Why are straight women so drawn to havg gay men as iends?
Contents:
- THE GAY VOICE
- WHEN GAY MEN (MIS)MARRY STRAIGHT WOMEN: BONNIE KAYE'S STORY
- WHY DO WOMEN PREFER GAY MEN AS FRIENDS?
- WHAT'S THE SCIENCE BEHD STRAIGHT WOMEN LIKG GAY MEN?
- WHY STRAIGHT WOMEN AND GAY MEN ARE OFTEN SO CLOSE
- GAY MEN HAVG SEX WH WOMEN?
- GAY STEREOTYP: ARE THEY TE?
THE GAY VOICE
When a straight woman marri a gay man, what do she experience? * why do gay men talk like women *
After intifyg phoic characteristics that seem to make a man’s voice sound gay, their bt hunch is that some gay men may subnscly adopt certa female speech patterns.
WHEN GAY MEN (MIS)MARRY STRAIGHT WOMEN: BONNIE KAYE'S STORY
A lack of anxiety related to gay men's sexual tent creas women's fort. * why do gay men talk like women *
They want to know how men acquire this manner of speakg, and why – pecially when society so often stigmatiz those wh gay-soundg voic. Rogers and Smyth are also explorg the stereotyp that gay men sound effemate and are regnized by the way they speak.
The straightt-soundg voice the study was fact a gay man, and the sixth gayt-soundg voice was a straight man. The way that male gays talk don't even really bother me unls 's overtly flamboyant, I fd myself sensive to loud talkg no matter who is.
I recently spoke wh Bonnie Kaye, thor of Straight Wiv, Shattered Liv: Stori of Women wh Gay Hbands, among other books, and host of Bonnie Kaye’s Straight Wiv Talk Show on BlogTalkRad.
WHY DO WOMEN PREFER GAY MEN AS FRIENDS?
I noticed gay men and women like to act like the oppose sex. For example the gay guys like to talk, drs and act like women and ually hang out * why do gay men talk like women *
Bonnie has spent much of her adult life first livg wh and attemptg to love a gay hband and then helpg other women the same mis-marriage suatn.
Bee I know untls gay men who were once married to straight women, wh varyg gre of short and longer-term happs and misery, I wanted to discs this topic, and I wanted to do so om the straight wiv’ perspective.
Our discsn was wi-rangg, begng wh her own marriage to a gay man and progrsg to how she was able to move on post-marriage, eventually beg a rock for other women siar suatns. So if somebody told me they’d tried somethg but they didn’t like , there would be no reason for me to thk that the person was gay.
WHAT'S THE SCIENCE BEHD STRAIGHT WOMEN LIKG GAY MEN?
* why do gay men talk like women *
He was a karate teacher, martial arts, a strong guy, looked like Sylvter Stallone, and gay was not one of the issu I thought about wh him. There were issu wh him om the start, but nothg to make me thk that he might be gay.
Then somebody who was part of my social work rmed me, a uple of weeks before we were supposed to get married, that he had spicns that Robert was gay. Then, wh the AIDS epimic, a lot of men who were gay felt as if they uld be straight, was a good time to be straight.
And at the end of the day, wasn’t the fact that he was gay that was so vastatg to me, was the way that he treated me.
WHY STRAIGHT WOMEN AND GAY MEN ARE OFTEN SO CLOSE
It’s an ternalized homophobia that I see a lot, even among gay men who are out and open. Do you fd that a lot of gay men straight marriag engage blamg and gaslightg as part of the act?
I saw one of your blog posts you e the term “gaylightg” to scribe this form of gaslightg. I fd tertg that a lot of men this suatn ratnalize their behavr, sayg ’s not cheatg and don’t mean they’re gay. I did, even then, thk that many gay people are who they are and that’s all there is to .
He had also been tellg me thgs like, “If you ever tell anybody the silly stori about me beg gay, then that’s , we’re done. In other words, they examed how iendship velopment vari based on whether a straight woman is makg iends wh a gay man or a straight man.
GAY MEN HAVG SEX WH WOMEN?
Past rearch has shown that straight women and gay men form close relatnships due to an apparent creased willgns to engage timate nversatns1.
Some have suggted that this may be bee straight men and women are perceived as havg ls mon wh each other pared to straight women and gay men2. This explanatn, however, is based on the stereotypil assumptns about gay men and femy. Consequently, rearchers at the Universy of Texas explored an alternate potential explanatn: Straight women may velop iendships wh gay men more easily than they do wh straight men, bee when teractg wh gay men, the necsy of worryg about whether the potential iend will seek to ga sexual accs to them has been removed om the equatn3.
Participants aga dited how fortable they thought they would be while ntug to teract wh the man after learng of his sexual inty (eher gay or straight).
GAY STEREOTYP: ARE THEY TE?
As the rearchers had predicted, the rults monstrated that women anticipate beg more fortable teractg wh gay men vers straight men, largely due to the removal of ncerns related to the man’s sexual tentns.