After Craigslist and Manhunt, Here is Where Gays Will Get Their Clicks

Contents:

• AFTER CRAIGSLIST AND MANHUNT, HERE IS WHERE GAYS WILL GET THEIR CLICKS
• GANGBANGED AND BRED BY HIS DADDY'S FRIENDS (TABOO GAY GROUP SEX EROTI‪)‬
• "I SEE NOTHG WRONG WH STEALTHG ANONYMO SEXUAL SUATNS": ASSEMBLAG OF SEXUAL CONSENT GAY, BISEXUAL, AND OTHER QUEER MEN'S ACUNTS OF "STEALTHG" AN ONLE BAREBACKG FOM
• GAY GUYS WHO CONSTANTLY BRAG ABOUT "BREEDG" MARRIED STRAIGHT GUYS.
• THE GAY BREED GROUP
• LARRY HAWORTH'S LIST: GAY PORN TUBE

AFTER CRAIGSLIST AND MANHUNT, HERE IS WHERE GAYS WILL GET THEIR CLICKS

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The gays have been g the ter to get laid sce AOL lnched chat rooms to Friendster, but wh Craigslist and Manhunt g their formulas, what is a homo wh a hard-on to do now? "Octave, The Rul of the Game, Jean Renoir, 1939Toby, a Passive BarebackerToby is a whe, 35-year-old, HIV-negative gay man who me to see me bee of prsn and lonels.

Toby sound bleak when he scribed the Christian lerature she regularly sent him about the evils of homosexualy and how gays were beg plagued by AIDS as punishment om God. Lt we fet the potential ser nsequenc of havg sex whout ndoms, I clu the latt rmatn about the health risks of ndomls sex, discsg the relative safety of HIV-posive men who bareback wh other fected Men Are Takg Sexual RisksThere are abundant theori but no five answers about why gay men take sexual risks. After more than three s of safer sex msag agast the backdrop of gay men sickeng horribly and then dyg, new medil treatments have stemmed the ti of the panmic and offered real hope for longer-term survival to people wh HIV.

GANGBANGED AND BRED BY HIS DADDY'S FRIENDS (TABOO GAY GROUP SEX EROTI‪)‬

Queer theorist Tim Dean (2000) wr: "In view of statistics on new seronversns, some AIDS tors have begun to acknowledge that, unlikely though may seem, remag HIV-negative fact pos signifint psychologil challeng to gay men" (p. To those who have not been workg the gay men's muny for the past 25 years, this statement might seem absurd, but is te that HIV-negative gay men face unique challeng that make seem almost easier to Francis Bay area psychologist Walt Ots (1995) was one of the first mental health profsnals to qutn why gay men who had th far ped beg fected wh HIV were placg themselv at risk for beg so. Ots scribed HIV-negative men who stggled a world and gay muny that, however untentnally, nsired their difficulti nsequential as pared to those of men who were fightg for their liv.

The unfected men's growg visibily triggered old childhood feelgs of beg an outsir, and for some, ntributed to an acute psychologil crisis that often created a nfluence of behavrs and thought patterns that placed them at risk for ntractg have suggted that durg the '80s, gay men unnscly llud wh the general public's equatn of a gay inty wh an AIDS inty (Ots, 1995; Rof, 1996). New York social worker Steve Ball (1998) scrib how durg the height of the AIDS epimic HIV-negative gay men often found themselv the role of regiver, mourner/widower, or outsir, due to their not beg fected wh HIV.

The dynamics scribed by Ots and Ball are part of the munal and psychosocial reali that early the epimic played a role ntributg to the spread of 1988, I wrote about how fear was one large ponent of what propelled gay men to change how they were havg sex (Shernoff & Jimenez, 1988). Gay men who were recently surveyed about their failure to e ndoms durg anal sex repeatedly told rearchers that current AIDS preventn msag do not feel relevant to them and do not nvey an urgency about why ndom e is important (Halkis, Parsons, & Wilton, 2003; Carballo-Dieguez & L, 2003; Mor et al., 2003). Brish psychologist and rearcher Michelle Crossley (2001, 2002) wr that one factor might be a crease the effectivens of the "health promotn" mpaign to change gay men's sexual behavr.

"I SEE NOTHG WRONG WH STEALTHG ANONYMO SEXUAL SUATNS": ASSEMBLAG OF SEXUAL CONSENT GAY, BISEXUAL, AND OTHER QUEER MEN'S ACUNTS OF "STEALTHG" AN ONLE BAREBACKG FOM

Crossley suggts that is impossible to evaluate the efficy of safer-sex msag and of themselv sce ncurrent to when they first began appearg, gay men were overwhelmed by the terror that they might be fected by the then-new disease that was rapidly killg their iends and lovers. They reported beg thrilled to be able to participate a procs that helped them reclaim the joy and fun of gay sex amidst all of the sex-negativy and sex-equalg-ath msag that were undatg them.

Factors That Lead to Sexual Risk-TakgThere are numero theori for why gay men engage unprotected sex, and rearch has explored a wi variety of possible ratnal for the behavr.

The clu:Negative attus toward ndom e (Ots, 1994; Flowers, Smh, Sheeran, & Beail, 1997; Hays, Kegel, & Coat, 1997; Kelly & Kalichman, 1998; Van Ven et al., 1998a; b; Appleby, Miller, & Rothspan, 1999)How beg a mted pared to a nonmted uple relatnship affects whether a ndom is ed (Elford Boldg McGuire & Sher, 2001; Vcke, Bolton, & DeVlechouwer, 2001)Strongly intifyg wh or feelg alienated om the gay muny (Hospers & Kok, 1995; Hays et al., 1997; Seal et al., 2000)Internalized homophobia (Meyer & Dean, 1998; Can, Dolci, & Adler, 1999)A sense of the evabily of beg fected wh HIV as a gay man (Kelly et al., 1990; Kalichman, Kelly, & Rompa, 1997)The effects of substance e (Stall, McKick, Wiley, Coat, & Ostrow, 1986; Stall, Pl, Barrett, Crosby, & Be, 1991; Leigh & Stall, 1993; Stall & Leigh, 1994; Hospers & Kok, 1995; Woody et al., 1999; Royce, Sena, Cat, & Cohen, 1997; Chney, Barrett, & Stall, 1998; Ostrow & Shelby, 2000; Halkis, Parsons, & Stirratt, 2001, Halkis et al., 2003; Halkis & Parsons, 2002; Kalichman & Wehardt, 2001) are probably a multu of other issu at play as well.

GAY GUYS WHO CONSTANTLY BRAG ABOUT "BREEDG" MARRIED STRAIGHT GUYS.

As psychologist and former rearcher at the CDC Ron Stall was quoted as sayg an article the Manhattan gay newspaper Gay Cy News, "There are studi that monstrate a variety of psychosocial health issu, cludg prsn, antigay vlence, childhood sexual abe, or substance abe, n lead gay men to have unsafe sex" (Stall, quoted Osborne, 2002, p. In my own practice, I have intified several factors that appear to lead to sexual risk-takg: lonels, beg HIV-posive, havg unmet timacy needs, feelg alienated om the gay muny, beg love, and a cravg for eper timacy and San Francis, Mor and lleagu (2003) intified a number of issu that ntributed to the cisns gay men make to bareback.

THE GAY BREED GROUP

Dg e among gay men terfer wh the abily and sire to practice safer a wi spectm of ratnal for barebackg exists, subtle distctns mt be ma around the ntext of the behavr. In Toby's se, his barebackg was not related to a sire to feel closer to a beloved partner but rather his sire to nnect sexually and socially wh other gay men and to feel unhibed and ee.

Even when gay men posss a sophistited unrstandg of how HIV is transmted and accurate perceptns of how dangero risky sex n be, many gay men unrtimate their vulnerabily to HIV fectn (McKick, Horstman, & Coat, 1985; Bman & Siegel, 1987; Richard et al., 1988) (2003) also discs a tegory of barebackers that he labels irratnal risk takers. Suarez and Miller (2001) feel that many gay youth who bareback fall to the tegory of irratnal risk takers sce they may have never known anyone wh HIV and hold psimistic attus about the future largely related to their beg gay. Pkerton and Abramson offer possible explanatns for the tenncy to unrtimate the personal risk associated wh risky sex, even among "high-risk" gay men.

LARRY HAWORTH'S LIST: GAY PORN TUBE

To the average gay man, 's those gay men who are overly promiscuo; and to the bath hoe participants, 's those who aren't reful" (Pkerton & Abramson, pp. Many gay men are articulate about how thrillg and timate is to the feel of the warmth of a lover's unsheathed penis and the smooth stimulatn of sk agast sk.

As prevly discsed, recreatnal sex has been intified by at least certa segments of the gay male muny as a means of personal fulfillment and an exprsn of enhanced eedom and self-teem. A gay man who wants to feel liberated, hot, or sexy might view sex whout ndoms as the bt route to fulfillg his sire to feel any of those ways. Schroth (1996) also monstrated that a sample of gay men he studied there was a strong rrelatn between sensatn-seekg and high number of sexual activi and high number of partners.

As evince, they pot to the plethora of personal ads on Web s voted exclively to barebackg as well as on Web s where gay men cise for sex where men state their own HIV stat and the sired stat of potential partners. "That way, once happens I will no longer obss about whether or not I am fected, " he explaed, slumped and miserable on my Exchange and Emotnal ConnectnVcke and lleagu (2001) found that "the rporatn of semen is an important value for many gay cultur, a means of showg votn, belongg, and onens. The many levels of meang and special signifince that givg and receivg of semen has for gay men nnot be unrtimated as a ntributg factor to the rise barebackg -- pecially romantic upl, as will be examed Sectn 2 of this book.