Pronouns: Why Gay Men Call Each Other "She" and "Girl" | Them

Contents:

• WHAT 'HUNTY' MEANS, AND WHY YOUR GAY FRIENDS ARE CALLG YOU IT
• CALL ME BY MY PRONOUNS: WHY GAY MEN CALL EACH OTHER "GIRL"

WHAT 'HUNTY' MEANS, AND WHY YOUR GAY FRIENDS ARE CALLG YOU IT

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CALL ME BY MY PRONOUNS: WHY GAY MEN CALL EACH OTHER "GIRL"

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