Opn | Gay men’s amic succs uld show how to close the genr gap - The Washgton Post

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• OPN WHAT GAY MEN’S STUNNG SUCCS MIGHT TEACH ABOUT THE AMIC GENR GAP
• WHILE STRAIGHT MEN FACE TNAL CRISIS, GAY MEN EXCEL AMILLY, STUDY FDS
• GAY MOSW MOSW CY GUI
• THE 5 BEST MOSW GAY CLUBS & BARSGAY CLUBS & BARS MOSW
• KEV MAXEN BE FIRST MALE ACH A US MEN’S PROFSNAL SPORTS LEAGUE TO PUBLICLY E OUT AS GAY
• NFL ACH BE FIRST MALE ACH MAJOR U.S. MEN’S PRO SPORTS TO E OUT AS GAY
• JACKSONVILLE JAGUARS ASSISTANT COACH KEV MAXEN MAK HISTORY AFTER COMG OUT AS GAY

OPN WHAT GAY MEN’S STUNNG SUCCS MIGHT TEACH ABOUT THE AMIC GENR GAP

Wele To The Gay Man Thrivg Movement. We are Zach Bulls and Andrew Sartory and we started the Gay Man Thrivg Amy to support the emotnal health and wellbeg of men our muny.

We are fiercely mted to endg the lonels epimic the gay muny one man at a time. Years ago, beme clear to that the gay muny lacked a ‘real’ muny where men uld be their thentic selv. We want to put an end to men feelg alone or growg old thoands of gay men havg gone through our programs, we have built a muny of men engaged their own well-beg and are supportive of others on that same journey.

Founr, Gay Man Thrivg. Zach is eply passnate about livg a life that is tly thentic and workg wh other gay men to help them brg to surface their bt selv.

WHILE STRAIGHT MEN FACE TNAL CRISIS, GAY MEN EXCEL AMILLY, STUDY FDS

He’s veloped dozens of workshops that have profoundly impacted the gay muny. Zach has spent over 2, 000 hours achg gay men 1-on-1 or a group settg.

“I have a gay muny for the first time. Bee one of hundreds of our succs stori at Gay Man Thrivg. After workg wh thoands of men and experiencg hundreds of gay events… we have never seen such a powerful, lovg, supportive muny of gay men e together to vulnerably work on themselv and achieve their biggt dreams.

Lifelong iendships are formed at Gay Man Thrivg and time after time our stunts say giv them the brotherhood they’ve longed for. Andrew, what sets GMT apart om other gay anizatns? Whether you’ve been divorced 3 tim and are aaid you’ll only have another toxic relatnship… or whether you’re over 50 and have never had a relatnship wh a man… or anywhere -between, the GMT programs have helped thoands of gay men attract the happit and healthit relatnships they’ve ever had their liv.

GAY MOSW MOSW CY GUI

But there’s one group that has, for generatns, fied this trend: gay men. Hoehold surveys, I found that gay men achieve stunng succs across every level of higher tn. I found, for example, that about 52 percent of gay men age 25 or olr the Uned Stat have a bachelor’s gree.

If Ameri’s gay men, however, formed their own untry, would be the world’s most highly ted by men’s amic advantag don’t end unrgrad, eher. Compared wh straight men, gay men are about 50 percent more likely to have earned an MD, JD or this pattern isn’t nfed to Whe gay men. In every sgle racial and ethnic group I uld measure, gay men outpace straight men llege pletn by double men’s strikgly high performance is already well tablished high school.

THE 5 BEST MOSW GAY CLUBS & BARSGAY CLUBS & BARS MOSW

Usg the first Department of Edutn study ever to asss stunt sexual orientatn, I also found that, pared wh straight boys om the same school, gay boys earned better gras more advanced class and reported more ser work habs and more amilly oriented close succs are all the more remarkable given the fact that many schools rema dangero spac for gay stunts. Ined, the same data that documented gay boys’ high achievement also revealed them as twice as likely to feel unsafe at what’s the secret to gay men’s amic succs?

KEV MAXEN BE FIRST MALE ACH A US MEN’S PROFSNAL SPORTS LEAGUE TO PUBLICLY E OUT AS GAY

Growg up, gay boys often feel like outsirs to the culture of masculy enforced by their straight peers. Gay boys, however, answered very differently om straight boys.

NFL ACH BE FIRST MALE ACH MAJOR U.S. MEN’S PRO SPORTS TO E OUT AS GAY

For the stunts, steppg outsi the strictur of straight masculy signifintly supported amic masculy’s expectatns were the only barrier to succs, however, gay men should perform roughly as well as straight women. Yet gay men outperform them, too, bee gay men don’t jt live outsi tradnal masculy; they often work particularly hard to pensate for not meetg those mascule expectatns — work that n lead to a measurable those nied the most tradnal avenu for “beg a man, ” pursug the kds of prtig reers ma possible through meticuloly high amic achievement n offer a way to shore up one’s standg. ”Amerin boyhood feels like a seri of masculy ntts, and even today, most of the l are stacked agast gay boys.

As one of my stunts at the Universy of Notre Dame put : “I realized early on that I uldn’t change the fact that I was gay, but I uld change how much I studied for my math tt. ”As the Uned Stat fights to close s growg amic genr gaps, gay men have many lsons to teach about school succs.

Take the prsure off gay boys to be the bt ltle boy the world — but give straight boys the chance to be their bt, too.

JACKSONVILLE JAGUARS ASSISTANT COACH KEV MAXEN MAK HISTORY AFTER COMG OUT AS GAY

“I love gay people, ” activist and playwright Larry Kramer proclaimed at the outset of a 2004 speech New York Cy. ”A new study makg wav among LGBTQ-foced amics lends empiril crence to the inic Act Up -founr’s priful claims — not to the supposed sweepg superry of gay men, rather to the more narrow assertn that this group is remarkably cled to excel the paper, which was published the Amerin Soclogil Review on Feb. 20, to starkly opposg nclns about how growg up gay appears to affect the amic performance of mal vers femal.

Courty Amy LevJoel Mtleman, a Universy of Notre Dame soclogist and the paper’s sole thor, found that on an array of amic measur, gay mal outperform all other groups on average, across all major racial groups. Conversely, he nclud that lbians perform more poorly school overall and that Black gay women have a much lower llege graduatn rate than their whe unterparts. “This article is focg a lens on what we do to all kids, ” Lisa Diamond, a psychology profsor at the Universy of Utah, said of the societal prsur that appear to impe lbians school even as the strsors possibly unnerve gay mal to pensatg for homophobia through amic strivg.

The three surveys of Amerin adults nsistently dited that gay men are far more likely than straight men to have graduated om high school or llege, wh jt over half of gay men havg earned a llege gree, pared wh about 35 percent of straight men.

Some 6 percent of gay men have a Ph.

Mtleman found that gay men’s nsirably higher levels of tnal attament hold even after takg to acunt differenc men’s race and birth horts. What’s more, gay men’s llege graduatn rate dramatilly bts even that of straight women, about one-third of whom have a bachelor’s longudal survey showed that pared wh their straight male peers, gay mal earned higher GPAs high school and llege, enrolled harr class, took school more serly, had more amilly md iends and had a much lower rate of ever droppg out for a month or more.

But Mtleman found this advantage was limed almost entirely to whe lbians, and among women born more recently, gay women’s tnal edge has erod. But as nstrictns on women’s potential have eased sce the 1960s, straight women’s llege graduatn rate has risen to the pot of statistil pary wh lbians among today’s young Nancy Drew effect Searchg for the drivers of the differenc school performance between straight and gay stunts, Mtleman ed a mache-learng algorhm to intify rponse patterns to survey qutns that predicted beg male vers female among members of the longudal hort.

In turn, he found that beg atypil for their genr survey rpons helped expla at least part of the gay stunts’ GPA variatn. This suggted that not jt sexual orientatn, but s tersectn wh genr affectatn uld have fluenced how well the gay and lbians stunts did school. Gay boys, however, appear willg — even eager — to flout genr norms amics.

“To the extent that ’s feme to study and appreciate validatn an amic sphere, the gay boys will have an advantage, ” Yale School of Public Health psychologist John Pachankis said. “Girls who prent as mascule are seen as troublemakers, are seen as spic some way, ” Mtleman ‘Bt Ltle Boy the World’ phenomenon An addnal factor that Mtleman argued driv the average gay boy to surpass even the average straight girl amilly is what’s known queer psychology as the “Bt Ltle Boy the World” phenomenon.

This refers to the tle of the 1973 memoir by former Democratic Natnal Commtee treasurer Andrew Tobias, which he chronicled his youthful csa to appease his ternalized homophobia through admissn to Harvard Universy and other feats of superlative a 2013 paper published Basic and Applied Social Psychology, psychologist Mark Hatzenbuehler, now of Harvard Universy, and Pachankis found evince suggtg that gay male llege stunts ed sought to pensate for anti-gay stigma by rivg their self-worth part through amic mastery and other forms of petn. This psychologil paradigm also pris the bedrock of “The Velvet Rage, ” psychologist Alan Downs’ go-to bible for queer men, published 2005, on “overg the pa of growg up gay a straight man’s world.

Chris Remishofsky, is gay and said the fdgs of Mtleman’s paper closely reflect his personal experience. “From a young age, ” said Remishofsky, a rmatologist Sterlg Heights, Michigan, “I was termed to bee a doctor so I uld prove to everyone that I uld be succsful even though I was gay. ”An analysis by the Brookgs Instutn’s Haton Project published January found that gay male upl earn $30, 000 more annually than lbian Meyer, a rearcher at UCLA’s Williams Instute, exprsed trigue over the story Mtleman’s paper tells of many gay men apparently overg nsirable odds.

Meyer poted to the Centers for Disease Control and Preventn’s Youth Risk Behavr Surveillance reports that have chronicled the myriad strsors lbian, gay, bisexual and transgenr young people weather school and the lany of leter impacts, cludg prsn and, Mtleman found that on the whole, lbian, gay and bisexual young people reported feelg more unsafe school and suffered higher levels of discrimatn and what’s known as mory strs than their straight peers. “We’re basilly sayg gay boys have a terrible school environment, but still, on average, they’re dog fantastilly well. ” The price queer youth payBrian Mtanski, a profsor of medil social scienc at Northwtern Universy, utned that the relative succs of gay men uld amount to a double-edged sword.

“While certaly, ’s good news for the young gay men that they’re able to succeed well amilly, I do have some real ncerns about what kd of prsure they’re puttg on themselv, ” he said. Suggtg that feverish amic strivg search of validatn n e at a steep st to mental and physil health, Mtanski poted to his own rearch fdgs that gay men have disproportnately high levels of chronic flammatn.