Joe Kort, Ph.D., talks about his new book, "Is My Hband Gay, Straight, or Bi?"
Contents:
- IS FLIRTG BETWEEN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN OKAY?
- CAN A STRAIGHT GUY ETHILLY ACCEPT ORAL SEX OM HIS GAY BUDDY?
- IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
- WHY SOME STRAIGHT PEOPLE MIGHT HAVE GAY SEX
IS FLIRTG BETWEEN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN OKAY?
"My random roommate durg sophomore year happened to be gay. ' His buddi got all homophobic on him, so he asked, 'You guys have never msed around wh another guy? I'm gay, but I hooked up wh a handful of men and women my 30s.
In the end, they're still straight, and I'm still gay and happily married to my hband of 12 years. The differenc between gay and straight men are much harr to discern the days, cludg the ways that affectn is shown. It simply don’t matter so much who is gay and who isn’t ( most quarters), and hangg out wh gay men when you are straight is no big al.
At a recent gay weddg of two lennials, I was stumped by the gut list.
CAN A STRAIGHT GUY ETHILLY ACCEPT ORAL SEX OM HIS GAY BUDDY?
Asi om the grooms and me, I didn’t know, nor uld I tell after many enunters, who was gay and who was straight. I later learned that this waer is not gay. He uld flirt wh gay men and not be out of his fort zone, but he is attracted to women.
So, I asked a straight male acquatance his early 20s about flirtg wh gay men. ” It mak sense, a shrewd nice-lookg younger man his charm and don’t happen to re if the teractn is wh a gay man. Then I asked him whether a gay man flirtg wh him would be okay.
IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
Several gay male iends and I somehow started talkg about how gay and straight men teract so differently than they once did (not so long ago). He wasn’t worried about appearg to be gay, and neher was my 20-year-old iend. As gay men, we should take some tips om the men who are simply fortable their own sk:.
The lson is that everyone n loosen up, pecially gay men who, for so long, have had to be reful about lettg others really know them. For example, when a “closeted” gay or bisexual man has sex wh another man, he views that sex as reflectg his secret gay/bisexual inty. How do the men view homosexualy and LGBTQ2+ rights?
A mory of the men I terviewed were homophobic and held prejudice agast LGBTQ2+ people and this prejudice mak the thought of an LGBTQ2+ inty unappealg to them. My last post scribed a populatn of mal who nsir themselv heterosexual, do not label themselv gay or bisexual, chew volvement wh the LGBT muny, are often married or romantilly volved wh an oppose-sex partner, and who engage sex wh mal or exprs the sire to do so.
WHY SOME STRAIGHT PEOPLE MIGHT HAVE GAY SEX
Due large part to the popularizatn of the topic the btsellg 2005 book On the Down Low: A Journey to the Liv of 'Straight' Black Men Who Sleep wh Men, [i] Lato and Ain-Amerin men are the primary subjects rearch wh non-gay intified MSM. One of the earlit studi, "The Bisexual and Non-Gay Attached Rearch Project" om the early 1990s, found that participants engagg same-sex sexual behavr but not intifyg as gay or bisexual scribed themselv as “kky, ” “normal, ” or “jt a guy. Siar fdgs were found throughout a seri of terviews wh non-gay intified MSM prepared for the Centers for Disease Control and Preventn 2004.
In tally, the men terviewed reported that if sexual activy between men was anonymo, experimental, ocsnal, or if substance e was volved, the act was not “gay. Fally, while there is nflictg data, appears that non-gay intified MSM engage high levels of dg and alhol e. Usg this stricture as a gui, a man who has sex wh another male mt be gay (or bisexual at the least).