A study to be released next month is offerg a rare glimpse si gay relatnships and reveals that monogamy is not a central feature for many.
Contents:
- "WE DO HAVE A VERY GOOD SEX LIFE": GAY MEN WH STRAIGHT WIV ARE G OUT -- AS HAPPILY MARRIED
- GAY MARRIAGE QUTN: ARE THEY BOTH LLED "WIFE" OR "HBAND"?
- HOW TO INTRODUCE A MARRIED GAY COUPLE
- IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND
- MANY SUCCSFUL GAY MARRIAG SHARE AN OPEN SECRET
"WE DO HAVE A VERY GOOD SEX LIFE": GAY MEN WH STRAIGHT WIV ARE G OUT -- AS HAPPILY MARRIED
So, I was workg on a tax return for a gay uple (I'm an acuntant). Now, assume that they were married and was two men, would they say "This is my... * male wife in gay marriage *
The stunts were there to learn about gay relatnships a settg where they uld ask qutns whout fear. ”Now ’s easy for a gay person to get offend by this qutn. I read an article recently that quoted RuPl, a gay in, who said, “The people who are mullg over certa words will have to ask themselv, ‘Is that word g om a place of love, or g om a place of hate?
One of the biggt reasons is that we as gay people are fightg to not be assigned a genr or a role all of the time our relatnships or life. As gay people, we want to be seen as two people who love each other and are a mted relatnship. That’s , but you n’t apply who we are to all gay relatnships.
GAY MARRIAGE QUTN: ARE THEY BOTH LLED "WIFE" OR "HBAND"?
An Army sergeant asks how to troduce his girliend to a married gay uple, one of whom is an officer. * male wife in gay marriage *
It was clear that people the class me om all walks of life and had many different levels of experience wh gay people.
” But he adds: “I’m gay. Weed is a practicg Mormon and the Church’s current stance on the topic of homosexualy n be summed up like so: “The attractn self is not a s, but actg on is. ” While Weed says he do not pass judgment on gay relatnships general, when me to his own life, he says, “I didn’t feel was right.
Note that we’re not talkg about so-lled ex-gays. In fact, the term “same-sex attracted, ” or SSA, has taken off as the notn of “ex-gays” has fallen out of favor. There are some key differenc between the two groups: “Ex-gays” believe that they have succsfully “cured” themselv of homosexualy.
HOW TO INTRODUCE A MARRIED GAY COUPLE
Is my hband gay? is an unthkable qutn to many wiv, and some hbands do turn out to be gay. Learn the signs of a gay hband. * male wife in gay marriage *
“Ex-gays” have a rightful reputatn for beg bigoted, whereas SSAs are not necsarily opposed to homosexualy. The next largt group was what he lls “pretty exclively gay.
“He didn't thk would ever happen, he had rigned himself to beg gay. (Note that Ksey’s “Sexual Behavr the Human Male” found that only 10 percent of men were "more or ls exclively homosexual.
Although he once supported nversn therapy, about a ago he me out agast and do not believe that gay people n be ma straight. ” This n mean that a client cis to embrace a gay inty over their relig inty.
IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND
I mentned earlier that SSAs are not necsarily anti-gay. But there are plenty of SSA men who believe that homosexual behavrs are a relig s -- and, as the recent amic brief shows, some are willg to go so far as to policize their inty orr to fight equal rights for gays.
There was even a recent TLC documentary, "My Hband's Not Gay, " about Mormon hoeholds Utah posed of same-sex attracted men married to women. "In some ways, a very relig, exclively gay man married to an asexual woman, they n have a very nice iendship, a very wonrful relatnship many ways, and wouldn't be a fay therapist's dream, but would be fe for them.
Eded for homophobic ments, there is no place here for that. One of the nict people on Mgle is gay, she dit her life to the fight agast ncer, might be worth bearg md before you make your ments. You also n have this phenomenon hetero relatnships, 's not exclive to homosexual relatnships.
MANY SUCCSFUL GAY MARRIAG SHARE AN OPEN SECRET
24, 2013Every other Tuday, Steven Petrow, the thor of “Steven Petrow’s Complete Gay & Lbian Manners” (Workman, 2011), addrs qutns about gay and straight etiquette for a boomer-age dience.
Send qutns for Civil Behavr to Dear Civil Behavr: I’m a sergeant the Army, and my girliend and I are to meet wh a married gay uple (he’s an officer). ” This year, thanks to the Supreme Court’s double punch June — guttg the feral Defense of Marriage Act and dismissg California’s Prop 8 — the floodgat have opened and gay upl are shg to take advantage of this momento time. ’ ”Ined, etiquette n sometim seem like a strajacket (“do this, not that”), but also sets out protol, as this suatn, that simply mak for fewer missteps or fx that said, I know om iends and my own recent marriage that changg monikers tak some gettg ed to — by both gays and straights.