Will and Grace knew . Dto for Stanford and Carrie. Now a new psychology study has provid evince that gay men and straight women are the perfect iends wh benefs – as long as the benefs have to do wh tstworthy relatnship advice.
Contents:
- THE GAY VOICE
- WHEN GAY MEN (MIS)MARRY STRAIGHT WOMEN: BONNIE KAYE'S STORY
- WHY DO WOMEN PREFER GAY MEN AS FRIENDS?
- WHAT'S THE SCIENCE BEHD STRAIGHT WOMEN LIKG GAY MEN?
- WHY STRAIGHT WOMEN AND GAY MEN ARE OFTEN SO CLOSE
- GAY MEN HAVG SEX WH WOMEN?
- GAY STEREOTYP: ARE THEY TE?
THE GAY VOICE
When a straight woman marri a gay man, what do she experience? * why do gay men talk like women *
After intifyg phoic characteristics that seem to make a man’s voice sound gay, their bt hunch is that some gay men may subnscly adopt certa female speech patterns.
They want to know how men acquire this manner of speakg, and why – pecially when society so often stigmatiz those wh gay-soundg voic.
Rogers and Smyth are also explorg the stereotyp that gay men sound effemate and are regnized by the way they speak.
WHEN GAY MEN (MIS)MARRY STRAIGHT WOMEN: BONNIE KAYE'S STORY
A lack of anxiety related to gay men's sexual tent creas women's fort. * why do gay men talk like women *
The straightt-soundg voice the study was fact a gay man, and the sixth gayt-soundg voice was a straight man. The way that male gays talk don't even really bother me unls 's overtly flamboyant, I fd myself sensive to loud talkg no matter who is.
I recently spoke wh Bonnie Kaye, thor of Straight Wiv, Shattered Liv: Stori of Women wh Gay Hbands, among other books, and host of Bonnie Kaye’s Straight Wiv Talk Show on BlogTalkRad. Bonnie has spent much of her adult life first livg wh and attemptg to love a gay hband and then helpg other women the same mis-marriage suatn.
Bee I know untls gay men who were once married to straight women, wh varyg gre of short and longer-term happs and misery, I wanted to discs this topic, and I wanted to do so om the straight wiv’ perspective.
WHY DO WOMEN PREFER GAY MEN AS FRIENDS?
I noticed gay men and women like to act like the oppose sex. For example the gay guys like to talk, drs and act like women and ually hang out * why do gay men talk like women *
Our discsn was wi-rangg, begng wh her own marriage to a gay man and progrsg to how she was able to move on post-marriage, eventually beg a rock for other women siar suatns.
So if somebody told me they’d tried somethg but they didn’t like , there would be no reason for me to thk that the person was gay. He was a karate teacher, martial arts, a strong guy, looked like Sylvter Stallone, and gay was not one of the issu I thought about wh him. There were issu wh him om the start, but nothg to make me thk that he might be gay.
WHAT'S THE SCIENCE BEHD STRAIGHT WOMEN LIKG GAY MEN?
Why are straight women so drawn to havg gay men as iends? * why do gay men talk like women *
Then somebody who was part of my social work rmed me, a uple of weeks before we were supposed to get married, that he had spicns that Robert was gay. Then, wh the AIDS epimic, a lot of men who were gay felt as if they uld be straight, was a good time to be straight. And at the end of the day, wasn’t the fact that he was gay that was so vastatg to me, was the way that he treated me.
WHY STRAIGHT WOMEN AND GAY MEN ARE OFTEN SO CLOSE
It’s an ternalized homophobia that I see a lot, even among gay men who are out and open. Do you fd that a lot of gay men straight marriag engage blamg and gaslightg as part of the act?
I saw one of your blog posts you e the term “gaylightg” to scribe this form of gaslightg. I fd tertg that a lot of men this suatn ratnalize their behavr, sayg ’s not cheatg and don’t mean they’re gay.
GAY MEN HAVG SEX WH WOMEN?
I did, even then, thk that many gay people are who they are and that’s all there is to . He had also been tellg me thgs like, “If you ever tell anybody the silly stori about me beg gay, then that’s , we’re done.
In other words, they examed how iendship velopment vari based on whether a straight woman is makg iends wh a gay man or a straight man. Past rearch has shown that straight women and gay men form close relatnships due to an apparent creased willgns to engage timate nversatns1. Some have suggted that this may be bee straight men and women are perceived as havg ls mon wh each other pared to straight women and gay men2.
This explanatn, however, is based on the stereotypil assumptns about gay men and femy. Consequently, rearchers at the Universy of Texas explored an alternate potential explanatn: Straight women may velop iendships wh gay men more easily than they do wh straight men, bee when teractg wh gay men, the necsy of worryg about whether the potential iend will seek to ga sexual accs to them has been removed om the equatn3. Participants aga dited how fortable they thought they would be while ntug to teract wh the man after learng of his sexual inty (eher gay or straight).
GAY STEREOTYP: ARE THEY TE?
As the rearchers had predicted, the rults monstrated that women anticipate beg more fortable teractg wh gay men vers straight men, largely due to the removal of ncerns related to the man’s sexual tentns. Women reported feelg more fortable when they found out that their hypothetil male nversatn partner was gay, rather than straight, and this associatn was explaed by their rced anxiety about the man’s sexual tentns. When women found out they were teractg wh gay men, their body language beme more engagg and timate.
The women reported greater fort levels when teractg wh gay men pared to straight men. However, the effects changed based on a woman’s level of perceived attractivens, such that only women who rated themselv as beg more attractive reported creased fort while teractg wh a gay man.
Addnally, women’s actual behavr also shifted after learng that they were teractg wh a gay man. "Explic knowledge of a man’s sexual preference not only creased a woman’s fort wh a gay man (vs. This novel rearch provis sight to the velopment of iendships—both those between straight men and women, as well as gay men and straight women.