That’s Not How Dicks Work: On <i>Not Gay</i> and "Straight" Men Who Have Gay Sex

Contents:

• A HANDY GUI TO ALL GAY MEN
• WHAT'S UP WH "GENR CRIL" GAY GUYS?
• GAY
• PETER THIEL IS TOTALLY GAY, PEOPLE
• GAY MUNICH
• GAWKER’S HOMOPHOBIC, YEARS-LONG CSA TO OUT JAM FRANGROSSGAWKER HAS E UNR FIRE FOR UNSCPULOLY OUTG A CON NAST EXEC—AND ARGUABLY ABETTG A BLACKMAIL PLOT. BUT THEY’VE BEEN SIARLY HARASSG JAM FRAN FOR YEARS. MARLOW STERNUPDATED JUL. 12, 2017 4:41PM EDT / PUBLISHED JUL. 17, 2015 9:50PM EDT LARRY BAC/GETTYON THURSDAY EVENG, THE MEDIA WEBSE GAWKER RAN A CLICKBA “SOP” ABOUT AN EXECUTIVE AT A MAJOR MAGAZE PANY WHO HAD ENLISTED THE SERVIC OF A GAY PORN STAR/RT, ARRANGG TO PAY HIM $2,500 FOR A WEEKEND TRYST. THE JOHN WAS MARRIED TO A WOMAN WH TWO YOUNG CHILDREN, AND HIS BROTHER ONCE SERVED AS A SENR OFFICIAL WH THE OBAMA ADMISTRATN.ONCE THE PROSTUTE UGHT WD OF THE JOHN’S POWERFUL TI, HE PROCEED TO BLACKMAIL THE CFO BY THREATENG TO EXPOSE THE ARRANGEMENT UNLS HE HELPED THE RT WH A HOG DISCRIMATN SE AGAST A FORMER LANDLORD—ONE THAT HE’D ALLEGEDLY BROUGHT TO THE ATTENTN OF HIS LOL POLICIAN, PRINTIAL NDIDATE TED CZ (R-TX). GAWKER, AS IS S WONT, PUBLISHED ALL THE TEXT MSAG BETWEEN THE TWO—EFFECTIVELY OUTG AND SHAMG THE EXEC—WHILE PROTECTG THE INTY OF THE BLACKMAILER, WHO TURNED OUT TO BE A PLETE NUTJOB.THE MEDIA THEN BEGAN (RIGHTFULLY) POLICG GAWKER FOR THE SPIBLE POST, WHICH ONLY SEEMED TO EMBOLN S EDOR--CHIEF, MAX READ, WHO TWEETED OUT A FENSE OF THE PIECE: THE PROBLEMS WH THE STORY, AS LAID OUT ASTUTELY BY THE INTERCEPT’S GLENN GREENWALD, WERE THAT THE MAN WAS NOT A PUBLIC OFFICIAL, THE POST DID NOT SERVE THE PUBLIC TERT, AND THAT GAWKER MAY HAVE EVEN ABETTED A BLACKMAIL PLOT BY SERVG AS A BARGAG CHIP. THE POST WAS TAKEN DOWN FRIDAY EVENG AT THE BEHT OF GAWKER’S MANAGEMENT BOARD, AND GAWKER FOUNR NICK DENTON LATER RELEASED A MEA CULPA, CLAIMG HE’S EXPERIENCED WHAT ALHOLICS REFER TO AS A “MOMENT OF CLARY.” PERHAPS THE VILT THG ABOUT THE PIECE IS HOW LACED WH HOMOPHOBIA WAS, AS S MA, HATEFUL “MISSN” SEEMED TO BE OUTG A MAN, AS IF BEG GAY WAS SOMETHG TO BE ASHAMED OF 2015, MERE WEEKS AFTER THE SUPREME COURT LEGALIZED SAME-SEX MARRIAGE ALL FIFTY STAT.BUT GAWKER MEDIA HAS LONG HARBORED A CREEPY OBSSN WH OUTG CLOSETED MEN. BACK 2007, ONE OF S FIRST NTROVERSIAL STORI VOLVED S SISTER SE VALLEYWAG PUBLISHG A PIECE OUTG SILIN VALLEY VENTURE PALIST PETER THIEL A POST TLED, “PETER THIEL IS TOTALLY GAY, PEOPLE.” IN THE MENT SECTN OF THE PIECE, DENTON WROTE THAT HE WAS NFED WHY THIEL WOULD KEEP “HIS PERSONAL LIFE A SECRET OM JOURNALISTS…” AS IF HE WAS ENTLED TO THIS RMATN OM A NON-PUBLIC FIGURE. AND THEN THERE WAS THE UNFORTUNATE OUTG OF FOX NEWS ANCHOR SHEPARD SMH 2013, A NASTY GAY IGHT PIECE THAT WAS EVISCERATED A LUMN BY THE LATE, GREAT NEW YORK TIM MEDIA CRIC DAVID CARR.BUT NO ONE HAS BEEN ON THE RECEIVG END OF MORE HARASSMENT BY GAWKER THAN OSR-NOMATED ACTOR JAM FRAN.THE REPUGNANT H PIEC BEGAN AROUND 2008, AS FRAN WAS MID-TRANSN OM WANRG HIMBO TO SER ACTOR, WH STANDOUT PERFORMANC THE STONER EDY PEAPPLE EXPRS AND AS THE GAY LOVER TO SEAN PENN’S HARVEY MILK MILK. HISTORILLY, THERE HAS BEEN A TROUBLG TENNCY BY THE MOVIE-GOG PUBLIC AND TABLOID MEDIA TO QUTN AN ACTOR’S SEXUALY ONCE HE’S NVCGLY PLAYED A GAY CHARACTER ONSCREEN. GAWKER, HOWEVER, TOOK ONE STEP FURTHER: THEY ACCED FRAN OF BEG A GAY RAPIST.ON AUGT 18, 2008, THE NEW YORK POST RAN A GOSSIP BLD EM THAT READ: “WHICH HUNK A SUMMER MOVIE IS A VLENT, CLOSETED HOMOSEXUAL? THE HEARTTHROB SNUCK TO HIS EX'S APARTMENT A FEW MONTHS AGO AND RAPED HIM SO VLENTLY, THE EX END UP THE HOSPAL - AND THE ACTOR PAID HIM $500,000 TO KEEP HIS MOUTH SHUT.”BACK BEFORE DENTON’S “CHANGE OF HEART," GAWKER HAD A TENNCY TO BLDLY SPECULATE ABOUT GOSSIP BLD EMS—WHICH, FOR ALL WE KNOW, ULD BE PLETELY MA UP. BUT THEY TOOK PARTICULAR TERT THIS ONE, WH THEN-GAWKER WRER RICHARD LAWSON PENNG A FOLLOW-UP POST GUSG THAT THE GAY RAPIST MIGHT BE EHER WILL SMH, CHRISTIAN BALE, OR JAM FRAN, BASED PURELY (OR RATHER, IMPURELY) ON INTER MORS.“AND THEN THERE'S THE PELLG SE OF JAM FRAN,” LAWSON WROTE. “BASILLY THE MOR IS THAT FRAN DATED THE GUY ABOUT TWO YEARS AGO, AND STILL HAD A KEY TO HIS HOE. GUY GO TO AN OSRS PARTY, BACK AND FRAN IS WAG FOR HIM AND THEN AWFULNS GO DOWN. HE'S MORED TO HAVE BEEN ABIVE TOWARDS AN OLD GIRLIEND, ALSO AN ACTOR, SOME FIVE YEARS AGO. THIS MAK ME SAD BEE JAM FRAN IS DREAMY AND OH IF HE WERE GAY WE'D SURELY BE MARRIED NEXT SPRG, BUT IF HE'S A RAPER THEN I DON'T WANT ANYTHG TO DO WH HIM AND HE SHOULD BE JAIL.”DAYS LATER, LAWSON PENNED A FOLLOW-UP POST TLED: ALL DID WAS TALLY UP MENTERS’ FEELGS, WHO VOTED THAT AMONG THE THREE BASELS NDIDAT, FRAN WAS THEIR CHOICE AS LIKELIT PERP. AGA, THIS IS ALL A GUSG GAME, AND ALL OF THE PIEC STILL LIVE ONLE. THE FOLLOWG MONTH, LAWSON WROTE ANOTHER GAWKER POST TLED: THE PIECE WAS PEGGED TO FRAN’S ROLE AS PENN’S CHARACTER’S GAY LOVER MILK—AND A SUBSEQUENT TERVIEW WH OUT MAGAZE—AND, BASED ON NO EVINCE WHATSOEVER, THE GAWKER ARTICLE SUATED THAT FRAN WAS A GAY RAPIST, MENTNG “THE OMO MOR THAT HE ONCE RAPED HIS GAY LOVER.” IT ALSO QUTNED FRAN’S SEXUALY BASED ON HIS PLAYG TWO GAY ROL FILMS.LAWSON, WHO PENNED ALL OF THE AFOREMENTNED FRAN POSTS, TOOK TO TWTER LAST NIGHT TO ADM THAT HIS POSTS ACCG FRAN OF BEG A GAY RAPIST WERE “BASELS” AND THAT HE WROTE THEM ON THE ORRS OF HIS “BOSS” (HE’S SCE LETED THE TWEET), SENTIALLY ADMTG THAT HE’D BASED THEM ON UNSUBSTANTIATED CLAIMS: IN A STATEMENT TO THE DAILY BEAST, LAWSON SAID, “I EPLY REGRET THOSE POSTS. THOUGH THEY DON'T REALLY HAVE ANY UPSI, MAYBE THEY N AT LEAST SERVE AS A WARNG FOR YOUNGER WRERS NOW TO E FAR BETTER JUDGMENT THAN I DID BACK THEN.” FRAN ULD NOT BE REACHED FOR MENT.THGS WERE LEFT DORMANT UNTIL, 2013, GAWKER’S THEN-STAFF WRER (AND NOW EDOR--CHIEF) MAX READ WROTE A POST WH THE HEADLE, “JAM FRAN IS GAY,” AND EMBEDD AN INSTAGRAM POST FRAN ISSUED OF HIM AND A MAN GALLIVANTG ABOUT NEW YORK CY AND KISSG WH THE TONGUE--CHEEK PTN, “#JAMFRANTV LOVE????? #GAY.” THIS WAS CLEARLY FRAN TROLLG GAWKER, YET THEY RAN A FIVE CLICKBA-Y HEADLE PROCLAIMG HIM GAY, WHOUT CLUDG SO MUCH AS A QUTN MARK.FRAN WAS, PRUMABLY, RPONDG TO THE YEARS OF HARASSMENT HE’D RECEIVED ABOUT HIS SEXUALY BY GAWKER, CLUDG A RECENT POST BY WRER RICH JUZWIAK TWO WEEKS EARLIER FOLLOWG HIS COMEDY CENTRAL CELEBRY ROAST TLED, “JAM FRAN’S FRIENDS AND ROASTERS AGREE THAT HE IS VERY, VERY GAY.” AND JUZWIAK, WHO MONTHS LATER WOULD PEN A POST WH THE CLICKBA HEADLE, “JAM FRAN BAR ASS TO GAY MEN”—WHICH SOLELY NSISTED OF FRAN FLASHG HIS BEHD FOR CHARY AT A BROADWAY BAR EVENT THAT END UP RAISG $1.3 LN FOR THE FIGHT AGAST AIDS—WOULD LATER WHE ABOUT BEG DISVED OM A FRAN AFTERPARTY.GAWKER LATED THEIR FRAN WCH-HUNT WH A POST ON AUGT 6, 2014, THAT READ, “JAM FRAN IS LIVG WH A MAN.” THE POST, PENNED BY J.K. TROTTER, SUGGTED THAT FRAN WAS A GAY RELATNSHIP WH HIS EQUENT -STAR STT HAZE SOLELY BASED ON A LE A RECENT NEW YORK TIM PROFILE OF FRAN WHERE THE OSR-NOMATED ACTOR SHARED THAT HE AND HAZE LIVED THE SAME PLACE. FRAN RPOND TO THE GAWKER EM—WHICH STILL LIV ONLE—WH POSTS ON HIS INSTAGRAM AND FACEBOOK PAG ACCG GAWKER OF “ALWAYS GETTG THE CUTTG EDGE, HOMOPHOBIC SOP!” THE FOLLOWG DAY, TROTTER DOUBLED-DOWN ON HIS BASELS FRAN “OUTG” WH A POST TLED, “A SHORT HISTORY OF JAM FRAN AND STT HAZE PLAYG GAY,” WHICH ONCE AGA SUATED THAT FRAN WAS A GAY RELATNSHIP WH HAZE BASED MERELY ON THE CLOSENS OF THEIR RELATNSHIP—THE FACT THAT THEY’D BEEN IENDS FOR A , AND SPENT A LOT OF TIME TOGETHER. THIS POST ALSO STILL LIV ONLE.ABOUT A MONTH AFTER THE TWO ACCATORY GAWKER POSTS, I SAT DOWN WH FRAN AND HAZE AT THE VENICE FILM FTIVAL, WHERE THEY WERE ON HAND TO PROMOTE THEIR FILM ADAPTATN OF THE FLKNER CLASSIC THE SOUND AND THE FURY. DURG OUR TERVIEW, I ASKED THEM ABOUT THE GAWKER POSTS ALLEGG THAT THEY WERE A GAY UPLE.“OH GOD,” REPLIED HAZE, SHIFTG HIS SEAT AND SHOWG SIGNS OF TRATN.“YEAH, AND THEN THEY GOT A LTLE PISSY BEE I SAID WAS ‘HOMOPHOBIC,’ AND YEAH IS,” ADD FRAN. “AND THEN THEY SAID, ‘OH, WELL A GAY GUY WROTE !’ I DON’T RE IF THE PRS IS GAY OR STRAIGHT. WHEN DID YOU HAVE TO FACE CRICISM FOR HAVG A ROOMMATE? I DON’T UNRSTAND THAT!”HE PSED. “AND THERE WERE LIKE… EIGHT PEOPLE LIVG THAT HOE, SO TO MAKE A STORY ABOUT THAT—I DON’T RE, BUT JT SHOWS HOW PETTY GAWKER IS. IT’S RIDICULO.”TOWARDS THE END OF OUR TERVIEW, I JOKGLY ASKED THEM WHEN THEY WERE GOG TO “HOOK UP” ON A NEW PROJECT AGA THE FUTURE, AND THEY BOTH STARTED CRACKG UP.“HEY, NO MENT!” SAID HAZE, BOWLED OVER HIS SEAT. FRAN PATTED HIM ON THE BACK AND, BARELY NTAG HIS LGHTER, ADD, “HERE VENICE? PRETTY DAMN ROMANTIC!”AT LEAST HE HASN’T LOST HIS SENSE OF HUMOR ABOUT , THOUGH STANDS TO REASON THAT GIVEN GAWKER’S NSTANT STREAM OF HARASSMENT, FRAN HAS A PRETTY STRONG SE AGAST THEM. MARLOW STERN
• THAT’S NOT HOW DICKS WORK: ON NOT GAY AND "STRAIGHT" MEN WHO HAVE GAY SEX

A HANDY GUI TO ALL GAY MEN

Here they like the world at large may stereotype gays as mcg wrist flippers wh great taste bent on givg everyone they meet a make over.

That said, when the gays see a fellow homosexual the public sphere, we try to plug them to the nvenient taxonomy the muny has ma for self. They may not be very faiar to the world at large, but they are certaly faiar to the brothers butt say that each gay person belongs to one of the typ is a b ceptive.

Dcriptn: This young breed of gays is never over 30 and tends to be on the queeny si and hews closely to the nventnal stereotyp of gay man. Wild, ornery, and still gettg over their g out issu, the twk is the gay gone wild, and is ba to olr men who are to tryg to suck off their youthful energy.

WHAT'S UP WH "GENR CRIL" GAY GUYS?

Celebry Example: This is such a specific type don't really exists the world at large, but the Platonic ial of a circu boy is DJ Brett HenrichsenGay-Listers. They ually work advertisg, PR, marketg, or the entertament dtry and make a ton of sh which they e to have perfect apartments, fantastic wardrob, and summer hom near all the other gay-listers. He drs eher the most current prissy fashns or like a homo versn of Terry Richardson, big glass, flannels, and jeans that looks so thrown together that took him hours to put together.

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You're more likely to fd them at a gallery openg or mol party, but every so often they'll be at a gay bar to b elbows, and other parts, wh the other homos. The drag queens are not only the urt jters of the gay muny, drsg up like clowns for our entertament, but they are also a bridge to the straight world. The LGB Alliance, a chary found by both gay men and lbians which has been scribed as a hate group by a number of proment figur and anizatns, remas the most notor example of this velopment, but this year also saw the lnch of a trans-exclive media outlet, Lbian and Gay News (there is no news about bisexuals, I gus.

)The LGB Alliance claims s missn statement to “advance the terts of lbians, gay men and bisexuals, ” but s view of what nstut the terts is a narrow one: each of their six active mpaigns is ncerned wh trans people. The UK’s high rate of homelsns amongst LGBT youth, the risk of portatn faced by gay asylum seekers, or the fact that homophobic hate crime has soared sce 2015 — all of the issu fall outsi of the LGB Alliance’s rem, favor of more prsg ncerns like “ensurg that people are asked about their blogil sex while fillg the cens” and “makg harr for trans people to change their birth certifite.

PETER THIEL IS TOTALLY GAY, PEOPLE

” Gay people Bra n breath a sigh of relief that an anizatn is here at last to advance their terts, all of which, for some reason, volve antagonisg trans people. Havg succsfully persuad pole society that “TERF” is a slur, the Brish anti-trans movement now aniz unr the banner of “genr cril” — a phemistic moniker ma nsirably funnier by the fact that nobody is more cril of genr than someone who 's a certa kd of gay man who embodi the genr-cril vibe. ” He’s not pecially terted gay culture, and stead prefers the standard fare of middle-brow English liberals: Gee Orwell and The Great Brish Bake-Off; Solzhensyn and Strictly Come Dancg; edy panel shows lled “I’m Aaid I Haven’t the Foggit!

GAY MUNICH

However, stark ntrast, I fd the transphobia of so-lled ‘genr-cril gay men’ utterly self dulgent, nsirg that cisgenr men tend to hold the most stctural and terpersonal power wh LGBTQ+ spac. “There are many different subtyp of gay guy, and I thk the genr-cril gay man spans them all, ” says Sean O’Neill, a wrer based London.

GAWKER’S HOMOPHOBIC, YEARS-LONG CSA TO OUT JAM FRANGROSSGAWKER HAS E UNR FIRE FOR UNSCPULOLY OUTG A CON NAST EXEC—AND ARGUABLY ABETTG A BLACKMAIL PLOT. BUT THEY’VE BEEN SIARLY HARASSG JAM FRAN FOR YEARS. MARLOW STERNUPDATED JUL. 12, 2017 4:41PM EDT / PUBLISHED JUL. 17, 2015 9:50PM EDT LARRY BAC/GETTYON THURSDAY EVENG, THE MEDIA WEBSE GAWKER RAN A CLICKBA “SOP” ABOUT AN EXECUTIVE AT A MAJOR MAGAZE PANY WHO HAD ENLISTED THE SERVIC OF A GAY PORN STAR/RT, ARRANGG TO PAY HIM $2,500 FOR A WEEKEND TRYST. THE JOHN WAS MARRIED TO A WOMAN WH TWO YOUNG CHILDREN, AND HIS BROTHER ONCE SERVED AS A SENR OFFICIAL WH THE OBAMA ADMISTRATN.ONCE THE PROSTUTE UGHT WD OF THE JOHN’S POWERFUL TI, HE PROCEED TO BLACKMAIL THE CFO BY THREATENG TO EXPOSE THE ARRANGEMENT UNLS HE HELPED THE RT WH A HOG DISCRIMATN SE AGAST A FORMER LANDLORD—ONE THAT HE’D ALLEGEDLY BROUGHT TO THE ATTENTN OF HIS LOL POLICIAN, PRINTIAL NDIDATE TED CZ (R-TX). GAWKER, AS IS S WONT, PUBLISHED ALL THE TEXT MSAG BETWEEN THE TWO—EFFECTIVELY OUTG AND SHAMG THE EXEC—WHILE PROTECTG THE INTY OF THE BLACKMAILER, WHO TURNED OUT TO BE A PLETE NUTJOB.THE MEDIA THEN BEGAN (RIGHTFULLY) POLICG GAWKER FOR THE SPIBLE POST, WHICH ONLY SEEMED TO EMBOLN S EDOR--CHIEF, MAX READ, WHO TWEETED OUT A FENSE OF THE PIECE: THE PROBLEMS WH THE STORY, AS LAID OUT ASTUTELY BY THE INTERCEPT’S GLENN GREENWALD, WERE THAT THE MAN WAS NOT A PUBLIC OFFICIAL, THE POST DID NOT SERVE THE PUBLIC TERT, AND THAT GAWKER MAY HAVE EVEN ABETTED A BLACKMAIL PLOT BY SERVG AS A BARGAG CHIP. THE POST WAS TAKEN DOWN FRIDAY EVENG AT THE BEHT OF GAWKER’S MANAGEMENT BOARD, AND GAWKER FOUNR NICK DENTON LATER RELEASED A MEA CULPA, CLAIMG HE’S EXPERIENCED WHAT ALHOLICS REFER TO AS A “MOMENT OF CLARY.” PERHAPS THE VILT THG ABOUT THE PIECE IS HOW LACED WH HOMOPHOBIA WAS, AS S MA, HATEFUL “MISSN” SEEMED TO BE OUTG A MAN, AS IF BEG GAY WAS SOMETHG TO BE ASHAMED OF 2015, MERE WEEKS AFTER THE SUPREME COURT LEGALIZED SAME-SEX MARRIAGE ALL FIFTY STAT.BUT GAWKER MEDIA HAS LONG HARBORED A CREEPY OBSSN WH OUTG CLOSETED MEN. BACK 2007, ONE OF S FIRST NTROVERSIAL STORI VOLVED S SISTER SE VALLEYWAG PUBLISHG A PIECE OUTG SILIN VALLEY VENTURE PALIST PETER THIEL A POST TLED, “PETER THIEL IS TOTALLY GAY, PEOPLE.” IN THE MENT SECTN OF THE PIECE, DENTON WROTE THAT HE WAS NFED WHY THIEL WOULD KEEP “HIS PERSONAL LIFE A SECRET OM JOURNALISTS…” AS IF HE WAS ENTLED TO THIS RMATN OM A NON-PUBLIC FIGURE. AND THEN THERE WAS THE UNFORTUNATE OUTG OF FOX NEWS ANCHOR SHEPARD SMH 2013, A NASTY GAY IGHT PIECE THAT WAS EVISCERATED A LUMN BY THE LATE, GREAT NEW YORK TIM MEDIA CRIC DAVID CARR.BUT NO ONE HAS BEEN ON THE RECEIVG END OF MORE HARASSMENT BY GAWKER THAN OSR-NOMATED ACTOR JAM FRAN.THE REPUGNANT H PIEC BEGAN AROUND 2008, AS FRAN WAS MID-TRANSN OM WANRG HIMBO TO SER ACTOR, WH STANDOUT PERFORMANC THE STONER EDY PEAPPLE EXPRS AND AS THE GAY LOVER TO SEAN PENN’S HARVEY MILK MILK. HISTORILLY, THERE HAS BEEN A TROUBLG TENNCY BY THE MOVIE-GOG PUBLIC AND TABLOID MEDIA TO QUTN AN ACTOR’S SEXUALY ONCE HE’S NVCGLY PLAYED A GAY CHARACTER ONSCREEN. GAWKER, HOWEVER, TOOK ONE STEP FURTHER: THEY ACCED FRAN OF BEG A GAY RAPIST.ON AUGT 18, 2008, THE NEW YORK POST RAN A GOSSIP BLD EM THAT READ: “WHICH HUNK A SUMMER MOVIE IS A VLENT, CLOSETED HOMOSEXUAL? THE HEARTTHROB SNUCK TO HIS EX'S APARTMENT A FEW MONTHS AGO AND RAPED HIM SO VLENTLY, THE EX END UP THE HOSPAL - AND THE ACTOR PAID HIM $500,000 TO KEEP HIS MOUTH SHUT.”BACK BEFORE DENTON’S “CHANGE OF HEART," GAWKER HAD A TENNCY TO BLDLY SPECULATE ABOUT GOSSIP BLD EMS—WHICH, FOR ALL WE KNOW, ULD BE PLETELY MA UP. BUT THEY TOOK PARTICULAR TERT THIS ONE, WH THEN-GAWKER WRER RICHARD LAWSON PENNG A FOLLOW-UP POST GUSG THAT THE GAY RAPIST MIGHT BE EHER WILL SMH, CHRISTIAN BALE, OR JAM FRAN, BASED PURELY (OR RATHER, IMPURELY) ON INTER MORS.“AND THEN THERE'S THE PELLG SE OF JAM FRAN,” LAWSON WROTE. “BASILLY THE MOR IS THAT FRAN DATED THE GUY ABOUT TWO YEARS AGO, AND STILL HAD A KEY TO HIS HOE. GUY GO TO AN OSRS PARTY, BACK AND FRAN IS WAG FOR HIM AND THEN AWFULNS GO DOWN. HE'S MORED TO HAVE BEEN ABIVE TOWARDS AN OLD GIRLIEND, ALSO AN ACTOR, SOME FIVE YEARS AGO. THIS MAK ME SAD BEE JAM FRAN IS DREAMY AND OH IF HE WERE GAY WE'D SURELY BE MARRIED NEXT SPRG, BUT IF HE'S A RAPER THEN I DON'T WANT ANYTHG TO DO WH HIM AND HE SHOULD BE JAIL.”DAYS LATER, LAWSON PENNED A FOLLOW-UP POST TLED: ALL DID WAS TALLY UP MENTERS’ FEELGS, WHO VOTED THAT AMONG THE THREE BASELS NDIDAT, FRAN WAS THEIR CHOICE AS LIKELIT PERP. AGA, THIS IS ALL A GUSG GAME, AND ALL OF THE PIEC STILL LIVE ONLE. THE FOLLOWG MONTH, LAWSON WROTE ANOTHER GAWKER POST TLED: THE PIECE WAS PEGGED TO FRAN’S ROLE AS PENN’S CHARACTER’S GAY LOVER MILK—AND A SUBSEQUENT TERVIEW WH OUT MAGAZE—AND, BASED ON NO EVINCE WHATSOEVER, THE GAWKER ARTICLE SUATED THAT FRAN WAS A GAY RAPIST, MENTNG “THE OMO MOR THAT HE ONCE RAPED HIS GAY LOVER.” IT ALSO QUTNED FRAN’S SEXUALY BASED ON HIS PLAYG TWO GAY ROL FILMS.LAWSON, WHO PENNED ALL OF THE AFOREMENTNED FRAN POSTS, TOOK TO TWTER LAST NIGHT TO ADM THAT HIS POSTS ACCG FRAN OF BEG A GAY RAPIST WERE “BASELS” AND THAT HE WROTE THEM ON THE ORRS OF HIS “BOSS” (HE’S SCE LETED THE TWEET), SENTIALLY ADMTG THAT HE’D BASED THEM ON UNSUBSTANTIATED CLAIMS: IN A STATEMENT TO THE DAILY BEAST, LAWSON SAID, “I EPLY REGRET THOSE POSTS. THOUGH THEY DON'T REALLY HAVE ANY UPSI, MAYBE THEY N AT LEAST SERVE AS A WARNG FOR YOUNGER WRERS NOW TO E FAR BETTER JUDGMENT THAN I DID BACK THEN.” FRAN ULD NOT BE REACHED FOR MENT.THGS WERE LEFT DORMANT UNTIL, 2013, GAWKER’S THEN-STAFF WRER (AND NOW EDOR--CHIEF) MAX READ WROTE A POST WH THE HEADLE, “JAM FRAN IS GAY,” AND EMBEDD AN INSTAGRAM POST FRAN ISSUED OF HIM AND A MAN GALLIVANTG ABOUT NEW YORK CY AND KISSG WH THE TONGUE--CHEEK PTN, “#JAMFRANTV LOVE????? #GAY.” THIS WAS CLEARLY FRAN TROLLG GAWKER, YET THEY RAN A FIVE CLICKBA-Y HEADLE PROCLAIMG HIM GAY, WHOUT CLUDG SO MUCH AS A QUTN MARK.FRAN WAS, PRUMABLY, RPONDG TO THE YEARS OF HARASSMENT HE’D RECEIVED ABOUT HIS SEXUALY BY GAWKER, CLUDG A RECENT POST BY WRER RICH JUZWIAK TWO WEEKS EARLIER FOLLOWG HIS COMEDY CENTRAL CELEBRY ROAST TLED, “JAM FRAN’S FRIENDS AND ROASTERS AGREE THAT HE IS VERY, VERY GAY.” AND JUZWIAK, WHO MONTHS LATER WOULD PEN A POST WH THE CLICKBA HEADLE, “JAM FRAN BAR ASS TO GAY MEN”—WHICH SOLELY NSISTED OF FRAN FLASHG HIS BEHD FOR CHARY AT A BROADWAY BAR EVENT THAT END UP RAISG $1.3 LN FOR THE FIGHT AGAST AIDS—WOULD LATER WHE ABOUT BEG DISVED OM A FRAN AFTERPARTY.GAWKER LATED THEIR FRAN WCH-HUNT WH A POST ON AUGT 6, 2014, THAT READ, “JAM FRAN IS LIVG WH A MAN.” THE POST, PENNED BY J.K. TROTTER, SUGGTED THAT FRAN WAS A GAY RELATNSHIP WH HIS EQUENT -STAR STT HAZE SOLELY BASED ON A LE A RECENT NEW YORK TIM PROFILE OF FRAN WHERE THE OSR-NOMATED ACTOR SHARED THAT HE AND HAZE LIVED THE SAME PLACE. FRAN RPOND TO THE GAWKER EM—WHICH STILL LIV ONLE—WH POSTS ON HIS INSTAGRAM AND FACEBOOK PAG ACCG GAWKER OF “ALWAYS GETTG THE CUTTG EDGE, HOMOPHOBIC SOP!” THE FOLLOWG DAY, TROTTER DOUBLED-DOWN ON HIS BASELS FRAN “OUTG” WH A POST TLED, “A SHORT HISTORY OF JAM FRAN AND STT HAZE PLAYG GAY,” WHICH ONCE AGA SUATED THAT FRAN WAS A GAY RELATNSHIP WH HAZE BASED MERELY ON THE CLOSENS OF THEIR RELATNSHIP—THE FACT THAT THEY’D BEEN IENDS FOR A , AND SPENT A LOT OF TIME TOGETHER. THIS POST ALSO STILL LIV ONLE.ABOUT A MONTH AFTER THE TWO ACCATORY GAWKER POSTS, I SAT DOWN WH FRAN AND HAZE AT THE VENICE FILM FTIVAL, WHERE THEY WERE ON HAND TO PROMOTE THEIR FILM ADAPTATN OF THE FLKNER CLASSIC THE SOUND AND THE FURY. DURG OUR TERVIEW, I ASKED THEM ABOUT THE GAWKER POSTS ALLEGG THAT THEY WERE A GAY UPLE.“OH GOD,” REPLIED HAZE, SHIFTG HIS SEAT AND SHOWG SIGNS OF TRATN.“YEAH, AND THEN THEY GOT A LTLE PISSY BEE I SAID WAS ‘HOMOPHOBIC,’ AND YEAH IS,” ADD FRAN. “AND THEN THEY SAID, ‘OH, WELL A GAY GUY WROTE !’ I DON’T RE IF THE PRS IS GAY OR STRAIGHT. WHEN DID YOU HAVE TO FACE CRICISM FOR HAVG A ROOMMATE? I DON’T UNRSTAND THAT!”HE PSED. “AND THERE WERE LIKE… EIGHT PEOPLE LIVG THAT HOE, SO TO MAKE A STORY ABOUT THAT—I DON’T RE, BUT JT SHOWS HOW PETTY GAWKER IS. IT’S RIDICULO.”TOWARDS THE END OF OUR TERVIEW, I JOKGLY ASKED THEM WHEN THEY WERE GOG TO “HOOK UP” ON A NEW PROJECT AGA THE FUTURE, AND THEY BOTH STARTED CRACKG UP.“HEY, NO MENT!” SAID HAZE, BOWLED OVER HIS SEAT. FRAN PATTED HIM ON THE BACK AND, BARELY NTAG HIS LGHTER, ADD, “HERE VENICE? PRETTY DAMN ROMANTIC!”AT LEAST HE HASN’T LOST HIS SENSE OF HUMOR ABOUT , THOUGH STANDS TO REASON THAT GIVEN GAWKER’S NSTANT STREAM OF HARASSMENT, FRAN HAS A PRETTY STRONG SE AGAST THEM. MARLOW STERN

“For some of them ’s all jt a post-hoc jtifitn for regular populatn-level transphobia, ” he says, “or a symptom of beg too-onle or too much other people's bs (classic gay tras). ” There seems to be the ncern that if gay men lump ourselv together wh trans people — a group subject to greater discrimatn — we risk beg damned by associatn. It’s a very succsful sort of divi-and-nquer where straight society tells a certa — often more middle-class, wealthier — strata of gay men that 's on them now to make sure that the weirdo are kept at bay so that the really sry queerns, the msy, le-blurrg stuff, don't force that straight society to roll back all the gas civil rights there were ma the late 20th and early 21st century.

” This brand of anti-intarian transphobia has yet to make ser -roads wh the Brish left, gay or otherwise, though that’s likely jt bee beg anti-trans is a wholly tablishment posn the UK.

”Frankly, I thk the ia that trans men beg on Grdr pos some existential threat to cisgenr gay men is ls a se of misguid anxiety and more a se of wishful thkg, ” says Shon. ” While I n’t speak for the transmascule muny, ’s ed hard to image they’re clamourg for the amoro attentns of the middle-aged Dr Who fans who talk about eatg “emergency biscus” and, any se, live anti-trans gay men also hate the the word “queer, ” which they sometim refer to, Tumblr Teen style, as “the Q slur.

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” In prose that would make an unrgrad creative wrg workshop blh, one Lbian and Gay News ntributor argu, “As words go, [queer] is a sharp bla, the wounds leav are msy laceratns that don’t heal neatly rather than clean surgil cuts. It hardly needs sayg that “genr cril” gay men don’t pay any ference to the hurt feelgs of the people who disagree wh them, nor are they reluctant to leverage accatns of homophobia agast their crics.

” And yet…Beyond the issu, “genr cril” gay men make a larger and more apolyptic claim: the existence of “genr iology” means that gay men will eventually be ma extct. This is a well-worn talkg pot: transphobic men, gay or straight, love to rell that when they were young, they were always a ltle b different.

The fear that gay men will be “transed” away rts on the premise that there is a signifint hort of homophobic but trans-enthiastic parents who would rather have a trans child than a gay one. K is already makg -roads the Stat — most chillgly of all, one of s chief proponents is a whe rapper — and ’s easy to image nvergg wh an Andrew Sullivan-style gay nservatism to nightmarish effect. The men are speful and staggergly unchic; they’re wastg their liv the worst possible way— luckily, as a gay man, I am allowed to say Greig wr about culture and society.