While many are beatg up on poor Sri Sri for llg sexualy a tenncy, one should be thankful for any godman who tells to not feel bad about ourselv, whether gay or not.
Ian Parker on Tyler Clementi, the gay Rutgers stunt who mted suici after disverg that his roommate, Dhan Ravi, was tapg his sexual enunters. * ravi gay *
Holland is not the first known LGBT K-pop idol, but you n say that this new generatn of K-pop, he's one of the first idols who admted that he's gay.
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iUEiRd iicloT jbIJNS ptn__cred">Illtratn by John Rter; Photographs: Ravi and Wei: AP; Bridge: Getty</span></div></figure></div><p class="has-dropp has-dropp__lead-standard-headg">Dhan Ravi grew up Plasboro, New Jersey, a large, morn hoe wh wi expans of wood floorg and a swimmg pool out back. Assertive and athletic, he ed “<em class="small">DHARUNISAWESOME</em>” as a puter password and played on an Ultimate Frisbee team. At the time of his high-school graduatn, 2010, his parents bought space the Wt Wdsor and Plasboro High School North yearbook. “Dear Dhan, It has been a pleasure watchg you grow to a rg and rponsible person,” the announcement said. “You are a wonrful son and brother. . . . Keep up your good work. Hold on to your dreams and always strive to achieve your goals. We know that you will succeed.”</p><p class="paywall">One day this fall, Ravi was a urthoe New Bnswick, fifteen to the north, awag a pre-trial hearg. In a wdowls room, he sat between two lawyers, wearg a black su and a gray striped tie. His ey were red. Although he is only neteen, he has a peculiarly large-featured, fully adult face, and vaguely rembl Sacha Baron Cohen. When Ravi is seen high-school photographs wh a five-o’clock shadow, he looks like an impostor.</p><p class="paywall">His father, Ravi Pazhani, a slight man wh metal-ame glass, sat behd him. Some way to the right of Pazhani were Joseph and Jane Clementi. Jane Clementi, who has very straight bangs, wore a gold ccifix. She and her hband form a tall, pale, and formidable-lookg uple. Their youngt son, Tyler, had died a year earlier, and the fay’s tragedy was the silent foc of everyone the room. That September, Tyler Clementi and Ravi were hman roommat at Rutgers Universy, a dormory three om the urtroom. A few weeks to the semter, Ravi and another new stunt, Molly Wei, ed a webm to secretly watch Clementi an embrace wh a young man. Ravi gossiped about him on Twter: “I saw him makg out wh a du. Yay.” Two days later, Ravi tried to set up another viewg. The day after that, Clementi mted suici by jumpg om the Gee Washgton Bridge.</p><p class="paywall">Clementi’s ath beme an ternatnal news story, fg parental anxieti about the hidn worlds of teen-age putg, teen-age sex, and teen-age unkdns. ABC News and others reported that a sex tape had been posted on the Inter. CNN claimed that Clementi’s room had “bee a prison” to him the days before his ath. Next Media Animatn, the Taiwane pany that turns tabloid stori to rtoons, picted Ravi and Wei reelg om the sight of Clementi havg sex unr a blanket. Ellen DeGener clared that Clementi had been “outed as beg gay on the Inter and he killed himself. Somethg mt be done.”</p><p class="paywall">Enraged onle mentary lled for life imprisonment for Ravi and Wei, and Ravi’s home addrs and phone number were published on Twter. Ravi was lled a tormenter and a murrer. Garn State Equaly, a New Jersey gay-rights group, released a statement that read, part, “We are sickened that anyone our society, such as the stunts allegedly rponsible for makg the surrept vio, might nsir stroyg others’ liv as a sport.” Governor Chris Christie, of New Jersey, said, “I don’t know how those two folks are gog to sleep at night, knowg that they ntributed to drivg that young man to that alternative.” Senator Frank Ltenberg and Reprentative Rh Holt, both om New Jersey, troduced the Tyler Clementi Higher Edutn Anti-Harassment Act. Clementi’s story also beme lked to the It Gets Better project—an onle llectn of vio monologu exprsg solidary wh unhappy or harassed gay teens. The se was lnched the day before Clementi’s ath, rponse to the suici, two weeks earlier, of Billy Lus, a fifteen-year-old om Indiana who, for years, had been lled a “fag” and told vic thgs, cludg “You don’t serve to live.” That October, Print Barack Obama taped an It Gets Better msage, referrg to “several young people who were bullied and tnted for beg gay, and who ultimately took their own liv.”</p><p class="paywall">It beme wily unrstood that a closeted stunt at Rutgers had mted suici after vio of him havg sex wh a man was secretly shot and posted onle. In fact, there was no postg, no observed sex, and no closet. But last sprg, shortly before Molly Wei ma a al wh prosecutors, Ravi was dicted on charg of vasn of privacy (sex crim), bias timidatn (hate crim), wns tamperg, and evince tamperg. Bias timidatn is a sentence-booster that attach self to an unrlyg crime—ually, a vlent one. Here the allegatn, lked to snoopg, is eher that Ravi tend to harass Clementi bee he was gay or that Clementi felt he’d been harassed for beg gay. Ravi is not charged nnectn wh Clementi’s ath, but he fac a possible sentence of ten years jail. As he sat the urtroom, his ch propped awkwardly on his fist, his prediment uld be seen eher as a state’s admirably mcular rponse to the abive treatment of a vulnerable young man or as an attempt to crimalize teen-age odns by g statut aimed at people more easily regnizable as hate-mongers and perverts.</p><div><div class="ConsumerMarketgUnThemedWrapper-iUTMTf jssHut nsumer-marketg-un nsumer-marketg-un--article-mid-ntent" role="prentatn" aria-hidn="te"><div class="nsumer-marketg-un__slot nsumer-marketg-un__slot--article-mid-ntent nsumer-marketg-un__slot---ntent"></div><div class="journey-un"></div></div></div><p class="paywall">Ravi had ma four urt appearanc sce his dictment. That morng’s hearg was tend to set a trial date, and to nsir motns prevly submted by Steven Altman, Ravi’s lawyer.</p><div data-attr-viewport-monor="le-recirc" class="le-recirc-wrapper le-recirc-observer-target-1 viewport-monor-anchor"></div><p class="paywall">Judge Glenn Berman announced that he was nyg the fense’s requt to see var documents the posssn of the state, cludg a handwrten document—nceivably, a suici note—found among Clementi’s thgs at Rutgers. Then, over the objectns of Julia McClure, an attorney the Middlex County prosecutor’s office, Berman nfirmed an earlier lg: the fense should privately be given the full name of Clementi’s romantic partner on the night of the alleged offens. The man, known the public rerd as M.B., was a likely prosecutn wns.</p><p class="paywall">Ravi was visibly anx when the judge addrsed him. Last May, Berman remd him, he had rejected a plea offer ma by McClure. “You are prumed nocent,” he said. “But if you are found guilty, the exposure”—the sentencg potential—“is signifint.” For the charge of bias timidatn alone, the judge would be expected to sentence Ravi to between five and ten years. If Ravi accepted the plea offer, he would serve no more than five years. Berman asked Ravi if he unrstood. Ravi said y, an unexpectedly high voice, and gave a reflexive se.</p><p class="paywall">He was not takg this al. Berman set a trial date of Febary 21st. The Clementis waed for Ravi and his father to leave, then walked out, hand hand.</p><p class="has-dropp has-dropp__lead-standard-headg paywall">On a Saturday night Augt, 2010, a week before startg llege, Dhan Ravi cid to look onle for his future Rutgers roommate. He was livg wh his parents Plasboro. Ravi, who was planng to major math and enomics, had learned that he had been assigned to Davidson Hall—a llectn of sgle-story, barracks-like dorms on Bch mp, which is nsired the dullt of the four Rutgers mp New Bnswick and neighborg Pistaway. He would be Davidson Hall C, a ed dorm for about eighty stunts. He knew Clementi’s first name and that his last name started wh C; he also knew his e-mail addrs, —apparently, a distillatn of mil terms—and had e-mailed him but received no reply.</p><div class="Contaer-bkChBi byNLHx"></div><p class="paywall">Late that night, acrdg to stant-msage munitns released by attorneys to the public rerd, Ravi Googled “keybowv.” This set motn a remote, electronic dynamic between the two stunts that was never que overtaken by real-world engagement—even after they moved to a ty room together.</p><figure class="AssetEmbedWrapper-eVDQiB byBkf asset-embed"><div class="AssetEmbedAssetContaer-eJxoAx dBHGoQ asset-embed__asset-ntaer"><span class="SpanWrapper-umhxW kKwZhx rponsive-asset AssetEmbedRponsiveAsset-cXBNxi eCxVQK asset-embed__rponsive-asset"><div data-attr-viewport-monor="" class="RponsiveCartoonWrapper-iTMMjI eXTYsS rponsive-rtoon AssetEmbedRponsiveAsset-cXBNxi eCxVQK asset-embed__rponsive-asset viewport-monor-anchor"><a class="external-lk 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Ravi had found some of Keybowv’s posts on a Yahoo fom: somethg about fish tanks, Ravi told Tam, and somethg else “pertag to vls.” If, wh “pertag,” Ravi was aimg for sly disda, Tam stck a different note: “I’m llg now. This guy is retard.” Ravi showed Tam a lk to a page on a health fom where, three years earlier, Keybowv had asked why his asthma symptoms had sudnly worsened, notg that he had prcriptns for Advair and Sgulair. Nobody had replied. There was jt Keybowv’s follow-up: “Anyone?” (“What a psy,” Tam wrote.) Ravi and Tam also found qutns about anti-vis software and ntributns to a Web se of unter-revolutnary peevishns lled Anythgbutipod. In the old posts, at least, Keybowv—who was ed Tyler Clementi—seemed worried or fensive about putg. Ravi mocked his roommate for “askg if he should boot lux everytime he surfs ter.”</p><p class="paywall">Jt before midnight, Ravi wrote to Tam: “<em class="small">FUCK MY LIFE</em> / He’s gay.” He had found Keybowv’s name on Jtboys, a gay-pornography se that also has discsn areas. Ravi sent Tam a lk to a page that ntaed sex-tged ads but was otherwise mundane. It was a nversatn, om 2006, prompted by Keybowv’s qutn about a problem wh his puter’s hard drive. Keybowv noted that his electronic folrs were fastidly anized; perhaps jokgly, he add, “i have ocd.”</p><p class="paywall">In the next few mut, Ravi wrote “wtf”—“what the fuck”—seven tim. He posted a lk to the Jtboys page on his Twter acunt: “Found out my roommate is gay.”</p><p class="paywall">But when Tam asked “why do gayporns even have foms,” Ravi lghed—“hahaha”—and wrote, “’s jt a gay fom.” That sounds like at least a stab at worldls, and Ravi seems to have found easy to drop the subject of Keybowv’s apparent homosexualy. Two mut after the Jtboys disvery, Ravi was makg a new observatn, perhaps based on Keybowv’s worry about fixg his puter. “He’s poor,” Ravi wrote, addg a owng emotin. He then found Zazzle, a prt-on-mand se where Keybowv, probably years earlier, had created a T-shirt that read, “If Oppos Attract Why Isn’t Anyone Attracted to Me?” Another said, “I Love My Mommy . . . ” and, on the back, “Do You?” Ravi wrote, “I feel bad for him.”</p></div></div></div><div class="GridItem-buujkM fVLMby grid--em grid-layout__asi"><asi class="PersistentAsiWrapper-VGrR daRVRt persistent-asi" style="posn:absolute;top:to;height:to" data-ttid="PersistentAsiWrapper"><div class="StickyBoxWrapper-jfYB jxBcTH sticky-box"><div class="StickyBoxPrimary-dzWDWL cdhYoN sticky-box__primary"><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssQ ad ad--rail"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot--rail" data-no-id="rap2sl"></div></div><div class="ConsumerMarketgUnThemedWrapper-iUTMTf jssHut nsumer-marketg-un nsumer-marketg-un--display-rail" role="prentatn" aria-hidn="te"><div class="nsumer-marketg-un__slot nsumer-marketg-un__slot--display-rail"></div><div class="journey-un"></div></div></div><div class="StickyBoxPlaceholr-grPmrg dxAvXx"></div></div></asi></div></div><div class="RowWrapper-UmqTg HEhan full-bleed-ad row-mid-ntent-ad"><div class="StickyMidContentAdWrapper-fSBzwl drzyIa ad-stickymidntent"><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssQ ad ad--mid-ntent should-hold-space"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot--mid-ntent" data-no-id="9fsqo"></div></div></div></div><div class="GridWrapper-cAzTTK kHBDeH grid grid-margs grid-ems-2 ArticlePageChunksGrid-hfxa bjczjj grid-layout--adrail narrow wi-adrail"><div class="GridItem-buujkM stRKV grid--em grid-layout__ntent"><div class="BodyWrapper-kufPGa bDyAMU body body__ntaer article__body" data-journey-hook="client-ntent" data-ttid="BodyWrapper"><div class="body__ner-ntaer"><p class="paywall">At six mut past midnight, Tam offered Ravi a summary. The roommate was “a gay person who asks a lot of qutns, is mostly techno illerate, and mak tshirt ias.” Ravi replied, “I’m lerally the oppose of that / <em class="small">FUCK</em>.” Tam said that if he were Ravi’s suatn he would “jt die.” Ravi said that he didn’t feel anythg: “I’m jt like <em class="small">LOL</em> / Maybe I’m still a ltle buzzed.”</p><div data-attr-viewport-monor="le-recirc" class="le-recirc-wrapper le-recirc-observer-target-2 viewport-monor-anchor"></div><p class="paywall">Tyler Clementi was not active on Facebook, and Ravi stead found the page of Tyler C. Pine, who was about to start at Rutgers, and who scribed himself as gay. He was good-lookg, wh long wavy hair sometim held place wh a headband; vio clips dited that he was a talented sger. Tam wrote, “wow this guy is <em class="small">REALLY</em> uy.” Ravi said, “I’m such a thug pared to him.” The school iends seemed slightly awed by Pine’s nfince and populary, as well as by the attractivens of his female iends. But they were also nfed: Pine didn’t look like an anx asthmatic who wrote self-laceratg T-shirt slogans.</p><p class="paywall">Tam remembered that Ravi had met a gay stunt named Carter durg orientatn at Rutgers, and had sce spoken of him admirgly. Tam wrote, “If gay people were like rter, there wouldnt b a problem wh gay hatred / Its the fags like this guy that jt e all sorts of trouble.” Ravi replied, “I know.” And then: “He would be born January / what a gay month.” At about 2 <em class="small">A.M.</em>, Ravi and Tam changed the subject to vio gam.</p><p class="paywall">When Ravi picked up the nversatn wh Tam the next afternoon, he said, “I still don’t really re, except what my parents are gog to say. My dad is gog to throw him out the wdow.” That day, Ravi also msaged wh Bigeaglefan75—a iend, unintified urt documents, who observed that Pine “looks like a eakg woman” and was likely to “blow you your sleep.” Ravi’s language was more rtraed, and he replied to the oral-sex ment by sayg, “I’m pretty sure he’s majorg theater.”</p><p class="paywall">At one pot, Bigeaglefan75 said of the roommate, “What if he wants you / wont that get awk.” Ravi replied, “He probs would. / Why would be awk. / He’d want me / I wouldn’t want him.” Bigeaglefan75 rerced a thought om the prev night: “He’ll brg back mad hot girls to your room and then you n be like / ladi / im not gay.” Ravi lghed and said, “I’m not really angry or sad,” addg “idc”—“I don’t re.” But even as he stck this note of equanimy he mentned that he had forward a vio clip of Pine to everyone he knew.</p><p class="paywall">Ravi seems to have kept two ias of Pine separate: Pine was someone he might e to like, but he was also material for a “gay roommate” news sop. Ravi certaly appears to have red a lot more about the reputatnal value of gossip than about Pine’s sexualy. (In wns statements taken for the Clementi se, nobody has relled Ravi beg ntemptuo of gay people.) If this helps protect him om the charge of extreme prejudice, he might still be acced of lackg empathy: there’s no sign that he was hibed by the fear that he might e his roommate embarrassment, or annoyance, by discsg him on Facebook and Twter. His Twter acunt—@Dhan—was public and easy to fd. Tyler Clementi read that first tweet about himself before he started at Rutgers.</p><p class="paywall">Ravi sent Tyler Pine a msage, via Facebook. Pine wrote back, explag that he was the wrong Tyler. The same day, Ravi fally heard om Clementi, by e-mail. Clementi’s lay ntactg Ravi may have been nnected to the emotnal plitns of his last few days at home, when he tearfully me out to his fay. After receivg the msage, Ravi characterized Clementi to a iend as “gay but regular gay.”</p><p class="paywall">I recently met Tyler Pine a crowd Au Bon Pa, on the Rutgers mp. Pine, who grew up nearby South River, was charmg and assured. “I <em>ran</em> my high school,” he said, sg. “Print of the class, edor of the paper—if you wanted to do anythg, you had to go through me.” He relled his brief teractn wh Ravi, and I showed him the I.M.s by Ravi, Tam, and Bigeaglefan75. Much of the exchange—cludg the b about January’s gayns—ma him lgh. When the language turned more abive, he said, “Yik, lm down,” and, “This is so high school.”</p><p class="paywall">When he fished readg, he said, “I’ve seen so much worse.” And he discerned a tonal difference between Ravi and his iends. “The stuff that Dhan says is unrstandable, a sense. If you fd you’re sharg a room wh somebody gay, and you haven’t been raised an open home, you’re gog to say, ‘Oh my God, what am I gog to do? He’s probably gog to <em>want</em> me.’ But his iends are asshol.”</p><div data-attr-viewport-monor="le-recirc" class="le-recirc-wrapper le-recirc-observer-target-3 viewport-monor-anchor"></div><p class="paywall">Pine imaged that, had he and Ravi bee roommat, they might have bee iends. But he acknowledged that to speak so generoly of Ravi—to unsettle the portra of him as the perpetrator of hate crim—was unwele at Rutgers. “I wish the gay muny wasn’t so angry—<em>so</em> angry. I’m all about five but don’t fet.” He add, “Dhan didn’t want Tyler to die.” Rather, he said, Ravi had probably wanted people to be amed by his actns—to “thk of him as this <em>bro.</em>”</p><figure class="AssetEmbedWrapper-eVDQiB byBkf asset-embed"><div class="AssetEmbedAssetContaer-eJxoAx dBHGoQ asset-embed__asset-ntaer"><span class="SpanWrapper-umhxW kKwZhx rponsive-asset AssetEmbedRponsiveAsset-cXBNxi eCxVQK asset-embed__rponsive-asset"><div data-attr-viewport-monor="" class="RponsiveCartoonWrapper-iTMMjI eXTYsS rponsive-rtoon AssetEmbedRponsiveAsset-cXBNxi eCxVQK asset-embed__rponsive-asset viewport-monor-anchor"><a class="external-lk rponsive-rtoon__image-lk" data-event-click="{"element":"ExternalLk","outgogURL":"" href=" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank"><picture class="RponsiveImagePicture-cWuUZO dUOtEa RponsiveCartoonImage-hzNqyc ikeCcH rponsive-rtoon__image rponsive-image"><noscript><img alt="“How are you fixed for oats”" class="RponsiveImageContaer-eybHBd fptoWY 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If the first attribute prented both a plitn and a happy chance to gossip, the send and third were perceived as failgs. “I was fuckg hopg for someone wh a gmail but no,” Ravi wrote to Tam. Clementi’s Yahoo e-mail addrs symbolized a grim, dorky world, half seen, of fish tanks and vls. Ravi’s I.M.s about Tyler’s prumed poverty were far more blunt than those about sexual orientatn. At one pot durg his exchang wh Tam that weekend, Ravi wrote, “Du I hate poor people.”</p><p class="has-dropp has-dropp__lead-standard-headg paywall">One eveng not long ago, I vised Pl Maardi, a lawyer wh a profsorial manner who liv Philalphia, an apartment tower wh a wi view of the Delaware River. Maardi poured a whiskey. He is a bs lawyer, not a crimal lawyer, but he is Jane Clementi’s , and he has been helpg her fay sce Tyler’s ath. He has acpanied the Clementis to heargs, and issued ocsnal prs statements.</p><p class="paywall">When I mentned Ravi’s ment about “poor people,” Maardi was a ltle shocked. “He said that?” he asked. “The fay is not well off, but they’re certaly not poor.” The Clementis live Ridgewood, sixteen northwt of the Gee Washgton Bridge. The town, which is wealthy and whe, was recently ranked fifteenth on a list of the top-earng towns the untry, one place below Greenwich, Connecticut. Last year, Ridgewood High School, which Tyler attend, was placed twenty-seventh a Washgton <em>Post</em> evaluatn of New Jersey schools. (Ravi’s school was eighteenth.) A former classmate of Clementi’s scribed to me a world of hyperamb parents and a le of Lex the school parkg lot. She noted the enomic difference between the east and wt sis of town. The Clementis live a four-bedroom hoe on a pretty street, but ’s on the ls affluent east si, wh earshot of Route 17. At school, “wt sirs are more popular—they know how to get nnectns,” the former classmate said. “The wt si drs differently.”</p></div></div></div><div class="GridItem-buujkM fVLMby grid--em grid-layout__asi"><div class="StickyBoxWrapper-jfYB jxBcTH sticky-box"><div class="StickyBoxPrimary-dzWDWL cdhYoN sticky-box__primary"></div><div class="StickyBoxPlaceholr-grPmrg dxAvXx"></div></div></div></div><div class="RowWrapper-UmqTg HEhan full-bleed-ad row-mid-ntent-ad"><div class="StickyMidContentAdWrapper-fSBzwl drzyIa ad-stickymidntent"><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssQ ad ad--mid-ntent should-hold-space"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot--mid-ntent" data-no-id="yedz4"></div></div></div></div><div class="GridWrapper-cAzTTK kHBDeH grid grid-margs grid-ems-2 ArticlePageChunksGrid-hfxa bjczjj grid-layout--adrail narrow wi-adrail"><div class="GridItem-buujkM stRKV grid--em grid-layout__ntent"><div class="BodyWrapper-kufPGa bDyAMU body body__ntaer article__body" data-journey-hook="client-ntent" data-ttid="BodyWrapper"><div class="body__ner-ntaer"><p class="paywall">Ravi drove a BMW high school; Clementi didn’t have a r. Jane Clementi is a nurse. Joseph Clementi ns the public-works partment the nearby town of Hawthorne. They have two olr sons, both of whom returned home after fishg llege. Jane Clementi is active the lol Grace Church, which is affiliated wh Willow Creek, the evangelil megachurch near Chigo. Maardi scribed a quiet fay. “There’s no loudmouth, unlike some of my children,” he said. Tyler was the quiett of all. “I knew him, but I didn’t know him, if you know what I mean. Very shy.”</p><p class="paywall">Joseph Clementi recently told me that his son was physilly slight, and that if someone wanted to hurt him “he would have absolutely no ia of how to fend himself.” Five feet six, wh rigid posture, Tyler had short reddish hair, a proment nose, and an open, earnt exprsn. In his mid-teens, he had the tast and manners of a teen-ager om an earlier era. He ntributed to onle discsns about mils and opera, garng, and the re of Ain dwarf ogs. His puter sktop was rated wh the <em>Playbill</em> vers for “Fiddler on the Roof” and “Journey’s End.” “How should I broil Lobster Tails?” he asked on one Web se. “Drizzlg olive oil over them and rosemary?”</p><p class="paywall">Tyler was close to his mother. Maardi relled, “I have a photograph of the two of them, where he’s standg ont of her—she’s got her arms around him, graspg his hands.” Tyler seemed to have more female than male iends, but none of them, he thought, were “close, powerful iends.”</p><p class="paywall">An acquatance who memorialized Clementi onle wrote, “Tyler never said very much or teracted wh the rt of the youth group at the church I attend wh him.” This post is acpanied by a photograph of Clementi on a church outg 2007. Stg on a b, he is starg at the mera; behd him, a girl is lghg and puttg on lipstick. He seems out of step even wh his own bright-orange T-shirt, which reads “Daytona Beach.”</p><p class="paywall">Soon after startg at Rutgers, Clementi had a late-night I.M. nversatn wh someone who ed the name Sam Cz. The iendship seems to have been fairly new. “I would love to have like 3 close iends,” Clementi wrote to Cz. He said that, bee he valued solu, people “view me as always wantg to be alone,” addg, “but thats not te . . . i need some people my life . . . jt not as much as most people do.” He went on, “I <em class="small">NEED</em> nversatn . . ’s jt that i n’t <em class="small">DO</em> .” Cz tried to give advice—how to start a nversatn, how to ask people about themselv. Clementi replied, “I’ve googled like a ln tim / I kno all the ‘l.’ ”</p><div data-attr-viewport-monor="le-recirc" class="le-recirc-wrapper le-recirc-observer-target-4 viewport-monor-anchor"></div><p class="paywall">Clementi was, fact, a very good vl player: he played both the Bergen Youth Orchtra and the Ridgewood Symphony, an adult orchtra. But he was uncerta if he had the talent or foc necsary for a reer mic. At fifteen, he worried onle about his mment to practicg, and add that, although he had sometim been enuraged by Juilliard alumni to apply there, he wonred if, “eeeeeeeep down,” he really wanted to go.</p><p class="paywall">By his senr year, Clementi had stopped nsirg a mic gree. Onle, he asked how to choose between Rutgers, Hartwick, and the Universy of Connecticut. “I don’t really have a major pned down at all, eher b, pharm, acuntg, or somethg,” he said. “Also toyg wh the ia of Communy llege, but the thought of gettg away is very temptg too. I feel very feated by HS and hated the whole thg.”</p><p class="paywall">Pl Maardi shared wh me a memory of Tyler at a fay gatherg at the Clementis’, about a year before his ath. “He uld play the vl while ridg a unicycle,” he said. “And I actually did wns that. It was que imprsive.” As Maardi drove home that day, he turned to his wife and said, “Wow, who would have thought that that was <em></em> Tyler?”</p><p class="has-dropp has-dropp__lead-standard-headg paywall">If Clementi had a touch of middle-aged fastidns, Ravi was fully a teen-ager: rangy, physil, wh a taste for public regard. By the fall of 2010, when he left Plasboro for Rutgers, he had wrten more than two thoand msag on Twter, twice as many as the most active of his iends. He had posted homema vios and hundreds of ments at Bboy, a break-dancg se. (“When i was like 8 i was tryg to learn the helipter . . . and i accintally learned reverse.”) At other s, he posted his high S.A.T. sr, his 2.88 G.P.A., his long-jump rerd, and a photo of his fake New York driver’s license. He spoke on Twter about beg “stoned out of my md.” Across the Inter, Ravi’s wrten ntributns tend to be unually reful about grammar, and a ltle bative—wh an element of teasg or sult and, sometim, self-mockery.</p><p class="paywall">Ravi also ed Formsprg, a se that enurag s members to rpond to qutns posed by others, whose inti may be hidn. It’s a place where teen-agers show themselv able, or not, to whstand onle asslts. (Jamey Romeyer—a fourteen-year-old om upstate New York, who mted suici September, 2011, after ntributg to the It Gets Better vio archive—had read such Formsprg ments as “I wouldn’t re if you died. No one would. So jt do .”) On Formsprg, Ravi aimed for nonchalance the face of provotn. The first, anonymo qutn was “Why are you a fag?” (His answer: “Bee I’m secure.”) The next: “Why are you such a faggot?” (“Bee feels right!”) Over the next few months, the qutns clud: “Why don’t you look at me when we make love?” (“I like to look at myself.”) “Do you love anyone bis yourself?” (“Nope.”) “I ed to thk you were the hottt dian guy ever . . . then i met you.” (“I’m hot regardls of the fact that I’m an asshole.”) “Who did you go wh to prom last year?” (“I went alone.”)</p><figure class="AssetEmbedWrapper-eVDQiB byBkf asset-embed"><div class="AssetEmbedAssetContaer-eJxoAx dBHGoQ asset-embed__asset-ntaer"><span class="SpanWrapper-umhxW kKwZhx rponsive-asset AssetEmbedRponsiveAsset-cXBNxi eCxVQK asset-embed__rponsive-asset"><div data-attr-viewport-monor="" class="RponsiveCartoonWrapper-iTMMjI eXTYsS rponsive-rtoon AssetEmbedRponsiveAsset-cXBNxi eCxVQK asset-embed__rponsive-asset viewport-monor-anchor"><a class="external-lk rponsive-rtoon__image-lk" 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But at a third hearg, December, the same space was packed. Two dozen men sus, most of them South Asian, arrived and left a group; fay iends, after some private bate, had cid to show support.</p><p class="paywall">One member of that group, Anil Kappa, a iend of Ravi’s father, agreed to meet me at a fé Prceton. When he sat down, he said that his heart went out to the Clementi fay. He also talked, a soft and dismayed voice, about Ravi’s arrt and vilifitn: “I’m readg about him beg a jerk, beg a bully, beg a homophobe, but as a real person who I’ve seen growg up—I n’t relate to any of the statements.” He thought of Ravi’s actns as a “kid’s prank that went wrong,” a culture of celebry tweetg and “Amerin Pie” (a edy which a young man sets up a secret webm broadst). The judicial system had taken thgs too far, he said. Ravi’s fay had stggled to live a normal life sce the arrt, and Ravi—who is aga livg wh his parents—had barely been able to leave the hoe. “He’s been rcerated—he’s an exile,” Kappa said. “Our mds are ozen right now.”</p><p class="paywall">Like Dhan’s father, Kappa is a software engeer. They met the neteen-neti, when both still lived the southern Indian state of Ta Nadu, where they were born. Ravi Pazhani and his wife, Sabha, a homemaker wh a liberal-arts gree, were then their twenti, and their son Dhan was a toddler. (Followg Ta nventn, Dhan has his father’s first name as his surname.) In 1995, Kappa moved to Ameri; two years later, he helped persua Pazhani to do the same. The fay first settled Woodbridge, jt east of New Bnswick, and Pazhani muted to New York as a software nsultant. That work ntu, and Pazhani also owns, wh Kappa, an rmatn-technology pany New Jersey. Kappa scribed Pazhani as nservative, but uldn’t acunt for Dhan’s ia that his father would want to throw his gay roommate out the wdow. 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He is the fay’s sole U.S. cizen. If Dhan is nvicted, he uld be ported, and this has fluenced his thkg about a plea al. A few years after Jay’s birth, the fay moved to Plasboro, which has an unually high percentage of Indian-Amerins. At poolsi gathergs of fay iends, Ravi was often the olst child, and Kappa relled that he was grac wh the younger on, “tossg them around, teachg them tricks . . . never phg them away.” Ravi, he add, had tght him how to rollerbla.</p><div data-attr-viewport-monor="le-recirc" class="le-recirc-wrapper le-recirc-observer-target-5 viewport-monor-anchor"></div><p class="paywall">But, by the time Ravi was a teen-ager, he uld apparently be difficult or aggrsive pany. When he was thirteen, he blogged about an cint which “we gave this kid a football the hall way and started yellg at him to go to the touchdown and sre. we yelled at him for 5 mut and he fally dropped the ball. we yelled <em class="small">FUMBLE</em>.” A young woman, Lucy Chen, recently wrote onle about spendg time wh Ravi 2008, at a mp Pennsylvania n by the Center for Talented Youth. “He wasn’t openly nice to everyone, but he was nice to me,” she wrote. “Dhan and I end up beg bt iends at mp. Inseparable!” She went on, “On the last day, all we did was hug. Well actually, I hugged him and he didn’t hug back.” The msage was wrten support of Ravi, but Chen add, “I thk he hacked my puter, although I have no evince.”</p><p class="paywall">Jason Tam has known Ravi sce seventh gra. Now studyg New York, Tam is one of few people om high school who have kept touch wh Ravi sce his arrt. Though Tam scribed their relatnship as iendly, a recent stant-msage terview his tone was harsh. Ravi, he said, was boastful, untthful, and obssed wh beg perceived as wealthy. Though Ravi uld be “kd of funny at tim,” and good pany, Tam said, “he’s a dick,” addg, “I’d tst a rock more than dhan.” Tam’s disparagement of Ravi, even as he awas trial, raised the qutn of a fallg out. Tam said no; like Ravi, he didn’t seem to unrstand the value of self-censorship. (“Dhan would be fe wh anyone talkg trash about him,” he said.) But Tam’s lack of utn giv a kd of thory to his nial that Ravi was homophobic. As Tam put , “He’s so much of a jerk that may seem like he’s a homophobe but he’s not.”</p><p class="paywall">Molly Wei knew Ravi both om home and om Rutgers. She cled to be terviewed, but last April, a statement to the police, she explaed that, as middle-school stunts, she and Ravi were “not really” boyiend and girliend but were “really close.” She said, “I tsted him wh a lot of thgs.” By high school, however, she had e to see Ravi as slippery. She said that he claimed to have been the pta of an all-black basketball team that had won the state champnship. And he told her that he was “on billboards all over India, and that he was famo Canada for snowboardg.” She supposed that he was tryg to imprs her—and she “tried explag to him that would be better if he didn’t try to. But I thk he was really adamant about . He was, like, ‘No, this is who I am.’ ” Wei cut him off. Durg her senr year, Wei mentned all this to Mark L, a mutual iend. L passed on what she had said, and, as Wei relled to the police, Ravi “got really mad, bee no one ever nonts him about this stuff.” She said that Ravi lled her a “lyg bch” and a “whore.”</p><p class="paywall">When Wei arrived at Rutgers, wh the aim of beg a pharmacist, she was “prayg to god” that she wouldn’t see him there. On the day she moved to Davidson Hall, she saw the name “Dhan” taped to the door across the rridor, and asked herself, “Crap, how many Dhans do I know?”</p><p class="has-dropp has-dropp__lead-standard-headg paywall">Tyler Clementi had also looked for his roommate onle. That summer, he reported to a iend, “My roomat name is Dhan / I got an azn!” Clementi’s rrponnt, intified urt papers as H.Y., is Hannah Yang, a younger iend om his high-school orchtra, who is Asian.</p><p class="paywall">Clementi and Ravi moved to Room 30 of Davidson Hall on Saturday, Augt 28th. The room was sixteen feet by eleven feet. Clementi and his parents arrived wh mut of the official movg- time, and after anizg Tyler’s thgs they left to eat. When they me back, Ravi and his fay were there; Ravi was settg up his puter and, acrdg to Joseph and Jane Clementi, he had to be nudged by his father to turn around and say hello.</p><p class="paywall">Clementi’s I.M. rerds offer a peculiarly timate view of his first few hours wh Ravi, after both sets of parents had left. As Ravi unpacked, Clementi was chattg wh Yang. “I’m readg his twter page and umm he’s stg right next to me,” he wrote. “I still don’t kno how to say his name.” Yang replied, “Fail!!!!! that’s hilar.” Clementi told Yang that Ravi’s parents had seemed “sooo Indian first gen amerinish,” addg that they “fs owna dunk”—a Dunk’ Donuts. 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Clementi told Yang that Ravi had moved his closet to form a semi-private changg space; Clementi lled a “cubby.” (He later lled the sight of Ravi changg “the most awk thg you’ve ever seen.”) Thanks to Twter, Clementi knew that Ravi had seen his Jtboys postgs, and he regard the “cubby” as Ravi’s silent rponse, although the two didn’t speak about Clementi’s sexualy.</p><p class="paywall">Clementi set his sk at the foot of his bed, so that he faced the wdow. Ravi, to his right, phed his sk agast the si wall, so that his back was to Clementi and his puter screen faced the room. Clementi noticed that the webm on top of Ravi’s monor was “poted right at me.” He said to Yang, “I feel like he’s watchg me watchg him.”</p></div></div></div><div class="GridItem-buujkM fVLMby grid--em grid-layout__asi"><div class="StickyBoxWrapper-jfYB jxBcTH sticky-box"><div class="StickyBoxPrimary-dzWDWL cdhYoN sticky-box__primary"></div><div class="StickyBoxPlaceholr-grPmrg dxAvXx"></div></div></div></div><div class="RowWrapper-UmqTg HEhan full-bleed-ad row-mid-ntent-ad"><div class="StickyMidContentAdWrapper-fSBzwl drzyIa ad-stickymidntent"><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssQ ad ad--mid-ntent should-hold-space"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot--mid-ntent" data-no-id="322z8"></div></div></div></div><div class="GridWrapper-cAzTTK kHBDeH grid grid-margs grid-ems-2 ArticlePageChunksGrid-hfxa bjczjj grid-layout--adrail narrow wi-adrail"><div class="GridItem-buujkM stRKV grid--em grid-layout__ntent"><div class="BodyWrapper-kufPGa bDyAMU body body__ntaer article__body" data-journey-hook="client-ntent" data-ttid="BodyWrapper"><div class="body__ner-ntaer"><p class="paywall">“You should jt start a nversatn,” Yang wrote. “Like . . . hey, how the heck do I pronounce your name?” Clementi said, “I actually got down pat I thk / dah ne.” The curtas on Ravi’s si of the room were closed, and Clementi felt unable to ask his roommate to open them. Yang offered guidance: “Try hey, by any chance, would you md openg the shas on your wdow?”</p><div data-attr-viewport-monor="le-recirc" class="le-recirc-wrapper le-recirc-observer-target-6 viewport-monor-anchor"></div><p class="paywall">“That’s too funny / your givg me scripted nversatns,” Clementi said. He lled her “the screenplay wrer for my life.”</p><p class="has-dropp has-dropp__lead-standard-headg paywall">Ravi and Clementi lived together for three weeks, but seem to have barely had a nversatn. In an I.M. exchange wh Sam Cz, Clementi said, “I don’t thk I’ve actually ever talked to him heheh . . . we kda jt ignore ea[ch] other.” Ravi told police that, every time he spoke wh Clementi, was “short and brief. I figured, Oh, he was jt a shy kid.” He add that Clementi “didn’t seem to have any iends.” Ravi do seem to have regnized Clementi’s good nature. Tam showed me msag that Ravi wrote on Augt 29th: “He’s mad nice and mad quiet,” and “I thk my roommate lik his privacy so I’ve been out of my room.” And though Clementi was sometim annoyed by Ravi’s ms— one chat, he mentned a yogurt ntaer left out for days—he also tected thoughtfulns and telligence beneath Ravi’s swagger. He was imprsed wh his roommate’s tech skills; Ravi had wrten a speakg puter program lled Jarvis, after the puter valet the “Iron Man” films. Jarvis kept track of Ravi’s class schle, and announced when universy b were due. (In an Augt nversatn about his roommate, Ravi had joked, “I’ll have Jarvis warn me if he tri to rape me at night.”)</p><p class="paywall">Clementi was tendg to major blogy, but he kept up wh the vl. He dned for the universy’s send-ng orchtra but was offered a place the Rutgers Symphony, which is ma up largely of doctoral stunts mic. Its first ncert, October, was to clu Berlz’s temptuo “Symphonie Fantastique.” Kynan Johns, the universy’s director of orchtras, was very imprsed by Clementi’s playg, and also noted his social awkwardns, which he regard as typil hman rerve. “I was hopg he would eventually transfer over to a mic major,” Johns told me. In Davidson C, Clementi practiced his vl, spe beg self-nsc about fillg the rridor wh sound.</p><p class="paywall">Ravi was often out rog until five the morng. Clementi was not, though he sometim went to parti wh a group of four teetotallg girls. “I would die if I was forced to always have people around me,” he told Cz. “The first week here was so hard b/c of that and my roommie purposely left me alone.” Ravi, he noted, had been “very nsirate and perceptive.”</p><p class="paywall">In high school, Clementi had not been wily regard as gay. He had been postg msag at Jtboys sce he was fourteen, but they were rarely sexual; rather, he exchanged views about televisn and pact rs wh other affable ntributors, some of whom ed nam like Bigpimpboy14. In one post, Clementi wrote, “Call me a p but I hontly don’t thk people are mature enough to be havg sex prr to llegeish years today’s world. . . . Sex isn’t somethg a 16 y/o should really need to spend much time batg. Then aga, I’m practilly asexual, and nsired myself such until about 17 (when I started puberty), so I gus I have a lot of bias.” This post may well reflect the tth, but he wrote when he was sixteen.</p><p class="paywall">After Clementi’s ath, his parents learned that he had e out to a iend the sprg of 2010, and that the summer he had apparently met romantic or sexual partners onle. Three days before startg at Rutgers, he me out to his fay.</p><p class="paywall">When he scribed that experience to Cz, Clementi reported that his father was “very acceptg” of his news, but add, “Its a good thg dad is ok w/ or I would be ser trouble / mom has basilly pletely rejected me.” He later add that she had been “very dismissive.”</p><p class="paywall">Jane Clementi told me recently that Tyler announced his sexualy to her a private, late-night nversatn, which “snowballed” to ver his perceived shortage of iends and the uncertaty he had about his fah. At the end of their talk, she relled, “he cried, I cried, we hugged.” They said that they loved each other. But, Jane Clementi said, “I mt adm, other than beg surprised, I felt betrayed.” He had not nfid her, though he had known he was gay sce middle school. She told me that she and her hband had long assumed that Tyler’s brother Jam was gay, and had even discsed the matter wh Tyler, askg him, “Why won’t he jt talk about ?” (Jam is now out.)</p><p class="paywall">The day after Tyler’s disclosure, she said, “I gus part of me was grievg a ltle b. I expected Tyler to be married one day, and be a father.” She said, “I was sad, I was quiet,” and she wonrs if this is what he was reactg to when he wrote “rejected”; the word hurt her. She relled that she spent the rt of the week wh him, livered him to llege, and, throughout September, spoke to him on the phone. And she was expectg to vis Tyler for Parent and Fay Weekend: “We had tickets to the football game. We had plans for the day.”</p><div data-attr-viewport-monor="le-recirc" class="le-recirc-wrapper le-recirc-observer-target-7 viewport-monor-anchor"></div><p class="paywall">In September, Clementi attend at least one meetg of the Bisexual, Gay, and Lbian Alliance, a Rutgers stunt anizatn. As he put to Cz, “I would nsir myself out . . . if only there was someone for me to e out to.” Though he may have been slow to velop sexually, by the time he reached Rutgers he had found a streak of boldns. This perhaps left him exposed: once he overme his shyns, he was not shy at all. His sexual self—born on the Inter, the shadow of pornography—seems to have been largely divorced om his social self. After Clementi died, Gawker found what appeared to be an acunt that he had opened at Cam4, a se where women and men put on sexual displays, by webm. Clementi also ed a hookup Web se lled Adam4adam. 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This was M.B., who will lose his anonymy if he giv evince at Ravi’s trial. Acrdg to Clementi, M.B. was twenty-five, workg two jobs, not out, and nervo about g to the dorm. (Rooms uld be reached only by walkg through the stunt lounge.) Clementi, who said that he had texted Ravi to requt e of the room, joked that “would be so awk” if Ravi walked “while I’m gettg fucked,” addg, “At the same time i thk I would jt be like ‘screw .’ ”</p><p class="has-dropp has-dropp__lead-standard-headg paywall">On September 19th, a Sunday, Clementi was expectg M.B. to vis aga. As before, he asked Ravi for the room wh a text msage. That eveng, Ravi played Ultimate Frisbee (a sport that, one onle discsn of the Clementi se, was predictably scribed as “gayer than havg sex wh a du”). He returned to Davidson Hall at about ne. Ravi told the police he thought that Clementi “was jt havg a iend over to hang out.” Ravi started llectg thgs for a shower, down the hall, and Clementi asked, “Do you need anythg else?” Acrdg to the statement ma to the police by Wei, who spoke to Ravi a moment later, Ravi only then realized that he was beg asked not to return; he relled sayg to Clementi, “Oh, you want me to leave?”</p><p class="paywall">At the start of the semter, Wei, overlookg Ravi’s past ns, had bee iendly wh him aga. Upon leavg Room 30, Ravi apparently first ma a quick vis to her room, across the hall. Wei said that he was agated, askg, “Why do he want the room all to himself?” He then returned to his room, and was gettg anized for his eveng’s exile when Clementi retrieved M.B. at the dormory entrance and brought him to the room. Ravi said of his brief enunter wh M.B., “He didn’t acknowledge me at all. He jt sat on the bed, on Tyler’s bed.”</p><p class="paywall">Ravi returned to Wei’s room. She relled him sayg, “It’s a really old-lookg guy, like, What the heck, what’s gog on?” Ravi thought that M.B. seemed “really shady.” She went on, “He actually was kd of angry. He’s, like, ‘If he steals my iPad I’m gog to make Tyler pay for .’ And he’s, like, ‘Oh, and my roommate’s gay, like what if somethg else is gog on?’ ” Speakg to the police, Ravi relled M.B. as “slightly overweight,” wh facial hair of some sort. Ravi’s reactn appears to have clud some class prejudice: the man, apparently workg-class, was a likely thief. He was “random,” as one of Molly Wei’s iends later put —he was troublgly not of their world.</p><p class="paywall">If Ravi was as disoriented as Wei claims, one n perhaps see why: Clementi was hant to talk about curtas, but a by dorm, after ls than a month of habatn, he had kicked out his roommate so that he uld have a sexual enunter wh an olr man who ma no pretense of beg his boyiend. Ravi also noted, perhaps, the ntrast between his nstant flutter of self-promotn and Clementi’s quiet, unswervg path to gratifitn. Jason Tam told me that he’d never known Ravi to have a girliend.</p><p class="paywall">Acrdg to Tam, Ravi had already explored unorthodox of webms. For a high-school physics project, Ravi had tried to lk a webm to a hobbyist il gun. In the summer before llege, he wrote a puter program that prompted webms to snap photographs, at tervals, and upload them to a Web se. He disguised the program as somethg else, and tried to get iends to stall . Some did, Tam said, but they weren’t tricked: they “noticed their webm light turn on, so was obv.” (Clementi, then, was apparently not the first subject of a webm experiment.) Tam thks that, by the eveng of September 19th, Ravi had already told him that he tend to e a webm to see why Clementi had begun askg for exclive e of their room.</p><p class="paywall">An onle vio chat, g an applitn like iChat or Skype, starts like a phone ll: one person requts a nversatn, and the recipient mt accept the requt. But Ravi had tweaked his iChat settgs so that the program uld tomatilly accept g lls. Acrdg to Ravi, he had ma this his puter’s ual settg. Whatever the se, that eveng the program was set to to-accept; he also turned off his monor, or darkened to black. At 9:13 <em class="small">P.M.</em>, he was bi Wei at her puter. He opened iChat, and clicked his name on her chat list. A few feet away, his puter accepted his requt, and Ravi and Wei saw a live vio image of Room 30.</p><p class="paywall">Acrdg to Wei, she and Ravi “saw Tyler and his iend, or whoever that was—their upper body.” She remembered that the two men were fully drsed, standg agast the door. (Ravi later said that they had their shirts off.) “I uldn’t see any fac, and they were jt what seemed to be kissg, and then, after lerally two sends, we jt turned off. And we were kd of both kd of shock, bee for me, anyway, I’ve never seen anythg like that.” Ravi told police, “I jt felt, like, really, like, really unfortable and, like, almost guilty that I saw .” Wei relled, “At first, we were both, like, ‘Oh, my gosh, we n’t tell anybody about this, we’re jt gog to pretend this never happened.’ ”</p></div></div></div><div class="GridItem-buujkM fVLMby grid--em grid-layout__asi"><div class="StickyBoxWrapper-jfYB jxBcTH sticky-box"><div class="StickyBoxPrimary-dzWDWL cdhYoN sticky-box__primary"><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssQ ad ad--rail"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot--rail" data-no-id="2r2n"></div></div><div class="ConsumerMarketgUnThemedWrapper-iUTMTf jssHut nsumer-marketg-un nsumer-marketg-un--display-rail" role="prentatn" aria-hidn="te"><div class="nsumer-marketg-un__slot nsumer-marketg-un__slot--display-rail"></div><div class="journey-un"></div></div></div><div class="StickyBoxPlaceholr-grPmrg dxAvXx"></div></div></div></div><div class="RowWrapper-UmqTg HEhan full-bleed-ad row-mid-ntent-ad"><div class="StickyMidContentAdWrapper-fSBzwl drzyIa ad-stickymidntent"><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssQ ad ad--mid-ntent should-hold-space"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot--mid-ntent" data-no-id="teetir"></div></div></div></div><div class="GridWrapper-cAzTTK kHBDeH grid grid-margs grid-ems-2 ArticlePageChunksGrid-hfxa bjczjj grid-layout--adrail narrow wi-adrail"><div class="GridItem-buujkM stRKV grid--em grid-layout__ntent"><div class="BodyWrapper-kufPGa bDyAMU body body__ntaer article__body" data-journey-hook="client-ntent" data-ttid="BodyWrapper"><div class="body__ner-ntaer"><p class="paywall">Ravi’s rolve not to publicize the experience lasted for three or four mut. At 9:17 <em class="small">P.M</em>., he tweeted, “Roommate asked for the room till midnight. I went to molly’s room and turned on my webm. I saw him makg out wh a du. Yay.” Before Ravi locked down his Twter acunt, a few days later, he had about a hundred and fifty followers, the bulk of them iends om high school. It’s possible that he still thought of his Twter dience as a group no larger than those followers. In tth, his dience uld have clud anyone who searched on Twter for “Dhan.” Perhaps Ravi expected Clementi to read his tweet; or perhaps he didn’t bother to nsir that he might. This issue may bee important to a jury, given the seemg nflict between a charge of vasn of privacy and a charge of bias timidatn, both charg that Ravi fac. Spyg is secret, and timidatn is not.</p><div data-attr-viewport-monor="le-recirc" class="le-recirc-wrapper le-recirc-observer-target-8 viewport-monor-anchor"></div><p class="paywall">Soon after Ravi’s tweet, Molly Wei began an I.M. nversatn wh At Chung, her boyiend, then a llege stunt Hoboken. Wei began, “<em class="small">OMG AUSTIN</em>” and then: “<em class="small">OH MY FKING GOD</em>.” She hand the keyboard over to Ravi, who told the story—gut, webm, embrace—then let Wei rume typg. Chung asked “<em class="small">DID YOU TAKE A PIC</em>,” and she replied that they should have, but add, “Nah that would be <em class="small">TERRIBLE</em>.” Chung said that the news ma him want to “throw up,” even though Clementi was “mad nice.” Wei replied, “He’s <em class="small">NICE</em> but he’s kissg a guy right now / like <em class="small">THEY WERE GROPING EACH OTHER EWWW</em>.”</p><p class="paywall">It seems possible that Wei’s upper-se horror sprang not jt om thoughts of homosexualy but om the night’s many surpris: that Clementi, though nerdy, had sex; that he had turned Ravi out of his room; that his partner was not a stunt. Prosecutors, makg the se for bias, and referrg to Ravi’s tweet, have asked, “If the word ‘chick’ were substuted for ‘du’ that same exact tweet, would have generated the same tert?” But one n image female partners Room 30 whose age, appearance, or sexual tast might also have spired Ravi to wre a sarstic tweet.</p><figure class="AssetEmbedWrapper-eVDQiB byBkf asset-embed"><div class="AssetEmbedAssetContaer-eJxoAx dBHGoQ asset-embed__asset-ntaer"><span class="SpanWrapper-umhxW kKwZhx rponsive-asset AssetEmbedRponsiveAsset-cXBNxi eCxVQK asset-embed__rponsive-asset"><div data-attr-viewport-monor="" class="RponsiveCartoonWrapper-iTMMjI eXTYsS rponsive-rtoon AssetEmbedRponsiveAsset-cXBNxi eCxVQK asset-embed__rponsive-asset viewport-monor-anchor"><a class="external-lk rponsive-rtoon__image-lk" data-event-click="{"element":"ExternalLk","outgogURL":"" href=" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank"><picture class="RponsiveImagePicture-cWuUZO dUOtEa RponsiveCartoonImage-hzNqyc ikeCcH 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Jt after ten, a iend of Ravi’s om home posted “@Dhan you perv!” on Twter. Ravi left the room, and later returned wh a iend who lived the dorm. Cassandra Cic, Wei’s roommate, appeared, as did three other female iends. Ravi and his iend said that they were gog out for a “smoke.” (Wei assumed that they were referrg to pot.)</p><p class="paywall">In Ravi’s absence, the five young women the room discsed takg another look. The nsens was no, acrdg to Wei’s police statement, but “one girl was really persistent so then I said okay.” She turned on. “I clicked the vio button and me on aga for, like, a send or two before we turned off. We saw Tyler aga.” Clementi and M.B. had moved, “and their tops were off and as soon as we saw that we turned off.” Wei said that they were wearg pants.</p><p class="paywall">Ravi’s puter monor had remaed dark all eveng. But at one pot Clementi noticed s webm sudnly glowg green. When he moved toward Ravi’s sk, tendg to turn the mera away, the light went out. (This mt have been one of the viewgs om across the hall—that night, Ravi’s puter ma iChat nnectns only wh Wei’s puter.) M.B. left around ten. Ravi me back to Wei’s room at about midnight, fallg asleep a chair. At two o’clock, Wei urged him to return to his room.</p><p class="has-dropp has-dropp__lead-standard-headg paywall">Clementi read Ravi’s “Yay” tweet the next day, and he ma the nnectn to the flash of green light. That night, jt before eleven-thirty, he and Hannah Yang began a long I.M. nversatn. They talked largely about Ravi’s tsn. Though Clementi may have been a b of a loner, Yang he appears to have had a thoughtful iend. (As he apparently had Sam Cz, who had remd him, not long before, a nversatn about lonels: “u got my cell # and u uld ll me or txt if u need someone.”) That night, Yang gently urged him to discs the webm spyg wh Ravi, even while she tried to protect him om alarm. “I gus,” Clementi said. “But s not like he left the m on or rerd or anythg / he jt like took a five sec peep lol.”</p><p class="paywall">A recent paper by two scholars of new media—Alice Marwick, of Harvard, and Danah Boyd, of N.Y.U.—scrib the tenncy of teen-age girls to tegorize even que aggrsive behavr as mere “drama,” the same tegory as onle gossip and jok. Policy-makers and televisn anchors talk of “bulli” and the “bullied,” but teen-agers tend not to, part bee “teens ga ltle by intifyg as eher,” the scholars expla. “Social stigmas prevent teens om regnizg that they are weak, and few people are willg to adm that they purposefully hurt others. . . . ‘Drama’ also impli somethg not to be taken serly, to be risen above, while the adult-fed ‘bullyg’ nnot childishns or immatury to teenagers.”</p><p class="paywall">The psychologist Dan Olws has provid the standard fn of bullyg: “A person is bullied when he or she is exposed, repeatedly and over time, to negative actns on the part of one or more other persons, and he or she has difficulty fendg himself or herself.” Bee Ravi was a teen-ager behavg btishly, and bee he ed a puter, there’s a temptatn to draw this se to discsns about cyberbullyg; but a brief, furtive tsn, upled wh a few tweets, may not be easy to align wh harassment that occurs “repeatedly and over time.”</p><p class="paywall">In any se, Clementi tried to shg off his roommate’s behavr. He seems to have distracted himself om the ugls of Ravi’s tweet by nsirg stead the brevy of the vio viewg, and the fact that nothg had been taped. (He was right about that, but ’s not clear how he knew.) Clementi told Yang that Ravi had been “jt cur.” Bis, he said, he didn’t want Ravi to know that he was readg his Twter feed. She phed back:</p><blockquote class="BlockquoteEmbedWrapper-sc-SdiGL jPeLne paywall blockquote-embed"><div class="BlockquoteEmbedContent-RbGs gmbtPx blockquote-embed__ntent"><p>Y<em class="small">ANG</em>: I would feel serly vlated.</p><p>C<em class="small">LEMENTI</em>: When I first read the tweet</p><p>I fs felt vlated</p><p>but then</p><p>when I remembered what actually happened . . .</p><p>idk</p><p>Y<em class="small">ANG</em>: um</p><p>C<em class="small">LEMENTI</em>: don’t seem soooo bad lol</p><p>Y<em class="small">ANG</em>: du</p><p>C<em class="small">LEMENTI</em>: hahaha</p><p>Y<em class="small">ANG</em>: not only did he peep</p><p>he told the entire world about </p><p>C<em class="small">LEMENTI</em>: yah</p><p>Y<em class="small">ANG</em>: you okay wh that?</p></div></blockquote><p class="paywall">Two mut later, Yang said, “I really don’t like dhan.” Clementi lghed and said, “Yah / he’s a jerk.”</p><div data-attr-viewport-monor="le-recirc" class="le-recirc-wrapper le-recirc-observer-target-9 viewport-monor-anchor"></div><p class="paywall">By 1 <em class="small">A.M.</em>, Clementi’s attu seems to have harned. He looked up the universy’s of stunt nduct, which clud a sectn prohibg secret d or vio rerdg that was likely to pture nudy or sexual activy. He was wonrg if he should make a plat that might rult Ravi’s expulsn:</p><blockquote class="BlockquoteEmbedWrapper-sc-SdiGL jPeLne paywall blockquote-embed"><div class="BlockquoteEmbedContent-RbGs gmbtPx blockquote-embed__ntent"><p>Y<em class="small">ANG</em>: i’m not enuragg this . . .</p><p>C<em class="small">LEMENTI</em>: why not?</p><p>Y<em class="small">ANG</em>: b/c you said you don’t feel vlated anymore</p><p>C<em class="small">LEMENTI</em>: hahah</p><p>hmmm</p><p>idk</p><p>I feel like . . .</p><p>I’ve tried to be nice to him</p><p>and he hasn’t</p><p>Y<em class="small">ANG</em>: yah</p><p> uld be terpreted as a hate crime</p><p>or</p><p>the velopment of</p><p>C<em class="small">LEMENTI</em>: hahaha a hate crime lol</p><p>Y<em class="small">ANG</em>: yah!</p><p>C<em class="small">LEMENTI</em>: that would be so fun</p><p>whe people never get hated</p><p>heehee</p><p>Y<em class="small">ANG</em>: heheh</p><p>you’re gay. . .</p><p>C<em class="small">LEMENTI</em>: yah</p></div></blockquote></div></div></div><div class="GridItem-buujkM fVLMby grid--em grid-layout__asi"><div class="StickyBoxWrapper-jfYB jxBcTH sticky-box"><div class="StickyBoxPrimary-dzWDWL cdhYoN sticky-box__primary"></div><div class="StickyBoxPlaceholr-grPmrg dxAvXx"></div></div></div></div><div class="RowWrapper-UmqTg HEhan full-bleed-ad row-mid-ntent-ad"><div class="StickyMidContentAdWrapper-fSBzwl drzyIa ad-stickymidntent"><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssQ ad ad--mid-ntent should-hold-space"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot--mid-ntent" data-no-id="3g18x"></div></div></div></div><div class="GridWrapper-cAzTTK kHBDeH grid grid-margs grid-ems-2 ArticlePageChunksGrid-hfxa bjczjj grid-layout--adrail narrow wi-adrail"><div class="GridItem-buujkM stRKV grid--em grid-layout__ntent"><div class="BodyWrapper-kufPGa bDyAMU body body__ntaer article__body" data-journey-hook="client-ntent" data-ttid="BodyWrapper"><div class="body__ner-ntaer"><p class="paywall">Clementi’s nversatn wh Yang end at 1:37 <em class="small">A.M.</em> Forty-five mut later, Clementi wrote a msage to Jtboys. He was clearly paed, but there’s ltle to support the ia that he was mortified by the thought that he’d been outed. There are only hts of Clementi’s mood the prev weeks and months. There was his claim that he hated high school, and there were three fil on his puter, wrten July and early September, whose ntents are unknown but whose file nam are , , and Why is everythg so It may be signifint that, on his iative, he and his mother had taken excursns to bridg around New York; he kept photographs he had taken of the Gee Washgton Bridge on his phone. Pl Maardi, the lawyer, wonred if Tyler was “ the thkg-about-suici world” sometime before llege.</p><p class="paywall">Now Clementi saw a risk turng a creepy episo to a sndal that he was not equipped to handle. He had thgs to protect: a h start at school, a new lover, a new home. In person, he and Ravi had mataed a wary existence, and was built on not discsg what they knew and said of each other onle. Ravi was sneaky, but sneaks is a form of discretn; he was nice enough face to face.</p><p class="paywall">On Jtboys, Clementi asked what to do next:</p><blockquote class="BlockquoteEmbedWrapper-sc-SdiGL jPeLne paywall blockquote-embed"><div class="BlockquoteEmbedContent-RbGs gmbtPx blockquote-embed__ntent"><p>I uld jt be more reful next time . . . make sure to turn the m away . . .</p><p>buttt . . .</p><p>I’m kda pissed at him (rightfully so I thk, no?)</p><p>and idk . . . if I uld . . . would be nice to get him trouble</p><p>but idk if I have enough to get him trouble, i mean . . . he never saw anythg pornographic he never rerd anythg . . .</p><p>I feel like the only thg the school might do is fd me another roommate, probably wh me movg out . . . and i’d probably jt end up wh somebody worse than him. . . . I mean asi om beg an asshole om time to time, he’s a pretty cent roommate.</p></div></blockquote><p class="paywall">He quickly received a few iendly repli. 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(His reason: “roommate ed webm to spy on me.”) Soon afterward, he was back postg at Jtboys. He had apparently read what Ravi’s iends had wrten on Twter or Facebook, and he was dismayed that nobody Ravi’s circle seemed to challenge his behavr. Clementi wrote, “other people have mented on his profile wh thgs like ‘how did you manage to go back there?’ ‘are you ok.’ ” The iends were treatg “my makg out wh a guy as the sndal whereas i mean e on . . . he was <em class="small">SPYING ON ME</em>. . . . do they see nothg wrong wh this?”</p><p class="paywall">At quarter to five, he asked for advice on Yahoo Answers. Someone intified as Jennifer replied, “Report him. What he is dog is pletely appropriate.” She add, “I’m not tryg to be mean but if you don’t have the guts to take ntrol of the suatn is not gog to get better.”</p><p class="paywall">Clementi weighed his dilemma. It was nearly dawn when he wrote, “I’m jt not a great self advote and am aaid that if I go to the wrong party, I won’t get the help I need.” He went on, “I’m jt worried about thgs beg a huge ms after this cuz i mean, someone reports you and then you might have to spend the rt of the semter livg wh them anyway bee of stupid admistratn and then there’s the chance I uld get a new roommate that’s even worse. ”</p><p class="has-dropp has-dropp__lead-standard-headg paywall">On Tuday, September 21st, Clementi ved M.B. back to his dorm room. In the late afternoon, he texted Ravi: “Could I have the room aga like 9:30 till midnight?” Ravi replied, “Yeah no problem,” and then sent a text to Molly Wei: “He wants the room aga.” She replied, “?!? <em class="small">WTF</em>.”</p><p class="paywall">Ravi now went to full imprar mo, a way that may prent the greatt challenge to his attorney. “Invasn of privacy” is a Peepg Tom statute. A fourth-gree vasn-of-privacy charge refers to the act of observg someone, whout nsent, “unr circumstanc which a reasonable person would know that another may expose timate parts or engage sexual peratn or sexual ntact.” A third-gree charge pertas to disclosg imag whout nsent—“a photograph, film, viotape, rerdg, or other reproductn” of someone “whose timate parts were exposed” or who was engaged sexual ntact. Ravi is charged wh havg done both the thgs on September 19th, and wh havg attempted to repeat them on September 21st. (On both dat, bias timidatn is attached, creatg the risk of a long prison sentence.) In asssg Ravi’s actns on September 19th, one uld perhaps mount the argument that sexual ntact was not expected, that he did not tape anythg, that the transmissn was extremely limed time and reach, and that nobody saw sex or timate body parts. On the twenty-first, however, Ravi tried to set up a viewg.</p><div data-attr-viewport-monor="le-recirc" class="le-recirc-wrapper le-recirc-observer-target-10 viewport-monor-anchor"></div><p class="paywall">At 5:20 <em class="small">P.M.</em>, Ravi tweeted, “6 foot wall of lobster crab and shrimp. I love tgers.” (It was Kg Neptune Night the dg hall.) At 6:39 <em class="small">P.M.</em>, he followed this up wh “Anyone wh iChat, I dare you to vio chat me between the hours of 9:30 and 12. Y, ’s happeng aga.” Alissa Agarwal, a stunt livg Davidson C, walked across mp wh Ravi, and others, after supper that eveng. She told police that although she had been “zong him out,” she heard him “braggg” about his plan to broadst Clementi’s date. The group went to Agarwal’s room. Prosecutors allege that, at 7:44 <em class="small">P.M.</em>, Ravi ed Agarwal’s puter to check the iChat nnectn wh his own puter.</p></div></div></div><div class="GridItem-buujkM fVLMby grid--em grid-layout__asi"><div class="StickyBoxWrapper-jfYB jxBcTH sticky-box"><div class="StickyBoxPrimary-dzWDWL cdhYoN sticky-box__primary"><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssQ ad ad--rail"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot--rail" data-no-id="not68"></div></div><div class="ConsumerMarketgUnThemedWrapper-iUTMTf jssHut nsumer-marketg-un nsumer-marketg-un--display-rail" role="prentatn" aria-hidn="te"><div class="nsumer-marketg-un__slot nsumer-marketg-un__slot--display-rail"></div><div class="journey-un"></div></div></div><div class="StickyBoxPlaceholr-grPmrg dxAvXx"></div></div></div></div><div class="RowWrapper-UmqTg HEhan full-bleed-ad row-mid-ntent-ad"><div class="StickyMidContentAdWrapper-fSBzwl drzyIa ad-stickymidntent"><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssQ ad ad--mid-ntent should-hold-space"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot--mid-ntent" data-no-id="s7yp5c"></div></div></div></div><div class="GridWrapper-cAzTTK kHBDeH grid grid-margs grid-ems-2 ArticlePageChunksGrid-hfxa bjczjj grid-layout--adrail narrow wi-adrail"><div class="GridItem-buujkM stRKV grid--em grid-layout__ntent"><div class="BodyWrapper-kufPGa bDyAMU body body__ntaer article__body" data-journey-hook="client-ntent" data-ttid="BodyWrapper"><div class="body__ner-ntaer"><p class="paywall">That eveng, Ravi also texted wh Michelle Huang, a high-school iend who was at Cornell. “I have poted at his bed and the monor is off so he n’t see you,” he wrote. And, “It’s set to tomatilly accept, I jt tted and works.” He later add, “be reful uld get nasty,” and “people are havg a viewg party.” (Huang did not take up the offer.)</p><p class="paywall">At around eight-thirty, Ravi left Davidson C for Ultimate Frisbee practice. Clementi read Ravi’s “happeng aga” tweet sometime before mid-eveng—and this seems to have end his doubts about takg actn. Jt before M.B. was due to arrive, Clementi went to see Raahi Grover, a rint adviser. Grover took him serly, and asked him to repeat his story an e-mail. He also offered him a spare bed his own room for that night. Clementi cled, and returned to his room.</p><p class="paywall">He unplugged Ravi’s puter. In a text sent at 9:41 <em class="small">P.M.</em>, he told Yang, “I was aaid he might have hidn another webm so I also shut down and turned off the power strip.” Prosecutors, pursug a bias charge, have claimed that “aaid,” this ntext, nstut evince of fear.</p><p class="paywall">Ravi ntends that, by this time, he had changed his md about the broadst, and had disabled his webm. Yet he was still referrg to a “viewg party” after leavg the dorm for Frisbee, and, when he texted Huang the next day, he said, “ got msed up and didn’t work <em class="small">LOL</em>.”</p><p class="paywall">M.B. arrived at 10:19 <em class="small">P.M.</em> Clementi did not tell him about what had happened on Sunday. Ravi me back to the dorm, and waed Agarwal’s room. Jt after eleven, he texted Clementi to ask if he was still g the room. At eleven-forty-eight, Clementi replied, “we’re done.”</p><p class="paywall">About fifteen mut later, Clementi sent a formal e-mail to Grover. He scribed the two cints, quoted Ravi’s Twter msag, and wrote, “I feel that my privacy has been vlated and I am extremely unfortable sharg a room wh someone who would act this wildly appropriate manner.”</p><p class="paywall">That night, at Jtboys, he wrote, “I haven’t even seen my roommate sce sunday when i was askg for the room the first time . . . and him dog aga jt set me off. . . . so talkg to him jt didn’t seem like an optn.” He add, “Meanwhile I turned off and unplugged his puter, went crazy lookg for other hidn ms. . . . and then had a great time.” A few mut later, he rpond to the suggtn that he should take a screen shot of Ravi’s Twter feed: “Oh haha already there baby.”</p><p class="has-dropp has-dropp__lead-standard-headg paywall">Late the next morng, Clementi spoke to his mother on the phone. He sound normal, she says, although “there were some more thoughtful moments.” He also received an e-mail om the Rutgers hog office, askg him to ll.</p><p class="paywall">That afternoon, he spent three hours rehearsg the “Symphonie Fantastique.” Kynan Johns, who ran the rehearsal, saw nothg remarkable Clementi’s behavr, and even had some good news to share: he’d secured Clementi ee vl lsons. Pl Maardi told me that Clementi “sat next to this girl the vl sectn that he always sat next to. They were discsg the difficulti of a particular passage, makg not their mic, and even discsg some events that were upg. Everythg was, on s face, so typilly typil.”</p><div data-attr-viewport-monor="le-recirc" class="le-recirc-wrapper le-recirc-observer-target-11 viewport-monor-anchor"></div><p class="paywall">Ravi had no class that day, and spent much of his room. In the afternoon, Raahi Grover, the R.A., vised him there, and told him about Clementi’s plat. Acrdg to Grover’s statement to police, Ravi tried to fend himself, but Grover cut him off. Ravi “seemed que upset” and “nfed,” Grover said.</p><p class="paywall">Ravi was the room when, sometime after five o’clock, Clementi returned to Davidson C. This may have been the first time they had teracted sce Sunday. Ravi later relled Clementi “dog somethg by his sk.” That’s where police found the handwrten note, si Clementi’s backpack. (The note’s ntents have not yet been disclosed to the Clementi fay.) Ravi and Clementi were there together for ls than an hour. 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When he me back, Clementi was gone, although his bag was still there. He figured, “Oh, maybe he jt went to grab food, or whatever.” If Clementi and Ravi had argued, Ravi showed no sign of strs when he texted wh Jason Tam, who was New York, between 5:40 and 6:30 <em class="small">P.M.</em> Ravi enuraged him to vis Rutgers: “Come to RU faggot.” Tam replied, “No, is gay.”</p><p class="paywall">Maardi told me what he knew of the next hours. Clementi went to the mp food urt, bought a burger, and, at about six-thirty, took the universy shuttle b to the rail statn, where he took a tra to New York, then a subway uptown. He head toward the Gee Washgton Bridge.</p><p class="paywall">He was rryg his phone, and he stalled the Facebook app—this actn was reportedly documented on his news feed. At eight-forty-two, he posted a stat update: “Jumpg off the gw bridge sorry.” Maardi was told that there were no wns; people saw Clementi on the south path and then saw that he wasn’t there. The fall, om the center of the bridge, is about two hundred feet. His phone and wallet were found on the bridge.</p><p class="paywall">Five mut after Clementi posted to Facebook, Ravi sent him a long text. (Ravi later said that he saw the Facebook postg only on the followg day.) He told Clementi that, on Sunday night, he was showg Wei his webm setup when he’d ught an accintal glimpse of Clementi, addg, “Obvly I told people what occurred so they uld give me advice.” He said of Tuday night, “I turned my mera away and put my puter to sleep so even if anyone tried wouldn’t work. I wanted to make amends for sunday night. I’m sorry if you heard somethg distorted and disturbg but I assure you all my actns were good natured.”</p></div></div></div><div class="GridItem-buujkM fVLMby grid--em grid-layout__asi"><div class="StickyBoxWrapper-jfYB jxBcTH sticky-box"><div class="StickyBoxPrimary-dzWDWL cdhYoN sticky-box__primary"></div><div class="StickyBoxPlaceholr-grPmrg dxAvXx"></div></div></div></div><div class="RowWrapper-UmqTg HEhan full-bleed-ad row-mid-ntent-ad"><div class="StickyMidContentAdWrapper-fSBzwl drzyIa ad-stickymidntent"><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssQ ad ad--mid-ntent should-hold-space"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot--mid-ntent" data-no-id="1c7u9n"></div></div></div></div><div class="GridWrapper-cAzTTK kHBDeH grid grid-margs grid-ems-2 ArticlePageChunksGrid-hfxa bjczjj grid-layout--adrail narrow wi-adrail"><div class="GridItem-buujkM stRKV grid--em grid-layout__ntent"><div class="BodyWrapper-kufPGa bDyAMU body body__ntaer article__body" data-journey-hook="client-ntent" data-ttid="BodyWrapper"><div class="body__ner-ntaer"><p class="paywall">Ten mut later, Ravi wrote aga, a ls weaselly way. This msage is somethg that one wish had been wrten three weeks before: “I’ve known you were gay and I have no problem wh . In fact one of my clost iends is gay and he and I have a very open relatnship. I jt spected you were shy about which is why I never broached the topic. I don’t want your hman year to be ed bee of a petty misunrstandg, ’s addg to my guilt. You have a right to move if you wish but I don’t want you to feel prsured to whout fully unrstandg the suatn.”</p><p class="paywall">That eveng, the Port Authory police, after fdg Clementi’s posssns on the bridge, alerted his parents, who, turn, lled Rutgers. Police officers drove to Davidson C, but there was no reply when they knocked at Room 30. Wei, noticg the motn, phoned Ravi eight or ne tim. When he fally picked up, he told her that he was his room and she’d awakened him, addg, “I’m really tired, I want to go back to sleep.” But he did then talk to the police. He gave them a scriptn of M.B., sayg of him, “I was worried that maybe he was volved wh somethg.”</p><div data-attr-viewport-monor="le-recirc" class="le-recirc-wrapper le-recirc-observer-target-12 viewport-monor-anchor"></div><p class="paywall">That night, Ravi leted the “yay” tweet and replaced Tuday’s “dare you to chat me” tweet wh one that said, “Roommate asked for room aga. Its happeng aga. People wh ichat don’t you dare vio chat me om 930 to 12.” And then he wrote, “Everyone ignore that last tweet. Stupid drafts.” Ravi claimed that he had accintally published a stored draft. If so, ’s not clear why he didn’t lete . It seems more likely that he was beg evasive. He knew that a ls crimatg versn of his tweet would have a Wednday time stamp. The “draft” tweet would help to expla Wednday’s livery of a Tuday tweet. The letn of the two earlier tweets, along wh text-msage nversatns that Ravi had wh Huang and Wei, form part of the dictment agast him.</p><p class="paywall">By ten-thirty that night, the Clementis had been told that, apparently, Tyler had jumped om the Gee Washgton Bridge. Maardi scribed “a few nerve-rackg days, where you wonred whether maybe was a fake by him.” He remembered a nversatn wh an vtigator the office of the prosecutors, “when we were still wag for his body to be disvered, explorg the var possibili: what if he didn’t jump? What if he’s livg wh some guy New York Cy, and ’s the only way he n fd a way to do ? And I said, ‘If he did that, <em>I’m</em> gog to kill him.’ ” He gave a sad lgh.</p><p class="paywall">On September 29th, Jim Swimm, who liv northern Manhattan, was takg a lunchtime walk Inwood Hill Park when he saw a body floatg the Hudson. A park ranger lled the police, who dispatched a boat that picked up the body near a Columbia Universy athletic plex. Swimm, who is gay, said, “Not to sound all metaphysil about , but I feel as if he was speakg to me that day—sayg, people need to pay attentn to what’s happeng.”</p><p class="has-dropp has-dropp__lead-standard-headg paywall">Six days before Clementi’s body was disvered, a legatn of Rutgers staff members vised Ravi his room, and urged him to go home to Plasboro. “I want to stay and fend my honor,” he said, but he was persuad to leave.</p><p class="paywall">That afternoon, Wei was beg terviewed by Rutgers police. Durg a break qutng, she received a text om Ravi:</p><blockquote class="BlockquoteEmbedWrapper-sc-SdiGL jPeLne paywall blockquote-embed"><div class="BlockquoteEmbedContent-RbGs gmbtPx blockquote-embed__ntent"><p>R<em class="small">AVI</em>: Did you tell them we did on purpose?</p><p>W<em class="small">EI</em>: Yeah . . well that we didn’t know</p><p>what we were gonna see</p><p>Where is tyler . .</p><p>R<em class="small">AVI</em>: Bee I said we were jt msg around wh the mera. He told me he wanted to have a iend over and I didn’t realize they wanted to be all private.</p><p>W<em class="small">EI</em>: Omg dhan why didnt u talk to me first i told them everythg</p></div></blockquote><p class="paywall">He asked, “Did you say anythg about tuday bee I turned off my puter that day.” Wei asked what had happened on Tuday. “Nothg,” Ravi replied. This exchange, too, is clud the dictment, as an alleged act of wns tamperg. Dpe beg prsed by tectiv, Wei has sisted that although she knew Clementi had asked for the room on Tuday, she had missed all the talk of a “viewg party.”</p><p class="paywall">Ravi was asleep at home when the police me to Plasboro. His father woke him, and Ravi agreed to be taken back to New Bnswick, where he spoke to the police after waivg his right to a lawyer. He aga claimed that he had abandoned the Tuday viewg, and tried to expla the bs of the leted tweets. The tective beme impatient: “It’s up to you which way you want this to go. You want to lie to ?”</p><p class="paywall">If prosecutors had been able to charge Ravi wh shifts and bad fah—if the crimal law exactly reflected mon moral judgments about kdns and reliabily—then to nvict him would be easy. The long dictment agast Ravi n be seen as a kd of regretful mentary about the absence of such statut. 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Ravi alone was charged for an attempted viewg on September 21st. Even if one doubts that the charg would have been brought if Clementi had not died, or qutns that men are revealg “sexual parts” by removg their shirts, the charg ma some legal sense: Ravi and Wei had admted seeg the vio imag. But to some an “vasn of privacy” charge seemed sufficient; Equaly Fom, a natnal gay-rights anizatn, released a statement that lled the actns of Ravi and Wei “shockg, malic, and heo,” and urged “the prosecutor to file murr by reckls manslghter charg.” Pla Dow, then New Jersey’s Attorney General, said, “Sometim the laws don’t always aquately addrs the suatn. That may e to pass here.” Bce J. Kaplan, the Middlex County prosecutor, announced, “We will be makg every effort to asss whether bias played a role the cint.”</p></div></div></div><div class="GridItem-buujkM fVLMby grid--em grid-layout__asi"><div class="StickyBoxWrapper-jfYB jxBcTH sticky-box"><div class="StickyBoxPrimary-dzWDWL cdhYoN sticky-box__primary"><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssQ ad ad--rail"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot--rail" data-no-id="cdfpt9"></div></div><div class="ConsumerMarketgUnThemedWrapper-iUTMTf jssHut nsumer-marketg-un nsumer-marketg-un--display-rail" role="prentatn" aria-hidn="te"><div class="nsumer-marketg-un__slot nsumer-marketg-un__slot--display-rail"></div><div class="journey-un"></div></div></div><div class="StickyBoxPlaceholr-grPmrg dxAvXx"></div></div></div></div><div class="RowWrapper-UmqTg HEhan full-bleed-ad row-mid-ntent-ad"><div class="StickyMidContentAdWrapper-fSBzwl drzyIa ad-stickymidntent"><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssQ ad ad--mid-ntent should-hold-space"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot--mid-ntent" data-no-id="v677s"></div></div></div></div><div class="GridWrapper-cAzTTK kHBDeH grid grid-margs grid-ems-2 ArticlePageChunksGrid-hfxa bjczjj grid-layout--adrail narrow wi-adrail"><div class="GridItem-buujkM stRKV grid--em grid-layout__ntent"><div class="BodyWrapper-kufPGa bDyAMU body body__ntaer article__body" data-journey-hook="client-ntent" data-ttid="BodyWrapper"><div class="body__ner-ntaer"><p class="paywall">In April, 2011, a grand jury dicted Ravi on fifteen unts, cludg two charg of send-gree bias timidatn. Two weeks later, Wei ma a al wh prosecutors: the charg agast her would be dropped if she agreed to attend unsellg, serve three hundred hours of muny service, and ttify agast Ravi, if lled. Before the end of May, Ravi was offered a plea barga for a three-to-five-year sentence; he rejected . A send offer was ma December: no jail time, an effort to protect him agast portatn, and six hundred hours of muny service. This, too, was rejected. “You want to know why?” Steven Altman, Ravi’s lawyer, said to reporters, outsi the urthoe, on December 9th. “Simple answer, simple prciple of law, simple prciple of life: he’s nocent.” Ravi’s trial, startg a week before his twentieth birthday, is expected to last a month.</p><div data-attr-viewport-monor="le-recirc" class="le-recirc-wrapper le-recirc-observer-target-13 viewport-monor-anchor"></div><p class="paywall">He is wag at home Plasboro. Altman said that he has been takg onle urs. Ravi told Jason Tam that he has signed a door lock that employs fgerprt regnn. (“Be proud of me,” he told Tam.) Anil Kappa, the fay iend, utns that, even wh an acqutal, Ravi would still “face this for the rt of his life,” addg, “He’s gog to keep payg the price.”</p><p class="has-dropp has-dropp__lead-standard-headg paywall">Plugged In, an entertament Web se published by Foc on the Fay, the Christian nservative group, recently ran what lled “a ndown of pop culture’s biggt shakers and breakers” of 2011. At No. 6, between Rebec Black and Tim Tebow, was Tyler Clementi, whose ath “was a cril remr that, even when we disagree wh someone’s choic or liftyle, we mt always treat that person wh rpect, digny and passn.” The entry was illtrated wh Clementi’s Facebook photograph: self-shot, his sunny Ridgewood bedroom, shows him wh cropped hair, glass, and a hant se. As the story of Clementi has bee a popular parable of teen-age good and evil, that yellow-toned photograph has bee an in of adolcent distrs.</p><p class="paywall">One afternoon last October, a year after Clementi’s ath, the image was projected onto two giant screens a hall a stunt center at Rutgers. CNN was tapg a special, “Bullyg: It Stops Here,” hosted by Anrson Cooper. The dience nsisted mostly of Rutgers stunts—Tyler Pine sat the ont row—and they listened urteoly as a floor manager lled out “Are you guys exced to be on TV?” and “You’re a good-lookg group,” then ached them on how to exprs shock or grief while watchg the panel.</p><p class="paywall">The discsn, volvg Dr. Phil McGraw, Kelly Ripa, and Robert Faris, a soclogist at U.C.-Davis, and others, began wh Cooper clarg that Tyler Clementi’s life had been “thrown onto the Inter.” Then, what may have been quiet regnn that the source of Clementi’s spair was unknown, and may rema unknown, the show barely mentned Clementi aga. Its primary subject was the meanns of middle-school stunts. Clementi was a totem, but not part of the story. Outsi, I spoke to Eric Thor, a junr, and the print of Delta Lambda Phi, a gay-oriented aterny. “ ‘Bullyg’ is tryg to be a label that vers all negative terrelatns between stunts,” he said. “If you say the word enough, starts to lose meang.” He noted that Clementi had lacked a close ally at Rutgers. “Everyone needs a sikick. I don’t thk he had that.”</p><p class="paywall">I returned to New Bnswick a few weeks ago. In a der on Route 1, I had lunch wh Joseph and Jane Clementi, who had jt attend another pre-trial hearg. The Clementis are likable, thoughtful people. They were wearg gold-lored wristbands distributed by the Tyler Clementi Foundatn, which they lnched last year to raise awarens of teen-age suici, cyberbullyg, and the difficulti of gay youth. Joseph Clementi was wearg a pk tie. They didn’t want to discs the se, beyond sayg that they were satisfied wh the charg agast Ravi. “What we want to see is jtice,” Joseph Clementi said. “That don’t necsarily mean the punishment has to be harsh.”</p><p class="paywall">He talked about Tyler’s senr year high school. “I would characterize him as a child growg up,” he said. “He was gettg more to beg fashn-nsc. Now, this kid, he had to drs for orchtra—sce he was seven, he was wearg sus and ti. But he was gettg more trendy, the last year or so.” Jane Clementi relled that, not long before his ath, Tyler had bought a spectacular new pair of glass—bright green on the si of the stems. His father said, “He was fely tryg to exprs himself.”</p><p class="paywall">They never saw any sign of prsn, and n’t even see retrospectively. “As a parent, what says to me is that what you thk you know, you don’t know,” Joseph Clementi said. “And that’s a hard thg, bee we all thk, I know what my kid’s up to. You don’t.”</p><p class="paywall">On the night Jane Clementi learned that Tyler was gay, she said, “I told him not to hurt himself.” Not long before, a girl om his school had mted suici. “We had talked about briefly that summer, and for some reason that thought me to md. 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