drcher. "Also, if he is not actually attracted to people of the same sex, do not masturbate to fantasi of people of the same sex, is not really aroed by same sex pornography, then is hard to make the se that he has a homosexual orientatn.

Another was heterosexual and feared he had agreed wh Brodsky that some therapists may miss an OCD diagnosis, but "the most likely e of that is not that they are too gay-affirmg but that they lack trag regnizg the symptoms of OCD.

"Repeatedly, anxly, reviewg past suatns, ttg themselv, askg for reassurance, pulsively rearchg the Inter for gay tts, ttg themselv wh gay porn or gay people. "As for treatment, Brodsky said he would help a patient who was tly gay validate their feelgs and atta self-acceptance, "achievg lm and peace of md.

INTSIVE THOUGHTS ABOUT BEG GAY

Scientists are not yet sure exactly what someone to be lbian, gay, bisexual, or straight, but recent rearch shows that there are blogil factors place before birth that fluence people’s sexual orientatn. But around 3 years ago one of my iends at school (senr year of highschool) asked sce I touch people alot am I gay?

Nothg I have tried all, but whenever I start to masturbate my thoughts are immediately "your gay so you should like guys. I have been aroed by bi porn before and sometim gay porn but that was when I was 12 or 13 so anythg aroed me and I didn't put much thought to .

YOU ARE NOT GAY, 'S HOCD, FOR ALL YOU SUFFERERS.

Currently sufferg om OCD (Obssive Compulsive Disorr)Recurrg unwanted or tsive thoughts about your own sexualyConstantly reassurg yourself that you are straightAvoidg people of your same genr due to anxiety or unwanted fears that you might be gayWorryg that you might be sendg out “signals” that will make others thk you are gayHomosexual thoughts are repulsive to you, rather than arogFeelg no attractn to your same sexRepeatg an actn bee you worry that you might have done somethg a way that mak others thk you are gay (example: a man repeatedly gets up and ss down on a chair bee he worri that he tak a seat a way that looks too feme). Homosexual thoughts are enjoyable and/or arog to the person, even if they hi their sexual orientatn om others or are ashamed of Havg had past sexual experienc wh those of their same genrPreferrg to date or have sexual enunters wh people of their same genr stead of wh those of the oppose sexOften, people who are gay report havg felt differently than their same-sex peers at an early age. Homosexual Obssive Compulsive Disorr (HOCD) is tegorized by tsive thoughts revolvg around one’s sexual orientatn.

MEET THE STRAIGHT MEN WHO ARE TERRIFIED THEY ARE GAY

Homosexual OCD n be bilatg to one’s assured that HOCD Treatment volv many of the same typ of therapi ed for other typ of OCD. A person sufferg om this sub-type of OCD nstantly doubts their sexual orientatn:A straight person worri whether they might actually be gay even though they haven’t doubted their sexual orientatn the pastThey might worry that homosexualy is “tchg”They may thk that talkg wh a gay person will make them act out by triggerg their own latent homosexual tennci.

Sometim, HOCD sufferers are so sure they are gay that they actually out themselv and beg homosexual relatnships.

Where a tly gay person obtas happs and relief the act of revealg their homosexual orientatn, HOCD people who e out ntue to doubt their wh tradnal OCD, people who are affected by this ternalized homophobia engage ruals to help them alleviate their anxiety and prove to themselv that they are tly straight. When around lbians or gay men, they might check their bodi for aroal or qutn if they are attracted to the person.

HOW DO I KNOW I’M NOT REALLY GAY/STRAIGHT?

People wh Homosexual OCD may also keep up a nng mental dialogue or obss over past sexual enunters an effort to nvce themselv that they are straight. They might also perform washg ruals if they are around a gay person, may act overtly to assure themselv of their sexual orientatn, or may even blatantly act out agast gay people orr to prove they are straight.

HOCD; GAY OR STRAIGHT OR OCD?

Addnally, HOCD sufferers might avoid physil ntact or beg alone wh gay people and may even rry this behavr to shunng same-sex public rtrooms or not eatg public se the food was prepared by a gay person. Durg therapy ssns the patient fac the suatns that trigger their obssns orr to learn how to al wh their ternalized homophobia and rce their fixatn.

If they don’t, they may unsel the person to help them accept their homosexualy which will only aggravate the person’s HOCD more rmatn and help wh HOCD ’s symptoms the Delray Beach, FL area, please ntact Dr. After i purchased thoughts me up, you are gay, e out of the closet also gay imag and such which i'm also part , the thoughts said to me you should buy aga to remove the gayns.

Not buyg aga( y i also got ocd sometim when buyg thgs)After that was hard, my thoughts had basilly epic battl between the gay crap my head which i know a't real and the real thgs that i know i'm straight. Today hocd started aga, thkg about i didn't repurchase and i mt be gay now bee i purchased onle had gay thoughts and imag after, so i mt be gay now. I don't really re about how people would treat me even as a straight person if you don't like me there's the door, but even if i really was gay i wouldn't give 2 shs about what people thk aswell.

HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY

Another thg is that when your thoughts sayg your gay and you try to fight off bee ofurse you don't feel right wh , and you say NO IM HETERO, and also keep checkg and repeatg thought about the straight thgs you did the past etc, that's somethg you shouldn't do anymore, nfirmg that you're straight. That means you are not gay, 's jt Hocd tryg to ntrol you domate you, make you secure while there's nothg to be aaid of, bee a't real.

They are thoughts, imag and body signals created by thg is that if you're gay you should have known already the past.

You wouldn't be aaid of beg gay self, but be more aaid of the fact how people for stance iends, fay, people at work would treat you the future. You wouldn't have battl your head which your thoughts sayg you're gay and you keep nfirmg you are not when lookg at your straight past.