How to Tell if Your Guy Friend Is Gay: 15 Steps (wh Pictur)

Contents:

• HOW TO COPE WHEN YOU'RE GAY AND LONELY
• GAY COWBOY ROMANCE BOOKS
• GAY CULTURE HAS GROWN TOXIC WH UNCHECKED PRIVILEGE. IT'S TIME FOR TO RET
• HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY
• 10 BT GAY ROMANCE NOVELS [2023]
• JAKE'S STORY OF BEG GAY RAL ATRALIA
• LONELY, GAY LONER TYPE, PRSED AS ... - ANXIETY AND DEPRE...ANXIETY AND DEPRSN SUPPORT81,436 MEMBERS • 77,297 POSTS JO WREHOMEABOUTPOSTSMEMBERSLONELY, GAY LONER TYPE, PRSED AS HELL. (WARNING: TRIGGER WARNG BEFORE READG MY POST).
• GAY PEOPLE 'AT RISK OF A LONELIER OLD AGE'
• BT GAY DATG APPS FOR HOOKUPS, RELATNSHIPS, AND EVERYTHG BETWEEN

HOW TO COPE WHEN YOU'RE GAY AND LONELY

Part of realizg you're gay, or bi, or trans, or non-bary, or anythg other than cisgenr and heterosexual is acceptg you’re different—and somewhat separated—om the majory. Here he shar his journey to overe the sense of isolatn he felt growg up gay a small U. At the time, there were no real gay role mols except for Graham Norton and Jack om Dawson's Creek—and I certaly didn't intify wh him bee I wasn't a football player.

GAY COWBOY ROMANCE BOOKS

I felt like I was pletely on my rried on until I was 16, when I started gog out to gay bars my hometown. I ma one gay iend, who I'm actually close to now. For the first time I've been able to form a good group of gay iends and create my own support work.

I'd go on gay chatrooms but that was jt a facels nversatn wh someone who uld have been anyone.

GAY CULTURE HAS GROWN TOXIC WH UNCHECKED PRIVILEGE. IT'S TIME FOR TO RET

I thk if I'd had iends who were gay when I was growg up, my life would have been so different.

HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY

I now know there were other kids at my school who were gay, but they didn't e out till much later. The gay loner. A 17-year-old boy has appeared urt for the murr of a gay 'loner' and a senr advisor to Chancellor Gee Osborne who was found ad his home this believe that Pl Jefferi, 52, knew the 17-year-old om nearby Crowborough, who appeared at Brighton Magistrat Court charged wh murr yterday.

A 17-year-old boy has appeared urt for the murr of a gay loner who was a senr advisor to Chancellor Gee Osborne found ad his home (pictured) this week Police believe that Pl Jefferi, 52, knew the 17-year-old om nearby Crowborough, who appeared at Brighton Magistrat Court charged wh murr yterday Neighbours said Mr Jefferi ed to live London and had barely set foot outsi the door of his home (pictured) sce movg to the hoe Mayfield, East Ssex, where he was found ad on Thursday He had worked at HMRC for 20 years, and had helped shape Government policy, workg wh the Treasury, reports The Sun. (shelved 2 tim as gay-wboy-romance). (shelved 1 time as gay-wboy-romance).

But even though the nversatns that muted this lumn for six weeks are nowhere close to beg over, I do feel like some thgs that me up durg that time of ntemplatn are worth sayg now — particularly to my fellow whe gay cis out more stori on LGBTQ+ ins and activistsHowever, the ghost of Larry Kramer very much remaed my own head as I ma my way through a Pri month unlike any other.

10 BT GAY ROMANCE NOVELS [2023]

I spent a few quiet afternoons readg his 1978 but novel Faggots, a satiril (yet clearly tobgraphil) look at the liv of gay men 1970s New York Cy that he wrote jt before AIDS ma him a figurehead of Amerin activism. Followg a man his late 30s (based on Kramer himself) who is seekg out a lovg, long-term relatnship a sea of hedonism, the novel has a clear msage: gay men need to start lovg each other stead of beg so obssed wh gettg fucked up and (lerally and figuratively) fuckg each other. - Larry Kramer his but novelUpon publitn, Faggots was dismissed by many as puranil and self-loathg for s cricism of gay men's obssn wh vany, promiscuy and recreatnal dg e.

And while, on one level, the book is a wild (if at tim problematic) wdow to an era of gay culture 40 years the past, also felt like had a lot to say about gay culture today. What even do mean to say "gay culture"?

In mastream gay media, the phrase almost always refers to a fairly specific subset of the LGBTQ "muny" largely ma up of whe gay cis men — even though many of the battl won around queer rights were fought by people of lour, trans and genr-nonnformg folks, and queer women, and fact the morn Pri movement self was large part iated by Black trans women. If an imprsn of a monolhic "gay culture" fed by such a homogeneo mographic exists, is bee whe gay cis men have until very recently domated mastream reprentatn unr the LGBTQ umbrella and have, general, been hand a level of privilege the last that is wildly disproportnate to any other mographic unr said umbrella.

JAKE'S STORY OF BEG GAY RAL ATRALIA

(Prophetilly enough, Fire Island is where the climax of Faggots — Kramer's exriatn of "gay culture" — tak place. The panmic sentially shut down all of social gay culture, relievg me of prsur to participate . Gay bars were shuttered and, unls you were beg a horribly irrponsible person, Grdr was no more.

When was the last time I actually had a good time at gay bar full of people I have fely spoken to on social media or apps but who act like I'm pletely sane when I se or say hello person?

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In analyzg the show's pictn of young gay men livg San Francis, wrer Daniel Wenger diagnos what he terms the "new gay sadns": an entire generatn of urban, privileged gay men who seem to have no clue what they're lookg for or who they are. Largely born the 1980s, they are the earlit wave of a "post-Stonewall, post-plague, post-activist" generatn of gays — "too old to have brought a boy to the prom and too young to have nursed a fantasy of nng away to an urban gay utopia, " Wenger explas.

GAY PEOPLE 'AT RISK OF A LONELIER OLD AGE'

"Gay culture" should learn the same lson: "back to normal" is not enough. Queeri5 pneerg LGBTQ Canadian films you n watch for ee right nowI've seen many of my fellow whe gay cis men seemgly rise to the ocsn by retweetg Black and Indigeno voic, gog to ralli and vowg to te themselv on how to tly be anti-racist (though how performative that is some s is unclear).

Which of the gays do you want to be? Rettg "gay culture" will require fightg back agast entrenched social prsur and expectatns of gay cis men — and llg them out when they perpetuate, even passively, any form of discrimatory dialogue. Larry Kramer didn't give a sh what people thought of him, particularly other gay men.

And was large part bee of that attu that he uld lead AIDS activists through a rpt and homophobic system to ga accs to the dgs that ma possible for our generatn to have the liv that we do. So let's thk long and hard about how we've been choosg to live the fuckg bolt cutters, gays. Homophobia is also prevalent.

BT GAY DATG APPS FOR HOOKUPS, RELATNSHIPS, AND EVERYTHG BETWEEN

Straight cisgenr men may fear beg labeled “gay. There are lots of reasons why you might want to know if your iend is gay.

You may want to know if your iend is gay, but there may be a good reason why they're stayg closeted.